Today, we're diving deep into the concept of balance and what it means for us moms. I know firsthand the struggle to find that healthy balance between all the different aspects of life. But here's the thing – balance is personal, and it's something we get to define on our own terms.
As we explore this topic together, I want to emphasize that you don't have to follow a rigid plan to find balance. It's about understanding what works best for you, your family, and your goals. Whether it's setting daily goals, embracing spontaneity, or finding joy in the little moments, the key is to stay true to yourself.
Remember, finding balance is an ongoing journey – it's not about reaching a fixed destination but rather embracing the process of growth and self-discovery. So, let's celebrate our individuality as moms and support each other in our pursuit of balance!
What you'll hear in this episode:
[1:35] You get to decide what balance means to you.
[3:20] What does balance look like?
[5:05] All moms get to define balance differently and that's beautiful.
[6:30] What does balance look like for the rest of today, this week, this season?
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Kelsey Smith 0:00
My version of balance of personal professional and family may be different than your version of balance for those three buckets. When you go and measure what is balanced for you in those, it may look different, you may spend different amounts of time with your family versus your job, you get to decide what is balanced, it doesn't mean that it's equal all the time. And if we think of these as literal buckets, it doesn't mean that they all have the exact amount of water in them, that they're all equally weighted, that they're all equally the same. For me, it's how am I juggling and balancing all three of these Welcome to mama has goals, your weekly reminder that you shouldn't have to sacrifice your dreams to take on the role of mom. I'm Kelsey Smith, mom of two boys. Why an entrepreneur who's passionate about helping other moms current and aspiring to reimagine mom life. I'm bringing you the resources, support and relatability to debunk that limiting belief that you may have about your ability to achieve your goals while raising a human. We're covering everything from mom guilt, marriage, relationships, careers, finances, mental health, physical health, you name it, your life doesn't have to fully shift once you become a mom, you can have it all. And we'll show you how.
Kelsey Smith 1:35
hear people all the time. It's how moms, women in business, women with jobs, stay at home moms, all different types of people really, that there's no such thing as balance. And I disagree. I disagree that there's no such thing as balance. And here's why I was recently interviewed by Jess Glaser to Rose, you'll find one half of our recording on the moment schools podcast and the other part to have on the digital business evolution podcast, go check it out. But in that we brought this up. And we talked about this. And she was like, well, I say that all the time. There's no such thing as balance. What do you mean, you disagree. And here's the thing, I think balance is defined by you, we get to decide what balance is. So my version of balance could be different than your version of balance. You've heard me talk before about my three buckets of life, personal professional, and family are my three currently in this season and have been for a while, it may change, I don't know when. But those three buckets to me need to be in balance. Now, it doesn't mean that they're in balance all the time. This is the difference, right? My version of balance of personal professional and family may be different than your version of balance for those three buckets. When you go and measure what is balanced for you in those, it may look different. You may spend different amounts of time with your family versus your job, you get to decide what is balanced, it doesn't mean that it's equal all the time. And if we think of these as literal buckets, it doesn't mean that they all have the exact amount of water in them, that they're all equally weighted, that they're all equally the same. For me, it's how am I juggling and balancing all three of these buckets? And what does that look like? Now sometimes one balls up in the air, and I'm moving the other two other times I'm holding all three other times all three are in the air. And my hands are actually empty. And it's figuring out what that balance actually looks like. Now just says, I guess the question is, if you think about it as a seesaw, is it in balance, just that one time that you're both equal? Or is if your feet never touched the ground? Now, when we think about the juggling analogy, it's similar to that. But actually, I like to think about what is the snapshot? What is the timeframe? So if you're asking me this hour right now, it might equally juggling all three of my buckets. Well, no, I'm recording a podcast right now. My kids are at school. And personally, I haven't gone for a walk today, although to get my hair done. So today, when I think about balance, it's making sure that I spend some quality time with my kids by the end of the day. But otherwise, I've checked a lot of those boxes. But currently in this moment, no, I can't be doing all of those three things all at the exact same moment. But if you think about the day as a whole, or the week, or the month or the season, then that is how I can measure balance. So no in that one Instagram story in that one snapshot, it may not be perfectly balanced, because to me, that wouldn't be balance, right? You can't do everything equally all the time every second of every day. But if you're finding the different components that make up your version of balance, and you're finding different ways to hit those at different hours in different moments of the day, then that's balance But it depends when you take the picture. It depends on when you're measuring that when are you taking the balance? Because yeah, hi 7am Verse 10pm, that picture may look different. So I really don't love when I hear people say there's no such thing is balance, I really always just want to say back says who? What is balance, because I can guarantee based off of all the different women listening right now we all have a different version of balance. And that's beautiful. To me, that's the most exciting thing about this community. Isn't that what mana Haskell stands for is that we all have different goals, we all have different things that we're looking to accomplish. We have this thread that ties us together called motherhood that we all align with in one way or another. But we all have different goals, we're all looking to accomplish something different and how we achieve that, how we balance those different things is going to look different to all of us. Now, we have a lot of common ground in the sense of many of us talk about laundry, and how we make time for us and mom guilt and what our ambitions are, and how we want to lead for our children and for ourselves. Those are all things that we share. But the day to date, our two hours probably going to look different, the balance is going to look different, how we go and achieve those things. So I don't know how someone could say there's no such thing as balance when you have no idea how that person defines their balance, how they choose to take action. So I'm curious to know your thoughts on this. I would love for you to hop into my DMs and tell me go to this is Kelsey Smith on Instagram and send me a message and tell me what is balanced mean to you? What is balanced look like? How do you define balance? And also, have you felt out of balance? Because I think so often, even though I say this, we've all had moments where we've sat and said, Okay, I'm not feeling like I'm hitting all the boxes, or I'm dropping the ball here and feeling out of balance because that happens. But that doesn't mean that we don't have a goal of balance. That doesn't mean that we don't have something that we're looking to achieve what we're going to strive for. And we can be aware of what the different buckets are and what we're looking to do. So I want to encourage you to define your own balance to reimagine mom life as we say reimagine balance, reimagine what that looks like to you can remind yourself that if it didn't feel like it was imbalanced today, you have tomorrow. We have this beautiful ever evolving life. And while no one is promised tomorrow, we are always able to do our best to take the next opportunity to do different or better, or try again. So what would balance look like for the rest of today? For tomorrow, the rest of the week? Whenever you're listening to this, if you try to find balance again tomorrow differently, what would that look like? I'm sending you so much love. I cannot wait to get all of these DMS about balance so please send me a message. I want to know what that looks like for you. Send you so much love keep going after those goals woman mom in your life that you see and love her by sharing this episode. 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