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And the thing is, is we get addicted to the praise, the criticism hurts.

If we're not addicted to the praise and we understand the purpose of criticism,

we don't get hurt by it. We appreciate it because it helps us become authentic.

The topic today is basically gonna be on the addiction

to praise and how it keeps you playing small and how criticism

actually can help you grow tall.

So this is gonna be a different topic than you're probably used to.

So if you have something to write with and write on, that would be fantastic,

because I promise you something that'll make you think.

And also something that'll make you go, wow, I can use that.

So whether we or realize it or not,

everybody has a set of priorities they live their life by.

And whenever somebody comes along and supports what we value,

we tend to open up to 'em and when somebody challenges what we have,

we tend to close down on them. But I want you to think about this;

it's an old proverb, spoil the child, right, spare the rod, spoil the child.

If we don't challenge somebody,

they can become juveniley dependent on the things that support them,

become dependent on it. And when they challenge them,

they can become precociously independent.

So the first thing I'd like you to write is that when somebody challenges you or

criticizes you, it can actually make you more precociously independent.

That means mature a little quicker and take on more accountability and

independence quicker. And when somebody supports you,

it can actually slow down that process and make you more juveniley dependent.

So challenge makes us precociously independent and

dependent.

One causes the estrogen ratio to go into testosterone and

increase testosterone and the sympathetic response, fight or flight,

which activates testosterone,

and the other one is rest and digest and activates the estrogen and makes us the

other one.

And they found out testosterone speeds up and accelerates growth and height,

and the estrogen tends to slow it down. And we find out in our life,

sometimes we have a mother that's very supportive,

which keeps us kind of dependent and a father that says, you know,

get your butt in gear and figure it out yourself and plays tough ball.

Sometimes that's reversed roles. And sometimes people play anywhere in between.

But if it's a polarized, highly polarized, we can see this occurring.

But if you give everybody whatever they want, when they want, make it easy,

and there's no difficulties in life, too supported, too easy, too,

you know, taken care of, you won't grow.

I think everybody here knows somebody that was overprotected, over nurtured,

over taken care of and everything else and they really didn't have an

entrepreneurial spirit.

They end up becoming more dependent and working for others, maybe.

And the people that had some challenge and were given a lot of accountability,

they become more precociously independent, more entrepreneurial like.

So, most people don't realize this,

but they have two areas of their brain.

Whenever you're living by your highest value,

the blood glucose and oxygen goes into the forebrain and activates the executive

center, where you're more objective where you embrace support and challenge,

you know, praise and criticism, more equally.

That's why when you're doing something that's really high on your value,

and you really knock it outta the ballpark about doing priority for the day,

you can handle almost anything, you're highly resilient,

and you actually have your heart rate variability go up and you're not

lateralized and polarized in your autonomic responses,

and you're more resilient and adaptable, and you grow most.

It's been shown in biology and evolution that maximum growth and

development occurs at the border of support and challenge, order and chaos,

nice and mean, kind and cruel. That's why people have both sides; nice,

mean, kind, cruel, positive, negative, support, challenge, you know, peace, war,

praise, and reprimand, and things of this nature, punishment reward, et cetera.

But if somebody gets only one side without the other, they don't grow as much.

When they get both sides, they grow. Imagine this.

Imagine if all of a sudden the thing that supported you represented prey,

which in the brain it does. And the thing that challenges represented predator,

which in the brain it does. If you get prey without predator,

there's no predator, there's only prey, you'll tend to overeat,

you'll be gluttonous and you'll lose fitness.

If you get predator without prey, you'll tend to emaciate,

not get to eat and be starved and lose fitness.

But if you put a perfect balance of praise and reprimand,

a perfect balance of support and challenge,

a perfect balance of prey and predator,

a perfect balance of similars and differences, as they call it in Greece,

you get maximum growth. In fact,

you get maximum growth at the border of that because that's the definition of

love. Love is a growth factor in life.

Love is a synthesis and synchronicity of complementary opposites.

And we grow most when we realize both.

Our brain automatically is designed to get both,

and have both praise and reprimand, support and challenge,

and we live in an ecosystem that gives us that.

And if we get an overprotective mommy, we get a daddy that says,

we'll go out and play in the streets.

Or we get a kid or brother that beats us up or something.

We get pairs of opposites. In fact,

the people that are addicted to praise and addicted to support and addicted to

protection,

are usually the people that people pick on and they get targeted by bullies and

targeted by that.

I mentioned this in Huffington Post and many other articles around the world.

But what happens is when you actually embrace both sides equally,

you maximize your growth, because you're gonna get both.

And when we live in our lower values, we tend to bring blood glucose,

and oxygen into the amygdala.

And the amygdala is trying to avoid predator and seek prey.

And so we wanna avoid challenge and seek ease and support.

And we wanna avoid criticism, seek praise.

And people live in their amygdala when they're doing lower value systems and

devalue themselves,

they're vulnerable to be hurt by criticism and be addicted

to praise. And the addiction to praise makes them juveniley dependent.

And the people that are getting criticism is actually setting 'em free.

And I've basically gone in there and I've taken thousands of people when I do my

Breakthrough Experience program, my signature program,

I go in there and shatter the myth around the idea of I want praise without

reprimand. You need both. So what I do is I show you, I say,

go to a moment where and when you perceive an individual criticizing you,

and then I say, go to that moment, where are you? When are you?

What exactly are they doing?

What's the content and the context of that criticism?

And who are they directing it? To you in this case.

And then I have you get really present.

And I have you realize that at that moment, in order to get criticism,

you're doing two things.

You're doing something that's challenging their values in their perception,

not maybe your perception, but in their perception.

And somehow you're above equilibrium and somehow cocky and above equilibrium

needing to be brought down into authenticity.

And that's usually because somehow somebody's praised you and you felt good

about it and you get kind of puffed up and, you know, cocky, if you will.

And whenever you're praised and built up and get puff up inflated,

that's not who you are,

that's not the authentic you and you attract the criticizer to bring you back

into the authentic.

So I'm gonna make this statement and it's gonna be shocking to you possibly,

but criticism, believe it or not,

is designed to teach you how to communicate respectfully in other people's

values and to humble the cockiness that occurs when

we're addicted to praise and puffed up and thinking we're entitled and juveniley

dependent and become spoiled in a sense.

And I've seen that in many people and I'm sure you have too.

So the criticism is actually helping you, pride before the fall.

If you're proud and cocky and up, because of all the praise and puffed up,

you get a criticizer to bring you back into authenticity.

But if all of a sudden you're being criticized and you're feeling shamed,

and you're feeling down, you get supporters to lift you up.

You get people that praise you to lighten you up. I always say tragedy,

when you're cocky, you attract tragedy, and when you're humble,

you attract comedy. One is to knock you down and bring you back as hubris,

pride before the fall. And the other one is humbleness before the rise.

And what's happening is everything that going on in your life is trying to get

you authentic. It's a feedback mechanism.

But the amygdala is wanting to avoid the predator and seek the prey.

Avoid the challenge, seek the support. Avoid the criticism, and seek the praise.

And as long as we're addicted to praise,

we have to have criticism to break the addiction and to associate the two

at the same time.

And what's interesting is if we get support and we be puffed up and we get an

exaggerated self, that's not our authentic self,

that's a persona of puff up inflated self, the self righteous persona,

the superior complex, the pseudo-elevated self-esteem state,

inflated itself. And you need criticism to humble it. And the thing is,

is we get addicted to the praise, the criticism hurts.

If we're not addicted to the praise, and we understand the purpose of criticism,

we don't get hurt by it. We appreciate it because it helps us become authentic.

It gives us feedback about how to communicate effectively in other people's

values, and when we're above equilibrium. If I walk in a room,

if I walked into a room right now and you were there and you said, oh, Dr.

Demartini, you know, you're amazing, you started to praise me and you said, oh,

you do this and this and this and this.

And I went in there and I humbled myself below where you perceived me,

you will keep praising me. Guarantee it. I've done this hundreds of times.

But if I walked in there and I said, when you said, oh,

you're amazing or whatever and I said, well, frankly,

I'm more amazing than you can comprehend. And I puff myself up and I thought,

well, you know, your common is insignificant compared to how great I am.

And I puff myself, anytime I would go above where you wanna put me,

you'll immediately go, oh, and you put me down again. You criticize me.

Because every human being has an image that they perceive of you.

And anytime you exceed it, by being puffed up, they'll put you down.

Anytime you go below it, they'll lift you up. And that's why,

if you're humble and ask questions in the selling processes, you get more sales.

But if you go in there and presume you know what they need,

you get cut off and they want to walk away from you,

because there's a natural tendency to want to have equanimity and equity.

There's a built in homeostatic,

intuitive system inside every human being to find fair,

sustainable exchange and equanimity.

So anytime you get praise and you get puffed up a bit, you attract a criticizer.

In fact, there's simultaneous.

And anytime you're actually down and somebody's criticized it,

you attract a supporter.

That's why the over protector attracts the bully and the overs supported

attracts the challenger and the over praiser attracts the criticizer,

and the over criticizer attracts the supporter, the rescuer.

Nature is constantly trying to get people into authenticity and into the pair of

opposites. And all we are doing is basically teaching us this great lesson.

And know what's interesting is maximum growth, as I said,

occurs at the border of support and challenge. Now,

if you see challenge without support, you're gonna be in pain,

you're gonna wanna avoid them, you're gonna see they're critical,

you're gonna label them,

you're gonna think it's negative and you're gonna

arrogant and you're gonna get puffed up from the challenge of it.

And what's gonna interesting is if all of a sudden you get to that point and you

see one without the other,

you store that in the subconscious mind and now anybody that reminds you of that

you wanna avoid. So anything you haven't seen the balance to,

and seen the balance of criticism with praise,

or anytime you see a praise without criticism,

your subconscious mind stores those,

and it causes impulses for the addiction of praise and an instinct away from

predator, the criticizer.

But if you see them simultaneously and you ask the question,

at the exact moment when somebody's criticizing me, who's praising me?

And the exact moment who's praising me, who's criticizing me?

And go inside and get present, where you were, when you were,

what the content was, the context, and get really present,

your intuition will pop out who it is.

And the praise may not be somebody right there in the room, they may be distant,

or they may be virtual in your mind, but your mind,

if it's praise will make you cocky and attract criticism to bring you back into

equilibrium.

All praisers and criticizers are actually simultaneously paired.

You're only conscious of one at a time typically,

unless you ask the questions to see both. If you see both,

you realize that everything is trying to keep you authentic,

not puffed up or deflated, but authentic. And you're now grateful.

And when you're grateful for that authenticity,

how are you gonna be loved for who you are, unless you are who you are?

If you get support and praise and you get puffed up and inflated and proud,

you're not who you are. You've gotta per a persona,

a mask that you're wearing that's puffed you up and it's over inflated.

And then you attract a criticizer to put you down.

The tall poppy syndrome sometimes called in Australia.

But if you end up feeling like somebody's beat you down and shamed,

and you're now minimizing yourself, you attract supporters.

If you see them simultaneous,

you will realize that there's nothing but a loving act going on.

But when you're conscious of one and unconscious of the other,

you're going to have emotional back and forths you might say,

manic depressive states, highs and lows,

we call that cyclothymia or possibly bipolar responses. So,

the wisdom, which is what I do in the Breakthrough Experience,

I have people go to a moment when they're being criticized. You're there.

Where are you? When are you? What's the content? What's the context?

Who's doing it? And what are they doing it about?

And then you close your eyes and get present and ask

role? If you're really present and you've got all four of those variables,

five of those variables in your mind at the same time,

your intuition will pop out who you're comparing your criticism to.

Every perception is a pair of contrasts.

And so if you are infatuated for instance with somebody that supports you,

you'll resent somebody that criticizes you.

If you're resentful to somebody criticize you,

you'll infatuate with somebody that's praising you.

And they're always a pair of opposites,

but the mind won't see one without the other,

it'll create a real or a virtual individual inside

it,

to maintain homeostasis and to maintain equilibrium and to maintain stability

and homeostasis and authenticity in your life.

So you won't get one without the other,

but you will store the illusions that you have.

And if you keep storing the criticism without the praise,

you'll be wounded by it. If you store the praise without the criticisms,

you'll be addicted to it.

The addiction and subdiction keeps you from being present.

So that's why I ask the question; at the moment they criticize,

who's praising you? And at the moment somebody's praising you,

who's criticizing you? And at first you go, well, I don't see anybody there.

Close your eyes. Get present, ask where it was, when it was,

who's criticizing you, what's the content, what's the context?

Get really present and close your eyes and get present with it.

And your intuition will pop out an answer who it is. It's not speculative.

It's not analyzed. It's a synthesis that your intuition knows.

Once you see both of 'em,

it'll bring a tear of gratitude to your eyes and you realize, wow,

I'm actually being led back into my authentic self. The

criticizer is not an enemy. It's actually somebody helping you become authentic.

And the praiser simultaneously is doing that.

You're basically getting punishment and reward at the same time,

challenge and support, criticism and praise, you know,

the thing that causes an instinct and impulse at the same time,

the predator and prey is always there because the food system needs both to

maximum growth.

maximum growth and development occurs the border of those two things.

And you get both of 'em and you become aware of it, you get to maximumly grow.

But if you get addicted to the praise, which keeps you juveniley dependent,

you don't grow.

So you end up attracting the criticizer to help you get back on track again.

The criticizer is not the evil one.

The criticizer is actually breaking your addiction to the praise,

and helping you see both sides.

Just like the praiser is breaking your subdiction from the criticizer,

to help you see both sides. They're both there as a pair.

And I've taken thousands of people through the Breakthrough Experience.

And at first you're gonna say, well, I don't see anybody there,

cuz you're looking physically there,

instead of going inside and getting present with those variables.

And then all of a sudden in your mind, the other person,

the other individual playing the other side will be there. And then you go, Hmm,

that's amazing. I never saw that before.

And that's called being fully conscious. See,

when you're resenting somebody that's criticizing you,

you're conscious the downside, you're unconscious of the upside.

If you're being praised and you're infatuated with them,

you're conscious the upside without the downside.

And as long as you're not seeing both sides, you're not mindful.

You're not seeing both sides. You're not aware.

You've got an incomplete awareness.

You've got a split in your psyche between the conscious and unconscious.

And that keeps you from being powered and present and authentic.

So the moment somebody's criticizing you, do a number of things.

Here's some action steps. Stop and ask;

Where was it when it happened? When was it when it happened? What's the content?

What are exactly are they saying? And what's the context? What's it about?

Well they're verbally criticizing me about the way I'm dressed. Okay,

the context is the way you're dressed. The criticism is the verbal comment.

Now close your eyes and go to that moment. They're doing it to you.

You're the one that they're directing it to. At that exact moment,

close your eyes, and in your mind, in one individual or many,

male or female, close or distant, they could be anywhere, at work, anywhere,

they could be real or virtual, but there's somebody in your mind,

intuitively or in reality, that's playing the other side.

that's admiring what you're wearing, and praising you in that process. At first,

you never believe that,

but I've taken literally tens of thousands of people through that process and

it's mind blowing when all of a sudden they see it and they see the pair of

opposites and they balance it. Tears come outta their eyes.

And then they realize, wow, there's nothing there to be frightened of or seek.

There's nothing to avoid or seek. There's something to be present with.

Nature is keeping you authentic.

Look carefully next time somebody criticizes you and

that's challenging their values and look at where you're puffed up and somehow

above equilibrium.

And you'll see that they're helping you become back into balance.

But if you're addicted to praise, you're gonna be angry at them.

You're gonna wanna avoid those people. And you can't avoid them.

You've been trying to avoid criticism all your life,

but you've been getting it all your life. You're not here to avoid it.

You're here to understand it.

And you use it wisely to be authentic and appreciate both sides of your life.

See, I'm not a nice person. I'm not a mean person.

I'm a human being and somebody supports my values I can be nice.

Somebody can challenge my values I can be mean.

I can be praising and I can be criticizing.

And if I think I'm gonna get rid of half of myself, it's gonna be futile.

I'm not gonna get rid of half of myself.

I'm gonna have both sides throughout my life. The same thing for other people.

So we're not gonna get rid of criticism in life. We're not gonna get,

cuz it's there, It's essential. In fact, you know, the wise individual,

the people I've seen who are going for gold medals in sports,

excelling in music, or any field,

they're actually hiring people to give them critique,

to help them master their life.

And people that are not mastering their life are trying to avoid the very thing

that the people who are mastering their life seek.

I always say that if you don't fill your day with challenges that inspire you,

it's going to fill up with challenges that don't,

if you fill your life with challenges that inspire you and go out and fill your

day with the highest priority actions, you're more resilient and adaptable,

you mitigate risk, you appreciate both sides,

you embrace pain and pleasure in the pursuit of purpose.

You appreciate the criticism and the praise equally,

because they're both homing you in and guiding you to your authentic self.

Your greatest achievement. Maximum growth occurs there.

But if you're in your amygdala and you're not doing what's highest on your

value, you're gonna want to avoid challenge and look for support,

avoid criticism, search for praise. You'll be addicted to one,

subdicted from the other. And then when it does happen,

you're gonna be distressed by it. You're gonna be angry.

You're gonna be resenting it.

And you're gonna be then even more polarized trying to get a one sided world.

And the more we polarize and try to get a one sided world,

the more futile our life becomes. I'm not here to teach you how to be one sided.

I'm not here to teach people to be only one sided. It's futile. You know,

I tried in 19, oh gosh, I don't remember the year in 1983,

I did an amazing experiment on trying to be positive all the time.

And I basically documented,

I took the 2000 most positive words that I was able to find,

2000 words in 300 of the best selling books on positive thinking.

And I took all the words that I found in there and underlined all the most

positive words and extracted them and put 'em on index cards and then meditate

on each index card, each word,

and thought of a quote that was the most positive word and positive statement I

could get.

Then I divided those 2000 into 365 days and came up with five to six

quotes per day. When I did that, then I created a form,

called a day by day cycle forecasting form.

And I started to monitor if I said those affirmations,

those five to six quotes per day, every single day, 108 times.

So I would put 600 statements a day with positive statements and I monitored

it four times a day of what it did to my life, spiritually, mentally, career,

financial, family, social and physical.

And then I monitored it on a plus three to minus three level of monitoring.

And then I followed that four times a day at 7,

11 and 3 and 7 and monitored what impact positive statements were all

day long, nothing but praise and positive.

And then I monitored that for two freaking years, 24 months,

to see what impact all that had on me being nothing but positive,

only positive statements, only supportive things. And I found at the end of it,

when I did all the tallying of all the numbers of all the ups and downs from it,

I found out that I still had equilibrium,

and I still had positive and negatives,

I was praising and criticizing and I still, I was nice,

I never got rid of half of myself.

You don't need to get rid of half of yourself to love yourself.

To love yourself is to embrace both sides.

And that means you're going to be praising. You're going to be criticizing.

And when you're criticizing, somebody's gonna be praising them to balance it.

When you're praising somebody, somebody's gonna criticize them to balance it.

And there'll be a matrix of love and a matrix,

kinda like a feedback system in your sociology to try to make everybody

authentic. It's amazing when you actually get aware of this,

cuz then you realize you're not having to get rid of yourself to love yourself.

People trying to get rid of half of themselves and trying to get on their and

trying to get rid of half of the people around them and half the people in the

world,

are trying to get rid of all the negativities and

this stuff in life, and it's not going to happen,

because it's an absolutely essential feedback mechanism.

We need both positive and negative, praise and reprimand, the kind and cruel,

the nice, the mean, we need both polarities. That's why they're there.

In fact, the more you end up promoting one idea and supports somebody's values,

somebody else will challenge it. And it's designed that way.

You need build and destroy.

In your body you have the sympathetic and the parasympathetic nervous system.

Ones for fight or flight, ones for rest and digest. One's for destruction,

catabolism. One's for building, an anabolism.

One's for an oxidation. One's for reduction. One's for acidity.

One's for alkalinity.

Your body has both and is prepared and needs both to maximumly grow.

And if those are in balance, you have wellness. If they're not in balance,

you have illness.

So we're not here to get rid of half of our physiology and half of our life and

go through life and live in a fantasy that life's supposed to be one sided.

You wanna love both sides of yourself,

love both sides of other people and understand praise and reprimand is what

builds respect. You're going to have it. When you get into a relationship,

you're gonna be maybe looking for somebody that's similar,

but you're gonna also attract somebody that's got differences.

If you get too many similarities, you're get an infatuation,

you become juveniley dependent and you'll sacrifice your life to be with them

for fear of loss of them.

When you get somebody that challenges you and has more differences and you

resent them, you're gonna end up having the opposite occurring.

You're gonna be trying to change them and try to get them to live in your

values, which is futile.

And anytime you sit there and expect to get a one sided world,

you have futility. And anytime you embrace both sides of life, you get utility.

And that's what I'm trying to share tonight,

that you must embrace both sides of life,

both praise and reprimand is what builds respect for yourself and for other

people.

And I know that there's moral hypocrisies out there that are going out there and

promoting one sidedness. Be nice. Don't be me. Be kind. Don't be cruel.

Be peaceful. Don't be wrathful. Be generous. Don't be stingy.

But if you really are honest with yourself and I got really honest with myself,

I found out after doing that and trying my best to do that,

I had a balance both.

I found out that I had every trait in the Oxford dictionary that a human being

could have, nice, mean kind, cruel, honest, dishonest, positive, negative,

peaceful, wrathful, generous, stingy. I had 'em all. And you know what?

I don't need to get rid of any of it. All of those are part of my life.

They all serve a purpose in life. If you can see how all of those serve you,

you're not gonna be sitting there trying to get rid of half of life and trying

to get a one sided life. Futility is the pursuit of a one sided polarity.

It's like trying to get a one-sided magnet. The Buddha said it really nicely.

The Buddha says the desire for that which is unobtainable, a one side,

and the desire to avoid that, which is unavoidable, the other side,

is the source of human suffering.

And so when we go in there and we're caught in this animal passion of trying to

avoid a predator and seek a prey,

we're searching for that which is unavailable and trying to avoid that which

unavoidable.

When we go and live by our highest priorities and live by what's really most

meaningful to us and live authentically according to our highest value,

which is our identity,

and we are more objective and neutral and resilient and adaptable and we embrace

both sides of life, we see within the praise,

the balance of reprimand and within the reprimand,

the balance of praise and we see the balance of life and that's where we

actually maximize our growth and development. And this is something,

if you contemplate, maybe listen this again and again,

and look carefully at your life. And the next time somebody criticize you,

find the praiser and the next time somebody praises you, find the criticizer,

and see how that's trying to get you to be authentic. You'll empower your life.

Maximum growth and development occurs at the border of support and challenge.

Over support, pride, you're inauthentic. Over challenge, criticism,

inauthentic. You put the two together, you get to be authentic.

You wanna be loved and appreciated for who you are. Believe it or not.

Both of those sides are what's keeping you who you are.

You deserve to be loved that way.

As a result of this little presentation tonight,

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they never thought about it. And all of a sudden, they go in there and they go,

my God at the moment I was criticized, there was my praiser. When I was praised,

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It's gonna be eye opening to see how important these two pairs are.

But stop and contemplate this,

get really reflective and you have any challenge or difficulty,

contact our office or get to the Breakthrough Experience. I promise you,

what I teach you at the Breakthrough Experience is gold.

And it'll help you not be a victim of your history.

It'll help you be a master of your destiny.

As long as you're addicted to praise, you're gonna play juveniley small.

When you finally realize you don't need to be subdicted and avoid the criticism.

That's what helps you grow up and strong.

The testosterone makes you grow faster.

The estrogen tends to make you grow slower, and it helps you,

that's why there's a dimorphicness in between the masculine and feminine in

height because of those hormones, and challenge makes the testosterone going up.

Support makes the estrogen go up.

You want a balance of both to make yourself balanced. And if you do,

you get to love yourself.

The authentic you is worth loving and you get to be appreciative of the people

around you. So instead of running away and frighten yourself with this,

go and ask the questions,

neutralize the system and you won't have to fear anybody or fantasize about

anybody, no philias, no phobias, just embrace the two sides of life.

Life is magnificent the way it is, not the fantasies we keep imposing on it.

I'll see you next week.

Take advantage of this free masterclass and come to the Breakthrough Experience

so I can teach you how to do this live and you get to see this.

And it's an amazing, I promise you. I'll see you next week,

go in there and find out exactly where these two sides are synchronously

balanced and you'll have a beautiful awakening from that process.