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Showing Your Appreciation - A Joy At Work Experiment
9th December 2024 • Joy At Work • Lucia Knight
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Assess how feeling career stuck is impacting you across ten areas of life - in 30 minutes. Then, decide what you want to do about it.

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Appreciation is one of the simplest, most cost-effective ways to improve workplace dynamics, as far as joy is concerned.  When done genuinely and often, It's a win-win investment of a few seconds. 

If appreciation is so clearly a win-win, why don't we do it more?  

Appreciation doesn't need to be a grand, splashy, time-consuming gesture. And in todays Joy At Work experiment, I’m going to show you two easy ways that you can start showing appreciation for those around you today.

[00:30] The Power of Appreciation

[00:58] Personal Story: The Smile That Changed Everything

[02:08] Appreciation in the Workplace

[04:27] A Joy At Work Experiment: Show Some Appreciation

[06:04] A Joy At Work Experiment: Smile More

[07:09] The Impact of Genuine Appreciation


Get all of the details for this experiment on our website

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You're busy, yeah?

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There's never enough time to focus on your future work happiness.

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But if you don't focus on it, things just stay the same, don't they?

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In these short episodes, I wanna give you some tiny ideas, some mini experiments

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to try out this week to either dial down a pain point for you at work or

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dial up your potential for joy at work.

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Let's dive in.

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The Oxford Dictionary defines appreciation as recognition and enjoyment of the

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good qualities of someone or something.

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Appreciation at work has a huge influence on our potential for joy.

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Appreciation matters because it satisfies one of our most

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fundamental human needs, belonging.

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We're hard wired for it, and it's why babies flash that magical six week smile.

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I learned this first hand as a new parent.

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Truth be told, I'm not very good at the tiny baby stuff.

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Six weeks after my first daughter was born, with my body in tatters,

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winter gloom looming, and no idea how to make this supposed bundle

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of joy sleep, I was struggling.

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My husband had been back at work for a month, my parents lived in

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a different country, and almost everyone I knew was busy at work.

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Then, one miraculous day, my daughter smiled, a toothless, gummy grin.

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That smile told me my exhaustion, the dark circles, and my round the clock care

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had been noticed, had been worthwhile.

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and had been appreciated.

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In that moment, we decided we'd be friends forever.

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Appreciation is a powerhouse of potential for your joy.

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At work, at home, in sports and in friendships.

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It transforms relationships, elevates morale and reminds

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us that what we do matters.

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Let's talk more about appreciation at work.

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In one of the very first tasks in my career design program, I asked clients

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to assess how well their human needs are being met at work over and over.

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I noticed a pattern.

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Those least satisfied with their work often feel under appreciated.

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These professionals are experienced in their fields.

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They're often perceived as very successful and people who deliver high quality work,

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yet They feel seriously underappreciated.

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Most often the culprit is actually their direct line manager.

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Sometimes it can be a broader sense that their hard work doesn't matter

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enough to their colleagues around them.

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Gallup research confirms this.

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When employees feel regularly appreciated, they're more engaged, more

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productive, and less likely to leave.

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True and real appreciation.

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Now, what does that look like?

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Well, here's what real appreciation isn't.

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The dreaded annual appraisal.

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You know, the one with the windowless office that is the

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low light of your work calendar.

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And often, sadly, it's tied to a financial bonus.

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Nope, that's not it.

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True appreciation is spontaneous.

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It happens in the moment when someone nails a presentation,

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stays late to help a colleague, or consistently delivers stellar work.

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If appreciation is so clearly a win win, why don't we do it more?

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In my work, I see two dominant reasons.

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The first is time poverty.

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More and more, I see much of the working world simply feeling too

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overwhelmed to pause and notice.

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The second is a perceived lack of importance.

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Showing appreciation can feel unnecessary, even indulgent,

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when big deadlines are looming.

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Appreciation doesn't need to be a grand, splashy, time consuming gesture.

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Here are two simple, effective experiments I'd love you to try this week.

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Pick the one that feels easiest for you.

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Experiment number one, catch someone, anyone, doing something good.

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In your next meeting, look for someone doing something well.

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It can be anything.

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The smaller, the better.

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Articulating an idea well, crafting a solid report, helping a colleague or

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making a good suggestion for improvements.

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Then, tell them what you noticed.

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Be specific.

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Mention what it was that prompted you to notice.

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Was it their creativity, their attention to detail, their kindness, or their speed?

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Before you share, consider how they'd prefer to hear it.

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For many, a short personal message or quiet acknowledgement works

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better than a public shout out.

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But for others, specific appreciation in front of colleagues can be a

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highlight of their working day.

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Week, month, or even year.

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And whatever you do, be genuine.

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People can smell insincerity from a mile off.

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If you become the kind of human who is known for catching other

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humans doing something well, you won't believe the positive impact

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it has on your joy at work today.

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And you might also be surprised by the positive impact it has

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on your long term employability.

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But that's a topic for another episode.

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Experiment number two.

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Become a smilier morning person.

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Yes, really.

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Start your day by sharing a smile with colleagues, even if it's

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just a slight upturn of your lips.

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Maybe even smile and greet your teammates each by name if you're feeling like it.

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If you're not a natural smiler at work, and I've known quite

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a few of those, start small.

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For those blessed with megawatt grins, go on, use them.

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Feel free to show off those gorgeous gums.

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This one works at home too.

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I once realized I'd become all business when my husband walked in

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the door in the evening, so I decided to spend a few days greeting him like

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the love of my life, which he is.

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I never told him, but I think we both enjoyed that experiment.

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He listens in sometimes to this podcast, so I suppose I

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better revive that experiment.

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So that's it.

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Appreciation is one of the simplest, most cost effective ways to improve workplace

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dynamics, as far as joy is concerned.

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When done genuinely and often, It's a win win investment of a few seconds.

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The giver feels a jolt of joy and the recipient feels steam.

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This week, try it.

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Catch someone doing something good and tell them specifically Why you were

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impressed or smile more, invest just a little human energy into appreciating

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those around you and watch how it influences their joy at work and yours.

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If you enjoyed this, you might also enjoy my Life Satisfaction Assessment.

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It's a 30 minute program where I guide you through a deep dive into 10 areas

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of your life to assess what's bringing you joy and what's bringing you down.

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I call it D Railed.

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It's a fabulous place to begin a joy at work redesign.

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