On this episode of The Karen Kenney Show, I talk about what I’m calling ​"your own personal Fight Club​" – that private, often silent battle that every single one of us is d​ucking, bobbing, and weaving and sometimes still getting knocked on our ass by.

I share a wicked ​​familiar driving story (​u​se your feckin' blinkah'!!!​ 😆) to show how easy it is to leap to judgment, and how I’ve trained my mind instead to pause, get curious​, and remember ​that I have no idea what somebody else is going through.

I riff on that famous quote, “Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind,” - then trace ​that sucker back to its original source and break down what it really means in ​relation to our everyday, human lives.

I also explore why so many of us don’t ​like to talk about our struggles​. Whether it's because of ​old family rules, shame, fear of being a burden, ​or not wanting to look “weak” – and how keeping quiet keeps us stuck in isolation, thinking we’re the only ones who ​don't have our shit together.

​So, this episode is an invitation to “break the first rule of Fight Club” by talking about what’s really going on with someone safe – a ​trusted friend, therapist, coach, or community – so you can get support, ​hear ​a fresh perspective, and ​maybe even extend a little mercy for yourself and others.

If we can remember that everyone​'s in their own personal Fight Club, it gets a whole lot easier to lead with kindness​, patience, and compassion, and ​to write a more loving story about ​ourselves and each other​ as we try to navigate this crazy world!

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Karen Kenney is a writer, podcaster, certified spiritual mentor, and coach.

She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-bullshit approach to spirituality, self-development, and transformational work.

Karen has been a yoga teacher since 1999, and a Thai Yoga Massage practitioner since 2008.

She's also a speaker, a certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.

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It's the Karen Kenney show. Hey you guys,

welcome to the Karen Kenney show, and we're excited to be

here with you today and talk to you about what's been on my mind

and in my hat. So let's just start with a little story time.

Shall we a little a little doubt story time. Okay, so you know

how it is when you're driving in your car and somebody cuts you

off, or, you know, almost backs into in the parking lot, or this

is doing something that you don't like. Okay, let's just

stop there. I know definitely been hit. You know what I'm

talking about. So here's the deal. Somebody cut me off the

other day while I was driving. Was it intentional? Was it a

mistake? Who knows? I don't know, but here's something that

I've done. I've kind of trained myself. I've trained my mind to

after, of course, now let's, we're all human, right? So I'll

oftentimes, especially if somebody cuts you off in a

dangerous way, or does something, and you're like,

Jesus Christ, and you get you the bejesus, get out of you or

whatever, right? So, of course, you might have an immediate like

reaction. Doesn't mean you always say something or do

something, but your body and your brain will usually have an

immediate response. But once that happens, or even if that

does, does or doesn't happen what I have trained myself to

do, because it's really easy to be like, What are you a fucking

idiot? Like, oh my god. Like, use your blank guy. Like, you

know, hey, hey, look at I may or may not have thought in my head,

Hey, fuck face, right? Oh, God, please forgive me. Okay, but

here's the thing, once that momentary, because it's a

nervous system reaction, right? You blurt something out, or

whatever, not to them, just like to yourself inside, you come,

not flipping the bird like those days are over. I don't do that

craziness anymore, but I will say this, okay, I'm getting to

my point. Stay with me. Okay. I have trained my mind to think

and to consider this that I have no idea what this person's day

has been like so far. Maybe they got bad news, maybe something

happened. Maybe they're in a rush because they you know,

somebody's at the hospital. Wife is in labor. Who knows what's

going on, right? So number one, I try to remind myself I have no

idea what their day has been like so far, and I definitely

have no idea what their life has been like so far. And knowing

what I know through you know again, through my own work on

myself, through reading a lot of books, or being curious, working

with clients, all of it, the thing that I know is we are all

not just only humans. We also have nervous systems. We also

have brains that are releasing chemicals. We have reactions

like, you know, people, people I like, just out in life, getting

hammered a lot of the time. So one of the reasons why I do

that, though, is so that I can kind of stir up some empathy in

myself, some compassion in myself, to kind of lean in with

a little more curiosity instead of contempt and judgment, right?

So I've kind of trained my mind to be thinking about like I have

no idea what has been going on in somebody's day or somebody's

life. And when I was thinking about that, like I don't have

any clue what this person has been through or is going

through, etc, it got me to thinking about that famous

quote. We have all heard this quote in some shape, way or

form. It often gets attributed to all kinds of people who

really weren't the probably the ones who said it, but this is

the quote we often hear, right? Everyone you meet is fighting a

battle. You know nothing about be kind. Always, okay, everyone

you meet is fighting a battle. You know nothing about Be kind,

always. I've seen it attributed to Robin Williams, the actor, a

lot, which, yeah, whatever. That's fine. I've heard it

attributed to a bunch of people, but you know me. You know me.

I'm wicked curious. So of course, I had to look it up. I

had to look it up, and this is what I discovered you guys. And

it makes sense. It's all going to make sense as to what this

episode is about. So buckle up for Stacy and stay with me.

Okay, so when I look it up. The original source of the quote is

by a Scottish author and theologian. His name is, it's so

the quote is by Ian McLaren. That's where I should start, and

that is the pen name of a Scottish author and theologian

named Reverend John Watson. So I guess this message first

appeared in like 1897 it was a Christmas message that he wrote

in the British weekly. And what the quote actually said back in

the day was this be pitiful for every man is fighting a had

battle. Now pitiful back then it's intended. To mean be

compassionate, be empathetic towards other people. Be

empathetic towards and he says, Every man is fighting, every man

is fighting a hard battle, so be pitiful, right? Be that's,

that's where the be kind piece came from, and the more modern

version of it, right? But be be compassionate or empathetic

towards others and their hidden struggles. And when I started to

think about that, right, these hidden struggles, this fight

that, this battle that everybody is is fighting. So then I

started to think about that, so I started to break it down. So

right now you're just kind of getting like a little glimpse, a

little behind the scenes, sneaky peeky, a little sneak peek at

how my brain works, right? So I wrote this all down so that I

could share it with you. I like tried to break it down into

different parts, okay? So I started to think about this

quote. Now, right? Be, be everyone you meet is fighting a

hot battle. You know, nothing about Be kind, always, right? Or

the original. Be pitiful for every man is fighting a hard

battle. So I break this down, and the first thing we hear is

every man, every man so, aka, every single person is fighting

a hard battle. So we may not know what the battle is, right?

We're all going through some shit. Let's just put this being

human, this whole being human experience, yes, yes, there are

some amazing and beautiful and incredible parts, but, man, a

lot of it is hard. So we're all going through some shit, and

whatever our personalized, customized, you know, shit might

be, whatever. The personal thing is that the stuff that

everybody's going through, you know, we're all going through

it, okay, check Got it, okay, I'm breaking down this quote.

Okay, so we all got, we all got some shit going on, right, some

battle that we're fighting. Okay? And then this is the pot

that really though caught my eye, in my ear from this quote,

this pot, the whole quote, We know nothing about the whole. We

know nothing about it pot, because then I had to ask

myself, like, Okay, interesting, so why don't we know about it?

Because if everybody's going through it, everybody's going

through something, why don't we know about it? Now, sometimes

caveat, we might know about it because somebody is posting

like, hashtag, hashtag, vulnerable post, and they're

just airing it all. They're just airing it all on social media,

right? So sometimes we do know about it, but a lot of times we

do not know about it. And I'm thinking to myself, why don't we

know about it? And when I started to think about it, like,

why don't we know about it, then the first thing that popped into

my head was the movie Fight Club, and that, that famous

line, right? The first rule of fight club is, you do not talk

about fight club, first rule. And then the second rule of

fight club, you do not talk about fight club. And I'm like,

Oh my God. And as I'm thinking about that, I'm like, Okay, it's

like, in my brain, like, the Jenga piece is like, right? Or

what is it? Connect for the Connect Four pieces. You know,

when you would do like, connect the numbers. You would draw the

numbers connect the dots when we were little kids. So it's all

sat in the like, chink, chink, chink, in my head, right? So

this is when it so I think about the movie, right? The first rule

of fight club is you do not talk about fight club. And then it

also got me to think about the book that I'm writing, my

memoir. Some of you know that I'm a writer. I've been working

on this book, and I originally had a chapter that I titled, and

this is when the silence begins. This is when the silence begins.

But then I realized that I took that that title down, because

the silence was kind of always there, and that's like a running

theme that I see in a lot of New England kids, right? Definitely,

a lot of mass hole kids. That's the one, you know, group of

people I can really speak to with some authority. But you

know, the silence is often there. And in fact, I just got a

message from a family member, a much younger family matter

member on the step side of my family asking me if I can

enlighten him about some shit in my family, because nobody talks

about it. There's no answers to things. And I was like, kid, get

in line, right? That's why I'm writing a book. I started

laughing, okay, but here's my point. So we're all in our own

personal fight club. That's the thing we're like all in our own

personal fight club,

and you don't realize that you're in your own personal

fight club because of the number one rule of fight club, which is

we don't talk about. Fight Club, so we're all totally unaware of

what everybody around us is going through, because we don't

talk about jack shit around here, right? I mean, that's been

one of my things, just as a person, as a coach and as a

mentor, is that people end up usually sharing with me things

that they don't tell anybody else, like I hear all kinds of

things that their deepest dreams, their desires, their

fears, what's going on, like, in their lives, like, I often end

up hearing a lot about it and but in order for that to happen,

there has to be like, a safe place for, like, for that kind

of stuff to go on, usually. So when I'm thinking about this, so

if you're in your own personal fight club, and I'm in my own

personal fight club, and we don't talk about fight club.

We're all just kind of walking around, like bumping into shit,

you know, like cutting people off on the highway and in

traffic, because we are unawares, as I jokingly like to

say, we are unawares, and we're totally unaware of what everyone

is going through around us because nobody's talking about

it. So then I asked myself, well, why don't we talk about

these things? So I just know that for especially a lot of

kids growing up that I grew up with, you know how things were

in their house might have been different in my house, lot of

people like you don't air your parents, your grandparents, that

generation was you don't air your dirty laundry outside of

this house. We don't talk about what goes on inside of this

house, outside of this house. This is how so much dysfunction

and generational trauma and physical, mental, verbal, sexual

abuse goes undetected or unknown about because people didn't talk

about shit, right? That is classic, suck it up and stuff it

down, as I've coined that term, right? Suck it up and stuff it

down behavior. So you might have grown up in a house where you

weren't allowed to talk about those things, and it was like

this kind of code where we don't talk about stuff, sometimes we

don't talk about things and what we're going through, because we

don't want to be a burden to other people, you know, and we

feel like other people are so busy they got a lot on their

plate. Nobody has any time. I don't want to, I don't want to,

like, trauma. Some people call it trauma dumping, right? Like,

I don't want to just, like, dump all my stuff onto them. And

sometimes it's about being how we're perceived, right, like

people are afraid to be perceived as weak, like this

thing is weighing heaven heavy on me, and I need help, and I

don't want to be perceived a certain way. I mean, there's

1000 reasons why we don't talk about stuff. We have shame,

we're embarrassed, we feel guilty, we don't want to be

judged. I mean, on and on and on, you can just fill in your

own personal reason maybe why you don't talk about things. So

what happens, though, is when we don't talk about things, and we

all don't know that we're all in our own personal friggin fight

clubs, what ends up happening is we often feel like we're the

only ones going through the slog, right? We're the only ones

going who are like struggling or suffering. And James Baldwin has

a really beautiful quote. I wish I had had written it down, but

I'm going to paraphrase, if I can off the top of my head and

apologize in advance if I'm kind of getting the heartbeat of this

wrong. But it's kind of like he says, when you read books, you

start to realize that you're not the only one who is going

through this particular struggle, or that you are not

the only one that is suffering. In fact, everybody is suffering

in some way. I was going to look up the quote, but I forgot to do

it before I hit record. So here we are. But the thing is, is

like we can end up feeling like we're the only ones experiencing

this situation or this pain or this loss or this grief, you

know, because we don't talk about shit with each other, and

it might lead us to also believe that we're the only ones going

through it, which means that everyone else isn't going

through it, because we have this fantasy or this idea that

somehow miraculously, they're the ones that just always have

their shit together. And a lot of us do have our shit together,

but life is happening all the time to everybody. You know what

I mean. So a lot of times it feels like, Oh, everybody but me

has their shit together or whatever, which only feels more

isolating. And then we're like, well, and I'm just showing you

how the brain can work, right? For some people, it can feel

like, well, if they do have it all together, and they still did

something to me, did they do it on purpose then so it wasn't an

accident, like they did that shit on purpose, right? Which

can totally just send us into like a tailspin of judgment and

and whatever. And the thing is, is that we start to see the

dangers of being in Fight Club and never talking about it,

okay, but this gets us to the pot three at the end of the day.

We are really just over all in our own personal fight club, and

none of us realize what the other person is going through,

because, as we just discussed, rule number one of Fight Club

prohibits it. So here's the thing, maybe like, maybe like.

Just maybe we can try approaching like the whole human

experience, being with each other, being in relationship,

bumping into each other, trying to figure stuff out, getting

married, having babies, getting divorced, like the whole thing,

being born into a family, not feeling like you fit in or you

belong, like just the whole thing. If you can just think

about what it's like, maybe to be in other people's shoes and

to maybe try on their experiences, and you know what

they're going through. And you know, if we just take a look

around in the world right now, there's plenty, plenty, plenty

of suffering. So if we can just kind of keep in mind, as we

navigate life, that everybody is in their own personal fight

club, maybe we can just be a little bit more kind and

compassionate. So when a person cuts you off on the highway, you

can maybe just think to yourself, rather than going

ballistic and losing your mind and flipping them off and then

road rage and chasing them down the street, and then people are

recording each other with their phones and like, just the

insanity, right? Maybe we could just pause and say to ourselves,

hmm, maybe something horrible just happened in their life.

Maybe they just got really bad news. Maybe they're late for

work, and if they're late to work one more time, they're

going to lose their job. Maybe they just found out their kid

was sick, like, who knows? Maybe we could just write a story in

their favor, like that. They're not a total, complete asshole,

and they weren't trying to ruin your day. They just happened to

make a mistake like what if we just allowed some mercy and

compassion and possibility that you don't know the whole story

and try to write something in their favor and practice maybe a

little mini forgiveness, write a little boop, just a little, a

little teeny, tiny sprinkle, you know, of forgiveness. And here's

the other thing I want to say, if we're all in our own personal

fight club, if you're finding yourself in your fight club,

like swimming upstream without any help, right? What do they

say? Paddling upstream? You know, shit out of luck, because

you don't have a paddle. You're trying to paddle upstream.

Here's the thing, if you're finding yourself feeling anxious

or scared or alone or upset or lonely or whatever, there's 1000

ways we can feel when we feel like I'm having to do this all

on my own. Nobody cares about me, whatever. But if we're

starting to feel that way, maybe you can reach out to a friend or

a family member, or somebody you trust, and you can tell them,

like, Hey, I'm having a tough time. Or hey, this is the way

I'm looking at this. Can you maybe help me have a different

perspective? Or, Hey, can you just listen for a little bit? Or

like, hey, I need some help, right? I'm encouraging you break

the first rule of fight club. Talk about it with somebody.

Talk about your own personal fight club with somebody,

whether it's a therapist or a coach or a mentor or a trusted

friend, or in a safe community like the nest or something like

that. And again, I always say I can't tell people that I say

safe community, because the people in the nest tell me that

they feel like it's a safe community, but I can't, I can't

make everybody's nervous system think that or believe it. So I

say that I try to create a community that feels welcoming

and inclusive and safe with people, but it's only people in

their nervous systems that can decide that, right? So talk

about it with somebody, though, so that you can receive some

support. That's the whole thing. Okay? And then I want to kind of

wrap it up with this final thought about our own personal

Fight Club, which is this, when we are looking right well, so

when we look at the movie Fight Club, and we look at just double

checking my notes, I want to make sure I didn't forget

something here. Oh, interesting. Okay, so when you look at, when

we look at our own personal fight clubs, and we put it in

the context of the movie, and you look at the movie, and if

you've never seen the movie, maybe some of this won't make

sense to you, but go watch it, because it's a kill a movie

Fight Club. But if you look at the characters, right, what's

really interesting is that the the main character is actually

an unnamed narrator. So we just know him as the narrator, even

though we see Edward Norton, the actor on screen like acting, we

never learn his name. He's just the unnamed narrator. And I

thought this was such a brilliant choice, because to me

and I could be wrong, but to me, what it's pointing to is that

this is everybody. This is the this is the everyday person, the

everyday man, right? This is all of us, right? And any, any one

of us, right? I always say it's the unnamed narrator, because it

could be any one of us. And what's happening

is, is that Tyler Durden, who is the alter ego is causing so much

trouble, but Tyler Durden, we come to find out only exist in

the narrator's head. So the unnamed narrator and Tyler

Durden, who is the unhinged alter ego, the. Unhinged Alter

Ego only exists in his head. He's not actually real. So it's

like, this violent, aggressive, right? Like, character, this,

this personality aspect, this ego aspect. I always think about

Tyler Durden, and I'm like, Yeah, Brad Pitt, he's lean. He's

fighting machine. He looks good in the movie. Like, yeah. But,

you know, I'm like, yeah, he's charismatic, but he's also,

like, totally chaotic, you know, he's kind of, like devilish.

It's almost like this devil role, right? This taunting, kind

of temptation kind of role. And when I thought about that, like

the devil, the devil existing in his head, it brings me right

back to something that Marianne Williamson, she has said it like

a bunch of times in different ways, you know, on stage and

whatever, but I'll never forget when I heard her say it and she

said, she said this, she goes. I told myself, she said. I told

myself not to worry about the devil, because all that is in

your head, she goes, and then I realized, oh my God, that's the

worst place it could be. So it's like, oh my god. So we all have

this battle that's going on, but so often what we're battling and

what we're fighting right that that internal battle, what we're

fighting is ourselves. What we're fighting is our old fears

and our old thinking and our old patterns and our old beliefs and

our old stories, and we don't talk about it with other people

we're afraid of, like, again, being labeled or being called

something, or it's just scary to talk about sometimes, people you

know, their mental health, or their, excuse me, their mental

health, or their well being, or just the quality of their

thoughts and stuff like that, it can be scary sometimes. And I

think it's an AA or a 12 step program. I know it's in one of

the recovery programs. Is this concept that, you know, secrets

equal sickness. It's our secrets that make us sick when we don't

talk about things. And I've always kind of said to people,

you know, we sometimes look at I said we got to sometimes look at

our minds like a house. And a lot of times we have stuff down

in the basement, like some it's down in the dark, the lights on,

on, excuse me, and there's some critters down there, and there's

some weird noise and some funny smells, right? And it's like,

we're a little afraid to go down into the basement, but we got to

take that stuff out of the darkness and bring it up into

the light, up into our awareness, up into sometimes

into the therapist room, or in the CO on the coaching call, or

with the mentor, you know what I mean, or with a close friend, or

somebody you trust in your family, you know? And that's the

thing. We got to get it out of the basement, and we got to put

that shit on the front lawn. And I always think about this. Now

I'm not saying go and post all your most front lawn, meaning

online, internet, social media. I'm not saying that, you know,

put it on your sub stack, whatever you might. Put it in

your newsletter. I don't know. That's not necessarily what I'm

talking about. I'm just saying we got to get stuff out of the

basement. We got to put it on our front lawn. Because here's

the funny thing, nobody's gonna mention the shit in your

basement, the stuff that's going on inside of you. Nobody's going

to bring it up and mention it because they don't know it's

there. If you are not willing to communicate your feelings, your

emotions, your thoughts, your fears, your dreams, all of it,

right? People aren't going to know what's going on if they

don't know that it's there that you never give them a clue. You

never mention it. You don't talk about things, but you put your

stuff out on the lawn, and people are probably going to

stop by your yard sale. You know what I mean. You put some of

your wares on the lawn, and people are probably going to

come and check it out. At the very least, they'll be curious,

and they'll start asking you questions. You know what I mean.

So we have to help people. Why do we all want to stay isolated

in our own little like, you know, fight clubs. If we're all

in Fight Club, and that's the thing, you're already in Fight

Club, we're all in it, and we could all do a better job about

talking about it, about letting ourselves be seen as vulnerable.

Letting ourselves be seen is not perfect, or always having it

together, as being clumsy is fucking up, is falling down, you

know. And you know, when you have good help and good friends

and good support, you know, you can fall down a bunch of times

and still get back up. You know, I was just listening to a

podcast, and the guy, he was rich roll, and he was talking

about recovery and relapses. And I was really fascinated by the

way he was talking about relapses. And the thing is, is

that, you know, relapses happen to a huge percentage of people

who are in recovery programs. I'm not going to say it's

inevitable. It's not my place to say that, but it happens to a

lot of people. I'm. But if you have some things in place, it

makes getting back up a lot easier, getting your mind right,

getting some structure, getting back into whether it's that

program or a program that you're running with yourself, where you

have know your own ideas of like or your own systems in place of

helping you to keep your mind right, you know, and I think

it's really important that we try to find, if we're in our own

we're in our own personal fight club, that we find the right

time and the right place and the right person to talk about it,

somebody who's going to be an unshaming Witness, but somebody

who's going to be able to really deeply listen to Listen really

well, and who knows how to ask good questions. And one of the

first questions being, do you want me to just listen? Do you

just want my supportive ear? Or do you want help with solutions?

Right? That's a really big thing. So having an unshaming

Witness, somebody who will, you know, be there with you as you

kind of work out, flesh out, or just share what's going on with

you is a really, really, really big deal, and you know, that's

one of the great gifts of the nest, my little mentoring group.

And it's small, it's intimate. The people in there are lovely.

And you know, it's not, it's not a group for, like, bitching and

moaning and whining, I would say hashtag. It's not therapy. It is

a group of people who, you know, we talk about how when you want

to make change in your life, you want to be around a group of

people where those changes, those structures, those beliefs,

those resources, are already in place, where it's already the

norm. You want to go to a place where the desired change or

behavior is already normalized. It's already happening. It's

already in progress. You know what I mean. So if you've been

in your own little personal fight club and you want to get

out of it, you know, we got to break the first rule. We got to

be willing to talk about it. And I think it's one of the most

helpful things that we can do. I have seen people be completely

unburdened, or at least the very beginning of the healing process

of becoming unburdened by talking about things that have

been weighing heavy on their heart and their mind. So look,

we all might have an alter ego. It's just causing chaos. It

might be charismatic. You might like that part of your

personality, but we often find that like chaos ensues

afterwards. So you guys, I hope this has been helpful in some

way, right? Just coming back to the main points here, which is,

right, everybody's going through something and that we know

nothing about it. We often know nothing about it because we

don't talk about it. So we got to break that rule. And maybe

those rules are hard to break or scary to break because of how

things were in your family growing up, and you weren't

allowed to talk about those things. Okay, but you're not

being a burden to people who truly love you if you're trying

to share what's on your heart and your heart and your mind,

you're not going to seem weak. In fact, to me, we forget that

what our vulnerability really is is our strength, allowing people

to see each other as human. There is universal suffering,

even in personal details. We think, well, nobody knows.

Nobody gets it. Nobody knows what it's like to be me. The ego

wants to make you very special. But trust me, like James Baldwin

said, you start to get out there, and you meet some people,

and you read some books, and you start to realize we're all going

through it. We're all in a slog. We're all in a struggle. You

know what I mean. And then here's the thing, let's try to

try to extend, like, go back to the quote itself, and just try

to extend that, that, that that quote, I'll give it to him. Give

them both to you. Again. Everyone you meet is fighting a

battle. You know nothing about Be kind, always, and then the

original, be pitiful, or slash, be kind, be compassionate. For

every man is fighting a hard battle. We're all in it, you

guys, and we need each other. And kindness goes a long way.

Compassion goes a long way. A good listening ear goes a long

way. And just extending love to each other, right? And that's,

that's one of the things about this podcast that I really try

to do, is to just spread a little more love in the world.

You know, sometimes it's not always easy, because people are

acting crazy out there, but we got to do our best to be, I

would say, be the living example, like be the example

God, the whole, you know, Gandhi quote, be the change you you

wish to see in the world. So we have to start, and we have to be

brave, and we have to be encouraged. We have to show up

with a little more courage and maybe start the conversation and

say, Hey, I don't know about you, but I've been struggling

with some things and and so that way we can talk about fight club

together. Which makes me think you guys, it's so funny. You may

not know this. I wanted to start like, and I do, I do, do writing

salons. I have

had many writing workshops and retreats and things over the

years, but I really wanted to start a little group called

right club instead of Fight Club. And I wanted to say, like,

and one of the things I was telling, when I was telling my

friends about it, I was like, Oh, my God, you guys. I just had

this idea. I want to call it right club. And I was like, but

the difference is, is that the first fool, the first rule of

right club is, I want you to tell everybody about right club.

And. It. But unfortunately, so many people, once I Googled

dicks, I was like, oh my god, I'm gonna Google it, but, and a

lot of people are using it in different ways, but I love the

idea of right club, and we're all gonna talk about it. But

here's the thing, guys, thank you for being here. I super

duper appreciate you. Wherever you go out into the world, may

you leave the animals and the people and the planet and the

environment and yourself better than how you found it wherever

you go, may you and your presence and your love and your

energy be a blessing. Bye. Hey. Thanks so much for listening to

the show. I really love spending some time together. Now, if you

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