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Give yourself permission to say no.
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You know, I know a lot of times people
commit to things and they sign up
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for events or activities or they give
their word that they're going to be
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there, but then circumstances change
and as you get closer to the date
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or sometimes even on the day of you
realize either you don't have the energy
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to do this, you no longer have the
desire, or you don't have the capacity.
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But sometimes you just push through
because you say, well, I already said yes.
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But I want you to give yourself
permission to also say no.
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If you are not going to be your best,
and if you would be happier to not
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go to the event, then honour your own
happiness and your own well being.
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And sometimes that requires
making tough decisions.
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On Saturday, I really
wanted to go to an event.
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I had all the desire in the world.
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I knew it would be a lot of fun.
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But I did not have the physical capacity.
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I didn't have the energy.
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I was exhausted.
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So I had to say no.
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And yes, I threw an apology.
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I apologized a couple times actually.
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Because there was
multiple people involved.
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But at the end of the day, as
soon as I said no, I realized
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it was the best decision.
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Because I was tired and I
went to sleep nice and early.
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And I slept for the entire night.
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So clearly my body needed it.
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So I want you to evaluate how are you
using your body signals to indicate
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whether you should or should not be
taking on more activities, more work.
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We have to really prioritize sleep
because sleep is the foundation of
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our physical well being, but it also
connects to our mental well being.
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And so if you're not getting enough
sleep, if you don't have enough
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energy, it's going to be really hard
to show up in a vibrant and authentic.
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and contributive manner anyways.
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And so, you know, you've ever been to
some of those events and sometimes you
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go to these events and you, you talk to
someone and you're like, why are you here?
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Like it would have been
better if you stayed home.
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Maybe their energy is off or they're
negative or the vibe is just not vibing.
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And so sometimes maybe that person
just needed to sleep or maybe they just
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needed to say no and stay home instead.
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So don't be that person.
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You get to decide for yourself and
just give yourself permission to
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back out of events when necessary.
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Now, am I saying to just back
out of every single event?
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No.
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And another tip for you is
instead of having to back out of
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events, maybe don't give a yes.
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I learned this from one of my friends.
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They just take a really long
time to commit to things.
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And yes, this can be annoying for
the organizer and everybody else.
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But from their perspective,
they don't want to commit to
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something and then back out.
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So they will not tell you yes until they
know for sure they're coming, usually
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the day before or sometimes the day of.
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Now this might not always be possible
depending on what the situation is,
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what the event is, or the activity is.
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But sometimes we're giving, you
know, commitments really early.
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Like sometimes months in advance,
and I also think that's a little bit
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unfair sometimes too, because I don't
know what's going to be happening
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in my life in two or three months.
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Should I be committing
to a social event now?
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You know, if it's for
work or something, maybe.
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But even still, those things change too.
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So everything is subject to change.
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So give yourself permission, not only
to just say no, but subject to change.
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Until next time, continue to serve
yourself, your loved ones, and
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your communities from a full cup.
