Have you ever tried affirmations? Did they ever work for you?

Well for me, they didn't until I found the missing link to make them work.

In this episode, I share why affirmations don't work and what actually you can do to make them work.

I start by sharing a few examples from our own life experiences to show you the reason what is missing in the normal affirming way of "saying the words out loud".

Then I share the definition of affirmation, what is normally taught or said for it to work.

And then I dive into why it actually isn't working.

I share examples to give you deeper understanding of it and at the same time I share sayings from famous scientists and mystics of the time who understood the secret behind the affirmations.

Connecting with Manpreet

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Below are some of the resources that I promised to share in the episode -

1. Dr. Joe Dispenza's - "Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself"

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaking-Habit-Being-Yourself-Create/dp/1401938086/ref=tmm_hrd_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1648225668&sr=8-1

2. Esther Hicks - "The Law Of Attraction"

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Law-Attraction-Basics-Teachings-Abraham%C2%AE/dp/1401912273/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1648225700&sr=1-3

3. Dr. Wayne Dyer - https://www.drwaynedyer.com/

Show timeline:

0:00 Introduction

0:19 Today's topic and for whom this episode is for

3:09 Life situations that mimic the reason why affirmations don't work

6:04 What is Affirmation and How to do it?

8:36 How do people get stuck at the first step of affirmation?

9:33 Missing link for affirmation is EMOTION

10:53 An example of Affirmation and Why it's not working?

13:00 Deeper look at why affirmations don't work.

15:11 Everything is ENERGY

16:46 Albert Einstein says "Everything in this life is Vibration"

17:09 "If you want to find the secrets of the Universe, think in terms of Energy, Frequency and Vibration" - Nikola Tesla

17:33 Abraham Hicks says "As you think you vibrate, and as you vibrate you attract".

19:24 Other great quotes on Vibration and what it means

21:04 What is "Anhad Naad"

21:41 What Yogic cultures thought of vibrations?

23:22 Resources for deeper understanding

24:17 How to make affirmations work?

26:46 Use the tools and let me know

27:17 Episode Ending

Alright, everyone.

Welcome.

Today, we're going to be

talking about affirmations

and why they do not work.

So if you

are somebody who has been practicing

affirmations, positive affirmations,

thinking it's not working same as,

you know, some of your mentors

and the rich people and the happy

people have been telling you,

or the books have been telling you

, then

you might find something interesting.

And the reasoning behind

why it does not work.

If you are somebody who is embarking on

the journey

who has been told

that, you know, start using affirmations

in your daily practice,

which, by the way, is a good practice,

but there is a reason

why it doesn't work.

So you are also lucky to be

coming to this episode

because in this episode,

I will break down what affirmations are,

why they don't work

and what is the science behind it.

What mystics, sages and people of wisdom

have talked

about affirmations throughout the ages,

and what can you do to make these

affirmations work?

I do wanna

call out that I'm not a

affirmations person myself,

I have tried it in past.

Never worked for me.

I practiced affirmations in past,

I have read so many books and you know,

I've tried to work with it,

but I haven't seen it working for me,

so I gave up

without really understanding

why it didn't work.

But more recently,

I have come to a realization

as I look back,

you know what worked,

what didn't work

and as I am

discovering new things in my journey.

So I thought it would be a great lesson

for somebody

who was either new on the journey or

have been on the journey.

But, you know, realizing

that it's not working

or it's such a hard work,

you know, jumping up and down and saying,

I am happy

while you're feeling really sad inside.

So we'll dive into that in this episode.

Before we get into the crux

of the episode,

let's just look at our experiences

so that it makes sense to you

when I get into the core of the topic

that you can relate to what I'm saying

and how I have come to this conclusion

or how I have discovered

that affirmations don't work.

Obviously, it's my own experience.

Maybe for some people it works,

but I would say that with a

quite a certainity, it works

because of the certain things

that I'm going to share

in this episode later on.

Have you ever been in a situation

where you were talking to somebody,

whether it's a colleague

or somebody

in your relation, a friend, a coworker,

or maybe a total stranger

who's saying all the right words to you,

But you feel like

you are not able to correct or

reverse that.

You were saying all the

right words to the person

opposite to you, and

you're not finding a way to connect

or you're not finding the person is

showing an interest.

Have you?

I have.

Or how about a salesperson

trying to sell you the things

telling you all the right things

for a product that you know

that you really need,

but yet you don't buy that product,

at least from that person.

Or how about an actor in a movie

where you felt

the actor didn't do justice, or

if feel like he was overacting,

it was not delivering.

It was not natural for that actor

to play that character.

And how about a singer, singing a song

that's perfectly beautifully written

with the perfect music,

yet you don't feel

you know, the connection to the song

and the minute

somebody else gets the mic and jumps on.

And you are able to feel the song.

Same song,

same music, but just a different person.

I assume we have been in this situation

and we have seen it,

if not all, some of these situations,

some of these instances in our life,

we have experience

with different people ourselves

where, you know,

regardless of what

the role was or what the situation was,

we experienced that we were not able

to connect to the person

or the person

was not able to speak into us.

You know,

a funny example or another example

I thought was

when you are negotiating with your boss

or a company

or an interview or a customer, you know,

when the person in the opposite sides

is trying to tell you

that they are thinking

in your best interest,

while in your heart

you know what they are not.

There is something intuitive

that you are able to feel

that tells you and guides you that, OK,

there's something missing.

There's a gap between what is being said

and what you are feeling,

and so you don't know

resonate with that situation.

And it is the same with the affirmations

when it's just about words,

when you are affirming the words ONLY,

without any connection to those words.

It just sounds phony, unreal

to your own mind and brain,

and it was subconscious.

But there is a deeper reason

and science behind why it does not work,

which we'll discuss as we go on.

But let's start looking at affirmation.

What affirmation is

for people

who have never done an affirmation

and wondering

what affirmation is the literal

meaning of affirmation

Process or action of affirming

to something.

Breaking

down into the simple English.

You write down what you think.

And then you write down

about something

that you want in your life,

in your future,

that you currently don't have,

but you desire to have those things,

whether they are material,

things like household job

or, you know, your partner or

you know, their relationship

or you want to live somewhere

whatever you want in your lives.

So you write it down.

For example, money,

health, partnership, relationship.

Travel,

all those kind of things

that we have in our mind

that makes our life better, that we feel

enhances our experience

that gives medical life.

We write it down.

So once you've written down,

you make a list of that and.

And

you write it in the present tense,

as if it has happened.

For example,

if you wanted a lot of money,

you know, I don't I am abundant

who wanted a perfect partner

to write down.

I am living with a perfect partner

in harmony and I'm enjoying it.

If you wanted an ideal

body, your right to,

I am healthy and perfect.

I'm fat.

I'm enjoying my diet.

I'm enjoying my fall.

So this kind of thing that you write down

what you want,

but write it down in the present sense

that as if it has already happened.

And then.

You pick up a tie

where you

stand up in the front of the mirror

and you just read out loud

and you continuously do it in a way

to make your brain believe

that it has happened.

Now there's a size that tells that it's,

you know, our brain does not know

from what actually has happened

versus is what we are making

it believe it happens.

But there is a key thing

that makes the brain believe it.

first of the thing is

you have to believe it,

right, that it has happened

and only you can make it.

Brain believe

and mind

and subconscious mind

believe that it has happened.

But all happens is most people get stuck

on this step.

Only the first step,

which is information writing

and then telling yourself this.

Nearly people get stuck on the words.

They are repeating the words day

in, day out that all seem to change

because somewhere in their body,

their subconscious mind, it cannot

make believe.

I can give you stories of

why people get stuck there,

even when they are not

seeing the evidence

and even when

they are not seeing the results.

But maybe there is a

separate episode

altogether where we talk,

how people get stuck

and what we can do about it.

Let's look at the affirmations first

and why people get stuck.

All right.

If you

remember at the beginning of the episode,

I gave you a few examples of the people

that we haven't

personally connected

on different situations

where we have not felt connection.

And the

number one reason

we now didn't feel that connection was

there was missing.

The missing link was emotion.

There was not an emotion to wrap

our attention

and connect it to what it was being said.

So in other words, whatever was being set

out in the world

lacked that emotion.

There was a gap

between the emotion

and the words being spoken.

And this is same with.

Affirmations, right, you will ever buy

something from somebody.

Where you are not feeling

an action,

you're not feeling

something within yourself that is,

you know,

helping you make that buying decision,

you're not going to have to an actor

watching a movie

if there was no emotion involved,

if a large like a song,

there were not the right emotions

or if it didn't evoke

the right emotions and a new body.

In order for that to happen,

the singer has to feel those emotion

and transform

and evoke those emotion in the right.

So affirmations aren't the same thing

because your subconscious brain

will ever believe in something?

Well, it is not getting the signal

in the form of emotions from your body.

Let's say you want a partner in your life

and you are affirming Daily

Afzal in front of the mirror every day.

Multiple times

during the day, you're telling yourself.

I am living with my perfect partner,

I love my partner,

the partner is taking care of me.

We have a beautiful relationship.

We live in harmony.

All the positive things

that you can think about in

a relationship

and you see those things out loud, day

in, day out, every day .

You know,

it doesn't work while in your mind

you're feeling like that, right?

So you are seeing these words out loud,

but in your silence, in your mind,

you're feeling like

I may never find that person.

Why is he or she not showing up?

What is wrong with me?

Why can't I never find that partner?

Look around everybody else's

African partner.

They are living a married life.

They are living happy and alive life.

Why is it not working for me?

So when you are making affirmations

about,

you know, I have the perfect partner

while your silence in the talks

that you are doing with yourself

in the emotions

that you're feeling within,

there's a lack.

There's a sense of lack.

All right.

So that creates a gap

between what you're saying,

what you're feeling

and because you're feeling your stronger

feelings and intonation

is towards the lack.

No matter how many

times or how many years you know, you

try for a mission, it will never work

because you yourself

do not believe in those affirmations.

With those affirmations work,

you have to believe them in your mind,

in your body.

Otherwise,

those affirmations was like, Look,

no matter how many times you say it.

Let's look at why it will not work.

See, the basic in my self-affirmation

is that you speak into the universe.

You are actually putting

an order to the universe

in the form of your words

and you're saying, I am on this.

But the only thing is

the universe

does not understand the words,

the physical nature of the things

it understands or to feel it understands

the vibration of that energy.

And that's how it responds.

It responds to the vibration.

So while in the words

and the talking language,

you are saying, good, good, good,

good things, positive things.

Whereas inside you are

feeling like negative, you know,

you're missing,

you're saying that this is not working,

that lacks that feeling that vibration

sends a signal to the universe.

It's not working and you're says, OK,

you're all it is. It's not working.

So here you are.

It's not going to work.

So, so when you say

I may never have the perfect partner,

I may never find this.

It never works.

It was cause

I mean,

you'll never find the perfect partner.

It never works, you'll never have it.

You'll always be single.

You'll always be miserable.

Not that.

You know, that is

given that he called

all the single people are miserable.

But is your lack of feeling miserable

because not finding that

relationship is actually

making it miserable?

It's not a secret

that everything

in this universe that we know

the physical existence

and the cosmos as energy, right?

And it's just different forms of energy.

But at the core of it, it's still energy.

So that's the science, right?

I'm not going to get deeper into it,

but you can find

I'm sure I'm not a size person,

but to my own experience,

through my own

learning, I've discovered that.

Everything at the core of it is energy.

So our thoughts, our desires,

our feelings

that all emitting energy

and all of the vibrations

right is creating vibrations.

We may not be able to sense it always.

We may not be able to feel it always.

It's still, you know,

emitting that energy,

that vibration, just like you,

we are not able to see all the current

different levels of light

and hear

all the different levels of sound.

There's all these,

you know,

within the spectrum

range of things that we

that we can hear are audible to human

and the light seen with the light.

So same with just energy.

Just because we cannot see it

does not mean it's does not exist.

And obviously,

you don't have to believe me.

Who am I to say all these things?

I mean, as somebody on this journey

who has learned some things,

but here are few people

that have walked

before us on this earth .

And you know,

these are some of the things

they have said,

and hopefully it gives you confidence

and lets you know that, you know,

maybe there is the truth.

Now I'm

not asking you to completely believe me,

but I want you to come from the point.

Maybe, maybe there is a chance for one

pretty saying there is some truth to it.

Let me explore what that truth is.

So start with that.

Maybe

because that will help you, you know

crap and learn for yourself.

Albert Einstein says

everything in this life is vibration.

Well, that's pretty specific,

everything in this life is vibration.

Coming from

one of the,

you know,

brilliant scientists of our times.

How about this one?

If you want to find

the secrets of the Universe,

think in terms of energy, frequency

and vibration.

Guess who said it?

Nikola Tesla.

Brilliant, brilliant.

You know, scientists

who have discovered

so many things

I had, this was his Germany,

Ibrahim Hicks says,

as you think you vibrate?

And as you vibrate,

you attract.

And I think that's.

Gives you all a bold affirmation.

Obviously,

a prime hicks

has big on law of attraction,

but you know,

there's a deep, deep message

that when you're thinking

you're vibrating

and whatever you vibrating on

is what you're attracting.

So if you're vibrating from the lack.

If you're thinking about Lack

within you,

even though you may be speaking

something else.

For example,

I may be speaking all of these things,

but within if I'm thinking

this is stupid, this is,

you know, not working what I will write.

It will show up, right?

So.

Whatever you thinking,

you're vibrating in that energy

and whatever you're vibrating on,

that's what you're attracting.

And a quick check on

whether or not

you're vibrating on the frequency

you want to be is checking your reality.

If you do not have the results

you want in your life,

it's more likely

to have not been vibrating

on the right energy.

That means you have not

have not been thinking that, I thought.

No wonder Napoleon had to write the book

Think and grow rich, think and grow rich,

meaning whatever you're

thinking

will lead you to grow rich, right?

It's an excellent book

if you have not read,

it's a great, great book to start with.

There are few other quotes

that I want to read.

two of them, I couldn't find who

the author was,

but they were performed,

so I'm sharing it with you.

Negativity can only affect you

if you're on the same

frequency.

Library higher.

Well, that means anytime

somebody negative

is affecting you, anybody,

any time

somebody who's negative

says something wrong, any news,

you know, something goes wrong

and it

starts to affect your mental

peace and balance.

I mean, that means you're if

you're really

coming down to their frequency,

right?

Think of it.

If you're becoming aware of

just this little thing

that any time you feel in these negative

emotions in yourself,

that means you're on the wrong frequency.

That means something in your environment,

whether it's people,

whether it's

something happening there,

it's causing something negative

and bringing down

you to a frequency that.

Is making you a negative.

And the minute you analyze it,

you can snap out of it

by vibrating at a higher frequency,

by changing the thought,

by changing their environment,

by changing the people.

This one is really beautiful.

Universe is asking

Show me your new vibration.

I will show you miracles.

Show me your new vibration, that means

show me the vibration

of the person

that you want to be

of the change of the life

you want to be in

and I'll show you miracles I will make.

I'll show you why it becomes reality.

In the issue and eastern scriptures.

This vibration has been set

as an not

in a way, soulless sound.

Oh, it's very hard to perceive

what cellular sound is

and what it really means

is that that sound,

which is not created by,

you know,

a finding of two objects

that is there is libration.

It's energy

that when you quiet in your mind enough,

you can sense it and feel it,

but you cannot feel it with your mind.

An intellectual thing,

you have to really calm down

to come to that state.

There's a great level of

importance given to an at large,

which is really the vibration in the,

you know,

ancient yogic cultures, in the scriptures

and all in all the right reasons, right?

Because people at those times

understood

what was the basis of our energy.

They recognized that

and they wanted to pass the message on.

So I'm just sitting this, you know,

on from the little bit of the

spiritual side

of the things

that it's not just the science

that recognizes it's actually

spiritual missed, you know,

say it of the people.

Recognize it a lot.

Earlier and

gave that to us

in form of the scriptures,

but unfortunately,

we have

lost those things in translation as well,

and it's not a secret

unless they're in written in.

You know, in this ancient scriptures

and taxane

people have been practicing,

it still requires

a practice, an intense level of practice

to come to learn and to be able to do it

so that it can bring you the results

that you

expect from your life

is not going to just happen by

you reciting you,

saying the words out loud.

It has to have that deeper connection

with those words,

the feeling that you want to acquire

if you really want to understand

the deeper science behind it.

You can do your research.

You can pick books from Dr.

George Spencer.

Breaking

breaking the habit of being yourself

or harm.

Of

becoming supernatural,

these two books are really,

really awesome from Dr. Jordy Spencer.

You can also look into Asterix

Dr Reindeer.

These people have written quite a

detailed explanation of why

evolution and feeling

and how it connects, how

what their resignation is,

what a heart mind connection is.

You know,

if you get into the details

of those things,

you'll be able to understand

deeply why

you need to have this emotion .

I will put the links

for these books and talks in my episode,

so hopefully that holds

no coming down to

how do we make our affirmations work?

The fact that you understand

you need to have information

that supports.

What you're feeling

or how you're feeling

rather than the missing link

is that you

create that emotion, that feeling

and then go to a permission.

So for example,

when you're feeling like,

when you're feeling negative,

when you're feeling, you know,

there's no point of going

and doing an affirmation,

Oh, I'm doing well.

It will not work right.

What will work instead is.

Well, firstly,

let that emotion bias all

these are emotions.

You have to give space and time

and let them pass through you.

So you might have to spend time

where you have to put a limit on

what time you put it on.

But once that is done,

do something that can.

Either neutralize that emotion, right?

Or even better, you can start

feeling better.

So in other ways,

it was something to change your mood,

whether it is

spending time with your children,

playing with your iPad

or listening to music

and going for a walk,

going for a walk

or whatever it is

you need to do to prepare yourself

so that you're in the right state.

You're ready to go,

do the affirmation that you're

naturally feeling good.

And then

making sure

that whatever you affirming about,

there's not a negative talk

going in your mind against that, right?

If I'm affirming that.

I on you know, I'm affirming

that I have a perfect partner in my life

that I need to make sure

that I'm feeling it,

that I am not feeling the like.

If you're feeling the like,

no matter how hard you try,

it's not going to work.

So first thing is

to go and work on the lack

on those negative subconscious emotions.

And that's where, you know, Dr.

George Spencer's work is

great help you get understand

how to get into your subconscious and,

you know, drive that

negative emotions out

and replace it with positive things

so that

then you are able to

do the affirmations positively

and hopefully it will work

to try these tools.

Let me know how it goes for you.

Also,

let me know what you

thought of this episode.

What were your takeaways,

whether something resonated with you

or not?

Share with me.

You know, this is the way we interact.

You let me know what you want

and I hear and I make changes.

And if you think this doesn't

work well, let me know.

OK,

let's

try to vibrate at the same frequency.

All right. Thank you.

I will see you around.

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