Shownotes
You cannot shame or bully yourself into wholeness. My inner critic was vicious. It bullied me, held me back, pointed out all my flaws 24/7, and told me I was never good enough. No matter how hard I worked, I could never keep up or measure up.
When my third child was born, 18 years ago, I held her little body in my arms and realized in that moment that for her sake and mine, I would never again bully or berate my body or myself. I made the decision and then I had to practice.
Some Key Ideas:
- Compassion needs to be bidirectional.
- Falling down, making mistakes, or being messy is not the problem. Staying down, or staying mired in shame and judgment is a problem.
- Self-Compassion has 3 components: mindfulness, self-kindness, common humanity.
- Fear and the Inner Critic are not against you - they are simply trying to protect you but in maladaptive ways (or ways that no longer serve you).
- Safety is required for us to be in a position to hear, grow, heal, build a new pattern.
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