Today I am joined by Sarah Armstrong, the author of The Moms Guide to a Good Divorce. Sarah wrote this book to empower other moms to focus on partnering with their ex-spouse to keep the peace for their child(ren). She gives some incredible tips on preparing your child(ren) for divorce, handling the “firsts” post-divorce, and continuing a solid co-parenting relationship. Sarah shares the impact of divorce on children and how to do the best job of protecting them from the parents' decision. Tune in today to learn how to help your children cope with the process and how to create a good divorce.

In this episode:

How to handle the “firsts” post-divorce? to a Good Divorce? Was Sarah’s divorce easy, and what was her experience with her ex-spouse? How do you prepare children for divorce? How to handle the “firsts” post-divorce? How do you continue a solid co-parenting relationship? 

Key Takeaways:

Children don’t choose to get divorced but are most significantly impacted by that decision. Think about what’s best for your children when going through the divorce - that will lead you to a “good divorce.” Utilizing the compartmental muscle is a critical skill post-divorce. Choosing to save a frustration or negative emotion to be kept and released when children are not around. Focusing on reducing the impact on the children will do wonders for them as they grow up. They will watch how the parents handle divorce and feel the effects of changing houses, being apart from their parents for holidays, etc. It is a big deal to them, so creating a consistent routine and being supportive is vital when going through the divorce and beyond.

Quotes:

“Divorce is an action. You get divorced. What you put your children through during that process can have such an impact emotionally, on their view on marriage and relationships and just their overall happiness.” - Sarah Armstrong

“Your children are watching you every moment along the way. What you're showing them is that you will focus on re-living or re-litigating why you got divorced and who did something to the other person. Or will you look ahead and say we are creating a new positive, happy life here and moving forward? And I think the compartmentalization muscle is a key component to think about when trying to move on and look ahead.” - Sarah Armstrong

Resources: 

The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce Book

The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce Website

Lesa Koski Website

Lesa’s Online Courses