What do apes, grapes, and celery have to do with each other? They’re all on today’s episode of the WDMP podcast! Our listener question brings us to exploring what lies beneath the desire for fairness, and what’s really being communicated when one partner is feeling resentful or underserved. Topics include what it means to attack from the victim position, inherited expectations, and flinging poo. No, really!

Quotes:

"As an interdependent species, we equate fairness with justice seeking. And it’s in our wiring to feel upset…[so] when we’re in our couples and we perceive unfairness, what’s our move?"

“You get to have a pause between what you feel and what you do.”

"What is equity to you? What is fairness to you? What is justice to you? And if you get it, what needs get met for you?"

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