Let’s take a moment to appreciate the perks of being single, shall we? This episode is all about finding gratitude in our single lives, and trust me, it’s not just about putting on a happy face while ignoring the challenges. We dive into the real deal of recognizing that being single can actually come with some sweet freedoms—like not having to deal with a partner's annoying relatives during the holidays. I share my personal gratitude list, which includes everything from the joy of a clean house to not having to negotiate over anything! So, whether it's relishing your solo coffee runs or having the freedom to binge-watch your favorite shows without compromise, we’re here to explore how to make the most of our single time. Buckle up for some witty banter and a reminder that being single can indeed be a beautiful ride!

Gratitude can be a tricky thing, especially when you’re navigating the single life. Wioleta, our fabulous host, dives right into the heart of why being single can actually be a cause for celebration, particularly as we approach Thanksgiving. She starts off with a relatable question: when was the last time you genuinely felt grateful for being single? Not in that annoying, overly positive way, but in a real, heartfelt sense? This episode is all about acknowledging the upsides of being single, even while recognizing the struggles that can come with it. We talk about how, yes, being single has its challenges—especially financially—but it can also grant us a unique freedom that those in relationships might envy.

Wioleta shares her own personal gratitude list, which resonates with so many of us. From avoiding awkward family gatherings to enjoying the freedom of decorating your space exactly how you want, she paints a picture of the joys of singlehood. For instance, she notes that she doesn’t have to deal with a partner’s messy habits or coordinate her life around someone else's schedule. There’s also a light-hearted moment when she mentions how she can take three baths in a day if she so pleases—now that’s living the dream! These anecdotes aren’t just funny; they highlight how being single allows us to focus on ourselves and our happiness without distractions.

By the end, Violeta encourages listeners to start their own gratitude lists, focusing on the little things that make their single lives fulfilling. Whether it's enjoying a quiet evening or having the freedom to travel wherever and whenever, being single doesn’t have to mean being lonely. It’s all about shifting our perspective to see the abundance in our lives, even if the dating scene can feel daunting. This episode is a warm hug for anyone navigating the single journey, reminding us to find joy in our own company and celebrate the independence that comes with it!

Takeaways:

• It's totally okay to feel grateful for being single, even amidst life's challenges.
• Focusing on the positives can help us embrace our singlehood and foster self-love.
• Being single gives us the freedom to make our own choices without compromise or negotiation.
• Creating a gratitude list for our single life can shift our perspective and highlight the benefits.

Links referenced in this episode:

• allaboutbeingsingle.com

When was the last time you felt grateful for being single?

Not in a toxic, positive way, but just truly like, damn, feels so good to be single.

Hi, welcome to All About Being Single.

I'm Violeta, your host.

Let's get started.

I know gratefulness sometimes can feel like a punch in the gut when you're dealing with so many negatives about being single, especially in this economy.

I know we're all.

I can't say we all, but I know a lot of us are struggling for money, and especially those of us who live by ourselves.

However, because this is coming out the week of Thanksgiving, I really do want to just have a nice, positive episode, talking about some of the things that we could can be grateful for, things that we only get to do because we're single.

And keep in mind, gratefulness for being single doesn't have to erase all of the negatives that come with being single.

We still get to acknowledge that things can be hard because we're dealing with doing everything by ourselves.

We can still understand just the reality of being single.

However, dwelling on all the negatives about being single isn't gonna help us live our lives the best way.

Right?

Either way, we're single right now.

We might as well make the best of it.

So instead of dwelling on all the negatives about being single, sometimes it's nice to just take a look at what all the positives in the fact that we're single.

How can we make the most of this time?

And how can we love ourselves more?

And how can we enjoy the time that we've been given?

And the more we focus on things that we're grateful for, the more things that we are grateful for, we see, actually, which is a nice little loop.

That's a positive loop in this case.

Okay, so let's get down to it.

So here's some of the things that I wrote down, so I'll just read them for you that I am grateful for.

And I'm sure some of you will definitely be able to relate.

So as a single person, currently, I'm grateful for the fact that I don't have to see somebody's family I don't actually like on Thanksgiving.

I don't.

I don't also have to go to various Thanksgivings in a day.

And then as far as, like, just everyday gratefulness things.

I have the freedom to do what I desire with my entire day, every damn day.

I don't have to be mad that a significant other doesn't know how to clean up a spill he made.

The way that I think it needs to be cleaned up.

I'm grateful that I am not texting my friends every day and complaining about my significant other like I used to do.

I'm grateful that I have a clean house up to my standards every day.

In that same note, I'm also grateful that if I don't want to do the dishes in the evening, I don't have to.

I do my dishes in the morning because that's the best time for me to do my dishes.

And I love that nobody's over here complaining about me being a slob.

I'm grateful that all the house decisions are mine, from the decor that I have to the floors that I picked out again, to when or how I decide to clean my house.

I'm grateful that I have this extra time in my life to actually go to therapy and work on the things that I want to work on so that I can live the best life that I possibly can.

We can.

Not just today, but in the future.

I'm grateful that I don't have to negotiate with a partner about anything.

I'm grateful that I'm able to go to sleep between 8pm and 11pm and I don't have to be out trying to go to some party that they want to go to.

I'm grateful that I don't have to wait for anybody else to be finished taking a shower before I can go and take a shower.

I'm grateful that I can take three baths on any given day if I want to.

I'm grateful that I don't have to be meeting my significant other's family or friends and have to pretend that I like them when I absolutely cannot stand those motherfuckers.

I'm grateful that I get to spend my money however I want to.

I'm grateful that I have more time for my hobbies.

I'm grateful that I have my cat all to myself.

I'm grateful that I'm not waiting for some text back that might never even come from somebody that I'm dating.

I'm grateful that I'm not wasting years of my life dating some losers.

I'm grateful for the fact that I get to be doing this podcast right now and I would never have started it if I was in a relationship.

So I actually get to talk about the things that I've learned throughout the last 20 years and share my lived experience with you.

And it just means so much to me.

And it's again, something I literally would not be doing had I just been one of those people that would like pick anybody and just start dating anybody.

And on that note, I am grateful that I'm the type of person that does not need a man.

I'm grateful that I can survive and thrive while being single.

And I'm confident because I've chosen to be single versus just keep dating people that I know aren't compatible with me.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this episode if you want to send me your your gratitude list or if you want to maybe even send me your resistance to gratitude.

Cuz I know I've been in those eras of my single life where I've definitely felt like there was nothing good about being single.

So I feel you there.

So if you want to send me one of those and go to whatever, whatever it is that you want to share with us, I'd love to hear your thoughts.

Please go to allabout being single.com and drop your voice notes there.

And this is your note to self question what is a single area?

See what I did there of your single life where you've been focusing on the lack instead of the abundance.

Could it be maybe time or attention or adventure?

So for example, maybe you've been disappointed that you don't have somebody else to travel with.

So you can maybe reframe that to the fact that you do have the freedom to go to any destination and while you're there, do anything you want to do versus having to split your time doing stuff that they want to do as well.

Because you might not always have that freedom to just go anywhere you choose to go.

And yes, I understand, obviously economy is not great.

I know a lot of people aren't traveling.

That's just an example.

If you've been enjoying this episode or any of the episodes, please take a moment and share this with a friend who you think might also benefit from it.

So your glow up challenge for this week is to start a single life gratefulness list.

Just one, two, three things each day.

But really just focus on how being single or not how being single but what it is about being single that you're grateful for each one of those days.

Especially if you struggle seeing how being single can be something you can be grateful for, you know, especially if you're struggling and you really don't want to be single.

I promise you there's going to be things that you find that you can be grateful for again each day.

Just focus on again.

Even if it's just one thing.

Just it doesn't have to be a big thing.

It could be something small Like, I treated myself to a coffee, even though I normally make my coffee at home.

And I was able to do that for myself because I felt like treating myself.

That's something that you can be grateful for as a single person.

For me, and I'm going to repeat something I mentioned at the beginning of the episode, but I am so grateful that I only have one set of plans on Thanksgiving instead of when I was dating people, sometimes we'd have three different things giving, you know, events to attend.

And this time around, it's just one.

So I get to wake up, I get to film another one of these episodes, then I get to go to Maggiano's with my mom for a Thanksgiving brunch kind of dinner, and then I get to come home and just relax the rest of the day.

And I'm.

I'm already waiting for that.

I'm already so grateful for it.

Anyhow, thanks for listening.

I hope that you've enjoyed this episode and I hope that you get to see how many things you get to be grateful for for being single.

And I truly hope you have the best Thanksgiving that you possibly can.

I will talk to you next week for late.

We're right on time.

Again, thanks so much, so much for supporting me and listening, and I hope you're getting something out of this.