Welcome back to Dont get this Twisted

In this conversation, Robb and Tina discuss the topic of staying in shitty relationships. They explore the impact of verbal and mental abuse, the importance of building a bridge back in relationships, and the role of money and fear in staying in loveless marriages. They also discuss the consequences of insults and derogatory statements, the complexity of being the third wheel in a relationship, and the need for trust and communication. The conversation highlights the significance of self-worth, happiness, and realistic expectations in relationships, as well as the challenges of trust and cheating. They emphasize the importance of choosing the right partner and prioritizing emotional connection and love in relationships. In this conversation, Robb and Tina discuss various aspects of relationships and love. They explore the challenges of maintaining friendships when one person has feelings for the other, the complexity of love and relationships, and the importance of not settling for mediocrity. They also touch on the idea of being brave and starting over, the significance of self-love, and the importance of choosing the right person. They conclude by discussing the difference between love and control in relationships.

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[Robb]: And welcome to another show of Don't

Get This Fisted. I am Rob along with Tina.

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[Robb]: How you doing, Tina?

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[Tina m Garcia]: I'm good, Rob, how are you?

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[Robb]: Oh, you know, not like you chasing the

cat.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehe

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[Robb]: Mm-hmm. It's not a bad morning,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Hmm?

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[Robb]: because

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[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehe.

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[Robb]: it's been a long week.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, I'm over it.

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[Robb]: Yeah, me too. Thank goodness, like you

said before, we were off the air, because being

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[Robb]: off, it's nice to record this when we're

not stressed out.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Especially on a Saturday. Saturdays

for me are like golden, so...

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[Robb]: Yeah, we just told the secret that we

record on the weekends, but if you're hearing

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[Robb]: this on Wednesday, we record before.

Except last week we recorded on Tuesday night

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[Robb]: and literally put it

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[Tina m Garcia]: He

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[Robb]: out

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[Tina m Garcia]: did.

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[Robb]: that night. So you never,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: you never know what you're going to

get. Um,

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[Tina m Garcia]: true.

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[Robb]: so we are going to talk about people

who stay in shitty relationships because

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm.

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[Robb]: we have a mutual friend.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Actually, we have a few friends.

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[Robb]: We have a few friends, we have a few

friends and,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Heh.

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[Robb]: and people around us that are doing

whatever they're doing for whatever reason.

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[Robb]: This one though is, I'm again, I'm looking

from the outside in, so I'll tell the story

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[Robb]: that I know and you can fill in the

blanks. It's someone who's been married for

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[Robb]: quite a while,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: who is in a borderline loveless relationship,

has children, has gone outside the marriage,

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[Robb]: several times for quite a while

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: and continues to stay in it for whatever

reason, which is asinine to me. And now the

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[Robb]: other person in this marriage knows

that they are in love with somebody else, yet

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[Robb]: neither of them will get out of it.

Is that the story?

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[Tina m Garcia]: That's that sounds like.

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[Robb]: That sounds a story. So I'm a good listener.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yes,

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[Robb]: That's,

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[Tina m Garcia]: yes, he's

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[Robb]: that's,

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[Tina m Garcia]: been

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[Robb]: uh,

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[Tina m Garcia]: trained well.

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[Robb]: for, for the, for the girl who ends

up

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yes.

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[Robb]: with me, just so you know, I'm a good

listener and I actually, I, yeah. And I remember

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[Robb]: everything. I, the people that are around

me hate it because

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[Tina m Garcia]: No.

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[Robb]: I'll leave a message going, oh, this

was what happened five years ago. And they're

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[Robb]: like, oh, I didn't remember that. I'm

like, yeah, I'm one of those saps. But, um,

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[Robb]: yeah, um, I, this just crazy to me because

we've both now been through a divorce and staying

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[Robb]: in something that is just shitty. Can't

be good. You know the situation a little bit

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[Robb]: better than me. Does the person, do

they throw insults

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,

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[Robb]: at each other now?

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[Tina m Garcia]: I'm

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[Robb]: Like

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[Tina m Garcia]: I yeah, because

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[Robb]: does the

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[Tina m Garcia]: you can

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[Robb]: one

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[Tina m Garcia]: hear

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[Robb]: person

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[Tina m Garcia]: in the way that

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[Robb]: talk down

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[Tina m Garcia]: that

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[Robb]: on the guy in the relationship?

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[Tina m Garcia]: that he is with himself is

is different and it just doesn't sound like

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[Tina m Garcia]: anything that we've been used

to hearing from him and in yeah you could definitely

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[Tina m Garcia]: tell but you can also tell

you know it's funny because you could also

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[Tina m Garcia]: tell what what's going on um

through non-verbal communication and uh that

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[Tina m Garcia]: sounds like it's more and more

and more these days. So

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[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

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[Tina m Garcia]: sad.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: Yeah, it is sad and I don't understand,

look, and again, maybe it's just because I

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[Robb]: was in a very bizarre

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: ending to a relationship. Like I never,

the kind of things that happen now in relationships

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[Robb]: with how people verbally and mentally

abuse people is

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: out of fucking

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[Tina m Garcia]: No.

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[Robb]: control. Like

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[Tina m Garcia]: Well, you're

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: talking

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[Robb]: don't get

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[Tina m Garcia]: to the

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[Robb]: that.

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[Tina m Garcia]: wrong person because I didn't

even have

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[Robb]: With

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[Tina m Garcia]: a

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[Robb]: my

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[Tina m Garcia]: fight

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[Robb]: ex,

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[Tina m Garcia]: with my ex.

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[Robb]: I would

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[Tina m Garcia]: So

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[Robb]: never

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[Tina m Garcia]: as we were going through

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[Robb]: have

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[Tina m Garcia]: the whole process,

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[Robb]: said things

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[Tina m Garcia]: I

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[Robb]: to

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[Tina m Garcia]: just don't

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[Robb]: her

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[Tina m Garcia]: believe

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[Robb]: to

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[Tina m Garcia]: in

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[Robb]: try

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[Tina m Garcia]: hurting

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[Robb]: to damage

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[Tina m Garcia]: somebody

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[Robb]: her psyche.

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[Tina m Garcia]: that you're supposed to love.

Even if you're

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: pissed

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[Robb]: didn't understand

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[Tina m Garcia]: off at them,

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[Robb]: that.

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[Tina m Garcia]: you know, you're just not supposed

to, you're not supposed to make them more damaged

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[Robb]: Well,

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[Tina m Garcia]: when

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[Robb]: me

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[Tina m Garcia]: they're done with you. You're

supposed to,

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[Robb]: either.

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[Tina m Garcia]: hopefully they'll have been

better people because of it.

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[Robb]: Correct.

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[Robb]: Yeah, you're supposed to, whether you're

in a fight or not, always know you're building

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[Robb]: a bridge back. If you're not building

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[Tina m Garcia]: Right,

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[Robb]: a bridge

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[Tina m Garcia]: right.

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[Robb]: back to a relationship, you need to

get

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: the fuck out of it. So you have this

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: person who obviously is in love with

somebody else. I mean, it's more than evident.

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[Robb]: knows the person that they're in love

with knows. So if this isn't, this isn't like

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[Robb]: a, um, it isn't like one person is fishing,

right? It's not like, Hey, I, you know, you're

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[Robb]: in a bad relationship and I want you

when you're out of it. That this isn't what

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[Robb]: that is.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Well, yeah, that's

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[Robb]: This

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[Tina m Garcia]: a

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[Robb]: is

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[Tina m Garcia]: lot, you

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[Robb]: your,

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[Tina m Garcia]: know?

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[Robb]: everyone

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[Tina m Garcia]: It's

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[Robb]: here

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[Tina m Garcia]: a lot

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[Robb]: is in

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[Tina m Garcia]: to

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[Robb]: a shitty

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[Tina m Garcia]: lose if you

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[Robb]: place.

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[Tina m Garcia]: think about it.

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: I mean,

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[Robb]: love you.

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[Tina m Garcia]: that was a

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[Robb]: I just

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[Tina m Garcia]: really,

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[Robb]: don't know. I'm just staying because

I don't

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[Tina m Garcia]: that

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[Robb]: know

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[Tina m Garcia]: was something I

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[Robb]: why

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[Tina m Garcia]: watched with my ex. I didn't

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[Robb]: or

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[Tina m Garcia]: realize how important

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[Robb]: And look

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[Tina m Garcia]: money

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[Robb]: I understand marriage

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[Tina m Garcia]: and what

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[Robb]: and

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[Tina m Garcia]: they had

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[Robb]: animal

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[Tina m Garcia]: built

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[Robb]: relationships

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[Tina m Garcia]: for

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[Robb]: that you're

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[Tina m Garcia]: a man,

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[Robb]: in something that that

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[Tina m Garcia]: what

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[Robb]: money is involved

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[Tina m Garcia]: that means,

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[Robb]: like I'm

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[Tina m Garcia]: like

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[Robb]: sure he doesn't want to

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[Tina m Garcia]: how

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[Robb]: lose

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[Tina m Garcia]: much significance

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[Robb]: a certain part of his

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[Tina m Garcia]: to who

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[Robb]: lifestyle

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[Tina m Garcia]: they are as a person

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[Robb]: or

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[Tina m Garcia]: do they put on

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[Robb]: He's

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[Tina m Garcia]: that.

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[Robb]: afraid he's gonna

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[Tina m Garcia]: So

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[Robb]: lose his house

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[Tina m Garcia]: that's gotta be huge. I mean,

I get that,

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[Robb]: No, it is.

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[Tina m Garcia]: because you work so hard you

do you work you're not normally the one taking

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[Tina m Garcia]: care of the kids or or doing

that you're the one that's that's making sure

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[Tina m Garcia]: that everybody's got everything

they could possibly want so I get that money

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[Tina m Garcia]: is a is a huge thing and and

again watching my ex go through that I felt

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[Tina m Garcia]: sorry for him so I tried to

not make it any harder than it needed to be

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[Tina m Garcia]: so if you're if you're yelling

and

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[Tina m Garcia]: I don't know. To me, I don't

think I was miserable in my marriage. We had

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[Tina m Garcia]: gotten to the point where we

wanted to like just scream at each other, but

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[Tina m Garcia]: I wasn't miserable and I left.

So I don't know why people would stay to the

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[Tina m Garcia]: point of

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[Robb]: Sure.

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[Tina m Garcia]: misery because you, if you

love somebody, you shouldn't be miserable with

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[Tina m Garcia]: them. That's, you should have

changed course a long time before that. Um,

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[Tina m Garcia]: so I don't, I just

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[Robb]: Yeah.

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[Tina m Garcia]: don't understand it.

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[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: Yeah, me either.

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[Robb]: Sure.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: It's kind of like the thing of, of once

someone tells you something, like people tell

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[Robb]: the truth in a relationship. Even if

it's snarky, it's generally the truth. So in

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[Robb]: this case, if someone goes to someone

and says, look, I'm in love with somebody,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: and they got caught, both, all the partners

know, everyone knows the story of what's going

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[Robb]: on. I've kind of been in that situation

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[Tina m Garcia]: Right.

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[Robb]: with somebody who I wasn't supposed

to be, and their partner found out about it.

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[Robb]: And from there, their partner was like,

no, let's make it work. Which by the time you

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[Robb]: get there, it's probably well over.

So

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm

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[Robb]: in this case that we're talking about,

this person's case, it's over. The woman knows,

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[Robb]: the man knows, and the other person

in the relationship knows everything. they're

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[Robb]: holding on to something that's just

not real. So, and I'm sure that they lob shit

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[Robb]: back at each other because I've heard

it from other people. You know, I kind of talked

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[Robb]: about it last week where this one person

was told things that to me you can't go back

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[Robb]: from. If someone talks about how you

physically

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: look,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: they mean that shit. That's something

you shouldn't get over. And in this case, another

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[Robb]: case as well, the same thing where,

and again, maybe it was worded to me wrong,

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[Robb]: but this one person was like, Oh, I

already have girls on me or texting me or,

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[Robb]: or, you know, I can do that. And, and

this, this person was like, well, cool, go

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[Robb]: get them. If you, if you've already

said these words, it's done. You're, what are

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[Robb]: you fighting for?

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: You're fighting for some, you're, me

and this is my crazy

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,

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[Robb]: way of looking at it, you're

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[Tina m Garcia]: and they

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[Robb]: just

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[Tina m Garcia]: tend to

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[Robb]: fighting

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[Tina m Garcia]: come pretty

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[Robb]: for table

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[Tina m Garcia]: easily

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[Robb]: scraps

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[Tina m Garcia]: when you need them.

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[Robb]: instead of going and getting what's

on the table. And in what the person we're

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[Robb]: talking about, that's the truth. This

person is staying in a loveless marriage because

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: they have children and probably a house

and there's things to lose, but you're losing

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[Robb]: your sanity. And that's way

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: more fucking important to me at this

age

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: than fucking things. Things will come

back on you.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: You can get things back. And again.

Yeah, I mean, a house is a different thing.

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[Robb]: I can understand you not wanting to

lose a home, and in their case, who gets it,

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[Robb]: right?

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: If you're the one who owns the home

in a relationship and you're dating, you may

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[Robb]: lose it because of money. That's the

only reason. The other side is kick that fucker

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[Robb]: to the curb and you can

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[Tina m Garcia]: I don't

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[Robb]: leave.

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[Tina m Garcia]: know. I don't understand it.

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[Robb]: I mean,

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[Tina m Garcia]: I don't want to

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[Robb]: bye,

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[Tina m Garcia]: be in a relationship

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[Robb]: it happens.

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[Tina m Garcia]: where I'm not completely

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[Robb]: and you

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[Tina m Garcia]: and

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[Robb]: nut

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[Tina m Garcia]: totally

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[Robb]: up and

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[Tina m Garcia]: loved.

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[Robb]: you keep it until

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[Tina m Garcia]: I

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[Robb]: whatever

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[Tina m Garcia]: refuse

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[Robb]: happens.

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[Tina m Garcia]: that. I don't want to be in

a relationship

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[Robb]: I mean, I did it.

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[Tina m Garcia]: where I

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: don't

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[Robb]: had a

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[Tina m Garcia]: completely

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[Robb]: house.

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[Tina m Garcia]: and totally

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[Robb]: I mean,

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[Tina m Garcia]: love a person

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[Robb]: the

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[Tina m Garcia]: either.

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[Robb]: person that I owned the

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[Tina m Garcia]: You

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[Robb]: house

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[Tina m Garcia]: know,

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[Robb]: with

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[Tina m Garcia]: um,

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[Robb]: moved

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[Tina m Garcia]: I

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[Robb]: to

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[Tina m Garcia]: will

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[Robb]: another

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[Tina m Garcia]: not

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[Robb]: state,

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[Tina m Garcia]: stand

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[Robb]: left

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[Tina m Garcia]: in that

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[Robb]: me behind,

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[Tina m Garcia]: have

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[Robb]: and

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[Tina m Garcia]: never

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: really,

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[Robb]: paid the mortgage.

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[Tina m Garcia]: um, taken anybody's

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[Robb]: And I

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[Tina m Garcia]: abuse,

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[Robb]: ended

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[Tina m Garcia]: like

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[Robb]: up having a buddy

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[Tina m Garcia]: with

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[Robb]: of

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[Tina m Garcia]: the

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[Robb]: mine

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[Tina m Garcia]: derogatory

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[Robb]: move in to help me out with it

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[Tina m Garcia]: statements

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[Robb]: or whatever it was.

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[Tina m Garcia]: or

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: or

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[Robb]: found

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[Tina m Garcia]: names.

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[Robb]: a way to keep it until

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[Tina m Garcia]: Um,

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[Robb]: I got sued.

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[Tina m Garcia]: I don't take that shit either.

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[Robb]: So, you know, there's that too. But

at the

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[Tina m Garcia]: I

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[Robb]: end,

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[Tina m Garcia]: wouldn't want to live

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[Robb]: if

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[Tina m Garcia]: with

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[Robb]: you're

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[Tina m Garcia]: somebody

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[Robb]: not fighting

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[Tina m Garcia]: I don't walk around

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[Robb]: same

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[Tina m Garcia]: naked

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[Robb]: thing

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[Tina m Garcia]: around.

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[Robb]: anymore,

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[Tina m Garcia]: You know what I mean?

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[Robb]: it's time to get out, because who wants

to be in a shitty

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[Tina m Garcia]: If

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[Robb]: relationship?

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[Tina m Garcia]: we're going to be roommates,

then kick in half. But if not, you know?

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[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Right, right.

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[Robb]: Correct.

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[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Tina m Garcia]: Thank you for watching.

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[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: Right, exactly. But even there's that

too. At some point, I don't want a fucking

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[Robb]: roommate. I want the person I love.

And you know me, I'm a fighter. Even with my

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[Robb]: ex, I fought for six months and tried

and

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-mm.

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[Robb]: wanted to re-date. And there's a other

story behind that. I was fighting for something

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[Robb]: I couldn't have, But I still fought

because that's who I am as a person. So I get

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[Robb]: that

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,

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[Robb]: part, but

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[Tina m Garcia]: I think everybody loses

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[Robb]: I

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[Tina m Garcia]: in

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[Robb]: also,

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[Tina m Garcia]: that situation.

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[Robb]: I thought I was fighting for something

that was there. And

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: if you know you're not, there's nothing

there. And the person we're talking about,

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[Robb]: there's not, it's zero. And this person

and the third wheel are still seeing each other.

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[Robb]: So that's not,

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: so who's winning in this situation?

Really no one Except for maybe the person that's

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[Robb]: on the outside of the relationship because

they're They're getting something but it's

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[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

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[Robb]: not what they wanted And I'll tell you

for sure because that's how I felt

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[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

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[Robb]: Yeah, it's not a good thing. It's really

not. And it's kind of like the situation I

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[Robb]: was

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[Tina m Garcia]: How

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[Robb]: in.

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[Tina m Garcia]: could it possibly be

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[Robb]: I was

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[Tina m Garcia]: easy?

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[Robb]: the third wheel

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[Tina m Garcia]: You

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[Robb]: of a

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[Tina m Garcia]: know,

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[Robb]: relationship

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[Tina m Garcia]: love

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[Robb]: that

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[Tina m Garcia]: somebody

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[Robb]: I,

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[Tina m Garcia]: that

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[Robb]: you know,

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[Tina m Garcia]: doesn't

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[Robb]: and again, not that I'm proud

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[Tina m Garcia]: love him

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[Robb]: of

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[Tina m Garcia]: back

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[Robb]: anything, but I was,

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[Tina m Garcia]: and

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[Robb]: and that's

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[Tina m Garcia]: you're

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[Robb]: just

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[Tina m Garcia]: the

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[Robb]: the way

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[Tina m Garcia]: one

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[Robb]: it was.

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[Tina m Garcia]: that's given them

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[Robb]: This

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[Tina m Garcia]: all

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[Robb]: person

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[Tina m Garcia]: the

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[Robb]: was in a relationship

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[Tina m Garcia]: attention

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[Robb]: that

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[Tina m Garcia]: and

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[Robb]: was

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[Tina m Garcia]: whatever

469

[Robb]: never

470

[Tina m Garcia]: it is that

471

[Robb]: going

472

[Tina m Garcia]: he needs

473

[Robb]: to

474

[Tina m Garcia]: to

475

[Robb]: go anywhere.

476

[Tina m Garcia]: make this

477

[Robb]: It just wasn't.

478

[Tina m Garcia]: life bearable for him.

479

[Robb]: There

480

[Tina m Garcia]: Like

481

[Robb]: was outside

482

[Tina m Garcia]: how,

483

[Robb]: things

484

[Tina m Garcia]: how

485

[Robb]: that

486

[Tina m Garcia]: is

487

[Robb]: was not

488

[Tina m Garcia]: that?

489

[Robb]: going to make that work.

490

[Tina m Garcia]: How does, how does that, I

don't know to me that that would seem counterproductive.

491

[Tina m Garcia]: Like, why would you help the

other side?

492

[Robb]: see yourself on the inside.

493

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

494

[Robb]: So things

495

[Tina m Garcia]: Feelings for a woman are always

involved.

496

[Robb]: hurt you

497

[Tina m Garcia]: Ahem.

498

[Robb]: either way. And I can see where the

person on

499

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

500

[Robb]: the outside though

501

[Tina m Garcia]: I'm sure.

502

[Robb]: understands what's going on. It's not

easy. But the...

503

[Robb]: It's not.

504

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

505

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

506

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

507

[Tina m Garcia]: Oh, for sure.

508

[Robb]: It is. Well, and not only that, feelings

are involved.

509

[Robb]: I think feelings for men are involved

once you have them.

510

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

511

[Robb]: Most men, or I shouldn't say that, we'll

use the bell curve generally, generally men

512

[Robb]: are, men can be in a relationship with

a woman, love his wife, and go bang somebody

513

[Robb]: else because it's a physical thing.

Women generally are an emotional animal and

514

[Robb]: that's just the way it is. But I do

believe that when men are in love, for real

515

[Robb]: in love, they have just as many emotional

ties. I was told to watch this show on TV and

516

[Robb]: you should probably check it out too,

it's on Netflix. It's called

517

[Tina m Garcia]: Well you would

518

[Robb]: Blind

519

[Tina m Garcia]: hope so

520

[Robb]: Love.

521

[Tina m Garcia]: because beauty doesn't

522

[Robb]: And basically

523

[Tina m Garcia]: stick

524

[Robb]: what

525

[Tina m Garcia]: around

526

[Robb]: it is is

527

[Tina m Garcia]: forever,

528

[Robb]: they get these

529

[Tina m Garcia]: you

530

[Robb]: people

531

[Tina m Garcia]: know?

532

[Robb]: and you have dates in pods right next

to

533

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

534

[Robb]: each other without seeing each other.

And the whole goal

535

[Tina m Garcia]: physical

536

[Robb]: is to learn

537

[Tina m Garcia]: what's the word

538

[Robb]: to

539

[Tina m Garcia]: I'm

540

[Robb]: love

541

[Tina m Garcia]: like

542

[Robb]: someone never

543

[Tina m Garcia]: You

544

[Robb]: seeing

545

[Tina m Garcia]: just feel

546

[Robb]: them.

547

[Tina m Garcia]: it, you know, you have an attraction,

there's something

548

[Robb]: the whole

549

[Tina m Garcia]: that

550

[Robb]: goal

551

[Tina m Garcia]: drives

552

[Robb]: of this

553

[Tina m Garcia]: you

554

[Robb]: is that

555

[Tina m Garcia]: before

556

[Robb]: if you fall in love you propose like

557

[Tina m Garcia]: anything.

558

[Robb]: literally give a ring

559

[Tina m Garcia]: Like

560

[Robb]: and everything

561

[Tina m Garcia]: a magnetism

562

[Robb]: and then

563

[Tina m Garcia]: almost.

564

[Robb]: you see each other afterwards and and

I'm in the early the early parts of this they

565

[Robb]: finally met each other and it's an interesting

thing to see because We're physical creatures,

566

[Robb]: but we're really not You know you can

fall in love with

567

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

568

[Robb]: who someone is far before you know their

beauty if That's what you want.

569

[Robb]: And I think that's the point of this

show is that love is blind, and it is, and

570

[Robb]: you can.

571

[Robb]: Yeah.

572

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

573

[Robb]: It is magnetizing, and I believe that

people are magnets for each other. There's

574

[Robb]: something that

575

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, it's

576

[Robb]: keeps

577

[Tina m Garcia]: definitely

578

[Robb]: drawing

579

[Tina m Garcia]: not something

580

[Robb]: you back,

581

[Tina m Garcia]: that I would

582

[Robb]: and

583

[Tina m Garcia]: want

584

[Robb]: in this

585

[Tina m Garcia]: to be

586

[Robb]: case, for this

587

[Tina m Garcia]: stuck

588

[Robb]: particular

589

[Tina m Garcia]: in.

590

[Robb]: guy,

591

[Tina m Garcia]: I would hate to go

592

[Robb]: it

593

[Tina m Garcia]: home

594

[Robb]: is. It keeps

595

[Tina m Garcia]: and feel somebody's

596

[Robb]: just

597

[Tina m Garcia]: hatred towards

598

[Robb]: falling

599

[Tina m Garcia]: me.

600

[Robb]: back around to this. And the third wheel

and him have been around each other for years.

601

[Robb]: Five years ago, this is 15 years ago.

602

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

603

[Robb]: This is something that's been a driving

force. So for me to stay in this relationship

604

[Robb]: that's

605

[Tina m Garcia]: Like

606

[Robb]: dead

607

[Tina m Garcia]: that bothered, for me,

608

[Robb]: and or

609

[Tina m Garcia]: I need a home base

610

[Robb]: holding

611

[Tina m Garcia]: and I need a

612

[Robb]: on

613

[Tina m Garcia]: home base

614

[Robb]: with a

615

[Tina m Garcia]: that

616

[Robb]: string

617

[Tina m Garcia]: I can walk into and be comfortable

618

[Robb]: or holding

619

[Tina m Garcia]: in.

620

[Robb]: on because you

621

[Tina m Garcia]: I couldn't

622

[Robb]: have

623

[Tina m Garcia]: imagine

624

[Robb]: to,

625

[Tina m Garcia]: not having a

626

[Robb]: because

627

[Tina m Garcia]: home

628

[Robb]: you're

629

[Tina m Garcia]: base

630

[Robb]: afraid

631

[Tina m Garcia]: to do

632

[Robb]: of

633

[Tina m Garcia]: that.

634

[Robb]: starting

635

[Tina m Garcia]: Like

636

[Robb]: over.

637

[Tina m Garcia]: to where

638

[Robb]: It's like

639

[Tina m Garcia]: I'm paying for

640

[Robb]: it's

641

[Tina m Garcia]: it,

642

[Robb]: you're

643

[Tina m Garcia]: I'm

644

[Robb]: you're

645

[Tina m Garcia]: maintaining

646

[Robb]: really

647

[Tina m Garcia]: it,

648

[Robb]: just

649

[Tina m Garcia]: I'm doing everything I need

to do,

650

[Robb]: slowly

651

[Tina m Garcia]: and every time

652

[Robb]: choking

653

[Tina m Garcia]: I walk

654

[Robb]: yourself

655

[Tina m Garcia]: in I

656

[Robb]: out.

657

[Tina m Garcia]: want

658

[Robb]: You're

659

[Tina m Garcia]: to walk

660

[Robb]: putting

661

[Tina m Garcia]: right

662

[Robb]: a rope

663

[Tina m Garcia]: back

664

[Robb]: around your

665

[Tina m Garcia]: out.

666

[Robb]: own

667

[Tina m Garcia]: I don't,

668

[Robb]: neck and slowly kicking

669

[Tina m Garcia]: I'd

670

[Robb]: the

671

[Tina m Garcia]: have

672

[Robb]: chair

673

[Tina m Garcia]: a hard

674

[Robb]: out

675

[Tina m Garcia]: time

676

[Robb]: from

677

[Tina m Garcia]: with

678

[Robb]: under

679

[Tina m Garcia]: that

680

[Robb]: you or slipping

681

[Tina m Garcia]: for sure.

682

[Robb]: off of it.

683

[Tina m Garcia]: I definitely need a home base.

684

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm, you do.

685

[Robb]: Yeah, or just feel like you're fighting

for something or you're in something because

686

[Robb]: you just have to be. It's like going

to work

687

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, if for long periods

688

[Robb]: when you

689

[Tina m Garcia]: of

690

[Robb]: hate

691

[Tina m Garcia]: time,

692

[Robb]: your

693

[Tina m Garcia]: that's

694

[Robb]: job.

695

[Tina m Garcia]: for sure.

696

[Robb]: There's nothing like a household that

when you go into it, you feel the tension

697

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

698

[Robb]: every single time.

699

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

700

[Robb]: Yeah.

701

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

702

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

703

[Robb]: I couldn't, look, you have to have a

place of solace. You have to have a place that

704

[Robb]: you can sit down and breathe and you

shouldn't have to be breathing in a room by

705

[Robb]: yourself when you're supposed to be

in a relationship.

706

[Robb]: Eh. Look, one day is one thing. If you're

having a shitty day and you're like, look,

707

[Robb]: I just need some time. I need some time,

time, not

708

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,

709

[Robb]: the rest of

710

[Tina m Garcia]: for

711

[Robb]: the night.

712

[Tina m Garcia]: sure.

713

[Robb]: I need

714

[Tina m Garcia]: Because

715

[Robb]: time,

716

[Tina m Garcia]: you know,

717

[Robb]: that's

718

[Tina m Garcia]: in the

719

[Robb]: okay.

720

[Tina m Garcia]: end,

721

[Robb]: You

722

[Tina m Garcia]: you'll

723

[Robb]: should

724

[Tina m Garcia]: be

725

[Robb]: be able

726

[Tina m Garcia]: happier,

727

[Robb]: to go to your mate

728

[Tina m Garcia]: and

729

[Robb]: and say,

730

[Tina m Garcia]: they'll

731

[Robb]: I need

732

[Tina m Garcia]: be happier.

733

[Robb]: time. And your

734

[Tina m Garcia]: I

735

[Robb]: mate

736

[Tina m Garcia]: see

737

[Robb]: go,

738

[Tina m Garcia]: that in my

739

[Robb]: okay,

740

[Tina m Garcia]: own relationship.

741

[Robb]: whatever that is. But

742

[Tina m Garcia]: I see that

743

[Robb]: you

744

[Tina m Garcia]: we're

745

[Robb]: shouldn't,

746

[Tina m Garcia]: both happier.

747

[Robb]: if it's to me, if you're not in the

same room the next day, there's a bigger problem.

748

[Robb]: And it's a problem that is to me unfixable,

but that's me.

749

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

750

[Robb]: Like you're just, you're teaching each

other that it's over and you're slowly pushing

751

[Robb]: each other away, but you can't do it

because you feel bad for this person

752

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

753

[Robb]: or you have time in with this person

or

754

[Robb]: If you're with somebody 10 years and

you're not happy, get the fuck out of it. It

755

[Robb]: it because you won't because the.

756

[Robb]: Mm-hmm. It's time, to me it's the time

on the backside. So if you put in 10 years

757

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.

758

[Robb]: and you only have 20 to live, you have

to see the balance. If you've been in a relationship

759

[Robb]: for five years,

760

[Tina m Garcia]: I didn't think of it that way.

761

[Robb]: is it, you know, what's on the backside?

If you've only been in it a year,

762

[Robb]: It's you can get out and start over

again. There's, don't dig in on something that

763

[Robb]: you're not sure about. Or like

764

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

765

[Robb]: in this guy's case, you're married.

Is your, what's your plan? Is your

766

[Tina m Garcia]: I think

767

[Robb]: plan

768

[Tina m Garcia]: at

769

[Robb]: to

770

[Tina m Garcia]: 50

771

[Robb]: get out

772

[Tina m Garcia]: though, you start

773

[Robb]: and

774

[Tina m Garcia]: to really

775

[Robb]: be married

776

[Tina m Garcia]: look

777

[Robb]: again?

778

[Tina m Garcia]: at what life

779

[Robb]: If it is,

780

[Tina m Garcia]: is and, and, and your

781

[Robb]: cool,

782

[Tina m Garcia]: value of

783

[Robb]: there

784

[Tina m Garcia]: it

785

[Robb]: you have

786

[Tina m Garcia]: and

787

[Robb]: it.

788

[Tina m Garcia]: what

789

[Robb]: But you

790

[Tina m Garcia]: you,

791

[Robb]: gotta get out.

792

[Tina m Garcia]: you know, what

793

[Robb]: If

794

[Tina m Garcia]: you

795

[Robb]: your

796

[Tina m Garcia]: want

797

[Robb]: plan

798

[Tina m Garcia]: for the rest

799

[Robb]: is

800

[Tina m Garcia]: of it. I think

801

[Robb]: to

802

[Tina m Garcia]: that

803

[Robb]: be

804

[Tina m Garcia]: you're

805

[Robb]: married,

806

[Tina m Garcia]: looking at your mortality.

807

[Robb]: with

808

[Tina m Garcia]: I think even

809

[Robb]: isn't

810

[Tina m Garcia]: at 40.

811

[Robb]: that person?

812

[Tina m Garcia]: So

813

[Robb]: Why

814

[Tina m Garcia]: I think

815

[Robb]: stay?

816

[Tina m Garcia]: we come from a different place

with that. And I think that

817

[Robb]: All you're

818

[Tina m Garcia]: time

819

[Robb]: doing

820

[Tina m Garcia]: is

821

[Robb]: is

822

[Tina m Garcia]: so much more

823

[Robb]: wasting

824

[Tina m Garcia]: precious

825

[Robb]: time

826

[Tina m Garcia]: than we ever

827

[Robb]: for the

828

[Tina m Garcia]: gave

829

[Robb]: next person

830

[Tina m Garcia]: it credit

831

[Robb]: and the person that

832

[Tina m Garcia]: when

833

[Robb]: you're

834

[Tina m Garcia]: we were younger.

835

[Robb]: maybe gonna get married

836

[Tina m Garcia]: And

837

[Robb]: to. That's

838

[Tina m Garcia]: I get

839

[Robb]: the

840

[Tina m Garcia]: you

841

[Robb]: whole

842

[Tina m Garcia]: like

843

[Robb]: point.

844

[Tina m Garcia]: there's no,

845

[Robb]: And

846

[Tina m Garcia]: there's no reason to

847

[Robb]: it's

848

[Tina m Garcia]: not

849

[Robb]: time

850

[Tina m Garcia]: be happy.

851

[Robb]: in and time out. If

852

[Tina m Garcia]: our day and age.

853

[Robb]: you,

854

[Tina m Garcia]: Like

855

[Robb]: it doesn't matter how long you've been

there.

856

[Tina m Garcia]: we've done

857

[Robb]: One year,

858

[Tina m Garcia]: what

859

[Robb]: five

860

[Tina m Garcia]: we've

861

[Robb]: years,

862

[Tina m Garcia]: needed

863

[Robb]: 10

864

[Tina m Garcia]: to do

865

[Robb]: years,

866

[Tina m Garcia]: to

867

[Robb]: 20.

868

[Tina m Garcia]: get to the places. Enough

869

[Robb]: At the end

870

[Tina m Garcia]: hurt

871

[Robb]: of

872

[Tina m Garcia]: in

873

[Robb]: that,

874

[Tina m Garcia]: our lives

875

[Robb]: it's

876

[Tina m Garcia]: that we know

877

[Robb]: what's

878

[Tina m Garcia]: we make

879

[Robb]: on the

880

[Tina m Garcia]: our

881

[Robb]: backside

882

[Tina m Garcia]: own bed.

883

[Robb]: of those years.

884

[Tina m Garcia]: So we just

885

[Robb]: The backside

886

[Tina m Garcia]: kind

887

[Robb]: of those

888

[Tina m Garcia]: of suck

889

[Robb]: years

890

[Tina m Garcia]: it up

891

[Robb]: for

892

[Tina m Garcia]: and

893

[Robb]: this

894

[Tina m Garcia]: go

895

[Robb]: person

896

[Tina m Garcia]: with it.

897

[Robb]: is

898

[Tina m Garcia]: But at the

899

[Robb]: now.

900

[Tina m Garcia]: same time,

901

[Robb]: They're going to be 50

902

[Tina m Garcia]: pursuing

903

[Robb]: years old.

904

[Tina m Garcia]: happiness

905

[Robb]: age.

906

[Tina m Garcia]: isn't

907

[Robb]: So

908

[Tina m Garcia]: something

909

[Robb]: what the

910

[Tina m Garcia]: that

911

[Robb]: fuck?

912

[Tina m Garcia]: you should just let go of.

913

[Robb]: You have to look for a real future.

If this person

914

[Robb]: Sure.

915

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

916

[Robb]: Mm-hmm, agree.

917

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

918

[Tina m Garcia]: being unhappy.

919

[Robb]: Correct. I'm going to read something.

I'm going to read a meme that came up and I'm

920

[Robb]: kind of a sappy guy. So I like to keep

things and just, and I keep them now for the

921

[Robb]: show because

922

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,

923

[Robb]: I think that there

924

[Tina m Garcia]: and

925

[Robb]: we can

926

[Tina m Garcia]: what

927

[Robb]: bring up some

928

[Tina m Garcia]: makes

929

[Robb]: relevant

930

[Tina m Garcia]: your

931

[Robb]: points.

932

[Tina m Garcia]: value so low

933

[Robb]: This is what

934

[Tina m Garcia]: that

935

[Robb]: this

936

[Tina m Garcia]: you

937

[Robb]: meme

938

[Tina m Garcia]: think

939

[Robb]: says.

940

[Tina m Garcia]: it's

941

[Robb]: It says,

942

[Tina m Garcia]: okay to stay?

943

[Robb]: you've stayed

944

[Tina m Garcia]: Like what made

945

[Robb]: too

946

[Tina m Garcia]: you

947

[Robb]: long

948

[Tina m Garcia]: feel that way?

949

[Robb]: in a relationship that

950

[Tina m Garcia]: Because

951

[Robb]: isn't making

952

[Tina m Garcia]: there's

953

[Robb]: you

954

[Tina m Garcia]: some

955

[Robb]: happy.

956

[Tina m Garcia]: definite,

957

[Robb]: You've

958

[Tina m Garcia]: you know,

959

[Robb]: lost

960

[Tina m Garcia]: you

961

[Robb]: the

962

[Tina m Garcia]: have

963

[Robb]: essence

964

[Tina m Garcia]: to love yourself enough

965

[Robb]: of

966

[Tina m Garcia]: to

967

[Robb]: what

968

[Tina m Garcia]: make changes

969

[Robb]: love is supposed to feel

970

[Tina m Garcia]: when

971

[Robb]: like.

972

[Tina m Garcia]: life is not, when it's disrespectful,

when things are not right. You

973

[Robb]: You've

974

[Tina m Garcia]: know,

975

[Robb]: lost your worth trying

976

[Tina m Garcia]: you have to

977

[Robb]: to

978

[Tina m Garcia]: draw

979

[Robb]: bend

980

[Tina m Garcia]: a line.

981

[Robb]: over backwards to please

982

[Tina m Garcia]: And

983

[Robb]: someone who isn't appreciating everything

984

[Tina m Garcia]: why is

985

[Robb]: you

986

[Tina m Garcia]: your

987

[Robb]: do.

988

[Tina m Garcia]: bar so low?

989

[Robb]: How much more time

990

[Tina m Garcia]: That's what

991

[Robb]: are

992

[Tina m Garcia]: I

993

[Robb]: you

994

[Tina m Garcia]: always

995

[Robb]: going

996

[Tina m Garcia]: wonder.

997

[Robb]: to waste

998

[Tina m Garcia]: This is your bar solo.

999

[Robb]: trying to be happy? The, I think that's

the whole point. That last line for when you're

1000

[Robb]: in something

1001

[Tina m Garcia]: You

1002

[Robb]: that

1003

[Tina m Garcia]: served your sentence.

1004

[Robb]: you either

1005

[Tina m Garcia]: Get

1006

[Robb]: are

1007

[Tina m Garcia]: out.

1008

[Robb]: questioning

1009

[Tina m Garcia]: What?

1010

[Robb]: or you know are done. How much more

time are you going to waste being happy? Or

1011

[Robb]: trying to be happy? Or trying to, yeah.

How much more are you gonna, how much more

1012

[Robb]: time are you gonna waste trying to be

happy? It's, and this person is wasting time.

1013

[Robb]: He's in something that's never going

to be repaired. It's not. He...

1014

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. Well, and and what

is she thinking too? Like

1015

[Robb]: For sure.

1016

[Tina m Garcia]: if you've had if you've cheated

with multiple partners You know, why would

1017

[Tina m Garcia]: you want to mate like that?

Why would you want to make like that? I mean,

1018

[Tina m Garcia]: if it's an open relationship,

1019

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

1020

[Tina m Garcia]: like that's one thing. If there's,

you know, some communication that's, that's

1021

[Tina m Garcia]: who am I to say anything? But

1022

[Robb]: Yeah.

1023

[Tina m Garcia]: why would you want to be with

somebody that

1024

[Robb]: And

1025

[Tina m Garcia]: disrespects

1026

[Robb]: I think in his case,

1027

[Tina m Garcia]: you on that

1028

[Robb]: he's,

1029

[Tina m Garcia]: level and doesn't love

1030

[Robb]: he's

1031

[Tina m Garcia]: you

1032

[Robb]: looking

1033

[Tina m Garcia]: enough to,

1034

[Robb]: more at

1035

[Tina m Garcia]: to

1036

[Robb]: time

1037

[Tina m Garcia]: bring that all

1038

[Robb]: than

1039

[Tina m Garcia]: to

1040

[Robb]: he

1041

[Tina m Garcia]: you?

1042

[Robb]: is love. He's like, I've put in these

years, I've done this.

1043

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm, and if and if he needs

all that and he's

1044

[Robb]: I've

1045

[Tina m Garcia]: coming

1046

[Robb]: done. Yeah.

1047

[Tina m Garcia]: to you

1048

[Robb]: I mean,

1049

[Tina m Garcia]: and you're not giving

1050

[Robb]: and I,

1051

[Tina m Garcia]: it to

1052

[Robb]: and I,

1053

[Tina m Garcia]: him You have

1054

[Robb]: and

1055

[Tina m Garcia]: to

1056

[Robb]: I

1057

[Tina m Garcia]: look

1058

[Robb]: don't

1059

[Tina m Garcia]: at

1060

[Robb]: look

1061

[Tina m Garcia]: your

1062

[Robb]: at

1063

[Tina m Garcia]: part

1064

[Robb]: love

1065

[Tina m Garcia]: in

1066

[Robb]: that

1067

[Tina m Garcia]: it,

1068

[Robb]: way.

1069

[Tina m Garcia]: too

1070

[Robb]: I don't look at love as a sentence,

like, but, but it's definitely people look

1071

[Robb]: at time and say,

1072

[Robb]: If I just wait another six months, six

more months and I can, and he'll change or

1073

[Robb]: she'll change, they're not changing.

These are the people who they are.

1074

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm.

1075

[Robb]: Tigers and stripes, those are the things.

And in his case, she's not.

1076

[Tina m Garcia]: I think you'd really have to

be stupid not to trust or to trust that because

1077

[Tina m Garcia]: like you said a leopard shows

his spots like they're there.

1078

[Robb]: Yeah. I mean, well, and. That's different.

B-

1079

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, well, if if there was

a lot of respect in and if there was a lot

1080

[Tina m Garcia]: of respect and love, if the

person truly

1081

[Robb]: Yeah.

1082

[Tina m Garcia]: loved the other person,

1083

[Robb]: Or doesn't respect

1084

[Tina m Garcia]: and

1085

[Robb]: you enough

1086

[Tina m Garcia]: and

1087

[Robb]: to get out.

1088

[Tina m Garcia]: which that that was enough

1089

[Robb]: It

1090

[Tina m Garcia]: and they were really good with

each other and they had that that I don't know

1091

[Tina m Garcia]: what the word is like

1092

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

1093

[Tina m Garcia]: unconditional love,

1094

[Robb]: Well, it's like

1095

[Tina m Garcia]: I

1096

[Robb]: this

1097

[Tina m Garcia]: can

1098

[Robb]: too.

1099

[Tina m Garcia]: see that

1100

[Robb]: I'll

1101

[Tina m Garcia]: it could happen.

1102

[Robb]: give you the example

1103

[Tina m Garcia]: And especially

1104

[Robb]: and then here's the

1105

[Tina m Garcia]: like,

1106

[Robb]: the craziness out of

1107

[Tina m Garcia]: you

1108

[Robb]: that

1109

[Tina m Garcia]: know, all

1110

[Robb]: relationship

1111

[Tina m Garcia]: of us are getting older. Like

everything changes

1112

[Robb]: And again,

1113

[Tina m Garcia]: nobody's

1114

[Robb]: this is kind

1115

[Tina m Garcia]: chasing

1116

[Robb]: of

1117

[Tina m Garcia]: ass

1118

[Robb]: a two-way

1119

[Tina m Garcia]: like they

1120

[Robb]: street.

1121

[Tina m Garcia]: did in their

1122

[Robb]: It's

1123

[Tina m Garcia]: 20s.

1124

[Robb]: weird.

1125

[Tina m Garcia]: Let's

1126

[Robb]: So

1127

[Tina m Garcia]: be

1128

[Robb]: let's

1129

[Tina m Garcia]: honest

1130

[Robb]: say

1131

[Tina m Garcia]: with that

1132

[Robb]: you're

1133

[Tina m Garcia]: It's just

1134

[Robb]: the third

1135

[Tina m Garcia]: not the

1136

[Robb]: person

1137

[Tina m Garcia]: same.

1138

[Robb]: in that.

1139

[Tina m Garcia]: It's not the same

1140

[Robb]: And obviously

1141

[Tina m Garcia]: but

1142

[Robb]: he's cheating on

1143

[Tina m Garcia]: but

1144

[Robb]: his wife,

1145

[Tina m Garcia]: could you you would have to

1146

[Robb]: or she's

1147

[Tina m Garcia]: trust in order

1148

[Robb]: cheating

1149

[Tina m Garcia]: for it to

1150

[Robb]: on

1151

[Tina m Garcia]: work,

1152

[Robb]: her husband,

1153

[Tina m Garcia]: but

1154

[Robb]: one of the two.

1155

[Tina m Garcia]: I Think everybody would be

1156

[Robb]: Would

1157

[Tina m Garcia]: lying

1158

[Robb]: you

1159

[Tina m Garcia]: to

1160

[Robb]: trust

1161

[Tina m Garcia]: themselves

1162

[Robb]: that person not to

1163

[Tina m Garcia]: if

1164

[Robb]: cheat

1165

[Tina m Garcia]: they

1166

[Robb]: on

1167

[Tina m Garcia]: said

1168

[Robb]: you?

1169

[Tina m Garcia]: oh, yeah hundred percent. He

could stay faithful to me

1170

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

1171

[Robb]: I agree,

1172

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.

1173

[Robb]: but I also try to think of the reasons

and maybe that I just try to look at people

1174

[Robb]: as flawed because we're flawed. If I

was in that situation, I would

1175

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm

1176

[Robb]: probably...

1177

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm, for sure.

1178

[Robb]: Yeah.

1179

[Tina m Garcia]: Listen, you can't live your

life doing that anyway. It's just not, it's

1180

[Tina m Garcia]: not smart, you know? And then

you're driving

1181

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

1182

[Tina m Garcia]: yourself crazy because you

can't trust the person that you're with. You

1183

[Tina m Garcia]: don't wanna do that. You totally

don't wanna do that. So, I mean, it's stuff

1184

[Tina m Garcia]: to think about before you even

1185

[Robb]: Mm-hmm.

1186

[Tina m Garcia]: get with the person. Because

like you said, once feelings are involved,

1187

[Tina m Garcia]: like it makes it a lot more

hard. You know, it's a lot more difficult.

1188

[Robb]: Yeah,

1189

[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,

1190

[Robb]: I mean,

1191

[Tina m Garcia]: so

1192

[Robb]: look,

1193

[Tina m Garcia]: you

1194

[Robb]: but see, here's my thing.

1195

[Tina m Garcia]: gotta,

1196

[Robb]: I think that

1197

[Tina m Garcia]: yourself too. What

1198

[Robb]: there's

1199

[Tina m Garcia]: can you

1200

[Robb]: always

1201

[Tina m Garcia]: handle?

1202

[Robb]: that

1203

[Tina m Garcia]: What should

1204

[Robb]: if,

1205

[Tina m Garcia]: you handle?

1206

[Robb]: no matter who you

1207

[Tina m Garcia]: You

1208

[Robb]: are.

1209

[Tina m Garcia]: know, there's so many things

to

1210

[Robb]: I'm just a believer

1211

[Tina m Garcia]: check

1212

[Robb]: in

1213

[Tina m Garcia]: in

1214

[Robb]: things

1215

[Tina m Garcia]: with

1216

[Robb]: of like, there's

1217

[Tina m Garcia]: and

1218

[Robb]: reasons

1219

[Tina m Garcia]: you got to

1220

[Robb]: things

1221

[Tina m Garcia]: be

1222

[Robb]: happen.

1223

[Tina m Garcia]: a little bit stupid. You really

do. Because if you're gonna

1224

[Robb]: And it

1225

[Tina m Garcia]: trust

1226

[Robb]: matters

1227

[Tina m Garcia]: somebody who's

1228

[Robb]: how

1229

[Tina m Garcia]: gone

1230

[Robb]: the

1231

[Tina m Garcia]: through

1232

[Robb]: relationship

1233

[Tina m Garcia]: that for that

1234

[Robb]: ended

1235

[Tina m Garcia]: time, like

1236

[Robb]: and

1237

[Tina m Garcia]: come

1238

[Robb]: why,

1239

[Tina m Garcia]: on, you gotta be

1240

[Robb]: and

1241

[Tina m Garcia]: a

1242

[Robb]: why

1243

[Tina m Garcia]: little

1244

[Robb]: they were

1245

[Tina m Garcia]: bit

1246

[Robb]: cheating

1247

[Tina m Garcia]: stupid.

1248

[Robb]: in the first place.

1249

[Tina m Garcia]: Just a little.

1250

[Robb]: There's a lot of variables, I understand.

But I'm also a believer that if you're

1251

[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm,

1252

[Robb]: gonna cheat, you're gonna do it at the

supermarket.

1253

[Tina m Garcia]: for sure.

1254

[Robb]: So you either love someone or you don't.

And if you don't have the wear and thaw to

1255

[Robb]: go, okay, I love this person unconditionally,

if they're going to cheat, they're gonna cheat,

1256

[Robb]: but I'm not going to be fucking questioning

1257

[Tina m Garcia]: Yep.

1258

[Robb]: every single thing they do.

1259

[Robb]: You

1260

[Tina m Garcia]: Yes

1261

[Robb]: can't.

1262

[Tina m Garcia]: it does.

1263

[Robb]: Mm-mm.

1264

[Tina m Garcia]: Well, also you got to think

too is when you decide to get married, there's

1265

[Tina m Garcia]: that that vow that says for

better or for worse.

1266

[Robb]: Oh, tremendously

1267

[Tina m Garcia]: So

1268

[Robb]: hard.

1269

[Tina m Garcia]: I think that that that

1270

[Robb]: So.

1271

[Tina m Garcia]: that one little verse or that

one little line in it changes things it makes

1272

[Tina m Garcia]: people

1273

[Robb]: Sure.

1274

[Tina m Garcia]: feel the weight of what they

promised and that they

1275

[Robb]: Yeah, like I said before.