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In this episode of "A Changed Mind", our host, David Bayer explores the concept of greatness, challenging conventional wisdom on achieving one's full potential. David argues that our greatest pains and traumas are not meant to break us, but to build us into legends.
David presents the "physics of purpose," asserting that everyone has a significant mission in the world, and that our lives are intelligently designed to develop us as solutions to specific needs. Through examples like Gandhi, Beethoven, and Moses, he illustrates how adversity shapes greatness.
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What We Explored This Episode
5:07 Our greatest fear: Not achieving full potential
10:13 Trauma builds muscles for your mission
15:19 Beethoven's deafness led to musical genius
18:53 Living your truth creates real impact
21:24 You chose this moment in history
Memorable Quotes
"Your life is the intelligent design of the development of that solution, which is you. You are the solution to something in the world right now that will create a betterment in the world."
"Trauma builds the muscles you need to embody your mission. The parents you were born to, the circumstances you were born to, the pain that you went through, none of it was accidental."
"Being a legend is about honoring the assignment and being in your joy. Wake up every day and say, 'Thank you, God. What's your assignment? Reporting for duty, sir.'"
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The founder of Mothers Against Drunk Driving became the founder of Mothers Against Drunk Driving. Why? Because her daughter was killed by a drunk driver. And so you think about all the efforts that she has made and the legacy that she has created. She's a legend. And all the lives that have been saved as a result of her transcending through her suffering. And so suffering is an initiation. It's important to understand because a lot of times we think the suffering or the trauma is the reason why we can't. And it's actually the justification for why you must and why you are like you are the one to do it. Why? Because of the challenges, because of the problems, because of the physical and sexual abuse, because of the abandonment, because of the poverty. You are the one. Welcome to a Changed Mind, a journey into the topics that matter to you most. From the neuroscience and spirituality of mindset and personal growth, to groundbreaking strategies for health, wealth relationships, to open and honest conversations about pressing global issues such as the environment, censorship, corporate capture, and democracy. Each and every episode reminds us of the certainty of the goodness of the future and provides the teachings, tools, and timeless wisdom inspiring you to create real, lasting change in your life and in the world. If you've been desiring a sanctuary for your spirit, a place to go to tune out the distraction, negativity, and doom and gloom so that you can tap into the deep power, the vibrancy, and the potential you have inside, you're in the right place. Welcome to a Changed Mind. Hey, it's David. Welcome to a Changed Mind. A sanctuary for your spirit. A place where each and every episode, I remind you of the certainty of the goodness of the future. I'm your friend, your host, your guide, David Bayer. In today's episode, I Want to Talk about greatness. I know it sounds really cliche, and if you're a high performer and you're somebody who's already trying to achieve great things and be successful, listen up because you're going to learn a lot from this episode about how we've had greatness wrong. We've been taught all the wrong things about how to be great in the world and achieve your full potential. And if you are someone who is feeling like, look, greatness isn't for me, I just stumbled upon this episode. Number one, there's a reason you're getting this episode. So apparently you are destined for greatness. And number two, I don't care how long it's been or what you're going through or where you're at in your life, whether you're Recovering from a divorce, you've been single for a decade or never had a serious relationship, or experiencing chronic health problems or broke, and there's way too much month at the end of your paycheck. You're destined for greatness, and I'm going to share with you empirically how that's true. And you're going to be able to take what I teach you in this episode and apply it to getting more clarity on what you're meant to do in the world and actually executing on it. One of the really important things that I've learned through my own experience and through studying greatness is that the greatest pains that we've experienced, they were not here to break us. They were here to build us into becoming legends. And the exact thing that has almost destroyed you is the very thing that qualifies you to change the world. And so today we're going to talk about what it really means to become what I call a phenomenon, a living legend. Not because of ego, but because your soul came here with a mission and you are the only one who can fulfill it. So let's start by having a conversation. I like to call this the physics of purpose. And the concept of becoming a legend or becoming a phenomenon is not about fame, it's about impact. Everyone has this capacity, and not everyone answers the call. Joseph Campbell talks about the hero's journey. It is a structure of the archetype of people who achieve greatness. And he looks at myth, he looks at historical characters, and every single person has gone through the same process, but what we usually see is someone at their finish line, not at the starting line. And so we compare where we're at, which is normally towards the beginning or somewhere in the middle, to somebody else's end, and we get dismayed and we end up giving up. What I'm wanting you to understand is that every single person has a significant purpose and mission in the world. And being obsessed with your soul's mission is not about being better than other people. It's not about having more social media followers. It's not about having more money. It's not about overworking or hustling, grinding. But being obsessed with your soul's mission is about devotion.
The greatest devotion you can have is to what the higher power of your own understanding and you have agreed to in terms of what you would do when you come into this life to fulfill on your fullest potential. I think that is the greatest fear. Now, having had between my team and I, over 10,000 coaching conversations with people from all Walks of life, entrepreneurs, business owners, people who want to step into their greatness, people who are already wildly successful in terms of what they've got on paper in their bank account. The biggest fear that we have as a community of people who come together in this show and this episode, meaning if you're here, is that you're not going to achieve your full potential. Yes or no? If you're following along on YouTube, you can let me know. Maybe you disagree. Like Marianne Williamson says something like, our greatest fear is that we're more powerful than we could ever possibly imagine. I think that's beautiful and poetic. I don't think that's our greatest fear. Our greatest fear, if you're here listening to this, is that you're not going to achieve your full potential. And there's a reason for that. Because potential is the unlocking of latent gifts, the utilizing of dormant qualities for some sort of future usefulness in the world. That's what potential is. And fulfilling is to complete as promised or obligated or pledged. And so what I believe is that your soul, you made a promise to fulfill on your potential. You pledged to unlock dormant qualities and supernatural capabilities inside of you in order to bring usefulness and goodness to the world. And that takes us to a concept that we teach called a spiritual vision, which is why you're here. And so the reason why you're here is there was something in the world that, a problem, we might call it, that needed a solution. There was a need in the world that you pledged to fulfill on. I believe in the physics of reality, everything is cause and effect. If you think about it, there's some cause. This video showed up in your news feed, or you got a reminder on the audio platforms that maybe I have a new episode. Or you searched and found it. The effect is that you clicked cause and effect. Now that you've clicked, that's now a cause. And the effect is you're listening to this episode, you're going to listen to this episode that's going to be the cause of hopefully some change in your life. If you actually look at your whole life, it's a series of cause and effects. This is foundational science. And so I believe that there is a cause that caused you to come into this time space reality right here, right now, that it's not a coincidence. You incarnated as a response to something. There is a cause, and you are the effect. Now you could say, well, the cause was my parents had a wild night out and here I am. Yes, on the Third dimensional plane that may look seem like what happened, but at a deeper, more spiritual, more root cause level. You're here because there's a need in the world that you are the solution for. And your life is the intelligent design of the development of that solution. As you. I'll say that again, your life is the intelligent design of the development of that solution, which is you. You are the solution to something in the world right now that will create a betterment in the world. And again, this isn't some sort of cliche or thing that goes on a bumper sticker. This is why life exists. Life exists to make life better. And life comes into life at specific precise times in response that needs that are wanting to be fulfilled. And so you came in with a unique set of characteristics and qualities. If I were to say to your friends, hey, what makes you different? They'd have an answer. And most of them would probably pretty much say the same thing. Now what they say might be surface level, the real gift that you are and that you came in with might be much deeper. But it might be that you can be trusted. It might be that you're authentic. It might be that you're vulnerable. It might be that you're committed and you put in the effort when there are things that are important to you. It might be that you know how to support other people. Now there's a shadow side of this gift. You could become a people pleaser. You could be somebody who puts too much on your shoulders and carries it forward. But that's the work that we're meant to do. We're meant to transform the shadow into the gift. So you've got these unique gifts and qualities that have evolved into a personality in your own quirks. They're all designed for the mission. I mean, think about it. Think about the people who we see in cinema. My favorites are the superheroes who are here for the mission. They're all super quirky. Spider Man, Iron Man, Thor, Captain America, super quirky. All unique qualities and characteristics. Black Widow, Black Panther, Doctor Strange, the Hulk. And so you came here with your quirks and with your superpowers for a purpose. And that purpose can be curing disease, helping people restore their gut, and living happy, healthy lives. It could be helping to raise kind children. Either your children or all children. Scale is irrelevant. The impact is personal. But the truth is that whatever it is, creating cool e commerce products that help people improve their sleep, you're not just worthy, because I know that that's a big conversation we have here. I don't matter. I'm not worthy. I'm telling you, you're not just worthy. You are essential. There are 8 billion essential people on this planet right now. Without you fulfilling your calling, there's a gap that remains unfulfilled in the world. Now, what's so interesting about this is that trauma, as we experience it as children and we live through it as adults, is the resistance training that helps us become stronger and become the person that we're meant to be in order to fulfill on the mission. So the parents you were born to, the circumstances you were born to, the pain that you went through, none of it was accidental.
It's like weights in the gym. Trauma builds the muscles you need to embody your mission. So, for example, you know, I've shared my story. It's like I came into this world born to parents who, based on their behavior, inclined me to believe that there was something wrong with me. Okay? But I chose my parents so that I could learn there's something wrong with me. Why? Because there's something wrong with me. Catalyzed my hero's journey. I've been spending the better part of my adult life learning how to work through the pain and the suffering and the resistance of. There's something wrong with me. And as I do that, guess who I become? Someone who is authentically courageous. Someone who is bold but vulnerable. Someone who believes that not only that there's nothing wrong with me, but that I am whole and that I am complete and that I am love, myself, and I'm loved by my higher power or my God. And that, frankly, I'm loved by most people. And when I'm not, it's their shit, not mine. And so that David that I've become as a result of that original wound is the David that is with you here today. It's the David that's able to show other people, not just intellectually and through my knowledge, but through my own personal experience and my becomingness that, like, I'm whole, you're whole. And we're on this whole journey together. I mean, I have a company called Whole Human. Like, so thank God for Ron and Ina Behr for holding their trauma and not processing it so that I could experience it. Because those were very painful lives that my parents lived, receiving from their parents a bunch of trauma and programs. But it's been a part of the intelligent, beautiful design of my life. Like, I owe my parents a lot. Not a lot of resentment, but a lot of appreciation. And then there's the experiences that happen over the Course of our life, there are these kind of monumental, shifting moments. The founder of Mothers Against Drunk Driving became the founder of Mothers Against Drunk Driving. Why? Because her daughter was killed by a drunk driver. And so you think about all the efforts that she has made and the legacy that she has created. She's a legend. And all the lives that have been saved as a result of her transcending through her suffering. And so suffering is an initiation. It's important to understand because a lot of times we think the suffering or the trauma is the reason why we can't. And it's actually the justification for why you must and why you are like you are the one to do it. Why? Because of the challenges, because of the problems, because of the physical and sexual abuse, because of the abandonment, because of the poverty. You are the one. If you look at the stories of great people, you see this structure in place. Story of Gandhi is really amazing. If you read his autobiography, which is like an 800 page book, but if you take it on, Gandhi talks about how the moment he was born into the world, he suffered from extreme anxiety. The Gandhi who was born, if he was born today, would have been immediately put on anti anxiolytics and medication. But because he had this anxiety by the time he got into his double digits, 10, 11, 12, he started seeking out a guru to help him find peace. And his guru taught him a mantra, Rama, Rama, Rama. And Gandhi for years started repeating this mantra internally because it calmed him down. Rama, Rama, Rama. And that calming down of that inner dialogue that was creating anxiety gave him an inner stillness. And in that inner stillness he found God. And in that he found his mission. In that he found guidance. In that he was led. That was a man who led a free and independent India out of the longest colonial rule that the world had ever seen. In a large nation like that. He led the people of India into free and independence, guided by spirit. And he found spirit in that stillness. And he found stillness as the opposite of that anxiety. If it were not for his anxiety, he never would have been the Mahatma. We think these people like, oh, they just had it all figured out. It's like, no they didn't. If you go study them, they were as scared, they were as doubting as we were. Somehow they made it through and they left clues for the rest of us. You look at the story of Beethoven, he was born to an abusive father, an alcoholic mother. Really weird looking little boy, hairy hands, he had scoliosis, not socially accepted. At the age of seven, he picks up a Clavicle, which I guess is some musical instrument. And he's an aficionado at it. He's like, he's a genius with all kinds of instruments. And so he becomes this musical prodigy in Europe, and as a result of that, becomes accepted by the social class, the upper class. He has all these friends now. Think about it. He's finally made it. And this is one of the characteristics and qualities of the hero's journey. Right when you feel like you've made it, it seems like the rug gets pulled out from underneath you. And he starts losing his hearing. And he's like, shit, if I lose my hearing, I'm going to lose everything. How can I be a musical performer if I can't hear? How can I be a composer if I can't hear? And so he writes in his journals that as he was just losing the last remnants of his hearing, he's at a chateau in Vienna, and he's about to off himself.
He's about to kill himself, and he loses his hearing. And then he writes in his journal, in those last moments of hearing, right before I moved into the silence of deafness, I heard the most beautiful symphonies that the world had never heard. In that silence, he become the greatest composer. He could literally hear in that silence. The greatest musical compositions of all time. He became Beethoven. That's the process. So I'm sharing this with you because I don't want you to be like, oh, like, woe is me. No matter where you are, whether it's been hard for a long time or whether you had it and you lost it all, the wound is the way. And if you understand it, then you can start actually working with it rather than feeling beaten down and betrayed by it. Moses is probably one of the best stories of all time. Like, this is a guy who's born into an era of trauma. Pharaoh says, all of the Hebrew boys will be killed. Crazy, right? Just, can you imagine? So his mother has a different idea, puts him into a little basket, floats him down the river. And because life is always working for us. And through us, Moses is found by Pharaoh's daughter. And Moses sister's hiding in the bushes. And Pharaoh's daughter says, like, oh, my God, like, what are we going to do with this baby? Who's going to take care of her? And Moses's sister goes, I know a woman. And she introduces Pharaoh's daughter to Moses Mom. And she gets accepted into the royal court. So Moses gets raised as Egyptian royalty, which, by the way, I think is how he went through the Egyptian esoteric rites and became so powerful. Like, they brought him into the inner circle of how it all worked, rose up through the ranks, but couldn't deny his heritage. So he sees a Hebrew slave being beaten, kills the slave master, gets exiled by Pharaoh. Now he's lost everything. The rug has been proverbially pulled out from underneath him. And he's shepherding sheep in this incredible design because he's about to shepherd 700,000 Jews out of slavery and into the promised land. Then his vision shows up as the burning bush says, hey, you need to go tell Pharaoh to free the slaves. He's like, what are you out of your mind? I can't do that. Moses was known for not having, not being particularly articulate. And the burning bush says, I'll give you all the help that you need. Turns out Moses, brother Aaron is extremely well spoken, goes before Pharaoh's court, tells Pharaoh he must let the Hebrews go. Pharaoh says, no, and then help shows up, because help always shows up when we're in our hero's journey. And so God brings the plagues upon the Pharaoh and the Egyptians. Finally, they crumble and they go, look, leave with the Hebrews, take the slaves. So what happens? Moses leaves them out. 700,000 Hebrews are going out into the desert, which really represents walking away from the old system into the promised land. And the uncertainty of the desert, Pharaoh decides to pursue. And God says to Moses, moses, stretch out your hands over the ocean. And Moses, being humble as he is meek, as it's described in the Bible, stretches out his hand. The red seas part. The Hebrews walk across, and Pharaoh's army gets decimated. That's a story of greatness. That's what it means to be legendary. Being humble, following instructions, not bemoaning your situation. What they all had in common, they chose to rise through the challenge, not be conquered by it, not be defined by it. So their lives became frequencies of truth and transformation. And really, I think with social media and the bombardment of information that we have today, it's wonderful because anybody can have a platform. But the world is full of experts today. But the real impact comes from those who live it. There's a lot of knowledge, there's a lot of information. But don't you just feel it when somebody is living it? Like when somebody's actually been where you are and gotten to the other side? It's a different frequency. They're speaking from experience. It's almost like there's no question that you can't ask them, that they won't have an answer for. And this is why your story matters, because you are building that experience. This is why you're the only one who can be you. And so I'm sharing this with you because I want you to shift your perspective. I want you to know you're destined for greatness. I want you to know that you can be legendary and that that's what you came here for, to achieve your full potential. But you have to reorient yourself to your story, because the story you tell is the story that becomes your reality, whether it's true or not. And I want you to know that your story is a story of greatness. I also want you to know, because we talk a lot about it on this channel, that I want you to live in your joy. Every day is a precious moment, and I have to remind myself of that. And a lot of times I forget. Don't get me wrong, I get caught up in my head. I start worrying about shit. I move back into my old patterns, even though I know better. And even though I built that into my nervous system. The ability to, like, operate from a powerful state. I forget it's part of the process. The goal is not to be perfectly powerful, nor were any of these great people. So I want you to live in your joy, but I also want you to know that your calling is serious. Like, you're not meant to suffer through it, but to become it with reverence and enthusiasm. And being a legend is about honoring the assignment and being in your joy. A mentor of mine said, you know, Dave, I just wake up every day and I say, thank you, God. What's your assignment? Reporting for duty, sir. And so that's the way. One day at a time. We can't see it from where we're at, but we look backwards. Steve Jobs has that quote right. You look back and you see how all the dots connect. If you just believe that you're destined for greatness and you ask for more, and you ask for clarity, and you just ask to know your higher powers will. And each and every day, you work up with the material that's in front of you. It won't make sense moving forward, but all of a sudden, you're going to be like, man, how did I get here? How did I become this person? Because you didn't just stumble into this life. You chose to come now in this exact moment in history. And, man, what a moment it is. Because there is something inside of you that the world needs. And not in a general way, in a very specific way. And all the pain, all the loss, all the mess that was the resistance training. And you've already paid your price. The question is, are you willing to step into who you were born to be? Not someday, not when you're ready, but now. I have a very good friend, new friend, Cody Jefferson. He just emceed my big event, and I have just tremendous respect for him over a very short period of time, how powerfully he shows up. And I heard him speak at an event about how much death he's experienced in his life. And I heard him share that after I met him. And I was like, oh, my God, that makes so much sense because he is such a bringer of life. Like, he is so alive and he brings so much life and he speaks and pours so much life into people. The only way you're able to do that is if you've overcome the opposite. And so I just want you to know that now is your time. Like, the world is waiting on the legend that is you. And because you've lived it, you are it. And people feel that. So let's get into it and get into it together. Got so many other episodes on this channel that talk to you about, okay, how do I let go of that old story and transform it? Because as I say, almost always now, this is not a do it yourself project. This is a do it with others. And I'm here to do it with you. So I appreciate you being here today. I hope today's episode has been inspirational for you and a little bit instructional, giving you some practical perspectives so you can start asking. And again, you may not know what your spiritual vision is. That's okay. Now you know you have one. So ask and be patient and pay attention to what shows up on a daily basis because God will leave you breadcrumbs. All you need to do is follow him into your legendary self and into your legendary life. So I love you very, very much. If you love this episode, do me a favor. As always, only a couple of things to pay it forward. Share this episode with somebody if they need to hear it and if you loved it. If you're listening on the audio platform, subscribe so you get notifications and leave me a rating or review. I love getting the notifications from Spotify and Apple that you guys love the show. If you're following along on YouTube in studio. Well, you know, we don't wear sleeves here. Thank you for being here. Subscribe. Hit that little alert notification, the bell icon. Otherwise they won't actually let you know when a new episode comes out and leave me a comment because I want to know what you think. What have you overcome in your life that's made you greater as a result of it? Like, what challenges have you overcome that are the reason why you are the one, not the reason why you can't be? And again, if you love the episode, pay it forward. Share it with somebody who needs to hear it. I love you and I will see you in the next episode. Hey, it's David. One more thing. If you want to go even deeper on everything we've talked about on today's episode, don't forget to jump over to www.DavidBear.com. you can find the link in the show notes and subscribe to our newsletter. A couple of times a week. I'm going to be sending you the latest episodes that we've released, along with additional free trainings. 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