“One of the key pieces is learning To give service learning to give love and to give joy and what I have discovered through my mass in the last 40 years is the more I give it, service, love, listening, kindness, unconditional attention, the more I give that, the more I find it, and it helps me live the life that I have, and I know that it will help you live and move further toward your ultimate life.” - Kellan Fluckiger
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What you are about to learn
What is joy? For me, this is the feeling that when you love someone, you are pleased about it, that extreme feeling that you feel whenever you love someone that is beyond happiness, and you cannot extremely explain. That is Joy. Of course, this is connected with love. Of course, I am not biased when I say that because my wife’s name is Joy. And I am forever grateful that I have Joy in my everyday life. And I am saying both Joy the feeling and Joy, my wife.
And so we live with a sea or a soup of neurotransmitters, that closeness or connection that we experience with one another creates oxytocin, among other things in that soup, and that neurotransmitters, that one that makes us feel mushy and connected and group hug and all that sort of thing. And so the very fact that our bodies produce that When we receive or when we're in a circumstance that creates it, lets us know, hey, we were created to have joy. We were created to enjoy it, to have those things feel good. So we would do more of them. So there's a physical part to that closeness and service and everything else.
How do we create or seek Joy? Let me tell you quickly why I am so grateful for all of this. This is because when I was given the second chance of life by God. My wife Joy was there when I was in a coma for a long time. She never quit on me and stayed by my side all the way. I have written that on my book Meeting God at the Door, if you’re curious and want to know what happened and why I am saying this, it is all written in there. So if you love someone or you are being loved, that feeling is beyond explanation. We feel that Joy in our hearts because we are more than happy that we have found love. And in connection to that, this is the first step in how we could create Joy in our lives. To understand it. Genuinely acknowledge how love made us happy, accept it why we feel contented if we realize why we are feeling all these. We are bound to create Joy and to have Joy in our lives.
The second step is to get help. If you need assistance, if you are in trouble in any way and that I mean emotionally, there’s nothing wrong with finding and asking someone to help you. You might need someone to tell you how to do things, or probably give you some advice to overcome the sadness that you are feeling right now. A coach or a mentor can help if you are afraid to consult a psychologist for that. After you fixed your issues and if you have already released that pain in your heart. Give back the help you got to others. Return it by guiding others who need you. Remember, the whole purpose of this podcast series is to help you, and I create your ultimate life that life of purpose, prosperity, and guess what joy and we created by serving each other with our divine gifts.
Key Takeaways
"We can't control how anyone else acts or behaves. II can't make anybody love me. I can't make anybody want to take care of me or treat me well. So if I desperately want to be loved and desperately want a place to be heard, I want to experience that joy, and I can't make anybody do any of that. What are the choices that you have and that I have? Our only choices: to be the person we want to be, be the person we want and act the way we want others to treat us."
"If I want to have love, I need to learn to love. Whom do I love? Well, I have to start with myself. If I have no one in my life, then I need to love myself deeply, sincerely faithfully, and honor and be kind to myself, creating that self-love is the very best and fastest way for me to create that kind of relationship where I can experience love and connection and sharing and be heard, and all that good stuff we talked about."
Helpful Resource:
Meeting God at the Door available on Amazon
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