Ever notice how you keep searching for answers…

reading, thinking, trying to “figure it out”…

…and still feel stuck in the same loop?

Yeah. That.

It’s frustrating.

And it can quietly start to feel like something’s wrong with you.

But there isn’t.

You’re not broken.

You’re not behind.

And this isn’t a lack of discipline.

What’s often happening is this:

You’ve been asking questions that keep you stuck in overthinking and self-doubt—

instead of questions that move you toward clarity, self-trust, and personal power.

Because the truth is:

The quality of your life is shaped by the quality of the questions you ask yourself.

And most of us were never taught how to ask better ones.

So we default to:

• “What’s wrong with me?”

• “Why can’t I get it together?”

• “What if I fail?”

Those questions don’t create clarity.

They activate your nervous system, reinforce self-doubt, and keep you disconnected from your own voice.

In this video, I walk you through how to shift out of overthinking and into grounded clarity—

not by forcing answers…

…but by learning how to ask better questions from a place of emotional sobriety, awareness, and presence.

Because the goal isn’t to think harder.

It’s to relate to yourself differently.

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If you’re ready to explore where you might be unintentionally holding yourself back…

Take the Self-Betrayal Audit here:

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This isn’t about judging yourself.

It’s about building self-awareness around the patterns that impact your boundaries, your time, and your self-trust.

Inside, you’ll uncover:

• Where you lose your voice in key moments

• How people-pleasing shows up in your boundaries

• Why you overcommit or avoid what matters most

Most people think they need more discipline.

They don’t.

They need to understand the nervous system patterns driving their behavior.

This will show you yours—clearly and honestly.

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If you’re new here

I’m Elizabeth Edwards.

I help people move out of overthinking, self-doubt, and emotional overwhelm by building emotional sobriety, self-trust, and the ability to stay present under pressure.

Because when you develop embodied presence:

You don’t force boundaries.

You become someone who naturally honors them.

You don’t chase confidence.

You build it—through aligned action.

And you don’t need more answers.

You learn how to ask better questions.

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Chapters

00:00 Why more answers aren’t working

01:45 The hidden cost of overthinking

04:20 How your questions shape your self-trust

07:15 The shift: better questions, better direction

10:05 Real-life examples to get unstuck

12:00 Take the Self-Betrayal Audit

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[0:01] If you're stuck in your head, it's not

[0:03] because you don't have the answers. It's

[0:05] because you're not asking the right

[0:07] questions.

[0:12] It's that whole overthinking thing, that

[0:14] replaying it in your head, that spinning

[0:17] around. In fact, I call it the hamster

[0:19] wheel. If I get stuck on the hamster

[0:21] wheel, not a good thing, especially if

[0:23] you're an overachiever and you're saying

[0:25] things to yourself like, "I should be

[0:27] able to figure this out.

[0:31] I was so glad when I actually learned

[0:33] that this was actually an avoidance

[0:35] pattern because it's really draining and

[0:37] I really wanted to stop doing this to

[0:39] myself.

[0:41] Here's what I learned. I wasn't stuck

[0:44] because of my situation and neither are

[0:46] you. I was stuck because of the

[0:49] questions I was asking myself. I was

[0:52] asking myself questions that

[0:54] disempowered me like why does this

[0:59] always happen to me or why do I always

[1:01] attract this kind of person or what's

[1:04] wrong with me or why do I have to do

[1:07] this?

[1:09] The problem with those questions is it

[1:13] assumes I have no power.

[1:16] So when you ask a dis-empowering

[1:18] question, you're going to get a

[1:20] dis-empowering answer every single time

[1:23] because it presupposes

[1:25] I don't have the power to change it. And

[1:28] that's just not true. Good news, right?

[1:33] I remember when I start first started

[1:35] getting real awareness around this

[1:38] pattern that I had. I was complaining to

[1:41] a small group of women about this other

[1:44] woman who had all these problems and she

[1:47] was coming to me and oh my god and woe

[1:50] is me and why do I always attract people

[1:52] like this and oh my gosh

[1:56] this woman you know those wise women in

[1:58] your life that just bust you. Okay, she

[2:00] busted me so bad. She said that has

[2:03] nothing to do with her that has

[2:05] everything to do with you. And she was

[2:08] right. She was right. The good news

[2:11] about that is if it was about her, I'd

[2:14] have to wait for her and everyone like

[2:17] her to change. But since it was about

[2:19] me,

[2:21] I could change it. That's the good news.

[2:24] Yeah, it hurt. It hurt when I heard it.

[2:28] Thank God. Thank God I did. Thank God I

[2:31] did. So, what can we do about it?

[2:34] So what I learned was to ask empowering

[2:39] questions. So what do I mean by an

[2:41] empowering question? An empowering

[2:44] question presupposes I have the power to

[2:49] change, the power to act, the power to

[2:52] decide, the power to focus. And the good

[2:55] news is that that's true. So what does

[2:59] it sound like? So here's some of my

[3:01] favorites. What can I do about this?

[3:12] What else could it mean?

[3:22] What's good about this?

[3:31] See, those questions presuppose

[3:35] I can do something about it. That I am

[3:38] the meaning maker. Okay? I'm the person

[3:40] who makes up the meanings of the events

[3:42] of my life. Nobody else gets to do that

[3:45] for me. So, this absolutely flies in the

[3:50] face of what I know as learned

[3:53] helplessness. And I think everybody gets

[3:56] on the pity pot every once in a while.

[3:57] And I know and that's not what I'm

[3:59] talking about. Every once in a while, we

[4:00] just kind of have to go feel all the so

[4:03] that we can get the contrast. Okay, what

[4:05] do I want instead? And move on and say,

[4:07] you know what? I'm not I'm not I'm not

[4:10] buying my own BS here. I'm going to do

[4:12] something different. This is the

[4:14] quickest way out of overthinking, over

[4:17] getting caught into this little spiral,

[4:19] downward spiral. This is the fastest

[4:22] way. It's this is a a very powerful tool

[4:26] on a lot of levels, but for me the the

[4:29] fastest way to get out of spinning out

[4:32] on the hamster wheel and overthinking is

[4:34] to ask myself questions that presuppose

[4:38] I indeed have the power. So the way the

[4:41] construction of it is to actually set it

[4:45] up set up the question that way. So the

[4:47] disempowering question says what's wrong

[4:50] with me? My brain has to go find the

[4:52] answer to that. It'll come up with a

[4:54] list. Blah blah blah. When I ask, "What

[4:58] can I do?" It also has to go find the

[5:01] answer to that question. Your brain will

[5:04] go look for the answer to any question

[5:06] you ask it. So, it's all about what are

[5:09] you asking for? What are you asking your

[5:12] brain to focus on and go find? Super

[5:15] powerful tool. I encourage you to take a

[5:19] look at this. See if you're saying these

[5:21] things to yourself. You might find that

[5:24] you are. And if you are, you might be

[5:26] stuck in some avoidance patterns and you

[5:28] might be stuck in some victim mentality

[5:31] and different from being a victim.

[5:33] Different uh victim mentality is a an

[5:37] identity identified with learned

[5:40] helplessness, stuck in I can't do it.

[5:44] Not true. I'll be the I'll be the wise

[5:46] woman who busts you. Not true. You're

[5:49] way more powerful than you even know you

[5:51] are. You're meant to be that way. So, we

[5:55] start with empowering questions because

[5:58] in empowering questions direct our focus

[6:01] and focus directs our emotions and

[6:04] emotions direct our actions.

[6:11] So, here are some of my favorites. I

[6:13] like to start with what am I no longer

[6:17] willing to tolerate?

[6:23] Because if I'm spinning, it's usually

[6:25] about something I'm not happy about.

[6:28] Now, if you're spinning on something

[6:29] good,

[6:31] go spin out and have a good time. This

[6:33] is about when it's something's not right

[6:35] in your world. So, what am I no longer

[6:38] willing to tolerate? It's a great

[6:40] question because it gives me the power

[6:44] to decide what the standards are in my

[6:47] own life. And the way to raise your

[6:49] quality of life is to raise your

[6:51] standards. That is exactly

[6:55] there's no exception. You have to raise

[6:57] your standards. You want a better life,

[6:58] raise your standards. What am I no

[7:00] longer willing to tolerate? And that

[7:03] might be with other people or within

[7:05] yourself. Right? My second favorite

[7:07] question is, what do I think when I

[7:10] think that, right? Huh? Okay.

[7:18] I could have a lot of different

[7:19] thoughts. Pick the one that's the

[7:20] strongest and stay with one thought.

[7:23] Let's go just with one thought because

[7:25] you're going to get a bunch of emotions

[7:26] usually. But I like to add sometimes

[7:29] I'll look at that thought and I'll say,

[7:31] "hm, what else could it mean that this

[7:34] is happening? What else could it mean?

[7:36] Right? It presupposes.

[7:39] I have the answer to that as well. I

[7:41] have the choice. I have the choice to

[7:44] assign meeting meaning to something.

[7:52] Again, moving away from victim

[7:54] mentality. I get to decide what things

[7:56] mean. If somebody gives me a dirty look,

[7:58] I could say, "Oh, it's because I'm such

[7:59] a horrible person." Or it could be

[8:02] they're in a bad mood and I'm going to

[8:03] stay away from them. Totally same event,

[8:05] two different meanings, right? Third, I

[8:09] like to say when I think that, what do I

[8:11] feel?

[8:14] And I could have a lot of conflicting

[8:15] feelings at the same time. And that's

[8:18] often times when I'm spinning out. I

[8:21] could have I'm angry, but I also have

[8:24] fear. Or I'm angry, but I also feel

[8:26] hurt. I could have I'm angry. I'm

[8:30] frustrated, but I really love this

[8:32] person and I really want to be with them

[8:34] and I want what's best for them. So, I I

[8:35] I feel I feel guilty if I abandon them.

[8:38] So, I could have a lot of feelings just

[8:40] with one little old thought. It's crazy

[8:42] that way. We're just so um human beings.

[8:45] We're fast little thinkers and this all

[8:48] is playing out unconsciously and it's

[8:50] setting up how we feel. It's setting up

[8:53] everything that's going on. And that's

[8:54] what's going on when we're overthinking.

[8:56] We're feeling all these conflicting

[8:58] feelings. We're having these thoughts.

[9:00] This is the way to stop it. Then I like

[9:04] to say, when I know what I think and I

[9:06] know what I feel,

[9:08] what do I need?

[9:15] Sometimes it's an action. Sometimes it's

[9:17] an inward

[9:19] inner resource that I need to tap into

[9:21] like I need to pray about this. I need

[9:23] to um talk to a trusted friend or

[9:27] advisor. I need to um ask questions of

[9:30] them. I need to get more information. I

[9:33] love that one. Get curious. I need to

[9:35] get curious. I need to get curious about

[9:37] this.

[9:39] Yeah. It puts you in the driver's seat.

[9:41] When you know what you think and you

[9:43] know what you feel and you know what you

[9:44] need, then you can get your needs met in

[9:47] healthy ways. And not before then. You

[9:51] really do need to have that all lined

[9:52] up. Otherwise, you're kind of just

[9:55] guessing. We don't want to guess. We

[9:58] want to have control over that. That's

[10:02] empowered state of mind and a really

[10:10] So now I'm moving into the solution with

[10:16] solution. Will this work for you?

[10:21] you do it, it will work for you. It will

[10:26] answer our questions and it's all in the

[10:31] um, members of my power practice group

[10:37] loss, um, as well and ended up really

[10:43] rightfully so, victim of circumstance.

[10:48] stuff that had been left in their home.

[10:54] needing um not, you know, grieving

[11:00] was this overwhelming amount of clutter

[11:05] what she was able to do was to move

[11:10] questions and taking next right action

[11:15] herself. What can I do? What's good

[11:21] Um, and what it does is it opened up the

[11:26] out that space and now renting it. So,

[11:32] circumstance to I'm going to take what I

[11:38] form of income. So, you know, we're

[11:44] of circumstances, our opportunities, you

[11:48] we start to ask these empowering

[11:52] and our opportunities that are right in

[11:56] anyone that is um feeling stuck in

[12:03] pattern to um to listen to this video.

[12:09] doing this. If you're doing it, hey,

[12:14] how this is working out for you. There's

[12:18] in the more section underneath this

[12:24] support you in finding out exactly how

[12:28] is an avoidance pattern and it's a

[12:33] this, I hope you'll like and subscribe

[12:38] might help as well. Um, see you soon.

[12:42] yourself better questions. Can't wait to

[12:47] a comment if this has been helpful or if

[12:52] give me some feedback. I would love to