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₿HS028: Early Readers – Super Kay Adventures
Episode 28 • 6th August 2024 • Bitcoin Homeschoolers • Scott and Tali Lindberg
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In today's show, Tali shares exciting developments with her early readers series. This is a perfect way to leverage the power of story to engage with your younger children and grandchildren. The accompanying journal not only helps them embrace the concepts, it also provides a time for fellowship and sharing memories.

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Tali:

Hey, everybody.

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Welcome to Bitcoin homeschoolers.

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Today's episode will just be me.

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Scott is away at a game

conference mingling with other

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game designers, manufacturers.

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So it's just going to be me today and I've

got a very exciting announcement to make,

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which is that my daughter and I have.

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Partnered together and written the first

book in a series of children's books.

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So I'm going to go a little bit in depth

into why I decided to write this series

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and what I'm hoping to accomplish.

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The idea for writing this

early readers series actually

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started a couple of years ago.

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I had a vague notion that I wanted

to convey some lessons that I learned

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through 20 years of homeschooling the

kids and what I observed, not only with

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my own kids, but what other families

experience in the homeschooling community.

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It took about two years

for the ideas to solidify.

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I remember reaching out to my niece

two years ago and asking if she

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was free to draw some pictures for

me, because she's a very wonderful.

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Illustrator.

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And she said, what is it

that you want to tell?

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And.

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I was not able to verbalize

what I wanted to say.

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It took about two years of the idea

percolating in my mind before it

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finally just download it all at once.

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I wrote the first book and then

quickly wrote four books after that.

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I reached out to my daughter,

Brianna, who is available.

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The summer.

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And she agreed to draw

the pictures for me.

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And very quickly, within a short

time, we were able to finish

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the first book Flowers for Mom.

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The.

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Idea that I'm trying to convey with

the series that I'm calling the

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Super Kay Adventures.Is I really

want to get back to the roots of

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the good old fashioned values that.

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that we used to teach our kids.

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I feel like today with a lot

of Those social media, like

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the young influencers and

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The woke agenda, et cetera,

we have veered away from.

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Values that actually bring a lot

of self-confidence to children.

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When we tell kids today that

they can be whatever they want

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and give them no boundary.

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We imagined that it would give

them more freedom and more sense

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of self worth and self validity.

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But actually what I have seen, I'm

not a psychologist and I'm not.

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I'm not a philosopher or anything,

but I'm just, I'm seeing what I.

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I'm telling you what I've seen

over the last 20 years is the

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kids that have a firm boundary set

by parents with good intentions.

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They tend to be more secure in

themselves because they know that.

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That there are people looking out for

them and they know where the line is.

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When you give no lines and.

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In the name of, complete free

self expression for the kids.

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They end up.

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What I have observed is that they

end up being extremely insecure.

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They don't know.

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They don't know, right

from wrong necessarily.

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And they can feel like they may not be

able to verbalize it, but they can feel.

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Something amiss.

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They can feel people's reaction to them.

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That are unspoken, but

still there, for example.

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Some families we used

to interact with adopted.

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The idea that.

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Parents shouldn't ever say no to their

children that's a way of limiting

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their children's freedom of expression.

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That sounds really great on paper and

maybe in the books that some popular

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psychology authors would talk about, but

in reality, what you S what you observe.

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Is that these kids can't get along

with anybody because nobody has

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taught them how exactly to interact

successfully in social situations.

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They are very difficult for

other parents to handle.

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So when we co-teach.

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They are the kids that we don't

want in our class because we

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cannot control them at all.

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And other kids don't want to play with

those kids either because they don't

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know how to compromise when you have

more than one person trying to play,

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they have to compromise on some level.

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And these kids are never said no to.

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They don't know how to compromise.

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And there's actually, in the

Bitcoin space, we talk a lot about

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FUD around money and FUD around

energy and FUD around food health.

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I think there's actually also

a lot of FUD around parenting.

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When I had the idea to write a Super

Kay Adventures one of the main goals

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that I had was to just come back around

to The good old fashion, I call it

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. Good old fashioned values, but really

it's just really common sense values.

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That was my original intent.

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But.

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As I was preparing for this podcast and.

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Actually planning to talk about.

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Values like integrity and honesty

and self responsibility, et cetera.

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It struck me through a recent

conversation, that there was actually

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something even deeper that we're missing.

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So very recently a friend of my told

me that her daughter attempted suicide.

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Which was a very huge shock.

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Because the family is very loving.

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The family is very close.

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They belong to a church community

that is also very supportive.

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So it was very shocking it was

very shocking that someone from a

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social environment like that would

think that life is not worth living.

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Because I always in the past was,

I would assume that if somebody's.

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would try something or even

contemplate an idea like suicide.

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They would either be mentally unstable or

they came from a very harsh environment

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that stole their hope for life.

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But that's not the case from the

personal stories that I have heard.

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For example, a friend a

few years ago actually did

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succeed in taking his own life.

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Again a loving family, part of a

very supportive church community.

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And I went to the funeral and I stood

there and I just was so confused.

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I just couldn't wrap my

head around why this child.

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would.

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think that his life was not worth living.

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A few years back.

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I don't know if you guys remember

those or watch those, but there was a

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show on Netflix called 13 reasons why.

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And it ran for three seasons.

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And studies show that during

those three years American teen

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suicide rate increased by 25%.

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I never watched it.

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But my understanding is that they

almost glorify doing that like exiting

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life and leaving a mark that way.

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I live in Kentucky and the State of

Kentucky started an initiative to combat

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the what 13 reasons why

was doing with teens.

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And so they started this project.

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It's a teen suicide prevention series.

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And my daughter was cast the show and

because she was a minor, I went to the

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shoot every single day with her, and

I was able to converse with people.

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Who have been brought in as a teen

mental health consultants and I

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was able to interact with the crew.

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And a lot of the.

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The community the school teachers,

the local school teachers.

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It was a huge endeavor.

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A lot of people came together to

make this project happen, but.

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Prior to that.

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I didn't really have very much exposure

personally, to people who experienced

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loved ones trying or succeeding at

suicide, and I was shocked.To hear.

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Almost everybody onset.

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Saying that they knew

someone who did that.

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So anyway, so tying it all back

to the Super Kay Adventure.

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So my original intent when I wrote the

Super Kay Adventures was for fun.

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And have a money literacy

young readers series, but I.

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I accidentally stumbled on this idea

that maybe what we need to do as

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parents, what we can add on top

of, emphasizing money literacy is.

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Is to start shifting our kids

eyes from external rewards

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to intrinsic sense of value.

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So originally I wanted a young reader

level book that is similar to William

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Bennet's big book of Virtues that came

out 25 years ago and it was a collection

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of stories that were listed by the

virtue they highlighted in his book.

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That was a very thick.

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Volume and then he created a

book specifically for kids.

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So I want it to follow in those footsteps

and highlight virtues, like honesty,

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integrity, and bravery, because I

feel that a lot of entertainment today

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glorify getting away with things.

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It's almost

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like

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if you're, if you do right things,

you are a goody two shoe and

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you're boring and you're a nerd.

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But if you break the rules, if

you get away with doing wrong

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things you're almost heroic.

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Which is to me, such a strange backward

thinking of what is good and bad.

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So anyway, so that was my original intent.

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But because of what I heard from my

friend about what her daughter tried to

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do last week, it brought my attention

back to the confusion that I felt

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when I was standing in the middle of

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my,

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friend's funeral wondering what

happened to our young people that

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they would think life is not worth

living or that they are so worthless

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that nobody's going to miss them if

they took themselves out of this life.

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Please bear with me.

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I know I'm rambling a little bit,

but there is a connection with

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everything that I'm saying right now.

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I promise.

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Okay.

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So I'm going to go into super K ventures,

but I really want to emphasize the

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hero's journal that goes with it.

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So the Super Kay Adventure, the

first book is Flowers for Mom.

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And as I mentioned before, I originally

wrote it so that we can start to gently

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I introduce money literacy concepts,

and then also to highlight traditional

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virtues, taking responsibility for your

actions being honest, having integrity,

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being brave, facing your mistakes and

making amends, that type of thing.

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So in the book Flowers for Mom our

little guy, seven year old, Kay,

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he accidentally breaks his mom's vase

and they sell flowers that his dad

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gave his mom and he is in a dilemma.

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He wants to lie about it.

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He wants to blame his dog, but

eventually he does tell the truth.

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And not only did he tell the truth.

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But he also offered to

replace the flowers.

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He did not ask his parents for money.

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He did not go to his grandparents

for money, but he decided to to

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take responsibility and do what

he could as a 7 year old boy.

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So he transforms into his alter

ego, Super Kay and of course,

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Super Kay can do super things.

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He goes to his mom, dad, grandad, grandma.

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And he offers to help them with

things, helping with chores around

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the house so that he can earn money.

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So over time, he's able to earn

enough money to replace...well in

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his mind, he, there was an amount.

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He asked his dad, how much do I need

To earn so that I can buy mom the

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flowers to replace them for her.

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And he said $10 well.

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Kay works very hard over a period of

time and he's able to save up $10.

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He's very excited.

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He's about to go and do what

he promised his mom would do.

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And bam.

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Price increased.

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And the flowers are no longer $10.

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So in that way.

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Yes, I'm sliding in a little

bit of the inflation concept.

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I'm not going to spoil the ending for you.

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So I'm not going to go all the

way to the end of the book, but

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that's,

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Tali: that's

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sort of

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the setup of the story and every book

following Flowers for Mom will have some

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kind of adventure for this 7 year old

boy and his three siblings and yes, they

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are based on my memories of my four kids

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and when they were very little.

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And so it, the stories are

fun and the stories are

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meant to sort of a bridge to express

various real life happenings kids

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should be aware of and maybe

not being told explicitly is

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happening like inflation and.

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And such, so the stories are fun and

the fonts I decided purposefully to

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make them very big because when kids are

just learning how to read they really

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need the words to be to be pretty large.

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If we give them a fine print,

like the regular 12 point print

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it's actually very difficult for

kids to focus their eyes that way.

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You can read up on the vision

changes of kids as they mature.

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But for younger kids words it's really

needs to be quite large, like larger

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than what we would be used to reading.

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So I set the font at 28 point

on purpose for the kids, but

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also for the grandparents.

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So that they can read the books

to the kids and not have to

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look for their reading glasses.

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So that's one thing.

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And the other thing is I want it, the

words, the sentences to be quite short.

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Because I do want these books to dual

purpose as early reading books for kids.

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It would serve as a.

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As a book that, the parents would

read to them first, and then they

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should, they will.read to themselves.

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So those sentences are short.

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Intentionally.

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The other thing is I also want it

the pictures to be very relatable.

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I didn't want it to look the lines

to look very clean, and I didn't

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want the colors to be uniform because

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if we if you look at a book like

the Blue's Clues, I think most

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people know Blue's clues style.

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It's digital art and the

lines are very crisp.

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And the coloring is very perfect and it's

clearly not a human made kind of art it's.

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Very clearly like digitally made.

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And when my kids were little.

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Aye.

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Notice that they almost never

reached for those books.

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They always reached for books that looked

like a human hand drew the pictures.

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Even though to the adult eyes.

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I those pictures are not even that great.

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The pictures are not perfect, their

proportions are maybe not true to life,

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but the, I noticed my kids at least

always reached for the pictures that

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that are closer to their own level.

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So like the old the old

Clifford the Big Red Dog.

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The older Curious George type

of books, the hand drawn the

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hand colored in kind of style.

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And I think one of the reasons might

be because they can see themselves

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able to draw something like that.

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Whereas if it's something like

Blue's Clues, they know that it is

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just not it's so far away from what

they're doing with their hands pen

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to paper kind of thing that they

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I don't know.

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I don't know why they just

didn't, they weren't drawn to it.

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So I when I talked to my daughter,

when we were brainstorming about

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how we wanted the pictures to look,

I wanted it to be raw and a little

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bit, rough around the edges and.

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Just very much at the level that

a five-year-old can relate to and

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go, oh, if I tried a few times, I

can maybe draw a picture like that.

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so

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I was recently at the Bitcoin conference

in Nashville, and I was able to observe

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the kids reading Flowers for Mom.

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And I remember I walked by

there's a little girl and she

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was reading it with her mom.

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And she turned and said,

who drew these pictures?

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And I pointed to my daughter, at

the time, she was across the way and

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talking to someone and I said she did.

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And the little girl said,

how did she get so good?

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And I said, with lots of practice,

but what I loved about that

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statement was like, She knew it was.

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Ah, let's see, how do I say this?

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She knew that it was

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something that a person can

draw with some practice.

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Does that make sense?

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That it is not like hop on the

computer and drag your mouse around.

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It's like she, she asked the

question, how does she get so good?

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Meaning she understood that there

was a progress that needed to

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make, but that it was possible.

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So I loved, I love that question.

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And she read them the book with her mom.

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And when she was done, she walked up to

my daughter and said, excuse me, And.

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She said.

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I love your pictures.

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And I just, oh my gosh, it

made me feel so good because I

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knew that we chose the right.

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art style for these young

reader books when she said that.

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So I was very glad.

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So big font.

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Short sentences for young readers.

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And pictures that are relatable.

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And I'm going to get into the hero

journal, which kind of ties back

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into what I was saying before about

our young people's mental health.

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Okay.

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So the hero journal.

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The hero journal.

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Each day has four entries.

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The first entry is just recording the day.

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For the reason that this hero

journal is meant for young kids.

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I print it out the weeks of the day so all they have to do is circle it.

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So really they're just

recognizing the words.

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I didn't want them to have to

write it out because at that age

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early reader age, their dexterity

in their hands are not great yet.

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the purpose is just for them to

practice names of the weekdays

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and then practice the names of the

month and write their numbers in.

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So you circle the day of the week.

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You read through the months and under

the month the appropriate month.

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So right now it's july they would

write under the month the day.

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So for example, today is July 31st.

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So you would write three, one,

and underneath that will be 20 24.

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So very simple.

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The first page.

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The second page is for them

to draw a picture of something

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heroic that they did themselves.

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So it is one thing for them to read

the Super Kay Adventures and read the

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7 year old boy being responsible, being

brave, taking responsibility, et cetera.

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But it's another thing to

see themselves that way.

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Our hero culture today is all about

the hero being somebody in a costume

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So whether it's Superman or Batman or whatever marvel or DC or any other

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superhero the story out there the

hero is somebody else and they solve

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the problem for everybody else.

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But I wanted the kids to start

to see themselves as super.

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So the second page in the hero

journal is very important.

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It is a way for them to form the

habit of seeing their own good deeds

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Life is fast and we are always, running in and out.

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And especially if the kids are

young, they might be doing sports.

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They might be going on field

trips, depending on what you're

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doing with with the kids.

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If they're going to school,

if you're homeschooling.

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But life is fast paced and there

are a lot of things that we don't

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see because we're so quick to

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we're so quick to move

on to the next thing.

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The purpose of this page is for the

parent and the child to sit down

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together and reflect if you're into

meditation at all, you would know

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that reflection is very important.

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Are we teaching that to our kids and

when they reflect, what do they remember?

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If you reflect and you think

of only the things that you

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did not like, how was your day?

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Well,

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Johnny broke my pencil.

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Okay.

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That's like emotionally intense moments.

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So probably that's why

it comes to mind first.

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How was your day?

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I fell down on the playground.

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Also emotionally charged experience.

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But then heroic things

like the good deeds.

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They may or may not have a

very strong emotional charge.

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And so they, without deliberate intention

to bring it back in into your mind you

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pass them by, you don't even realize it.

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So for example, when you're talking

to a five-year-old six year old, seven

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year old, what's something that's

heroic that they can write down on their

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hero page.

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Well, if they were

playing on the playground.

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And they fell.

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But they got back up.

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that's heroic.

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Heroes - they get knocked

down, they get back up.

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So you can draw a picture of

just the boy at a playground.

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If his friend or his sibling fell down

and he stopped to say, are you okay?

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Or he stopped to help the other child up.

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That's heroic to the person he helped.

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So you can draw a picture of that.

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If let's say mom had a headache.

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And the child fetches Tylenol for

her and brings her a glass of water.

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Well that is actually a wonderful

act of good deed for the mom, right?

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If the sibling had a bad day and

the child gives his sibling a hug.

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That's heroic because that

made a difference to somebody

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else's life experience.

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So parent and child can reflect

on the day and highlight these

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passing moments and recognize that

they're actually really important.

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So the second page is

for drawing a picture.

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The third page is to describe

the experience in words.

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So for example, In the example

that the boy helped his sibling up

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after the sibling fell, you can say

something like I helped brother up.

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That's four words.

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So a five-year-old can write

that six year old can write that.

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Now if your child is not yet old

enough to be able to write these words.

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Or even know how to spell.

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What I used to do was, I will write

out the words, but in dotted lines.

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And then I would just tell my, my kids, I

would just tell them to trace my letters.

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So that serves two functions.

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One is

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they're the practicing their dexterity.

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The muscle control in their fingers.

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And the second is they are actually

seeing, like forming the words.

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And they may not consciously know

that they are learning the spelling

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of the word or the identification

of the word, but it's happening.

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The input is happening in

the back of their mind.

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So depending on the child's age please do

not make this into a quiz kind of thing.

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And.

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If they spell a word wrong, no biggie.

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Just write it correctly in a

dotted-line have them trace.

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If you have heard our podcast from

before our previous episodes, I

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mentioned the book called Learning

with Love and it's by Suzuki the guy

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who started the Suzuki violin method.

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He emphatically mentioned in that

book, how important it is to celebrate.

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Without correction.

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And yes, there is a place for

correction, but in this case in the

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beginning of learning, it's important

to celebrate and just show them

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the right way without correction.

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In the book

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Called How to Teach Your Child to

Read to read that whole series,

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how to teach your baby how to

read, how does he do a baby math?

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In that series.

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By Glenn Doman.

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Same thing.

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He says, if you hold up two words

and say point to mom and the

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child points to dad, you said.

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Oh, that's very good.

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And then you hold out the board

that says, mom, So you're correcting

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without the tone of correction.

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So if you're writing on the third page of

the hero journal and your child, spells.

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Well spells dad with a

D that goes backwards.

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You don't necessarily have

to say the D is backwards.

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Let's write a correctly.

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You can just say, Hey, let's trace

dad again and you write it correctly.

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They'll get the point, but you

don't want that tone of correction

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in there because what we're trying

to focus on is their good deeds.

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Correction, and all of those

things that's get them a little

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bit like we can talk about that on

another occasion, but the emotional

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experience for the child when they're

writing the hero journal should be

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celebratory in every way possible.

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Okay, so you have the first page's date,

the second page, you draw a picture.

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The third page you have them trace your

words, or they can write their own words.

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And the fourth one is what I think

is the most important actually.

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And it says, what superpower

did you use today?

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Now.

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In the example that I

gave in the hero journal.

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It's my smile.

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The child's smile.

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So you can draw a picture, write the word.

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Either one is fine.

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I think kids at that age probably

would prefer to draw a picture.

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But again, if you want

them to write words,

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Write

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the words out in dotted lines.

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And have them trace the words.

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Now.

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The superpower can be anything.

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This is a place to be really creative.

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So can this superpower be a soft touch?

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Yes, it can because it's very comforting.

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Can this superpower be a hug?

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A really good hug.

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Yes, it can.

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Can the super power be listening.

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Yes.

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can the I superpower be thoughtfulness?

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Yes.

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Can I superpower be just staying

quiet when somebody is talking.

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Yes.

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All of these things can be good.

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So again, the point of the journal

entry is to celebrate the good deeds

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and to spotlight moments that might be

passing until you reflect on it and you

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realize that was heroic to the person

who was on the receiving end of it.

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Does that make sense?

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So if you've held, so

think long-term here.

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Right now, your child's five let's say,

and you start this journal every day.

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They're forming a habit of

reflecting on their good deeds.

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You're not saying, Hey, good job.

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I'm going to give you a piece of

candy or you can have ice cream.

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You're not saying here's a sticker.

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If everyday you, you do a

good deed you get a sticker.

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You're not saying if you're going to do

a good deed, then you can have the iPad.

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There's no external reward.

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There's just internal satisfaction.

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Every single person feels good when

they're able to help another human being.

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That's just true.

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Unless you have some kind of

mental disability or something.

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You feel good when you make a

difference, a positive difference

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in somebody else's life.

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It's human nature.

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And so if we help our kids form that habit

they start to look at the world as for,

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or through the eyes of a powerful person.

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Through the eyes of a capable person.

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Through the eyes of somebody who matters.

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Okay, so getting back to this

epidemic of teen depression.

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People talk about it

being mental health issue.

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I wonder about that.

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Again, I am not a psychologist.

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I'm not a philosopher.

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This is just.

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What I see with my own two eyes.

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If we take the reward for a person and

draw it completely outside of themselves.

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What do they have left with?

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So think about the way that our kids are

brought up today in society in schools.

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Starting from even preschool.

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Everything is about

positive reinforcement.

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And what is positive reinforcement?

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External reward.

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So if you're so just even in my

own kids' experience, they did go,

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two of them did go to preschool.

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And it's about walking on the line

that's taped down in the hallway.

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And then the teacher saying good job.

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It's.

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You.

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Doing something well, and then

the teacher puts a sticker on

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the board for everybody to see.

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In every interaction like that

they're being told over and over again

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without words.

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That their value is based on other people.

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Other people's recognition.

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So if they were to take

themselves out, Does it make

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sense that they would think that.

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Nobody will miss them.

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I don't know.

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Again I'm treading on waters that

are very sensitive and I'm definitely

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not making light of what is happening

in and people struggling with.

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Mental health issues, but I'm just,

I'm asking questions as a parent.

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If you disagree with me.

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Just forget everything I said.

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But if you think there might be

something to it start looking

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for data in the human interaction

that you observe every single day.

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And see what conclusion you come up with.

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Okay.

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Let's tie it into homeschooling since

this is a homeschooling podcast.

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When you are the teacher, counselor,

nurse, school principal, cook

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driver.

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And will you have all those titles and

you're responsible for all of them.

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It's really easy for us to

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live by the checklist.

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And as I mentioned before,

life moves really fast

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to not

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pay as much attention to these non

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academic subjects.

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I have found that we are.

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So at least for myself, we are

focused on making sure our kids

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can read and write and do math.

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the three R's,, reading,

arithmetic, writing.

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That

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everything else happens

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rather unintentionally.

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I just know that if I had to go

back and do it all over again.

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One of the things that I

would do differently is

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to realize that the three R's

are the easiest subjects they

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can learn later in life.

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But the way that they see,

the lens that they see through

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the lens that they see through at life

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is much harder to adjust

when they get older.

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I would encourage you, whether

it's with Super Kay Adventures

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and the hero's journal or

something else that you celebrate

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more often than not what your

kids do right rather than to

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correct what they do wrong.

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I didn't understand when my kids

were young how important that is.

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But I do now looking back.

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So that's, this is my

encouragement to all the young

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homeschooling families out there.

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If you want to check out Super Kay

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both the book and the journal

are available on Amazon as

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well as on free market kids.

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I did redesign the cover.

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So the original cover for the hero's

journal is on sale on free market kids.

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If you go to Amazon, you

should see the updated cover.

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It's blue.

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The one before was a lime green , but

the inside is exactly the same.

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And if you want to just print

out your own hero journal.

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You can go to Super-Kay.com.

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It will be in the show notes and you

can print out the pages yourself.

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You don't have to buy a hero journal.

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I just made that available

because it's a keepsake.

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When I go through my memory boxes where

the kids work, I, it just always warms

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my heart to go back and read their

writings, even if their writings were

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almost illegible in the beginning,

I still treasure those writing

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those drawings and writing so much.

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And so the keepsake book.

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Is.

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Yeah.

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Bound and nice and all that, but you,

if you don't want to invest in that,

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then just go to Super-Kay.com and

you can print out the pages yourself.

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I would rather you help your kids

form the habit of seeing their

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good deeds than to sell you a book.

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Okay.

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So before I wrap up, I want to give

you one last example to think about.

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In the book called Think and Grow Rich

Napoleon Hill not only talks about how to.

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have the right mindset for making money,

but he shares an incredible personal

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experience with his son who was born

without ears, talking about the importance

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of setting a powerful paradigm for

your child to see the world through.

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So his baby was born without ears.

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And he was told by his doctor that

the baby will be a handicap his

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whole entire life, and basically

will live a lesser quality life.

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And Napolean Hill, decided that

was not the fate of his child.

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He was not accepting that fact.

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So he spoke to the baby for hours every

day to tell him over and over again

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from the time he was newborn, but even

as the child was growing up, that the

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lack of physical ears was not going to

be a handicap, but that it was a gift.

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Because he would receive more

kindness from everyone he encountered

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because of the lack of physical ears.

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And so he set that

expectation for his baby.

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he shared that his son grew up

expecting it and received it.

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So it just goes to show how important

it is for us to to direct our kids'

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attention to look at the world through

a paradigm that is self-empowering

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because he very easily could have just

decided to, to agree with the doctor.

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And say, yeah, my son is handicap and

yes, people are going to look at him

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funny cause he had no ears and he's

probably going to have a difficult life

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Because he can't hear.

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And

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this is early

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19 hundreds.

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And there weren't a lot of assistance

for handicap kids, but he decided

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that that was not the way he

wanted his son to see the world.

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So I offer that example as another

thing to think about as a parent,

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when you're raising your kids showing

them that they are capable of making

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a difference in the lives of other

people, especially the people who are

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closest to them, their, their family

members, their siblings, their parents,

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their grandparents, their neighbors.

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It is so powerful.

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It is so powerful.

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So anyway, I wanted to offer

up the example for you to

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consider before we wrap up.

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that's it for me.

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Thank you so much for listening today.

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Sorry, Scott wasn't a part of it.

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In the next episode, I'm going to

interview my kids and have them talk a

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little bit about their favorite books

when there were young readers themselves,

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what they looked for when they're picking

books, just to give you a little bit

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more information about early reading

from the point of view of the child.

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My kids are grown, but they'll

remember things that are

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different than I do for sure.

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So that's the next episode

and I will see you then.

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Thank you So much.

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Bye.

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