"When we remember that this power to love is a gift that we can best give others by first giving it to ourselves, we will feel our strongest and most inspired from within." Ananta Ajmera

How do you claim victory over the Narcissist? The light and power within you is strong Empath. This is what they were attracted. Then they convinced you that your strengths are your weaknesses. But this is false and only is a tactic to hold you down and imprison you in their control under them. 

The light and power from the goddess within will help you overcome the common trap of seeking love in all the wrong places.

Today I share a conversation with the Author of The Way of the Goddess, and spiritual teacher, Ananta Ripa Ajmera.

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Here are some key moments:

• [9:03] Her story with eating disorder and reconnecting with her roots
• Igniting the Fire of Transformation, through the Ancient Goddess
• Expressing Yourself with Sound and Silence, including practices to liberate the power of your voice
• The Art of Loving Your True Self,
• Defining and Maintaining Healthy Boundaries, including practices to cultivate your trust in your own intuition in the face of gaslighting

Ananta Ripa Ajmera is an award-winning author, spiritual teacher, co-founder and CEO of The Ancient Way, an organization that supports you to embody ancient wisdom in a way that unfolds your true Self. The Ancient Way offers a Spiritual Warrior Certification Program, Ayurveda Wellness Ambassador Program, and spiritual wellness retreats.

The Ancient Way’s online healing educational garden for a variety of spiritual wellness offerings: https://theancientway.thinkific.com

Learn about The Way of the Goddess: Daily Rituals to Awaken Your Inner Warrior and Discover Your True Self Book: https://theancientway.co/wayofthegoddess

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I salute the divine mother who brings total auspiciousness and who fulfills the desire for liberation? Realization arises with her blessing. She's the world itself. Only through the experiences of life. Can the soul be perfected? Honor this gift, your life bow to mother nature. Durga

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Today we have the author of the way of the goddess daily rituals to awaken your inner warrior and discover your true self. And ,

she is such a blessing and I was just recently interviewed on her podcast. So I'll let you know when that airs as well. She is an award-winning author, spiritual teacher and co-founder and CEO of the ancient way. An organization that supports you to embody ancient wisdom in a way that unfolds your true self.

The ancient way offers a spiritual warrior certification program. I Aveda wellness ambassador program. And spiritual wellness retreats. Uh, Nancy is also advisor of IRA Veda at the Uh, modern wellness club where she writes articles, offers workshops and works with a team

How the inner goddess within us can unearth and ignite an inner warrior and all these different daily practices that are in her book and spiritual practices. I really truly loved every single one that I practiced and did and read through. They're amazing. And truly this is the way Of the trauma from the narcissist. This is the way out of the relationship and realizing that you deserve better.

Realizing that you can have victory over the dark victory over the narcissist. And that doesn't mean winning an argument because you can never win. With the dark by engaging with the dark, you win by shining a light. And so this book and our conversation. And so many other tools, my healing exercises in my book, as well as the workshops I masterclass. That's what it's all teaching you.

Is that you have this powerful goddess? Within you. This powerful. Energy divine, feminine and masculine, no matter what sex you Identify

You truly have the power. So we talked about expressing yourself. With your sound and silence, including practices that liberate the power of your voice. We talked about the art of loving your true self. We also talked about defining and maintaining healthy boundaries. Including practices to cultivate your trust in your own intuition and so much more. So really igniting the fire of transformation through the ancient goddess was really what we loved to talk about in this conversation. I loved hearing from her because I truly believe that myself.

And so I know you are going to enjoy this conversation. So without further ado, Well, let's dive into the conversation.

Correct. Goddess. What is Durga? Which one

And I am so grateful to her for the amazing, amazing job she did on the illustrations. I also love to be with them. I feel that there is a lot to be gained just from looking at.

What brought you, and I know your book chairs a little bit, but give us as listeners a synopsis of what brought you on this journey and you know, to this work of writing about healing from trauma and really tuning into your inner goddess.

Take charge of my situation and make changes in my life, but I need the know-how. I need the information. I need the knowledge. I need the guidance to be able to do it. But I always had the belief that it is possible, and I feel that that's really important for the healing journey for us to believe, first of all, that it's even possible.

So with that, I went and searched in a lot of places for help on my healing journey. I went to yoga classes, I went to online forums. I spoke to a talk therapist. I tried different kinds of diets out. I talked to a talk therapist. I, uh, You know, went to yoga then and I felt like I was getting somewhere finally, this was once I got to college.

So this took years right, of just going on the self-help forums for eating disorder recovery and then feeling more traumatized after reading the kind of posts that people were writing on there. And then, you know, the talk therapy was good, but it didn't help me with my. So I'm like, there has to be something holistic, right?

That puts all of these things together that really helps us body, mind, and soul. And I wasn't content to settle for anything less than that. So when I got to yoga, I started to definitely feel better. Physically, emotionally and spiritually. And that led me to discover Ira Veva, which is the sister science of yoga and the world's oldest system of holistic healing.

And I also started to reconnect with my roots. At that time, I went back to India where a lot of our relatives. Live and still lived at the time and still live, and I hadn't been to India for all my teenage years, so it wasn't until I turned 19 and almost finished my teenage years that I went back to India and was interested to learn about social entrepreneurship and how can I use my.

Skills in business training that I was doing at the NYU Undergraduate Business School to really impart significant social change. I always felt called to be of service and to live a life of service in some way. Only. I didn't really know what that meant or how to do it, but I do remember sitting in our college.

Retreat to kick off the social entrepreneurship program I was a part of in school and how they defined social entrepreneurship as creating pattern breaking change in a sustainable way, and being able to scale that. In the world, and I turned that definition of social entrepreneurship inside out and asked myself, how can I create pattern, break change in my own life, and then scale in the sustainable way, right?

And be able to. Maintain it. And then once I get it and I'm able to sustain it myself, then how can I scale what I have experienced and how I have healed to benefit and reach more and more people. So I had no idea that yoga would then lead me to Irv the, which would then lead me back to my childhood.

Growing up celebrating the divine warrior mother goddess through, but somehow it did. And I found myself in India where I met a young girl named Lume. And Lume is named after the most widely worshiped Hindu goddess of wealth who everyone has in their shops in India to help with their business success and prosperity.

And it just struck. So much that here was this young girl who had gone through a lot of abuse in her community and was sent to the Gandhi Ash to have a better life, to be able to get educated, to empower herself to come out of her circumstances. And here she was named after this goddess. And I couldn't help but think.

Why couldn't we all find that goddess within each of us, no matter what kind of difficulty or what kind of trauma or abuse we've gone through? I saw a lot of myself in that young girl, and so I just wondered what if we could actually. Do this right. And there has to be something more to this whole goddess tradition than I would've ever even known as a child who is dressed up as goddesses.

For a goddess lookalike competition that I was a part of when I was a kid, it was more of a fun thing. When I was in childhood, we would celebrate the Goddess Festival with lookalike competi. Dancing, music, food festivals and parties. But I felt intuitively that there has to be something more to this and it, I made it my mission to find out what it was, and once I did it, truly put.

Body, mind, soul healing together for me in such an incredible mythological, archetypal way that it's just never been looking back since then,

And this is pretty cool to have come full circle. Not even knowing how this was all going to transpire, started my podcast, having no idea what I was doing or who I was talking to, or what I was gonna do. And it all came full circle. I feel like With this additional exciting masterclass that I have just created, there are now three resources in this virtual studio of Raven Scott show that I have to offer to you.

It's just so exciting and such a blessing, and it has all come out of responding to certain callings I've had and just to like do it right and to provide. So I have to just ask you, empath, are you feeling overwhelmed with the energy currently or maybe stressed out from this craziness going on lately in the world, maybe in your lives personally, in your emotions, and it feels like the world is crumbling down around you.

There's a lot of chaos going on worldwide. So I can understand that, and I've been able to provide a, a capsule and a safe space in this masterclass, as well as with my How to Leave the Narcissist workshop and the free workshop, How to draw power boundaries. It all is in this space of loving, of calmness and of peace.

So the beautiful story that I've share, and I just wrote a. Literally just boom, who came within the last two days. Um, that's why I was, I felt like the feverish cat typing on her computer, like that cat Jiff. And I just couldn't stop. It just kept coming and coming. , I wrote a, the story about Anana, the goddess of Heaven and Earth, the beginning of this book I wrote, which I call Feel it to Heal It, which as you know, if you've been listening to.

To the podcast that has been coming up over and over. So I took that as a sign from the universe to name my next book that. And so hopefully it all checks out for copyright. But I do have my subtitle to cover my copyright issues. But, um, it is this story I start the book out with and in the masterclass, you received this book now inside the masterclass as an ebook version.

And I will get it up on Amazon soon so you can have it in paper back and I will record it and have it by, let's say no later than March on Audible, just so that you guys know what is in the pipeline, what's coming up and what to look forward to this story about Anana. She's the goddess of heaven and earth, just descending into the underworld and it reminds me , that it is time to strip.

Our egos away the toxic egos that aren't serving us anymore. It's important to keep those egos that do protect you, but the ones who are defensive, the ones who are judgmental, the ego that is always self condescending and self-deprecating. Wake up out of the matrix and below this Popsicle stand with our authentic.

And after you have descended down into the depths as Anana did in the story I share, you can now rise up and embrace your authentic soul self in this avatar body. You are strong, wise, and powerful, and nothing can stop you from shining your unique light out into the world. This is the goal of the Soul Alignment Masterclass that I've just created, and I'm hosting it with Magic Kathy, DNA activator and astrologer.

You will feel at peace and grounded into your soul with guided aura, protection, awareness, and a guided grounding meditation. So this masterclass is sort of like a spiritual class. You're receiving the required materials within the class, the book, the workbook, and then you're receiving the guided, uh, audio teachings from Magic Cathy and myself guiding you.

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Supportive healing exercises are included in this masterclass, meditations and rituals to guide you and to do as a daily discipline and practice to take responsibility to look in the mirror of you and your face here on this earth, in your body, as well as looking into the mirror of your soul and make small changes to love, small changes, to be braver and strong.

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And that was really the basis from which this book was then birthed.

It's just beautiful. It's a beautiful cycle. I think there's something to be said about cycles. I was just thinking last night. The trees fall off, the leaves, fall off the tree in a cycle every season, every fall season, to preserve and root the tree firm so it doesn't die through the snow. And, you know, pedals fall off so that new ones can be, you know, emerge from the ground.

And all of these things, you know, just are cyclical and natural, you know, And the god, us and even just our female cycles, it's all natural. And so, This modern world has pretty much just like quieted that down or put a veil over it or, or ignored it or given us chemicals to stop it or whatever. You know, like you know, all these evergreen trees and things that they want to to plant versus the actual trees that are showing us these cycles.

So I think it's beautiful. I think it's something that we need to embrace more and more, and. , get rid of this toxic, like always achieving, always striving, and don't ever rest.

I really believe that we all have that spark of the divine feminine within us, which is the power to give. To a new reality, to rebirth ourselves from the darkness and from that mud from which the lotus and the purity of the lotus flower emerges. So I love that you connected with that cyclical aspect of it, because it definitely is very much a cyclical process.

We go through one cycle of ne three, and then it's time to start another one and then another one. And. Goes on and on Infinitely

Each being, that is the essence of empathy, right? We, we feel that we can put ourselves in another's shoes, and whenever we're able to do that, we are connecting with our light and the light of our own soul. And so, in my experience, the more I have done that, the more I have attracted people who are hungry for.

But feel that they have to devour the light in order to get it instead of, you know, working for it through spiritual practices and, you know, in a more kind of spiritual discipline sort of way. Right. Which is hard for me to understand. It's kind of a constant re-education of how this pattern. Works you know of, of growing my light and then attracting more people who want to devour that light.

And I have to keep remembering along the way that it's really important to not only be a compassionate and empathetic being on the spiritual path, but also to be a warrior. I feel that this has been the game changer for me. I grew up in a religion actually that is called Jainism. Which is about non-violence and compassion to an extreme extent, where Jane Monks will not wear shoes.

They will also keep their mouth covered so that they don't disturb any insects as they're walking. So I really grew up with this very radical sense of non-violence and how I could be harming people at all these different levels, even books, right? So,

And so what I have realized and learned on the spiritual path is that we have to be like the warrior mother, goddess, and it's such a cool juxtaposition of. Intensity and fierceness with the softness and compassion, and it's an intensity and fierceness and boundaries and protection that are supporting goodness, that are supporting empathy, that are supporting the greatest good of all.

And so these illustrations, I feel are especially. So powerful because each of them shows one avatar of this warrior, mother goddess, armed with different weapons and for pats to look at this. And really, you know, when I looked at it and re-looked at it after having gone through the narcissistic abuse and attacks in all different ways in my life, I realized, wow, these are my role models.

I need to be like this now. There is no more just being nice and allowing whatever happens to happen now if I want to continue on on this path, if I wanna survive. And even thrive, then I have to be a warrior also. I have to be a spiritual warrior. And so even just looking at these images has really been so personally transformational and it's really helped me to feel that I can, you know, face anybody now in life.

But when I know that it's up to me to protect my reality and to. Always. Discern is something true or not? Is this, you know, a projection or is this reality? Then I'm going to be a lot more empowered in the face of people gaslighting me and trying to cause me to question my reality, and I still have that happening even today.

I. Situations of people trying to devour my light, right? They actually want the light, but they don't realize that by stopping me in my tracks and trying to sabotage me in some way, that, that they're not gonna get the light out of doing that. You know, So, So in order to, even the compassionate part of me wants to even help such people, right?

That like if only they could see the light, but then I. The only way to help such people see the light is to protect the light. So it's just more and more now reinforcement and reminder to me that I wrote this book and I'm gonna be reading my book too, and I'm gonna be re referring to it and re-educating myself and reminding myself, and then now I've done it so much that even very recently I was given a whole lot of gas lighting and a whole lot of.

Manipulation and threats and different things, and I just felt. You know, I've written this book and now I feel the benefit of this book because I feel connected to my own soul's power. Now, even in the face of other people coming and questioning me on all levels and insulting me on all levels, I just feel that I know who I am now with the help of this goddess tradition that.

Know who I am. And if I know who I am, then no matter what anybody says, I'm gonna first of all look at it and ask, is it true? Because if there's anything true in something someone is saying, then it's always been a great catalyst for me for my own personal evolution and transformation. But we have to look with careful discernment because a lot of times as MCATs, we just assume that because someone as a narcissist said it, they are so convinced and they're so confident that they must be right.

And that's where the discernment is a muscle that we have to build. And we build it by constantly questioning everything and asking, is it true? Is it really true? And you know, really looking into it. And when I'm able to do that now I know. Myself and I have really practiced owning my own reality so much that when people come with things that are not true, I can easily be able to validate what is true and to see why is this even happening, right?

And to understand that whatever someone is saying, generally speaking, is just a projection of their reality. Then this is just an opportunity to learn about. Rather than to internalize any lies or gaslighting statements about myself, and that is a real hard, long practice and battle. And I have really benefited from all the things I wrote about doing in my book, and I'm continuing to have to keep to doing them and to keep on deepening into them.

And I feel that that's the benefit of writing with an intention to live. The message and to live by the words, because the universe is always testing us, and as we go on the spiritual path, I feel narcissists will always test us because they're the ones who are so in need of the light and they're looking for the light, but we can't just.

Be doormats anymore. I can't allow people now to just have whatever they want and give and give and give until I'm depleted and run down. Now I know and I understand and I have embodied that I need to protect what is true, first of all, to see what is true. To ask the question, to not take it for granted anymore, that if someone says it, it must be true.

It has to be looked at. It has to be examined. It has to be you. understood. Where did it come from? Why is it there? And then when we understand it, then it becomes something else. Altogether it, it can even become a source of entertainment, and fun and laughter. And I find myself laughing now when I get such things, I'm like, Wow, thank you for today's entertainment.

This will be an experience that will just build more fuel to my fire of conviction. And what is. and so now it's like that whole thing. I used to fear so much and be afraid of, and you. Hide because of now I just feel bring it on. I'm just gonna keep owning my reality. I'm gonna keep reaching out for support as in when I need it because I know that I am not, uh, the doer of all things.

It's not just because of me that anything happens. Even the fact that I wrote this book involved so many people and so many contributions, and we always have to have that humility as we grow to know. We can't do everything ourselves, but we will, in our sovereign spiritual state, do whatever we can to take responsibility for the situation and then be able to impart a change in the situation.

So I feel now when the tests are coming, it's actually a great opportunity to really stand strong. Spiritual warrior position and know as an empath also that this is the perfect experience from the universe to prepare me to help the next person. Because if I haven't experienced attack an attack like this, then I may not know how to help the next person with an attack like this.

Right. And then, , even if I can't share exactly what happened, I still have the experience. I can still convey what the learning is and the kind of conviction that only comes from your experience with it.

And that's their scheme is to confuse you. So I think impasse, we always take everyone's word for the truth. you know, I've learned over the years myself as well, is to look between the lines and do some research and is that really true? No, let's think about that. If this was this and that was that, would they really say that?

You know, like, put yourself in in their shoes, you know? Would I really say that to someone if I was in the right mind? The answer's no. So therefore, they're coming out of a lower vibration, a negative state, jealousy, anger, defense, whatever it is you. It's not the truth, just cuz you speak it.

Or really that womb of silence. I, I think of it as a womb, like it's like a safe place to g state to rebirth yourself through the words. that we speak as a potent tool of transformation and creating the reality in the world we live in. So when we can sit in that silence, when we can ask ourselves, is this true or what emotions does this bring up by not having distractions of other people, sounds, podcasts and things, Then it's like, Oh, I.

Drawn to my emotions to see what naturally arises, what needs to be experienced, observed, and then let go. And then when I sit longer in that silence, then what kind of reflections come up And allowing ourself the space to have those reflections. And then really, you know, engaging with them, writing.

Making them our reality. Then we build our conviction in them, and then that conviction itself leads to the courage to then be able to express what is our truth. I feel that so often with this whole empath narcissist dynamic, our voice gets suppressed. Our truth cannot even, first of all, be known because there is so much confusion, but then it can't for sure be expressed even if we do.

Within, and there's so much need today, more than probably ever before for empaths with wisdom and compassion to be out helping people. But we can't do it unless we can speak and express the truth and the truth is that which sets us all free. So the more we connect with that, the more we can express that, the more we can then really use our gifts to be of service.

And this was a big journey for me, even with publishing this book to free the power of my expression. And I feel that I really, really got to practice chapter five a lot and expressing myself with both sound and. Sometimes silence is the best way to respond and just not doing anything is actually speaking a lot more than all the defensive kind of things that we try to say to protect ourselves and explain ourselves.

And you know, it's so much energy and it's so much energy that goes into that right where we could redirect that to actually speaking the truth and actually expressing great wisdom. Moving our energy and our words into something that's higher, something that's going to uplift us, that's gonna motivate us, that's gonna fuel us to keep going on this journey.

And then if it helps us, it's our obligation really to help other people, to share with other people, to be able to inspire other people. So I really, you know, feel that this has been a big transformation for.

You're not gonna always be quiet, but to gather your thoughts, you have to be more quiet. And just the other day, I, I was confused about something. I walked down to, you know, my tree down at the lake near my house. And I just sat under it and I said, Okay, just let me know what I need to know. And I just sat there in silence and I just waited for her to tell me.

And it was, she never fails me. It's always some like very something I have to think through. And she said, Be natural. Cause I was looking up at her like leaves falling down. Just like so rooted and grounded and natural. I was like, Okay, be natural. What does that mean? What are you telling me? And you know, it just allowed me to process and really tap into my intuition of what I needed to do.

And it was, it was just such a beautiful moment. It happens all the time. You know, All you have to do is just be quiet and listen and the answer will come.

And we do have the guidance within us to do that, but we have to access it somehow. So I feel that giving ourselves regular time and space to be silent is such an incredible way to also regain and reclaim the power of our intuition, which is a subject of. Chapter of my book. So I love how we're going in order from the heart chakra, loving yourself and then expressing yourself, and then protecting and owning your reality and trusting your intuition even after years of gaslighting and confusion.

So along with all this beautiful spiritual, you have some real like roadmaps. And then I loved the way you worded this on page 1 43. In fragrant boundaries, which are limits through which we can assert ourselves with strong actions that are guided by a pure heart and wishes for the highest and best for others. Uh, yes through love, you know, like hold space in your heart space for them rather than through hate. And you build, you build like rock foundation fragrant boundaries versus like willy-nilly. Hopefully I'll hold this boundary. Who knows? One day until they love bomb you, you know?

Like I did go through a lot of fire, you know, in this experience and

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Right? And when we reached that point where we feel emotionally that yes, this person is very childish, they don't know better. And I am grateful to know that by not engaging, by not allowing them to control me or do whatever it is they're trying to do, I. Just committing to walking a higher path in my life.

And I feel grateful for that. And when we feel grateful, we are in a positive emotional state and we know that we've digested it and we know that now we can also set those limits in a fragrant way that expresses that inherent compassion and empathy, which makes us impact, right? So I feel that that's a good sign to know that you're getting to a point of resolution.

When you can recognize, Oh wow, such people, I may keep meeting them, but when ones I've already met have been incredible teachers in the laboratory of my life. And that's why even for the book dedication, it's dedicated to all the great teachers who have pushed me to own my true power. And we can all start to see narcissists in that way.

That these people are not to be feared, they're to be understood. And when we really understand, We can really understand that they are our greatest teachers and they are the ones who really push us to own the light and to protect the light so that it can continue to shine and lead the way for many others in darkness because everyone, including people who may be narcissists right now, has the.

Spark and potential of divinity within them, and everyone comes to spirituality and comes to knowing themselves and unlocking that power in their own timeline. I feel as an empath, that was a huge lesson I needed to learn was that it is not up to me. It is not okay for me to get so caught up in my compassion and empathy that I will try to kind of help someone grow before they're ready to.

And I needed to recognize that I had that tendency to do that and to really let that go and really rein myself back from that whole codependent dance, which allows this pattern to go on and on. And a lot of times it's just us running away from ourselves. That was what it was for me, where it was just easy to give.

To someone with more conviction in what they had to say than it was to face my own issues. Right? And to look at my own abandonment issues and my own fears and my own, you know, wounds. And to really go into that healing. And I feel that to be a healer, one needs to be a warrior. Cause it's really hard and it is scary.

And it does take you to those dark places that probably all of us as human beings would rather. Deal with and would probably like to avoid and, you know, search for pleasure and the good experiences instead. And then what do we get more love bombing, more cycle, continuing on. And so somewhere somehow we've gotta just say that we understand what Lord Krishna has said in the bug of Aita that what is.

Nectar in the beginning becomes like poison in the end. And what is like poison in the beginning becomes like nectar in the end. When we dare to go on this journey, when we start reigning in our senses, when we pull back from people who we felt we could never live without, what we get is a very. Poison like experience initially, but we have to know that it's this very poison that's going to lead to the discovery of the nectar, which is actually within, and that anything we were searching for within that narcissist that we believed that that narcissist had in them is actually within us.

It's actually within all beings, but we have to first find. Within ourselves, and then we have to, we will just, we don't have to, we'll just end up inspiring people by our, having connected with that nectar, we'll inspire other people to go find it for themselves, right? Because if we all redirected all these feelings, right?

If narcissists who are having a lot of jealousy and rage redirected that fire of the jealousy and rage into. Work of discipline and taking the poison to convert it into nectar, then they too can be. Connecting with their own light, right? But it's just everyone has to do the work somehow, some way. And through mythological stories and illustrations and personal experiences and roadmaps, I felt that this is my way to offer that light of hope to all who are ready in their own time without me trying to say, Hey, I think you should read my book

Um, so. A beautiful book, and I think it will absolutely help and connect all of us to our divine inner goddess because we have both yin and yang, male and female in us, all of us, and the inner warrior within us. Um, you had said, and I, I'm gonna have to quote that when we're producing the show, but that we are looking for, or we believe the narciss.

Can provide us with what we're searching for. And they may sell us on that in the beginning, but what you're actually looking for is already within you. And it's like stop running and chasing blindfolded, like with a bat, trying to hit a pinata and just like sit and look within and it's already right there.

And that's, that is it. That's what I've been trying to. Hit home run to everybody in their brains in the podcast lately is it's all within you. You just have to be quiet and you have to not care if they love you. You have to not care if you're alone because I love the other thing you wrote. I can't, I'm not gonna quote it exactly, but I've heard it many times.

You wrote in the book, Being lonely and being alone are two totally different things because you can be lonely in relationship with somebody, aka the narcissist. I know we've all felt lonely with the narcissist and you can be alone and be completely healthy and happy. And you know, sometimes some women and men, depending on how healthy they're. Will outlast their partner who has passed because finally , they're alone and they're healthy and happy, and they live many more years all on their own in their best own company.

And then we won't be rushing also to try to fill some imaginary void with another narcissist to come in and do their narcissistic thing. We'll be like, Oh, actually I. Not just enough by myself, but truly happy by myself and does this person coming into my life. Add to my happiness, reflect my happiness, or do they take away from that?

And if we go slow, if we take time for silence, if we feel our feelings, if we trust our intuition and our reality, then we'll be able to assess those things and we'll be able to then make a lot better choices for all relationships that we allow in our lives. It does definitely take the process of taking inventory and also learning.

What it means and what it feels like to be so independently happy that we can. Be in relationships and also then find our voice to speak for ourselves and to protect ourselves and to have the kind of boundaries we need to have as empaths. I feel it's the only way to be able to do it is to really know that you are able to be happy yourself and that you've experienced it, because when you've experienced that independent bliss and that independent fulfillment, which only really can come from the spiritual path.

You will naturally do what it takes in a relationship to ensure that you continue to draw from that. And so no matter what the other person or children or whoever is close in your life is going through, you won't be so affected by their. Energy and their ups and downs because you would've cultivated this incredible foundation.

And that's what I feel this book really has given to me, and that's why I feel so grateful to be able to offer this to people who are ready, right, And who are seeking to find that independent bliss or x, xyz, whatever they were looking for. I thought the narcissists had to offer in their own self.

Makes that bond writer, right? You each have your own light shining and then you come together and it makes it a big beam versus, you know, Oh my gosh, I don't know if I have a light and, oh, I don't know if I can do this, or I'm ugly, or I'm prett, or I can't make money, or all these things that we have all these insecurities, which are perfectly human, but finding somebody, even the narcissist, that's what they're trying to do too.

Finding somebody to enable your bad habits so you can continue to be lazy. Give you that security. The impath can't give the narcissist that, and the narcissists can't give the impath the love and the cherishing and maybe like the bandaid over the childhood wound, you know, So, And those are my, those are my thoughts. This is just been such a beautiful conversation. I love talking around the concept and the idea that we all have this inner goddess and inner warrior in us, and I really appreciate you writing the book. It's just been so amazing. I know I'm gonna read it again and again, so I can't wait for everyone else to grab it.

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