In this heartfelt solo episode of Wildly Wealthy Life, Kat shares a transformative experience at Business by Design Live and unpacks the core of living a truly wealthy life. From tackling self-worth issues to building confidence in children through life coaching, Kat reflects on her personal journey of healing, growth, and purpose. She reveals how embracing unconditional self-love and aligning with a higher purpose can empower us to live authentically and help others thrive.

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00:00 Kat introduces her solo episode and reflects on the day at Business by Design Live

01:38 What it means to build a business by design

2:32 Redefining a wildly wealthy life: unconditional self-love and self-worth

05:55 Struggles with imposter syndrome and seeking validation

07:38 Lessons from Catherine Zankina on self-perception and energy frequency

09:55 Connecting self-worth issues to childhood experiences

12:32 Why life coaching for kids starts with teaching self-worth and confidence

18:00 Running towards God as a source of healing and unconditional love

Business by Design

https://www.jameswedmoretraining.com/

Hey, my name is Kat.

And I'm Lee.

And welcome to the Wildly Wealthy Life Podcast.

In this show, we explore the journey of what it means to live a truly

exceptional and fulfilling life.

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brave hearts, nurtured through the arts, leads to lifelong success.

Get inspired with actionable tips to foster a growth mindset,

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contributions for their communities We hope you embrace the challenge to shift

your perspective as we equip you and the next generation for a wildly wealthy life

Hey, it's kat coming to you today solo and I mean tonight Uh right

now i'm recording this episode from phoenix, arizona It is currently 10.

04 p.

m.

I am in my Airbnb in the lobby of my Airbnb spot.

And I just came back from an all day event called Business by Design Live.

This is my little pin right here.

For those who are listening in audio, I have a little pin that

says, My first BBD Live 2024.

My little badge right here, Katrina Dinkong, my name with

digital CEO at the bottom.

And, um, he was an incredible event that had me pretty much crying the entire day.

And if you are seeing me from YouTube, you can probably tell that my eyes are a

little, um, swollen from crying all day.

Um, business by design is truly what it means in every sense of the word.

It is.

Building a business that is out of your own design that matches your

lifestyle, that matches what you really want to do and the purpose

that you want to live out and the gift that you want to leave in this world.

You know, for the longest time, gosh, I'm doing this literally off the cusp.

I'm just thinking about the day.

I'm kind of debriefing my day and sharing this with my wildly

wealthy life podcast listeners.

Because to me, I think that as we go through life, we.

We're going to have different experiences where we think of a wildly

wealthy life in different ways, right?

My definition of a wildly wealthy life maybe years ago is

completely different from today's definition of wildly wealthy life.

And what I realized is that a wildly wealthy life to me truly means that

you Have a deep unconditional love for yourself and who you are as a person and

that you have such this This deep sense of self worth that you love all of who

you are your uniqueness your quirks your weirdness your You know what what repels

people from you that you love that too.

What what attracts people to you that you love that too um Because we're not,

we're not meant to be for everyone, right?

And so you have to love all of who, all of who you are.

And I think the reason why it comes up is because when you are building

a business by design, especially in my case, I'm building a business

where it's life coaching for kids.

In any business anyway, I think it brings up a lot of stuff about you internally.

And what happens is when you're building a business, it literally

mirrors everything that's coming out is all of your insecurities, all of

your unworthiness, all of your imposter syndromes are coming out all at once.

And what I've realized is that everything that I actually ever

want in life is on the other side.

Of me believing who I am and that I am worthy full stop.

I'm worthy No questions.

I'm worthy.

That's it.

Not I'm worthy because not I'm worthy.

If not, I'm worthy.

A, B, C, D, E, F, G.

And I realized that everything that I've done in life,

all of my insecurities, all of my overworking and overachieving, All of my

need to be successful and desire to be successful has come, has been rooted in

the fact that I've always felt unworthy.

I've always felt like I'm not.

Enough and so I always do so much more because I don't feel like I am enough

I always so work so much harder because I feel like I am enough You know this

whole thing with life coaching with kids The story about me not being able to be

pregnant and and my struggle with with with infertility It's a real story It's a

real struggle, but I guess I realized that I always share it from a place of like,

I feel like I need to prove to people that I am enough as someone who just

loves kids and loves to work with kids.

And that, that in itself is enough without me having to prove that while

I've done all of these things, and even though I'm not a mom, you should

trust your kids with me because I know what I'm doing with kids.

I think there's this imposter syndrome in me that I just realized that I think the

reason why I always have to share, or I feel like I have the need to share that,

that wow, um, You know, I want to, I want to coach your kids through life and yeah,

I'm not a mom, but, but, but, but, but, but, but, you know, but I've done this,

I've done this, I've taught kids for 15 years, blah, blah, blah, all these things.

And, and I guess part of that is just, you know, presenting credibility.

I understand that, that there is a sense where if you're asking people to work

with you, no matter in what industry, what, what niche it is that you do

have to present yourself as credible.

So there is a sense.

a sense, an aspect to that, that, um, I do have to, you know, say

the credentials, my experiences, because that's just how it is, right?

Like when you go to a job interview, you tell people about your experiences

and your, your degrees and all of that stuff, because you do have to sort

of prove that you are, um, up, you are worthy of the position, right?

But I guess in this sense, I just realized that That, yeah, that the

reason why I always share that story is because I have this, this fear

that parents won't trust me with their kids because I don't have kids.

It's almost like looking at someone that, oh, you want to be a life coach for kids?

Like, okay, like, do you even know anything about having children?

You don't even have your own children.

Why would you be a life coach for kids?

Like, there's so many of these, like, negative, Thoughts in my mind of not

being enough and today what happened was I heard Catherine Zankina speak

today and if you guys don't know who she is, she's built an incredible.

It's crazy.

She's she's had like an incredible like 30 million business.

Over the last, I think, like seven years or something like that, she started in

her grandmother's couch working as a secretary, um, being paid 15 an hour.

And then she's built this business, this empire that's now, you know, has a revenue

of 30 million in the last seven years.

And she talked about how.

We all come with a certain frequency, our energetic vibe, right?

Our energetic frequency.

And, you know, that could sound a little weird for some people, but

what that really just means is that your frequency is how you frequently

see yourself and the way you present yourself to people and the way you

present yourself to the world is really a reflection of how you see yourself.

See yourself internally.

And so when you see yourself constantly as you're not enough, and you don't

have this deep sense of self worth, it shows in everything that you do, whether

it is outrightly like direct or, or.

Like subconsciously, right?

Because what we put out there in the world is truly What is

energetically inside of us?

And so What I've realized is that over my entire life the main struggle

i've always had has been self worth issues because of the abandonment

that I felt when I was a kid And this has nothing to do with You know, my

parents, like, they're not bad parents.

My parents are amazing parents.

I love them so much, and they're amazing parents.

But, when they left, when I was a kid, everything changed.

Every pain that I've had, I've realized that I've actually rooted it back

to that moment that I was left as a young seven year old little girl.

And no matter how good the reason is of my parents leaving, that the feeling

of abandonment, that feeling of, um,

Well, I'm not worthy because, you know, I'm not loved and all of these things

has been literally the root of all of my issues, you know, all of all of my issues

and everything, like every big, big, big mistake I've ever done in my life.

If I really, truly look back, it's because I didn't think I was enough.

It's because I didn't think I was worthy.

And so the mistakes that I've done in the past has always been, well,

I need to prove myself or I need to do something right to just basically

fill that need of feeling worthy, feeling wanted, feeling loved.

And so as of today, What is today?

December 5, I think 2024.

I just really realized that the definition of a wealthy, wealthy life for me is

when you have a deep, unconditional love for yourself and you are fully,

fully believing that you are worthy.

No matter what, no matter what the world says, no matter what anyone says

and that you really believe it and it's not based on your achievements.

It's not based on your success.

It's not based on your physical physicality, what you

look like, what you can do.

It's not based on the money in your bank account and that you are

just really truly worthy simply because you're a human being.

And so bringing that back, what I realized is that.

Bringing that back to my, my business, which, um, Katz Case Company is my company

that I founded teaching piano and I'm transitioning into life coaching for kids.

What I really realized is that

It doesn't matter, I think, how strong an individual you are.

I think that all of us truly struggle with this.

That all of us, in some stage in our life, struggle with self worth issues, right?

Like, all of us.

Whether you, Know it or not, whether you admit it or not.

I think all of us struggle with self worth issues and Because I realized that

that that's been the the root issue of everything that i've ever faced in my

entire life um what it actually really Is for me is the reason why I want to

coach these kids with the life skills that I want to teach them Is because

these life skills Start with them knowing who they are and their thoughts and,

and how they navigate their thoughts.

And, and through, through the life coaching sessions for the kids, I get

to really teach them their self worth.

I get to teach them just this unshakable confidence and a soaring

self esteem that at a young age, that they would believe that they

are worthy and that they are enough.

Because if you think about it, you know, like, I, I, yeah, as I said

already, like, I don't have kids, but I do know that what kids do at the

very young age, Mom, look at this.

Mom, look at that.

Mom, look at what I can do.

Mom, look.

Every, every child I've ever taught, right?

What gives them, what gets them excited, it's them showing you who they are.

Showing you, they're like, you know, every time I, if I go to someone's

house, like every child, they're like, look at my room, look at my room.

This is where I do my studies.

This is where I do my play.

This is, look at my toys.

Look at, it's, it's everything as a child is look at me, look at me, look at me.

And what that is, is the child.

Just seeking validation is the child seeking love and acceptance and

belongingness and over time, you know, and we all know this right as

we as we get older, um, that need.

never goes away.

We still want to be loved.

We still want to belong.

We still want to be validated, right?

And today it was such a powerful moment when I realized that the

reason why I'm doing this life coaching for kids is because I want

to serve that little child in me.

That as a child didn't know how to process the feelings of abandonment

that I had, the feelings of unworthiness and being unloved that I had, that I

just didn't know how to process that.

And maybe, Maybe if I knew how to process that, maybe, maybe I'd

be in a different place today.

You know, who knows, right?

I mean, I'm happy with who I am and where I am in life.

But what would it look like if, if a child had the tools to

understand how their minds work?

And, and be able to develop such a deep sense of self worth at such a young age,

not that they're never going to struggle with self worth issues because they will,

but that when they do, they have a better starting point, they have a better, you

know, like diving board, if you, if you think about it, that they can just stand a

little taller, you know, in who they are.

That's it.

If they could just stand a little taller in who they are, if they

could just believe a little bit more in who they are, because they had

the tools, because someone taught them the tools of how to do that.

And I realized that's, that's why I'm doing this.

That's why I'm doing this is because the child in me that really needed

that when I was seven, Didn't get it.

I didn't get that kind of help.

And that's why I want to do this.

I want to, I want to help kids.

Um, I have a student in piano.

This boy, this boy, he told me that, um, he doesn't have friends at school

because all his friends think that he's just too loud and he's too much.

You know, what would that look like when you're always being told that you're

too much, you're too loud, you know?

It will make you want to shrink, it will make you do either one of the two things.

It will make you either shrink or it will make you even rebel and do crazy things.

Because it's like, you know, all you say is too much.

Well, watch this.

I'm going to be even more, you know, if you think that's too much, well

watch this because what you thought was too much is not that much now.

I'm really going to show you, you know, like it could go that way or

it could go the other way where it's like, well, I guess I'm just going

to shrink and hold back and not say anything because apparently I'm too much.

And I think of that student of mine and my heart just breaks,

you know, my heart breaks.

And, and.

Gosh, like, and this is in a piano class.

So I haven't like, you know, when he said this, I haven't like fully really

gotten the tools yet because I haven't gone through the whole certification yet.

But now that I have with like my life coaching for kids, like, now

I have more of the tools that I can really help with the kids, but

I don't want it to be reactive.

I don't want to give them the tools when, It's happening in the moment,

you know, because when it's happening in the moment, it's harder for

them to receive the tools and to actually put it into implementation.

But, but when you give them tools before the things happen, right, they've had

practice with the tools before it actually happens, then they can be more prepared.

And so, yeah, that's, that's what I want to build.

I want to build.

A life that is wealthy, wealthy for myself.

And that means that the growth of my business is going to come from me really

just truly believing who I am and what I do to serve families and people and

kids and, and believing in that so much.

And I believe in it.

I've already believe in it a hundred percent, but I think I just realized that

I still have, I still have some self worth issues that I have to have to still nip in

the butt and, uh, you know, um, Still have to constantly check myself and just submit

and actually someone asked me today.

Well, how did you heal from that?

You know, and I realized that the way that I've really healed from that.

And this is from a perspective of someone who loves the Lord.

I love, I love God.

I love Jesus.

Today, when we were going through this whole.

Meditation in the event, I just realized that the only way I heal

from it is to run towards God.

That's it.

The moment, the moment I drop into that child in me who just believes

that a father, a father in heaven loves her so unconditionally.

That's when I'm the most, I'm the most sure of who I am.

Because to me, just realizing that, you know, the God who created this

whole universe, the God who created earth, the God who breathed life

into me, The God who created all of me, loves me unconditionally, no

matter what I've done, no matter,

no matter my success, my failures, none of that matters, He just loves me for

who I am, and that I need to grab a hold of that, I just need to grab a hold

of that and believe that for myself.

You know, and that to me is how I, you know, every time, every single time,

and I've realized every single time I run away, I've run away from God.

That's when the self worth issues take root even more, you know, and every time

I run towards him, it just melts away.

And it's incredible.

And it can happen in an instant too.

It's just so instantaneous.

Like the moment I drop in it, it's just like,

I don't have to do so much.

I don't have to prove myself.

I can just be.

And, uh, yeah.

That's a wildly wealthy life to me.

And what I want is for the kids that I get to work with to start off with that.

To start off with that.

Wildly wealthy mindset that they are enough, that they are loved and valued,

and their uniqueness and who they are is exactly the way they are because they,

there can be no one else like them.

And, and they have this uniqueness that they can bring into the world

that only them can bring, you know?

And I just want them to embrace that.

I want them to, to love themselves.

That's, I guess it.

Tomorrow is another early day at, uh, BBD Live and I will record, hopefully

record another episode for the podcast.

And, uh, yeah, that's my solo episode for Wildly Wealthy Life.

I hope that you got blessed by that.

And, um, Yeah, thanks for listening.

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