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The Millionaire's Mindset: 7 Pillars That Transformed a Life of Loss into Abundance
Episode 716th July 2024 • LaQuita’s Toolbox • LaQuita Monley
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What if you could transform every area of your life through 7 pillars that enable you to achieve true balance, beauty, and abundance?

Rebecca Whitman intimately shares her incredible personal journey of evolving from childhood acting dreams to leading sold-out retreats empowering women globally.

We trace Rebecca's surprising shift from pursuing fame on iconic shows to discovering greater passion teaching performing arts to children. She reveals how embracing spiritual teachings radically transformed her world, equipping her to overcome a painful divorce and her father's death to become a self-made millionaire. From tragedy arose mission – to codify the 7 lifestyle pillars that had changed everything for her into a book and a movement.

Tune in to explore:

  • Rebecca's unique 7 pillars framework for achieving fulfillment in relationships, wellness, spirituality, finance and more
  • How to keep perspective during life’s ups and downs
  • Why shifting from scarcity to abundance thinking is crucial
  • A step-by-step process to call in your soulmate after heartbreak
  • The freedom multiple streams of income can create

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Welcome back to another amazing episode of

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Laquita's Toolbox. I am your host, Laquita

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Mandley, and I am having a fantastic day

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today and I hope and pray that you guys

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those of you that are returning, you know

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the drill. Get something to write with and

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something to write on because I have an

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absolutely amazing guest in the studio

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with us today. None other than Miss

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Rebecca Whitman. Now, she is an

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entrepreneur of entrepreneurs. She is the

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definition of serial entrepreneurs.

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Ladies, so you don't want to miss this. If

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you're in your car, keep listening.

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Remember, it's a podcast, so when you get

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somewhere stable, hit that replay button

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so you can make sure that you get all of

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the gems that she's going to release on

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today. But before we bring her up, let me

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Rebecca, welcome, welcome. Welcome to the

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toolbox. Thank you so much, Lakita, for

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having me on your show. I'm so happy to be

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here. I am so excited to have you here. I

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love having genuine conversations with

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amazing women who are doing phenomenal

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things because when we get to share a

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piece of our story and our journey, at

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least for me, that's how I receive and how

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I learn best. And I'm all about having the

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right tools in my toolbox. Absolutely

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wonderful. So, Miss Rebecca, I know a

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little bit about some of the amazing

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things that you've done, but please take a

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moment and introduce yourself to the

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toolbox audience. Yeah. So I am so

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surprised and delighted that I was rated

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top five entrepreneurs to watch in USA

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Today. It was never my intention to be a

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top rated entrepreneur. I moved to LA 23

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years ago to pursue my childhood dream of

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being an actress. And although I had small

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parts on big shows like friends, CSI, and

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24. I never caught that big break. And I

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found myself working in the children's

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acting school business. It was really fun

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for me because I don't have kids of my own

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and I love their performing arts. And

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while the kids were off at school, I would

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study with great spiritual teachers and

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attend their lectures. People like Michael

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Beckwith, Abraham Hicks, Louise Hay,

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Marian Williamson, Wayne Dyer. I and I

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started applying their teachings to my

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life, and I started to see my life

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transform. I began making six figures

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working part time in the kids acting

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school business. I got healthier. But the

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one area that really challenged me and

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broke my heart too many times to count was

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my love life. I had the habit of picking

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emotionally unavailable, narcissistic

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Mendez, and I tried to change one by

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marrying him. And we all know how that

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works out. He did not change. And three

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years after marriage, I filed for divorce.

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And as my marriage was painfully and

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slowly unraveling, my dad was painfully

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and slowly dying. And in one of my last

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conversations with my dad, he asked me to

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write a book. A few months later, my dad

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had passed away, my marriage had been

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dissolved, and I was sitting across the

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desk from for my financial planner, and he

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said, Rebecca, I know you lost your dad in

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your marriage, but I'm shocked to inform

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you that you are a self made millionaire

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and you're having your best financial year

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ever while you're going under, while

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you're under loss and tragedy. And I think

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you should write a book and teach women

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how to be so resilient. So I wrote a book.

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It's called how to make a six figure

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income working part time. And in the book,

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I divide life into seven key areas, which

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I call my seven pillars of abundance. And

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when your life is lined, aligned in these

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seven key areas, you can be, do, or have

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anything you want. Now, I empower women to

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go from burned out to balance, beautiful

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and abundant. I coach women one on one,

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group coaching. And I'm leading my second

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international retreat this year in Belize.

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And I also have a hit podcast that you're

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going to be on called the Balance

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Beautiful and abundant show. That is so

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awesome. I've got so many great questions

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I want to ask, but before we get started,

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let me take a moment to. Let me take a

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pause. I can't get my words together,

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y'all let me take a pause for a small

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commercial break and we'll be right back.

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All right, that's enough for them to

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insert that there. And welcome back to

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Laquita's toolbox, you guys. We have the

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amazing Miss Rebecca Whitman with us in

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the office and in the studio. Excuse me.

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And if you've missed the first half of

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this podcast, go ahead and hit that rewind

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button now so that you can be empowered.

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Simply by her intro, ladies. Simply by her

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intro. I mean, you were going through some

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stuff, sis. Like you were going through

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some stuff, only to be told that, wow. In

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the midst of what had to be one of the

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most traumatic times in your life, you've

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suffered loss after loss. The loss of your

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father, the loss of your marriage, to be

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told by your financial advisor, yet you

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lost, but you won. You're having the best

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financial year. And then out of that loss

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of your father, you kept a promise and

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wrote a book. Yes. That was also advised

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to you then as well by others. Hey, you

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should write a book about how you were

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able to do this despite your circumstances

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and situations and, and that. And out of

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that, we have the, um, the. You've created

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the seven pillars of abundance. So can you

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talk to us, please talk to us more about

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those seven pillars of abundance because

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how did you do that in the midst of all of

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that? How did you not just. I'm not like,

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becoming a self made millionaire is

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nothing to, like, downplay, but I'm

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thinking of myself. I don't even know how

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I would have made it to work, much less

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earn money. That the money can make money

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for me. Yes. And do that in that time. So

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talk to us more, please, about those seven

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pillars of abundance. The seven pillars of

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abundance are the seven key areas of life.

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And even though I had a lot of pain in my

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love life and with watching my dad

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decline, I was really aware to keep all

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the other areas of my life at a level ten.

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So the seven pillars are in order of

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importance. The first one is spirituality.

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I am a huge believer in having a morning

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ritual, and journaling has been such a

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crucial part of my connection to my higher

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power, which I choose to call God. And

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every morning I journal. I met a woman 30

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years ago at a twelve step meeting, and

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she gave me a few life changing journal

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prompts that I've been writing every

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morning for 30 years. I added a few of my

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own and it has helped turn my negative

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situations to learning experiences. Be

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aware of my wins, celebrate others wins.

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And with your permission, Lakita, I'd love

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to gift your audience with this abundance

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journal because it's been the number one

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tool to keep me positive and connected to

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the divine. Is that okay with you? That is

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absolutely okay with me. Such a great

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gift, guys, listen, y'all need to get this

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episode out to as many people as possible,

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because that journal, 30 years of use, 30

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years of applying these print, applying

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these principles have been a blessing in

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every aspect of her life. So principles

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work. So let's work these principles. I

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need a journal. Awesome. The second area

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of abundance is physical. So I'm a huge

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believer in putting your body before your

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business. I believe in working out, moving

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your body every single morning. The third

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pillar of abundance is emotional. And all

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emotions come from a base emotion of fear

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or love, or you could say of scarcity or

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abundance. So, thinking there's not enough

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of whatever it is that you want, not

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enough time, not enough money, not enough

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love, not enough energy. That is scarcity

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thinking. The goal is to flip it into

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abundance. I have more than enough time. I

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have more than enough love, more than

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enough energy, more than enough money to

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be happy. So it is a discipline that you

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want to be aware of when you're in

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scarcity. And there's two ways to switch

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into abundance. One is through

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affirmations. I am a huge believer in

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affirmations. After every chapter in this

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book, you get three customized

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affirmations for each pillar of abundance.

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For example, I am a spiritual being having

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a human experience. I have a connection to

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the divine that gives me peace and ease,

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and I am able to go with the flow, knowing

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that everything works out for me. So those

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are three affirmations. Then, after

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emotion is romance. I encourage my clients

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to walk away from relationships that no

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longer serve their highest good, to walk

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away from toxic relationships because the

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romance affects all the other areas of

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your life. And I teach women how to

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manifest their soulmate in midlife. I'm

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now happily married to my soulmate for two

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years, and I teach women how to manifest

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their soulmate in midlife in seven simple

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steps. We'll have to save those for

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another episode. The next area. Oh, yeah,

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that's a hot topic. Yep. The next area of

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abundance after romantic is a mental. And

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that is what you guys are all doing right

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here, right now, listening to the awesome

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show Lakita's toolbox. You are working on

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your mental growing your mind, working on

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that growth mindset. It could be listening

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to a podcast, an audible, a YouTube, or

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learning a new skill like cooking a new

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recipe or learning a new sport. Even

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travel helps grow our mindset. The next

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area is social, and we are in an epidemic

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of loneliness, suicide, depression. People

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are hiding out at home behind their

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technology, and they're not connecting

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enough. So now that the world is opened

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up, I am a big believer in going to live

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events, go to classes, go to church, go to

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temple, go to a dog park, wherever the

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coffee shop, meet people, go out into the

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world and connect. Your community helps

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your immunity. And it's, you know, during

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that hard year when I was losing my dad in

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my marriage, it was women in my community

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that carried me through. Yes. Finally, the

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7th pillar of abundance is financial. And

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I am a huge believer in having multiple

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streams of income. One of my programs is

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teaching women to create a six figure side

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hustle and I believe in multiple streams

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of income. Most coaches say quit your job,

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max out your credit cards. You have to put

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a all your cards on the table. But that

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causes a lot of anxiety, especially for

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women. So I say keep your job, get your

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health insurance and your bills paid, and

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then create a side hustle where we can

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turn your passion into profit. And that is

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an overview of my seven pillar framework.

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That is amazing. I mean, we can pick that.

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I could pick each one of those and that's

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just an episode all by itself. But, you

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know, the thing that I noticed most there

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is this. You say the 7th pillar as

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finance. We can look at that as that's the

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biggest foundation and everything goes up

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from there. But from where I'm sitting, in

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my perspective, if the way I see it is the

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order of importance that you laid them

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out, at least for me personally, I don't

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know how you, the viewers are going to

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review it, but for me personally, if I get

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those first six working synergistically

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together, then it keeps me in a space

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mentally, emotionally, spiritually, that I

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have the energy required to do number

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seven. Yeah. So most people, most people,

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Lakita, think abundance means money and

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they put all their effort and energy into

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making money. They think I'll just focus

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on making money. I'll finally have enough

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money to hire a trainer and get in shape.

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Then I'll look really good, I'll attract

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my soulmate, we'll go on spiritual

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retreats and we'll socialize with other

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couples and then I'll be happy. But you're

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exactly correct, Lakita. It is the last

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piece of the puzzle and they are in order

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of importance. So when you have a strong

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relationship with spirituality, when

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you're healthy, when you're happy, when

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you're in love, when you have friends,

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when you're working on your growth

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mindset, that is when financial abundance

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comes in. It is actually, in my

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experience, the last piece of the puzzle

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to click. Into place, into place, you

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know? And I said that per my own

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experience, it's like, I've been married

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a. Long time, and I have how many years

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and how many children? We've just

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celebrated 27 years of marriage and five

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children. Congratulations. That's

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inspiring to me. Thank you. Thank you.

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It's some hard work, but when, when you

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were laying out those seven pillars, I

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had, like, a mental road trip in my mind

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of things from when we were younger and

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first married into where we are now. And

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we put so much energy into earning the

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money. My husband's climbing the ladder in

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the military. I'm trying to figure out

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what I want to do to earn money in a way

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that we could afford daycare because we

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have so many children, working outside the

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home became difficult. And so I finally

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figured out the route to establishing an

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in home daycare as my way of still being

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able to be 100% present for my kids. But I

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needed to earn money because it made me

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feel good, like I was contributing, but we

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needed it. Let's flat out needed it. And

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we were so busy grinding that the other

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pillars you were talking about, we didn't

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pay a lot of attention to them. And it was

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really what you said, we've got to make

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this money, because we often have more

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month than money, or we need to know so

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many things we want our children to do and

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all of these things. And it wasn't until

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2010, and we were married in 98, it wasn't

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until 2010 we moved out of the country to

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the UK. And the first three months we

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lived in the UK, we were very angry

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because no one was in a hurry. It was the

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mindset. The mindset was different. And

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one day, my husband and I were at a coffee

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shop having a conversation, and it just

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dawned on us, like, why are we in a hurry?

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Why are we always, you know, all of the

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negative things, like, why are we always

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chasing this, chasing that? Why aren't we

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putting ourselves first? Putting ourselves

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first, you know, doing the. Doing the

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exercise, spending the time with each

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other, spending the time with the kids,

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you know, growing spiritually, growing

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personally, looking at our own personal

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development, all of these things, it took

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us leaving the country to have, and it.

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The first 90 days outside of the country,

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we weren't happy about it, but when it

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clicked and we started working on the

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things that matter, the money came. I was

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like, if one day we woke up and realized,

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oh, we're not struggling. When did that

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happen? Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like when

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you just chase money, it's like chasing

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the butterfly. It flies away. But if you

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just find a way to sit still and feel

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centered, the butterfly might just fly in,

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you know, graze your shoulder or sit on

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your shoulder. And when you're in survival

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mode, it's like, well, if I don't work,

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then I'm not going to get paid. But you

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can also get really sick if you don't take

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care of your health. And if you don't take

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care of your emotions, you can actually

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get so sick that you miss out on way more

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work than if you just would have taken

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that, you know, 30 minutes to walk every

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day or, you know, just spent an extra ten

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minutes in the kitchen cooking rather than

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doing a microwave meal to get a little

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healthier. So it. It really is true that

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if you want to stay abundant and balanced,

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beautiful, like the. My slogan says,

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balance, beautiful and abundant, you want

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to take time, and there's different

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seasons. You know, if you have five kids

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under 18, obviously you're not going to

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have as much time to socialize with your

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girlfriends because your priority is your

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family. But just know that, you know,

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maybe you can socialize with your friends,

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like, once a month and have, like, a

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coffee or a lunch or a walk with a

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girlfriend, just. Just knowing that these

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seven key areas of life are there and that

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you want to touch all of them when you're

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living your life. You're absolutely

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correct. I'm just. Had I read this book,

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had this book been available when I was

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old, maybe about 25, things would have

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been a lot different, because, yes, you

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know, whether you have the big families

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like we did, or whatever the case may be,

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I found that the Lord designed us mind,

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body, and spirit, and we have to take care

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of that. And when we take care of

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ourselves in that way, literally

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everything else is taken care of. When we

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take care of ourselves in that way,

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everything else is taken care of. And it

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took us a long time to figure that out

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when we took care of ourselves

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individually. And it was scary for me as a

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parent, and I know a lot of women will

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attest to this. How can I not put my

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children first? Or even married women? How

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can I not put my husband first? Well,

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here's the deal, sis. If you don't put you

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first, you have nothing to give them. You

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will eventually run out, and then you'll

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be upset because nobody is giving to you.

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But you've trained everybody around you to

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take and not give. And I had to get over

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that. Like, I had to go through therapy to

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process that. Like, what are. What is

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happening here? And not be angry all the

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time. But your seven pillars are. I mean,

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I don't want to say revolutionary. Cause

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it's practical, right? But it

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revolutionary. It makes you stop and think

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and do the simple things, because we can

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have time for simple things like putting

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ourselves first. But what are we willing

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to sacrifice and recognize that we need to

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get rid of in order to be able to put

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ourselves first and know that that's not

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selfish is necessary. And it's life giving

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to me, because if I can't give it to me, I

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don't have anything to give to the people

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who I'm killing myself to give stuff to.

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That's right. I like to say that self care

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is not selfish, because the worst thing

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you could call a woman is selfish. Women

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are taught to nurture and give to everyone

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else first and put themselves last. But if

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a woman is coming from depletion and

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burnout, she's not going to be a good mom.

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She's not going to be a good wife. She's

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not going to be a joyful, cheerful giver.

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She's going to be a resentful giver and a

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tired giver. And when you are burned out,

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you're not of maximum service to God and

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to your fellows. So we want to give from a

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full cup. Pour into yourself first with

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all seven pillars. With having a morning

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practice of prayer, journaling,

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meditation, with exercise, with keeping

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your emotions and abundance and love, not

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letting yourself drop down to fear and

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scarcity. Socialize, have fun, have that

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date night, do all that stuff. And then

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you can show up and be a better mom and be

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a better boss, be a better employee,

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sister, a daughter. When you are. When

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you're full. When you're full of joy. Yes,

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yes, yes, yes. And more yeses on top of

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that. Ladies, I hope you've been

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listening. I hope you have been listening.

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And this is one of those episodes where

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you. You kind of gotta listen to it once

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or twice a and then come back and take

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some notes on it. It has to. You have to

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roll this over in your spirit. You have to

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think on this and meditate on it, because

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some of you may be saying liquid. And

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Rebecca, y'all make it sound so easy,

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because honestly, it is. We make it hard

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by carrying a burden that we were never

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designed to carry. Like all of these

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things that the world has said or culture

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has said that we have to be. It's not

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true. And as Rebecca said, self care and

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putting yourself first is not selfish. At

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all. But it is what will make you one of

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the tools that you need in your toolbox to

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help you become the best version of

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yourself at any given moment. Miss

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Rebecca, I've definitely been enjoying

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this conversation, but before we wrap it

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up, and I hate to wrap it up, I'm inviting

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you back to another amazing episode of

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Laquita's toolbox because I really want to

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take some time and unpack maybe one or two

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of your pillars and talk more about some

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of the programs that you have and making

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sure that the Laquita's toolbox audience

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knows when and how to connect with you.

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So, please, before we wrap up, leave us

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one more tool and let us know how to

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connect with you and what you have coming

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up. Thank you. I will leave you with one

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more tool, and that is keeping your mind

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in the present. When you think about the

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past, it's usually depression or regret. I

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am a recovering perfectionist, so it's

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like using the words could have, would

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have, and should have are ways that I used

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to beat myself up. Take would have, could

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have, and should have out of your

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vocabulary. The past, it's over. It's

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done. It all happened the way it was

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supposed to. And your divine design by

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God. Stop second guessing yourself in the

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past. The future is anxiety. Oh, my God.

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How am I going to pay my bills? How am I

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going to take care of my kids? What's

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going to happen? What's going to happen in

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the world? You know, there's wars, there's

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an election. There's all kinds of stuff to

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worry about in the future. We could be an

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anxiety sting way out ahead of ourselves,

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catastrophizing. I am going to leave you

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with the tool of staying in the present

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moment. Now, how do you get into the

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present moment? You use your five senses.

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What am I seeing? What am I smelling? What

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am I tasting? What am I touching? What am

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I listening to? And you get grounded in

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your five senses. And if you're still in

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your head, by the way, if you're in your

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head, you're dead. But if you still can't

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get into the senses and into your body,

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then just do the next right thing. If you

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are in overwhelm, do the next indicated

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action. Ask God. I can tell that you guys

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speak about God on this show. Jesus. What

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is my next indicated action? Guide my

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feet. Guide my feet. Your head can be

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spinning. Guide my feet. What is my next

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right step? And then you will be amazed if

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you keep asking for guidance. We're in the

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next right step and the next right step

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and the next right step. Before you know

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it, your day will be over and you will

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have had a peaceful day. And that is the

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goal. To live a life of peace, ease, and

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spiritual dignity. I love that peace,

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ease, and spiritual dignity. You should

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write a book on that. I love that peace,

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ease and spiritual dignity. Love it, love

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it, love it. Listen, Miss Rebecca, it has

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been my pleasure, and again, we're going

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to have you on again real soon so we can

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talk more about the seven pillars of

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abundance and stay connected with you.

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Because I am a firm believer in having the

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right tools in your toolbox. And not just

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having them, but knowing how to use them

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and easily implement them so they can go

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and become a part of who you are to create

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the change you need to be need to have in

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order to become the best version of

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yourself. Thank you again. Thank you to

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those that are tuned into this episode of

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Laquita's Toolbox. We appreciate you and

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love you. Thank you so much for that

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support. Please hit that like share and

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subscribe button on your favorite podcast

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listening platforms. Don't forget to ring

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be notified when we release new episodes

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of Laquita's Toolbox. Until next time, I

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am your host, Laquita Manley. You guys be

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blessed and have an. Amazing I forgot to

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say how to stay in touch with me, so let's

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get that. Let's get that. Sorry. Thank you

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for having me on your show. I'd love to

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stay in touch with your amazing audience.

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You can find me on Instagram. Ebeka E.

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Whitman Lakita is going to give you that

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free journal prompt with my Linktree link,

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and you can also go to my website, Rebecca

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Elizabeth Whitman with a z. Thank you so

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much for having me on this amazing show

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and I love Lakita's toolbox. I can't wait

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to be back. No problem. Thank you. Listen,

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guys, make sure you connect with her. IG

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is awesome. I was trolling it recently, so

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yes, because she's got some amazing things

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there and I know we do have a lot of. You

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guys are also on LinkedIn. She is also

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showing up absolutely fire on LinkedIn as

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well. So make sure you connect with her.

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Stay in connection. Look in the show

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notes, find that link tree, get that, um.

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Get that journal so that you can begin to

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work on the best version of you. Until

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next time, I'm Laquita Manley. You guys be

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blessed and have an amazing rest of your

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