Do you ever feel stuck in your job and or career? I remember being there a time or two, three, four and one of the things that really helps remove the “stuck” is intention, ownership, and I’m going to say it, go on and take that lead! Today, I am thrilled to have Coach Emily Bennington on the podcast and we have an amazing conversation on being in the driver’s seat of your career! You definitely want to tune in and hear all of Emily’s wisdom! 

Emily is a certified empowerment coach, a lover of laughter, a human resource professional, and a career search guru. She enjoys being outside in the fresh air, she is an athlete, playing both beach volleyball and floor hockey, she is a wife and a dog mom.

Emily’s purpose is to have fun, connect deeply, and empower others to take a stand for themselves. As a Career Empowerment Coach, she gets to work with individuals, empowering them to see possibilities outside of their current line of sight. She thoroughly enjoys witnessing her clients acknowledge themselves and start owning their true value. She supports both working professionals and recent college graduates in taking a stand for themselves, whether it’s asking for that raise you know you deserve, helping bring awareness to your accomplishments, or helping bring clarity to your purpose and values so that you can live a more vibrant life.

Emily started her career in HR because of her strong desire to help people and now as a coach, she continues to support others in a more authentic, fun, and powerful way. She has not only been an advocate for her own career, but for others as well, and it brings her so much joy

Highlights from this episode:

(02:13) Who is Emily?

(06:41) Moving to San Diego

(13:33) Take the lead in your career

(15:59) Why is networking so valuable?

(21:20) Know your why

(23:49) You don’t have to do it alone

(30:01) Work with Emily and take the lead now

Connect with Emily Bennington:

Email: emily@incrediblyemily.com

Website: www.incrediblyemily.com

Instagram: @incrediblyemilycoaching

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/emilybennington1

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Hey, everyone. I'm Kelly Mobic, a coach and a

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leadership trainer. And I'm super passionate about helping

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you find out who you are authentically as a leader, own

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it, and go out and make an impact in your life and the

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lives of others. This world needs your leadership, your

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gifts, your unique brilliance. And I believe that real leaders

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don't wait. They create. I know firsthand that life is going to

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throw us curveballs that we're going to doubt our greatness,

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our ideas and our contributions. And my goal is that you believe

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in yourself beyond reason. And I get to be a coach and a champion

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for you each week, so that you feel inspired, motivated and

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most important in action towards your unique impact in this

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world. So let's jump in.

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Hi, there, everyone. This is Coach Kelly, welcome to episode

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164 of let's be honest, before we start pretending I know I

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shared this last week, I'm gonna say it again. I am so excited

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because I have a fellow coach who is doing such amazing work

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helping people in their careers and beyond. And I cannot wait

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for y'all to meet her. We're going to be continuing our

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discussion on intention. And I'm bringing in an expert who works

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with people in their careers and life and she's a professional

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career and life coach empowerment coach. I'm gonna

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read her bio in just a minute. You're going to hear more from

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her too, but I love working with her and I am so excited for

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y'all to meet her and I cannot wait for you to learn from her

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today. So let me tell you about poach Emily Bennington. She is

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amazing. Emily is a certified empowerment coach, a lover of

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laughter. Now y'all know probably like Emily and I love

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to laugh. We do this. We also share snorkels. Emily, I'm sure

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that you would agree. Snorkel snorts they sound like that we

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both do him and we love to have contests on who's going to

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snorkel the loudest and longest So, lover of laughter one of the

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many reasons I adore her. She is a human resource professional

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and a career search guru, y'all come on, she enjoys being

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outside in the fresh air. She is an athlete playing both beach

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volleyball and floor hockey. Come on. She's also a wife and a

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dog mom, which I am so grateful because she does not mind that

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Foxy is literally here with us doing this together. Thank you,

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Emily. Emily's purpose is to have fun, connect deeply and

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empower others to take a stand for themselves. As a career

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empowerment coach, she gets to work with individuals empowering

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them to see possibilities outside of their current line of

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sight. She thoroughly enjoys witnessing her clients

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acknowledge themselves and start owning their true value. She

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supports both working professionals and recent college

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graduates and taking a stand for themselves. Whether it's asking

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for that raise you know you deserve, helping bring awareness

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to your accomplishments, or helping bring clarity to your

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purpose and values so that you can live a more vibrant life.

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Emily started her career in HR because of her strong desire to

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help people. And now as a coach, she can continues to support

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others in a more authentic, fun and powerful way. She has not

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only been an advocate for her own career, but also for others

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as well. And it brings her so much joy to see them grow in

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their confidence and bravely work past their fears to get

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what they want. You can see why I have brought Emily on today to

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talk about intention and your careers because she is so

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incredibly passionate about it. Emily, welcome to the podcast.

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I'm so happy you're here. How are you today? Oh, Kelly, the

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snorkels How could I forget about the snorkel? Right? I am

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so thrilled to be here. Thanks for having me. Yes, absolutely.

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We are we've been talking about this for a while. And so I am so

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thrilled that you're here, Emily and I know everybody's going to

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learn so much from you. Can you give our listeners a little bit

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about you and your story and why you are so passionate about this

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topic today? Yeah, I would would love to. So growing up, I never

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really practiced or was good at drawing attention to myself. I

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took a backseat and a lot a lot of instances I was a people

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pleaser. I think you and I have that in common, like recovering

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people pleaser. Sure, still in recovery and didn't I didn't do

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a lot of voicing my opinion on what mattered to me. And then my

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husband, my now husband came into my life. He's my boyfriend

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at the time. Since he came into my life. He's been a driving

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force for me helping me remember to keep pushing myself. He's

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very type A. It's really great to have somebody in your life

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I'd like that right kind of leader. Yes, a pusher, if you

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will. And, you know, I think back to my first professional

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job back in Virginia, it was performance review time. And I

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had recently taken on more responsibility in my job, I was

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moving into human resources at that time, and I decided that I

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wanted a higher increase, you know, instead of settling for

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the standard cost of living Sure, increase, but thinking

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about having that conversation scared, scared me quite a bit.

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And so my boyfriend at the time he was, he was following a

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blogger, an author who talked a lot about salary negotiation,

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neither of us had had that conversation before. And so did

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a little bit of research practice with him. And I go into

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the conversation, my heart's beating out of my chest, my

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palms are sweaty, I'm like, straight out of an m&m, and then

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Eminem song, but I did my best to express the value add that I

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brought to the company, you know, I taken on more

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responsibility, and I made the request for a higher salary. And

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I got, I got it, I don't think I got exactly what I wanted. But I

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definitely got higher than the cost of, you know, living would

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have been. And that was, that was the catalyst for me. So that

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kind of that kind of started me on my on my journey. And I knew

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at that point in my career, I was focused on pay. And title,

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those were two things that were really important to me

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recognize, it's not for everybody, but those were the

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things for me. So I started going after what I wanted,

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looking for positions that would help me reach that goal of the

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income and title that I that I wanted. Soon after that, we

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moved to San Diego, so moved from Virginia, cross country,

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San Diego. And I really had to start from my career standpoint,

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I was kind of starting from scratch. And I also had to

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really put myself out there to meet new people and make

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connections and, and all that. So I ultimately landed a job

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here in San Diego. And then there came several points

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throughout my career, where I started looking around, and I

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thought I'm ready for something more, something different. And

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one instance comes to mind, towards the early part of my

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career, I asked for a promotion. And it didn't seem like there

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was an opportunity there at that time, or really in the near

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future. So instead of waiting around, I sought out an

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opportunity or different opportunities outside of that

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company. And I didn't know exactly where I wanted to be in

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10 years, but I had an idea of what knowledge and experience I

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needed to get me, you know, the stepping stones to get me to

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where I wanted to be. So I kept that in mind along the way. And

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with every different position that I've had, I've done a lot

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of interviewing, I've done a lot of salary negotiation. I've

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turned down offers. I've been really lucky and intentional

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with that. And I will be very honest, Kelly, if you look at my

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resume, my my career resume, it looks like I've had quite a few

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jobs. I've kind of I'm err, quoting, like jumping, dumped

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around a little bit. Sure. But in any job interview where I'm

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asked that because I do get asked that. I will always say

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that I have been very intentional in my career. And I

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don't regret any part of it. Because the breadth of knowledge

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that I have, has steadily increased over time. And I've

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been able to work in different industries. So I bring a really

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unique value with me. Wherever I go.

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I think I'm here to like break down that belief that jumping

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around is a bad thing. I break it down. Yes. I love that so

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much. Because I can remember even back when I was in

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corporate America, like how much is on your resume? Do you? You

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know? Are you jumping around? What is it but like, just like

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what you said was so powerful. I was intentional. I have always

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been intentional about my career. And so from that place,

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you were easily able to share the value you brought versus

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focusing in on what you didn't want them to see. You know what

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I mean? That is really Yeah, honest. Yeah. And transparent,

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which is such a great quality. I love that. Yeah. That. I'm

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curious. Also, can you share because I know that you believe

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this to your core. And since we're talking about being

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intentional and taking the lead, what does take the lead in a

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career mean to us specifically? Yeah, I think to put it in one

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sentence would be you taking control of your career and be in

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the driver's seat, sitting in the passenger seat, letting

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somebody else drive and being an advocate for yourself. Yeah,

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falling whatever it is, the plan that you have for yourself. It's

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something that I remind

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And I in that can be difficult for some people to wrap their

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head around is that ultimately we are employees and a number at

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an organization like there are some don't get me wrong. There

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are wonderful organizations and teams and managers out there.

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But at the end of the day, they have a business to run. Sure.

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And so we always have to be prepared for that, like I hear

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clients and friends both say, you know, my, my company was so

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great, they paid for a really expensive conference for me to

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go to last year, or they were they gave me some extra time to

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care for my mom, when things were really difficult. I don't

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want to leave, I feel really bad leaving right now. I don't want

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to leave them in a lurch. And first, I want to recognize how

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great that you've landed at an organization that cares about

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you and invested in you. Yeah, freaking awesome. Yeah. And I

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want to I also want to recognize that when we hear that voice

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that like, you know, I don't want to leave them hanging, they

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might need they need me right now. That type of voice of

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reason. Is probably fear.

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Right? Yes. And trying to win over because change is really

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scary. And friggin uncomfortable. Absolutely. So

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when you start hearing that voice, and there's also this

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desire to, for change this explore that, you know, explore

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that, what's really what's really going on here. Because

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ultimately, we have to look out for ourself, and do what's best

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for us to get to that goal and outcome, whatever you whatever

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path you're going towards, that you've set for yourself. Because

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taking the lead, and owning your career can be scary, and

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intimidating. And more about the empowerment, as you said

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earlier, like it can be empowering and inspiring. Yes,

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yes. And at the end of the day, like we really get to choose

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that I love what you said about the that voice of reason could

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actually be fear, right? Or if you have a tendency, I never I

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never say recovering people pleaser, because then I'm just

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putting more energy into that. But I absolutely have a tendency

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to please. And so from that place, like you said, I don't

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want to leave someone in the lurch. But it's so interesting,

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because I think if we're focusing on that, we're actually

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creating a lurch, right? We're muddying the water a little bit.

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Yeah. So I love that you said, Change can be scary. Change can

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be uncomfortable, and explore because is that voice of you

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know, there are times where voice of reason is absolutely

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appropriate. When you're walking down a dark alley, at midnight,

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and you hear footsteps behind you, please listen to the voice

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of reason. But in this situation, what you're talking

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about in taking the lead in your career, being an ownership for

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that, you got to take care of you. Right, you've got to take

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care of you. And also I find, you know, as someone who also

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has, has has had people work with me, I wouldn't want someone

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to necessarily be there. If they were ready to grow and move on.

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I want them to grow and move on. And I think we forget our

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employers do too, right? Yeah, yeah. Oh, I love what you shared

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there. I love that so much. And you use the word so specific.

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And you said explore that. Really take a look at that and

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explore what's true for you because we can stay stuck

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behind? I don't want to leave them in a lurch. Or maybe I'm

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not good enough for that. What? No, explore that. Don't stay in

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that conversation. Yeah, that's a great, that's a great call

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out. Yeah, that was really empowering. Emily, thank you so

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much for sharing that. How do you see intention? You know,

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from your perspective come into play with careers? Yeah, oh,

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well all about intention, right. So I think taking the lead in

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your career, it has to start with intention. And in thinking

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about the three Ds that you talked about a couple of weeks

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ago, the deciding declaring and doing, you first want to decide

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what it is that you want, right? What's important to you? What

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would fulfillment in a career or a job feel and look like? And

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then see that, you know, after you've explored it, see it and

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then make the decision that that's what you're gonna go for?

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That you're gonna go for it, right? And then never assume? So

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a couple of examples. I would say, Never assume that your

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manager knows what you want. Yes. Ask for special projects,

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if that's something of interest to you, and that would help you

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grow. If that's what you're looking for. We've got to

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communicate what it is that we want.

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I think another example, ask for feedback. Oh, my gosh, feedback.

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You probably talked about that. Like it's so valuable for

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growth. So ask for feedback, whether it's from your manager

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or from colleagues. That's super valuable. So ultimately, what

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what is your intention in your career and then take those

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chunks

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Steps, I'm all about the small steps. Because if you think

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about climbing a ladder with 15 foot rungs, that's hard. Yes. I

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love what you just said how you broke that down, take some small

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steps toward it, because it can feel really big. And, you know,

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that's one of the ways that will procrastinate and not do

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something, and we could really be missing out on some

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opportunity. So I love you, we're like small steps, small

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steps are big steps to you, by the way, they're a step. Right?

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So good. Love that yes, step, whatever it looks like for you.

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That's it. Another example is connect with people around you

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both internally, inside your company or end outside. So that

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could be a mentor somebody in your organization or outside,

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you know, somebody who's in a position that you see yourself

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in in the future, or that you just find interesting, connect

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with them, see if they'd be open to be curious with them. Or

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maybe there's a mentorship relationship that could be

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there. LinkedIn is also a really powerful tool as well. And

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connecting with people in your industry, networking, yes. So

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valuable. And just continue learning. And be curious, when

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you talk a little bit about why networking is so valuable. Yeah,

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I've seen it and experienced it firsthand. Honestly, I landed in

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the position that I'm currently in, because somebody helped me

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get in the door. So LinkedIn is super valuable electronically.

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You know, some people use it differently than others. And so

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that may not be the only way to get in communication with

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people. But you never know, the relationships that you have, how

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that might serve you in the future. So it could be

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conversations, somebody that you met in a grocery store, like you

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never know, and just getting to know people and being curious,

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but then you never know what, what that might blossom into.

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Exactly. And it's it's so interesting, because I hear this

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a lot. Also, as a coach, like, What do you mean, I have to

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network? Well, no one told you, you have to, but what's the

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opportunity? And so just like you said it, you don't know who

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you're connecting with? Who they know. And I think that, you

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know, human beings naturally want to help. And they naturally

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want to connect. Right. And so I love what you said, what? Can

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you talk a little bit about it from your experience, what you

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see has stopped people from networking? Hmm. Well, when I

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think of networking, honestly, I think of going into this room of

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like 200 people who I don't know, and having to put yourself

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out there with the business card, small talk that you may

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not be interested in, and or hearing from someone on the

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other side trying to like really hard sell you Sure thing. And so

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there are some kind of negative connotations. So I think if

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that's not for you, that's not the only avenue of networking.

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Yeah. Right. It could be joining Meetup group on something that

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you have in common, whatever. So I think I think that negative

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perception of what networking is that could probably hold some

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people back. It's scary, you know, going into a room of

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people that you don't know, and having to put yourself out for

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me, at least it is as an introvert. Yes. So I think so I

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think that could probably get in the way. I think some I'm

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generalizing here is some people may struggle with like talking

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about themselves. Yes. Right. So having somebody exploring that

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and being able to verbalize it takes some work. And or not even

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it takes practice. There. Yeah, to be perfect the first time.

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But it takes it takes practice. Yes. I love that. You said that.

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I think we forget that. Right? So whatever it is that's getting

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in our way. I know I remember back in the day when I first

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became a coach and you know, like, Oh, I've gotta go talk

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about I'm also an introvert. So I do understand that. You know,

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what, who wants you weren't what? Right, but like looking at

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the bigger picture, that sort of reframe, it's an opportunity to

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connect, right? It's an opportunity. And I remember

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Emily, probably, I'm sure, like, tell me if you've ever this will

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help me feel better. I'm sure.

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I would always like okay, we're going to that conference.

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There's 200 people just like you said,

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right. And I remember I would let I would literally use

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intention. My intention is to meet three people. Three people

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love that. And I am going to learn three interesting things

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about him. Right, three interesting things about him. I

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don't know what it is about, you know, a set of numbers.

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Sometimes that might have been two Dare I say four at times,

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but you know, keeping it simple like you were talking about

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earlier, so that then it didn't seem so big. And then what was

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so interesting, Emily is I would sometimes walk out of their

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meeting

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Like 10 People just out of like, keeping it simple, right. And so

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I really appreciate you talking about what are some of the

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things that get in people's way? Because I find it's it's a big

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one, you know, getting out there and networking. It's so

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important. It's so valuable to connect, but we will stop

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ourselves. And there's ways to get through it. Yeah, totally. I

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love that example that you use it kind of, of, I'm going to

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meet three people and just learn three fun facts about somebody

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that I don't know. Because that totally takes the pressure off.

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Right. Right. Exactly. Yeah. So I love that and thank you for

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playing in the networking pool because I do hear that a lot.

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Like,

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but it's it's it's, what if we just reframed it to I'm

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connecting, I don't know anyone that doesn't really even us

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introverts were like, Let's connect. Yeah. And then we'll go

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take a break. Yeah, I love that. Oh, reframe or rename,

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reconnecting instead of networking. Yeah, yeah, exactly.

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What are your top three, and I know you have a lot, y'all are

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gonna want to follow Emily, we're gonna talk about that in a

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little bit in a little bit in a little bit. Let me get my words

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together. Because I learned a ton from Emily, literally from

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following her on social media. But Emily, for our friends

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today, what are your top three tips for someone wanting to make

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a move in their career? Yeah, I love talking about this. If you

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find yourself unfulfilled, or unhappy, just you know,

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something bubbling inside, in your job, reflect on that,

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explore it. And don't be afraid to make a shift. The first tip I

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would say is ask yourself, why?

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What is the purpose? In looking for a move? Why do you want

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something different? And getting clear on that? So that you know,

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so that you know what you're looking for? Are you looking for

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a small company, large company? What are the values and the

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mission of an organization that would be aligned with your

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values, the big one, I would also add that knowing and

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sitting in your why is so valuable. Because for those of

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you who have experienced it, job hunt, can be emotionally trying,

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like sure the job change doesn't happen overnight, it'd be really

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awesome. If it did. But there's a lot you have to receive a lot

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of nose before the yes gets a lot of products before the

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prints like it's, it can take a lot of time. So really being

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clear on your why. And the purpose behind that and what it

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is that you want. And sitting in that can really help you you

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know, on the those more trying days, that's the first step know

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your why. And then maybe like, tip 1.5 would be to explore your

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passions and what you enjoy doing. And vice versa, what you

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don't enjoy doing. Yeah, knowing that can also be really

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valuable. And having a coach to help talk through all of that,

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explore them, and help you get clear on all of those things.

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super valuable.

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Tip number two, as you talk about the three Ds Kelly, right,

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so declaring was the third one, if you are starting to make a

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move and looking for a change, do not feel like you have to do

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it alone. Like we've talked a little bit about networking here

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and who you know, tell people what you're doing. Maybe not

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your current employer, but declare it to people because you

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know, people. And I know Kelly, as you've talked about it on

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this podcast, when you declare something to other people and

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yourself, when you tell yourself to the likelihood of you

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achieving that goal significantly raises. Yes.

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Right. So yes, declare it. Yes. I also coach clients about the

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importance of networking. We've talked about that, and really

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utilizing the people that you know, so I have experienced and

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seen the power of networking. So just tell your people, let them

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do some work for you. Right? Like do not feel like you have

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to do it alone. I love that because that is so important.

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Leaders don't wait. And you're never alone. Right? So I love

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that and we can get in our own way. So Emily, I'm so excited

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that you brought that in, tell people nobody knows if you keep

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it to yourself. Nobody knows. Right? So absolutely reach out.

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There are people that are natural connectors and natural.

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You never know, like Emily said, you don't know who they know,

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that could be your next career or your next move. Right. So

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important. That's great. Yeah, awesome. And then lastly, get

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your resume up to date. So I'm an advocate for always having

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your resume ready. Because, again, you never know what might

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happen, have to be ready, be in control. And then if you are

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looking to get your resume up to date, when you're looking at

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your previous jobs, just a tip here to make sure to really

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highlight the value that you add, focusing on the

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accomplishments and the problems and issues that you helped

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solve. So like for example, I did pecks returns, you know, so

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I've seen that on somebody's resume. Instead think I

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completed 150 rounds of tax returns that supported clients

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in getting the fullest refund that they could raise, like

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really make it robust and quantitative. Quantitative is

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really is really important to add as you can in your resume.

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So just get your resume up to date. That would be my third

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tip.

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I love that so much, because we've got to be able to you

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people want to know what you've accomplished. And I know that

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that can feel like daunting a little bit. But if you don't

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tell them, how will they know. And I think like, I love what

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you said about the resume, like really highlight what you

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accomplished, not your function, but like, this is what you

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helped to create something in the company that was really

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impactful. Because that's what's gonna catch their eye and go,

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Hey, now I want to talk with you like, I want to talk with this

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person. That is brilliant, brilliant. So many times I

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remember back in the day, this is like copy paste your function

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to the resume and then wonder why you never got a call.

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So that is a huge tip. That's a huge tip. We're all guilty of

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it. And I Kelly, like it's hard. It's hard. It maybe it's not

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hard, but it can feel it may not come naturally to like, I hear a

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lot of people say I don't want to brag or Yeah, or I don't you

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know, people do that. Yeah, self doubt it can feel uncomfortable

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putting that on a resume. But that is what your resume is for.

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Yeah, highlight yourself. Yeah. I love that. If you can see

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Emily right now she literally like had her arms all the way up

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to the sky, when she said highlight yourself. I feel like

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that's the purpose of the resume. The purpose of the

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resume is to get your interview, right to get you to get you in

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front of people. So that is like your first. Well, it's your

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second tool, your intention. like Emily said, Knowing your Y

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is part of your intention and utilizing those three days, just

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like Emily said. And then second. Second is get that

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resume out there so that people are like, yes, I want to talk to

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you now. So great, Emily. Oh, awesome. I have one more

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question for you. Are you up for it? Sure. Awesome. I know you

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are a career empowerment coach, but you are also a life coach,

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as well. And we I am like so curious where you see

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similarities in that? Yeah. Well, I mean, we spend so much

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time at work, some of us, right? So and it becomes it can be such

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a huge part of our lives. Right? So if we might as well feel good

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about it and feel some fulfillment in our career. Yes,

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I know, a lot of people may struggle with setting clear

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boundaries for themselves. We talk a lot about work life

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balance, and ultimately, it's all life. It's your life. So

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something's coming up for you around work life balance, like

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what's getting in the way for you have of living the life and

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living the day that you want. What do you want your day and

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your week to look like? So explore what work life balance

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looks like, and then being more intentional with the boundaries

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that you set for yourself, so that you live that life? A life

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that you want? Yes, yeah. And then I, the other thing, I, I

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love working with clients who explore their purpose and their

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values, yes, knowing that can be so helpful in identifying what

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you're looking for in a career and an organization. And then in

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turn, lead you to live a fulfilled life.

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Like what you're when you're looking for an organization, or

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to work with leaders, working with an organization where you

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feel a lot of passion, around the mission that they're they're

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working on, and that they have values that feel that you're

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aligned with that can that makes everything so much easier. When

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those are out of whack, you feel it, and that's like seeps in to

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all aspects of your life. So I really truly believe that being

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in tune with the values that you set will help you be more

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intentional and and feel fulfilled both in your job and

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in your life. I love that so much. I think it's so true

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really exploring values, what's important to you, where does

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that show up in your personal life, your professional life?

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You know, why your purpose like Emily says, like you say your

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purpose and understanding that where does that show up in your

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personal and professional life? Because I think sometimes we

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compartmentalize and hold them separate but they really are

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together. They're like, your your personal life can affect

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professional, professional affect personal and I think with

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what you're saying, Emily, really understanding your values

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and your purpose can help it not be a distraction, but more

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creating more fulfillment, right, more fulfillment in your

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life as a whole. They're not separate. They may be distinct,

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but they're not separate.

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They work together. So that's so true. It's so true. It's and I'm

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sure you find this right. Like you may be working with someone

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on career. And inevitably, do you ever find where your clients

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are like Emily, can I just talk to you about this conversation

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I'm avoiding with my significant other, right like it? Yes, it

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happens. Yeah. Yeah. I love the distinction that you've that you

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mentioned. It's not we do, we can compartmentalize it. Yeah.

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And ultimately, like it is all your life, just different

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timeframes of your day. I love that different altogether. Oh,

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Emily, that was so brilliant, different timeframes of your

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day. I love that. It's so true. Yeah, it's so true. Cool. I love

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it. Emily, I could talk to you for hours on all of this,

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because it is so important. And I do agree with you, 100%, we

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get to be fulfilled in our careers, so that we have a full

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life of fulfillment, right? And I love that you bring an

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intention. I love it, that we share that passion for taking

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the lead in your careers in your life. And I've loved everything

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that you have shared today. I really how can people work with

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you? Thanks, Kelly. So I love working with people who want to

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take a stand for themselves in some aspect of their life. So

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whether it's asking for a promotion, or a pay raise at

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work, whether it's negotiating salary, feeling more confident,

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yeah, how you carry yourself, setting those clear boundaries

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in life, work life balance, discovering somebody's passions

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and values so that they can live a more vibrant life. I'm all for

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it. I support individuals in several different ways. I work

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with clients one on one through empowerment coaching. I also

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help rejuvenate people's resumes and LinkedIn profiles. I work

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with individuals on getting clear on job search essentials.

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So somebody's ready to make a change. Why do I need to do you

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know, it's been a little bit since I've gone through this? I

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can also I also love working with people helping them figure

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out what's next in their career. Maybe I'm doing this one thing,

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and I don't think this is for me anymore. But I'm not really sure

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what else is out there. Yes. So love to hear. We'd love to hear

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what what you all listening are working towards. You can learn

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more about me and the services or the support that I offer

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clients that my website, it's incredibly emily.com I love that

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incredibly emily.com. Awesome. And are they able to from your

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web from your website? Can they find out your social media and

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all that? You know what, by the way, it's all going to be in the

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show notes. But see if you follow Emily, she's so much fun.

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Thanks, Kelly. So my my instagram handle is incredibly

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Emily underscore coaching. Yes, yeah, love to see you there.

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Beautiful, beautiful she does a really, first of all, always

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provides tons of value and in such a fun way. But I'm not

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going to tell you how you got to go follow her so you can find

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out so good. Emily, I cannot thank you enough for taking time

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out of your day to come and share so many amazing tips and

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purpose and value. On being intentional in your career. I

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learned something new from you today. I always do whenever we

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talk about this. So I am so grateful you came and again took

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your time out of your day to be here and share because I think

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it's important. It's so important. And I know how

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passionate you are about really assisting people have that full,

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full fulfillment, full fulfillment in their life

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personal and professional. So thank you so much for being

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here. This was amazing. Thanks so much, Kelly. It was fun. Yay.

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Good, good. Good. So y'all read my ominous gonna remind you, you

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can stay connected with Emily, everything is in the shownotes.

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And I really encourage you if you're ready, and you know it

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you probably heard something today and it's like something

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stirring, please reach out to Emily. She really means it when

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she says she's very passionate about this. And she's really

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good at it. I know some people who have worked with her and

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have absolutely love the results that they got from doing that.

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So connect with her. She is amazing. And everything's in the

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show notes. So you connect connect. Emily, thank you again

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for being here. This was amazing. Y'all remember you have

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a choice to lead your life or follow your circumstances. And

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just like Emily said, we get to be intentional about it. Life is

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really about knowing what am I passionate about? What's my

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purpose? What are my values and creating that impact in your

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life, which includes your career, and then helping others

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to have an impact as well. And who emerges from taking the lead

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in their lives are authentic, they're vulnerable, they're

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courageous, they're making it happen. They're slaying those

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outcomes that they want. It is not all

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He's gonna look the way we think it's supposed to true story

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always and forever. But we do get to trust that more gets to

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be revealed as we move forward. So take those pauses, let go of

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worry, let go of doubt and live fully the best version of you.

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So thank you so much again, Emily, for all your wisdom that

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you dropped today. So powerful. Thank you everyone for listening

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today. I know there was great value for you as you move

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through your day and take the lead in your life. Let us know

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what your thoughts are. Let us know what nuggets you got from

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that Emily and I would love to hear that and have a great week

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ahead. And if it's not shaping up the way you want it to, you

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know the drill, take the lead and create a fantastic one. I

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will talk with you all soon. Take care.

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Thanks for listening to another episode of Let's be honest

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before we start pretending for more resources on taking the

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lead in your life, head over to Kelly J mobic.com. And connect

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happy to help. Thanks again for listening and here's to you