Desires: all those things that make life full, exciting, and full of flavor! A lot of people have shut down their desires because there are things they’ve been hoping for that haven’t come true.

The wanting energy creates struggle, not believing you can have it, and that creates a lot of wobble.

Are you putting constrictions and conditions on money? Are you holding back on desires because you feel they have to happen a certain way? Are you making decisions based on what you truly desire or what you’re conditioned to want? 

Fear will come and try to lock you out of the things you’re designed to have.

Your assignment for this episode is to add “and” to the things you desire.  You can have freedom and time. You can have a delicious meal and good health, for example.

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Welcome.

Welcome to the rich and worthy podcast.

I'm your host, Melissa Alba.

And I am so excited to be with you today.

Today.

We're talking about desires.

Yes.

All of those things that make life full, make life exciting, all of those rich

experiences that gives your life flavor.

So I just came off the cuffs of doing a five day Facebook live and which I share.

How to see your manifestations come true, even faster and quicker

through your vision boards.

I know people are always, you know, vision boarding.

It's a big thing.

I started vision boarding and 2003 was my first vision board.

And it was just amazing for me to put those thoughts on to paper and then

use my thoughts and create, you know, grab the great pictures and put them

on a board and create these boards.

I also would create little photo albums.

I also create, cause I just went crazy with this.

I just thought it was amazing.

I remember taking a picture of her home.

Cutting it out and putting like a magnet on it and put it on my refrigerator.

And I wound up living in at home by the way, like two years later,

I had that home for 10 years.

In Bolingbrook, Illinois, and it was my dream home.

So I want to talk to you about desires, right?

Opening up desires, having more, you know, we recently we

talked about, uh, letting go.

We also talked about being in a space of expansion rather

than a space of constriction.

And so in this space of desire, A lot of times, I see folks who shut

down your desires because there are things that you've been hoping for,

wishing for that have not come true.

And so you've just decided, well, that is not for me, you know, uh,

traveling across the world in a jet.

Or even first class, or even just getting out this country, right.

Like going, traveling on his country for the first time in going to one

of my favorite places, France and Italy, which I'll actually, you

know, be traveling to this year.

It seems like that's for someone else.

Right?

You've dreamed it, but it hasn't manifested.

And I want to share with you that it's not for someone else desires are

something that we are designed to make.

Literally the Bible even tells you, God says, I'll give you

the desires of your heart.

Right?

So here is the keys to that.

The desires of your heart.

What are you desiring?

We should have so many desires.

Like every day when you wake up, you have these desires and

these desires keep us going.

And they bless us.

And we see these desires manifesting all the time.

Now desires are very different from wants.

By the time it gets into a state of want,

it's a different type of energy.

It's almost an energy of struggle.

And it's also an energy of, I don't know if I can have.

That's what creates a lot of wobble wood folks.

I don't know if I'm going to be able to have this thing.

And so I want it, I want it, but I don't know if it's going to come true.

Whereas when we stay in a state of desires, we're just putting it out there.

You know what I'm saying?

I desire a fine looking man who is emotionally together and can, um, share

with me some rich life experiences.

That's a desire.

Right?

And so now when that comes.

Right.

I can literally sit in that and recognize it because I put it out as a desire.

So when I see it, I recognize it.

When I see the G five wagon, this is just something I love guys.

I've loved GFI wagon since I don't know, early 2003.

I remember putting it on my board and it was like my totem car.

And I remember having this tussle between desire and want all of a sudden.

And it happened because it was like, this was on my board and I

don't see why this hasn't come true.

Now

meanwhile, I wasn't doing any active work to see it happen.

And we'll talk about that.

w What ended up happening with that particular desire?

So I didn't realize, okay.

I think the G wagon is just atotem for me, meaning like as a symbol

to say that I'm on the right track.

So years later, you know, I'm going through this divorce, which talk about.

Um, found out I have cancer and I decided, Hey, I'm going to go for it.

Look, if I'm going to go out, I'm going to go out with a bang.

So I had some money that I had invested and I took some money out and I was

like, me and my kids, me and my three girls were going to travel the world.

I had always wanted to travel internationally.

And my ex-husband.

You know, w he would always say we were going to do this,

that, but it never manifested.

And I didn't do it.

I still was a traveler.

I traveled a lot domestically, but I didn't go into nationally because

I was saving this experience.

I really wanted to experience this with him.

And therefore I was holding back on that experience because I wanted to have.

With my partner.

So long story short, I'm divorced now.

And the first thing I thought of was I am going to travel the world.

So 2015 is when I started my journey of traveling and my first international

trip, I took my three girls.

And when I say we went all over for several weeks, we went all over.

We had opportunity to go to Paris.

We stayed in Paris.

We went to London.

Um, We, we went to Italy four day trip.

We just really enjoyed.

And since then we have, uh, travel international several times.

We've had the opportunity to go to, uh, Sweden, uh, Iceland.

Uh, and of course London is one of our favorite spots and going there and

then me, myself, you know, I've been.

To ABI Dhabi and Dubai and, uh, Amsterdam.

I was just trying to think of all the places that I've been.

Uh, I've been a lot of places and they've all just been fun.

So I say all that to say, one of the things that I realize is that with

that desire, I was holding myself back from experiencing it because

I had attached something to it.

I had attached to that desire.

I must being relationship and how my partner go with me.

So when the opportunities came to travel abroad, I did not do it because

I wanted to do it with my partner.

So I see that a lot with folks too, is another way in which they,

they tampered down a desires or they put a condition around it.

So again, desires are here for us and they awaken us and they also

help us to give money a direction.

So many times I meet folks and it's like, well, how much would

you want to make this year?

Cause that's always a question for me because whatever you desire,

it has to come in the past.

We just embody it and then we allow that flow to happen.

Right.

So how much do you want to make this year?

300,000.

Okay.

Well what would you spend it?

And some folks will, you know, immediately say I'm going to save 150,000

of it and then I'll spend the rest.

Well, why aren't you saving 150,000?

I don't know.

It felt like the right thing to say.

I've been programmed to believe that's the number I should have.

And so what I'll ask you to do is lose constriction around.

Yup.

Lose constrictions around money, lose this thought in this process of how

you're supposed to do life and really get into what do you desire to have and why?

Like, why, why is that important?

So for me, having money stocked up is important because I want to

leave a legacy for my daughter.

Having money stocked up is because I'm a mode.

Now you guys know that not a grandmother, but a Mo Momo.

And I came up with that cause Mo money, grandma should grandmas should always

have it when their grandkids desire it.

And that is what my grandparents did for me.

They had a home that I could always go to and warm food that I could always have.

And if it was anything that I needed from a new dress to get my hair done.

One of my grandmothers were going to take care of that.

And so I knew when I became a grandmother, that was the thing I wanted them to always

know that Moe has it, whatever you need.

I got you.

So money for me has that purpose of lineage of legacy of I was put

here on earth and I want to be able to leave something special.

And I say for a lot of my clients is something special, could be a property.

The something special could be insurance policy, that something

special could be your Gucci collection.

I mean, it is valuable.

You guys do know that, right.

So, um, but it goes back to, again, just this whole idea

of, you know, desires, right.

This whole idea of, what do you want your money to do?

And why do you have the desires that you have?

So in desiring, whatever it is, is so important, not to have attachment

to it coming true, but just to make the list of the desires, you know.

The other day we were out, we went to a Hawks game and my youngest desire

that we have floor seat tickets.

She said it, we had 200 level seat tickets, but I said, well, you know what

to do, which means you have the desire.

You give it gratitude and you just allow it to be, she said, okay.

We didn't talk about it anymore.

The game was probably like the next week or the week after.

Soon as we get into the stadium that was state farm arena, we,

you know, scan our tickets.

We're on our way up to our seats.

This nice looking gentleman comes over to me as I'm headed upstairs.

And he said, are you going upstairs?

And I said, yeah, I'm going upstairs.

And then he says, uh, are you seated up there?

And I said, yeah, we're seated up there.

You know, like, okay.

And he said, would you like to join me

in the player's club?

And I'm like the player's club.

He said, oh yeah, I'm a season ticket holder.

And three of my family members are not going to be able to make it.

Um, you guys look like a fun group and I wanted to just bless you with that.

Is that okay.

Okay.

Of course.

It's okay.

We love upgrades.

We all were like, you know, for my, my middle daughter to my youngest.

Yes.

Yes.

And so he, you know, gave us the tickets, which were digital.

So he got us, our emails sent us over to tickets.

We went and got our wristband.

And next thing, you know, like I said, we're, we're

floorside, enjoying everything.

And my youngest and my middle are like, we always manifest

cool ass ish when we're together.

Now they didn't say it quite like that, but they were like cool stuff.

And I said, we do, because I've taught them the secret of having the

desire and then just letting it go.

Like you don't have to hold on tightly to it.

So I want you guys just to think about what desires do you have, what

are some things that you've really wanted to manifests in your business?

Maybe last year you made a hundred thousand and this year you really would

desire that to be 200 K maybe having that additional money will allow you

to save more for your retirement, maybe because you've been behind and

you know, who knows life happened.

I know for me, cancer happened, a divorce happened.

The economy failed in 2008, a whole host of things happen, but I decided

that I wasn't going to say stuck.

I decided that life continues because it does, I don't care if you're

sick or healthy life continues.

And I decided that I was going to create a new bounty on life.

I would not sit by and just allow life to pass me by, but I was going

to experience it in its fullness.

I was going to take some calculated risk in my business, like work

with the best people, do the best, work, challenged myself.

To be a business owner and to make more money each and every year.

I was going to challenge myself to have property again, after my divorce.

I was going to challenge myself to have investments again.

And I knew I didn't have a lot of time to make this up.

You know, I'm in my forties now.

So the money at accumulated in my twenties was gone.

Cancer treatment and going through that process and getting well and getting

healed had taken a lot, which I'm grateful and thankful for the money I

had accumulated to be able to go through that experience with the ease that I had.

So now I'm in this space where I'm like healed and I it's time

for me to go back out and fishing.

And so I had to think about what was the quickest and the

fastest way for me to get there.

And that required me to shift my mind in a lot of different ways and to

really work on some money mindset, but it also required me to open up

my idea and my mind to new ideas.

And two new desires.

Like I had to shift this old thinking of shutting down because

that's what our mind wants to do.

When you've had bad experiences, it wants to shut down desires.

It wants to say, don't go for that purse girl.

You should be saving and putting it over here.

Don't get that bins this year.

You should be doing so-and-so so-and-so.

And I was like, no, I'm going to get the bins and I'm going to

make another 50 K in my business.

I'm going to get the bag and then I'm going to bring in

another client this week.

I am going to do all of the things because life is not about ifs

for me, you know, or one offs.

It's about ands.

I get to have money and time.

I get to work in my purpose, and then I'll also get to take time off right.

And relax and enjoy it.

So a lot of us have been conditioned that, you know, we see things that we

want, but then it's like, how do we do it?

How do we take the vacation when I need to keep working?

Because again, the conditioning says, okay, you have that desire.

That's great.

But my conditioning says I'm always supposed to be working.

I'm not supposed to relax or enjoy, or my conditioning could be, I'm

always relaxing and enjoying, and I never actually do the work out

of fear that it may actually work.

I see people doing that as well.

Right.

The opposite.

The business plan may actually work.

If I literally actualize it and go for it, but I'm scared.

I'm like, I'm holy shit.

I'm scared.

I'm, I'm scared of what this could mean.

I'm scared of actually getting what I desire.

I'm scared that once I have the money.

Oh, my God, it's nothing holding me back.

Now, I have to get on a flight and go out of the country and I have

never been out of the country.

I don't even know what that looks like.

I don't even speak the language, whatever the case, right.

I'm scared if I buy the car.

I remember my first Car and just being scared.

Like, can I keep up the maintenance?

What if something happens?

I heard this is really expensive to take care of it.

It's like, what if something happens?

Like maybe this shouldn't be something I do, right.

So fear will come in and try to lock you out of all the good things

that you are designed to have.

It happens for people to and relationships, right?

You meet this guy or, you know, meet the person and you're like,

oh my God, there it, now you start over analyzing every aspect.

It's everything.

You've always desired, but now all of a sudden it's like, well,

what if they do this or that?

Cause you remember the old thing.

So I just kind of want to share with you is that this is the

season to open up the desires.

And to go for it and to walk past any of those limiting beliefs and

start creating new beliefs of ans.

So that's your assignment this week.

I want you just to say, and every time that you desire something and

you come up with a reason, why not?

I want you to play with the, and I can have this and that also.

I can have a very successful career,

and a man who gets it, I can have freedom and time.

Yeah.

I can have a delicious meal and good health, you know, so yeah, until next time

I love you guys go out and continue to be the rich and worthy woman that you are.