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Welcome to Episode 25 - Baby's now 6 months, but our second week of Tilly back at work has not got an as well...

🎙️ Episode Drop Alert: "Half a Year Hooray!" 🎉👶 Episode 25 celebrates the six-month mark of baby's life with laughter, learning curves, and a bit of culinary creativity. Here’s what’s inside:

1️⃣ Six-Month Milestone: Dive into the celebration and challenges as baby girl hits the half-year mark, complete with all the playful tugs and giggles. 🎂🎈

2️⃣ Parenting Under Pressure: Tilly and Dan share their attempts to juggle work, parenting, and self-care, highlighting the hustle of everyday life with a baby. 💼👶 Daily Dynamics: Listen in on Dan's new role in handling more household chores and cooking, reflecting a shift in family responsibilities. 🍳🧹

3️⃣ Culinary Adventures: From haggis mac and cheese to caramel peanut pudding, explore the fun and fumbles of their family meals. 🧀🍮

4️⃣ Sleep Struggles: The couple discusses their ongoing efforts to improve baby’s sleep routines, facing the ups and downs of nighttime parenting. 🌙💤

5️⃣ Routine Rethinking: With Tilly back at work and Dan adjusting to full-time parenting, they explore finding a new normal in their family dynamics. 🔄👨‍👩‍👧

🎧 Join us for a heartwarming episode filled with the realities of parenting, seasoned with humor and love. #HalfYearHooray #FamilyLife #PodcastJourney 🎙️💗

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Welcome to this week's episode, guys.

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time Zoe is turning six months,

that's right, her half birthday.

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Very exciting.

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We're also going to be covering feeding

challenges, adjusting to the work home

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routines, physical and emotional strains

that just life of parents, I suppose.

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please stay tuned.

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Dan 1: okay, episode 25.

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Tilly: 25.

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Mmm.

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Oh,

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baby is officially.

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six months.

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as of

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Dan 1: of

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Tilly: Yesterday.

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Two No.

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Dan 1: No, yeah,

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Tilly: yesterday.

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Eleven minutes past two in the morning.

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Dan 1: She's currently

feeding she's a bit hyper.

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We keep trying to tire her

out, but she's not having it.

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She's decided, uh,

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Tilly: sleep when you

were having Lyon today.

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And then she slept for an hour

on the way, on the way to the

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National Trust and on the way back.

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Oh, she keeps

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tugging on my nipple today.

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Like, she's always done a bit of

tugging, but she's now really like,

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she proper clamps down, like, Mmm,

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and like,

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Dan 1: and roll.

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Tilly: and sort of like, stretches

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it.

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And it's just like, oh, pretty sharp

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pain.

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Right, can we just, let's see.

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Come on, sleepy, sleepy time.

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I'll do some rocking like a crazy person.

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Alright, so might be a little bit

patchy, Yeah a very patchy episode

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we're trying to do it quickly.

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Why are try to do it quickly?

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Because itate and we've got a

macaroni and cheese in the oven.

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Yeah, it's already half six.

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It's late for us.

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And we've

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got haggis mac and cheese.

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which is what your request was

for Sunday lunch this weekend.

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Any of your faves?

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Dan 1: Yep.

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Tilly: And then you've got

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caramel peanut pudding,

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definitely.

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more yours than mine I

think, because it's very

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Dan 1: So talk to me about the Mac cheese.

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Tilly: So,

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creamy creamy macaroni

cheese, classic, you know.

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But I went for a rogue new

ingredient, I've put some

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processed cheese in this time.

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Because it in American, it's

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meant to improve the texture, because it

never really gets hard like a regular.

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cheese would when it sets up.

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So it should stay like a creamier texture.

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Dan 1: text.

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Tilly: Because of the good

processed nature of So we'll see.

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And then on top.

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delicious haggis.

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Which goes really nice

and crisp in the oven,

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doesn't it?

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It's really nice.

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And a little crumble of,

because we had some left over,

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They're very nice though.

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Because normally I don't

like flavoured crisps.

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I'm quite boring.

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I like really salted.

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Dan 1: I don't

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Tilly: Because I don't know if there's

any sort of sweetness in them, but

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these are, those are completely

savory, which is why I quite like them.

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Dan 1: As Mate said about his

partner, the most white girl thing,

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she doesn't like flavoured crisps.

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Tilly: crisps.

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She

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doesn't

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Dan 1: white girl thing.

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But her partner doesn't

like flavoured crisps.

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Because I went round to his,

and he had those, you know

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those Doritos lightly salted.

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And I was like, what the fuck

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Tilly: but actual Doritos?

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Just buy basic tortilla

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Dan 1: I get that, but anyway,

what's the point of them?

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Doesn't, they are so lightly salted, it's

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Tilly: Yeah, I like it heavily salted.

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That's what I want.

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I want a heavily salted tortilla chip.

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That's what I

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want.

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Because then it's for dipping.

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I do like a plain crisp, or a chip,

if we have an American audience,

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like we have that viewing audience.

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Yeah, but anyway, you think I'm

weird for liking really salty

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crisps the most, but there we go.

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Dan 1: think it's weird that

that's your main flavour, I feel

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Tilly: don't really,

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Dan 1: like vanilla with

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Tilly: I'm just not a

crisp person, darling.

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I'm not really a crispy person.

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But I love salt, so if I'm I'm salty.

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So I don't mind other

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flavours, They're A little

bit sweet, there's a lot of

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sweet edges and I'm like,

I've got no time for that.

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It's completely savoury,

I'm all up for it.

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it's like a cheese flavour, I quite

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Dan 1: You don't like.

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cheese and onion that much.

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Tilly: No, because they put sugar in it.

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Dan 1: it.

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Sour cream and onion?

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Tilly: put sugar in it.

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I like all these.

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but if they put sugar in them,

I'm like, ugh, I can taste It

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Dan 1: Just try the

bouncer thing straight off

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Yeah, she

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Tilly: is not having it,

can you grab her from me.

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Yeah,

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Dan 1: at you bounce!

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Okay, so we're back on.

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We've moved the baby girl to one

of those springy door things.

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I know you're not really meant

to use them, but here we are.

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Here we are, eh?

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Tilly: If she gets hip

dysplasia, be like, I can

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get to hydrotherapy.

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Dan 1: are we finished discussing

the mac and cheese and the food?

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Tilly: can talk you through

the caramel pudding if you

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Dan 1: Oh yeah, talk to us about

the leaky tit on the loose.

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Tilly: a, just a touch of dribble.

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That's fine.

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So you've got these little caramel peanut

cookies, which are a bit kind of like a

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Florentine.

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Yeah, so they're a crunchy

caramel peanut cookie, and then

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I made it like a sort of mousse

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with peanut butter, caramel, cream, and I

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just layered them up.

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kind of a winner for you, really.

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Mm hmm.

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Dan 1: do love that.

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Um,

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Tilly: be a good one for you.

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Um, whatever you don't the freezer.

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Ooh, frozen dessert.

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A moment so you don't eat it all.

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Okay,

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Dan 1: been your second week off.

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Yeah, and getting into rhythm.

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Most definitely.

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Tilly: this week has been

your second week off.

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second week full week, I guess.

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First full week at work.

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Yeah.

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I think we're still getting to the rhythm.

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Most

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Dan 1: definitely

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Tilly: maybe this week is the

week where we find our rhythm.

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We can hope.

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I think I found it more

of a struggle this week.

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Dan 1: I definitely did, yeah.

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Tilly: Just

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feeling like we're trying to balance

everything, Felt a lot harder this

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week, I think.

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I don't know, yeah, I think

because my work is quite busy.

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I've got A lot of projects that are

coming to an end and starting, and

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stuff, so it's just quite a lot of work.

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And So I'm struggling

to finish like on time.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: Which then it bleeds into

our evenings, which means that I've

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not been as much of a support to

you in the evenings as I want to be.

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Or I've not been able to do the

things at the gym that I want to do.

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Dan 1: do.

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Yeah.

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Tilly: So therefore like, yeah, my

self care the care of, My care of

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looking after You I don't know if I

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said that in English, but you know what

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I

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Dan 1: care.

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Hasn't

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Tilly: My couple care.

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Hasn't been good either.

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Which I think hasn't added which has added

to the fact that you have felt Okay, It's

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been a massive change for you, isn't it?

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Dan 1: you've gone

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Tilly: Because you've gone from

someone who sort of does work, and then

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because combination of me being off.

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and also me breastfeeding, And I'm someone

who normally does the housework and away.

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and cooking to suddenly

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So actually, you weren't actually

having to do much other than work.

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I'm not saying, I'm

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not

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Dan 1: I'm not disagreeing.

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Um, but you know, being doing work,

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Tilly: like you've gone from, yeah,

being doing work, and then very little.

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housework.

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never having to cook.

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Having to look after Bubs

probably max an hour, most days.

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Maybe an hour and a half.

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Dan 1: having to look after the

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Tilly: Weekends, absolutely

more, but on a weekday.

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So then suddenly you're

having to look after her.

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You know, for the majority of the time.

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Dan 1: the majority of the day, and I'm

doing most of the sort of daily cleaning,

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Tilly: you're doing dinner

which is very new for you.

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Dan 1: And that's where I really

struggle in those evenings.

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Where by your work bleeds later because

it's then, well, when am I making dinner?

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You still working?

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Tilly: Yeah.

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So this week I'm gonna be, I'm gonna

try and be much firmer with this.

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might start setting myself an alarm

half an hour before I want to finish.

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So I can start sort of,

start curtailing my day.

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Because I think if I suddenly realise, oh

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Shit.

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It's five to four.

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I want to try and finish by four.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: But I'm still like, in

a part of the project where I

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can't really just stop right now.

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So, Then, obviously, then I go, Okay,

well now I am, like, bleeding, like, sort

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of winding down.

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But by the time I finish

it's half or quarter to five.

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Dan 1: project.

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Yeah.

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What's up, baby

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Tilly: And

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then we're getting into

sort of dinner time.

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, and she's, and she gets

tetchy at that time of day.

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So

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that's when

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Dan 1: case now.

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So, she tends

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Tilly: time, as is right now.

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So she tends to want me because she

wants a few feeds and then for a sleep.

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Dan 1: Do you her on the boob one

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Tilly: Is this going to

work, or do we just stop it?

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Yeah sure, let's try it

one more time, it's fine.

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Dan 1: Ok, let's see how

long this lasts then.

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As she yanks at tit.

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Tilly: Yeah.

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But Yeah, so this week I definitely

want to be better at finishing on

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time, both So I can help out more,

like, help support you more in the

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evenings, because obviously that's when,

obviously you've had a full day, but at

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that point you're kind of like, done,

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which is absolutely Fair enough.

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She's tetchy.

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And obviously like I would like, to,

maybe this isn't working, I would like

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to get my sort of workouts in as well.

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So yeah, that's sort of what I'm

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going to try and do this week.

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Dan 1: I mean that's going to be

problematic anyway because of the way

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it's scheduled in terms of like you say,

you're, I'm going to finish a full day

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of it and she's going to be in touch

with it where she wants breastfeeding but

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you're going to want to go to the gym.

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I mean how's that going to work anyway?

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Tilly: I guess I'll just go

back to the gym in the mornings.

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Dan 1: Or go to the gym

once she's gone to bed.

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I went

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Tilly: I won't sleep though.

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I'm not really

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gonna

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Dan 1: going to the gym at 8.

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Tilly: No, I

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Dan 1: you said previously.

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You were like, oh, I

quite like going at 8.

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I

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Tilly: I do not want to

have to be like, sleeping,

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in good times.

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That moment is important

because our sleep is disrupted.

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I wasn't going to bed till ten, maybe so.

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Ooh!

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She's real tuggy.

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So yeah,

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I guess it's like, wherever

you like, do I do it?

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First thing in the

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morning.

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or try and do it at the day.

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Who knows?

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Try and figure that out this week.

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And then you need to

try and get your stuff

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in as well this week, don't you?

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No,

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Dan 1: Yeah, I'm just trying to work

out whenever I start talking about it.

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We can cut it off and then talk

about my week and start again.

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Tilly: Yeah, she's not settling

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Dan 1: Okay,

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Tilly: was actually quite

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Dan 1: We are off ski for take

two, the following day, Okay, so

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i talked about how my week went

and how i want to make it better.

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Your turn.

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Yeah, well, I guess we were

discussing kind of how our last

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week was actually quite hard and

how it didn't kind of go as planned.

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I think, yeah, it definitely felt

like quite a struggle last week.

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Because I guess this is take two,

because we've had to do it the

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following day, so it's now Monday,

so I'm referring to it as last week.

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Because on the Sunday, I'd

done loads and loads of DIY.

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Tilly: DIY.

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Dan 1: Well not loads of DIY,

but I was gardening, cutting down

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trees and

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Tilly: of gardening coming down

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Dan 1: Sorry, was it?

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Oh, well, either way.

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So I was pretty pooped, physically,

pretty knackered, and then she, on Monday,

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really kind of demanded quite a lot of

attention, and so I was like, I'll walk

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her around loads, carry her about, and

didn't really think about, like, the toll

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that would take on my already tired body.

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Tilly: So

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Dan 1: So kind of by Tuesday,

I was a bit like, Pretty,

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Tilly: already.

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Pretty tired

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Dan 1: pretty done in already on Tuesday.

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Tilly: And

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Dan 1: then yeah, Wednesday it

was all right, came back around on

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Tilly: Wednesday.

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We were in my office on Wednesday,

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weren't we?

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Dan 1: she was actually really

well behaved in the office.

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We'll get to that in a bit.

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And then on Thursday, Yvonne was around

and she didn't really sleep very well.

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She was a bit, she didn't

have her afternoon sleep.

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Story of the, story of the season really.

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And Yeah, the rest of the time it

was alright, but it was, it, it did,

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it did just feel like quite a lot,

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Tilly: but it was a big step up.

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Dan 1: Yeah, so, you know, like you say.

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Tilly: say, I don't,

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Dan 1: I won't lie, I don't

really do that much around there.

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Every so often I do the dishwasher

and, well, I, I meant to do all the

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dishwashers and I do most of the

dishwashers, but that's about it.

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Okay, fine.

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Equal dishwashers?

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Tilly: say, yeah.

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Okay,

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Dan 1: Okay, well now, up until, I

definitely have done more, most of them

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Tilly: Yeah.

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Dan 1: And so it's, it's quite an

adjustment because it's kind of, like you

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say, I didn't really ever, I have that

much time where I'd just look after her.

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It would only be on the odd occasion

when you'd be going and doing

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something, or whatever, where I'd have

extended periods looking after her.

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And so I'm, I'm struggling with the

fact that she, me and her haven't

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quite got into a routine and got to

some sort of balance that we know.

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And so, Well, my friend came around

on, on the Saturday and was like,

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came around for French toast.

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I was, I'm incredibly grateful that

you did it and I really loved it,

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but if you could tell I was really

wanting to get the fuck out of the

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house by the end of, after we'd had it.

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Cause I was just like, spent

my whole fucking week here.

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I don't want to be here anymore.

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I just want to be out of the

house doing something else.

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And, so I was just pulling him

out of the house, and he was like,

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Let me see your birthday, and

I was like, Fuck, I don't care.

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Tilly: I that

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Dan 1: enough, I wanna go!

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Tilly: I

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Dan 1: And I just got a bit stir

crazy with it all, because it is

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incredibly, like, isolating, in

terms of, you just kind of, wake up,

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pander to your baby all day, go to bed.

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And then kind of rinse and repeat and

the only person I see really is you and

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I don't mean that in a bad way But like

when I'm working I have interaction at

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least with other people other than you

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Tilly: Yeah.

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Dan 1: otherwise it kind of just feels

like I spend a lot of time just Kind of

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having to be like what should be next?

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What should be next?

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What should be next?

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quite exhausting and doesn't really,

not really I don't know, stimulating,

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or, I don't know, it doesn't really

create any connection, as it were.

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You, you don't, that, that sort of social

element isn't ticked, that makes sense.

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Tilly: it

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Dan 1: And, I'm not really,

and blokes just don't get it

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at all, like, he said, he went,

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Oh, so, you know, what have you

been doing with your time off?

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You've been hitting the gym,

you've been, and I'm like,

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mate, you just don't understand.

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It's not, it's not, it's not time off.

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It's like, from, from when you start

work at, like, seven, till when you

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finish work, you just kind of end up

being like, what should I do next?

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What do I do now?

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What do I do?

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And I know, and I know that you

completely get it, because you

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obviously did it, but it's just kind

of, People just always have, and

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I think blokes more, because women

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are a bit more clued up in general.

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Probably

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Tilly: not many men tend

to do what you're doing.

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So actually most men, will just be doing

what you were doing previously, whereas

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actually, you know, you're actually like

time there involved is like the sole

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person, there's very little actually.

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Dan 1: Yeah, and so, yeah,

like, people ask me kind of,

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what am I doing my time off?

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And I'm like, mate, I don't get

that much time where I can be

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like, This is what I'm good at.

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I'm, I'm trying so hard to build

in some sort of sleep routine

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so I can have pockets around the

place to just do minimal things.

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But yeah, it's not.

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So there's always this kind of

expectation of you've just kind of

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got time off and that's not really,

it's not really how it works.

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Yeah, Tilly's looking because

we've got the baby on the

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monitor and she might be staring.

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Tilly: be staring.

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She looks pretty, pretty awake.

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And she

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Dan 1: We're to pause and return.

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Tilly: duvet sneaking that mum is there.

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She's really thrashing.

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I think we're going to come

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I guess

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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So I guess to round up before we

move on to the next bit is I think

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the bit that I struggled a bit with,

and I struggled with today as well.

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Is that I kind of wake up in the

middle of the morning and I gear

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myself up in the morning to kind of

try and stimulate her in the morning.

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Come back of lunch and then her have

a nap and then it comes to lunch time

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and she just doesn't want to sleep.

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And then she's then just tetchy all

afternoon and I'm also just kind of a bit

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dumb of it because I'm like, I've kind

of tried to stimulate you all morning

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with the hope that you sleep and she's

like, I don't really want to sleep.

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But she's tired.

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So she's in a tetchy in my kind

of like, yeah, over it phase.

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Tilly: Also,

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Dan 1: And so all I think is like just 17

and a half more years and she's at uni.

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Yeah,

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Tilly: I also think, as part of you, I

think your temperament in a way, you're

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someone who quite quickly I don't know

if it's sort of done with things, or you

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can at least, you can quite quickly, or

like, maybe not quickly, but once you're

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done with something, you're done with it.

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Dan 1: I'm trying to be

a lot better at that.

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Tilly: and then you, I think

often you can quite easily slip

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into sort of resentfulness.

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Dan 1: wouldn't say

resentful, uh, like currently.

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I get what you mean,

but I wouldn't say that.

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Tilly: I can see, like sort of the way

you're getting, like, in the evenings

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and things, you're just like, I think,

how do I describe it, how do I best

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word it, I'm not trying not to offend

you, because I'm not worried I don't

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think you're obviously offended,

but yeah, no, I like that sort of

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Dan 1: It's almost like you

shouldn't record a podcast 15

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minutes before you go to bed.

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Tilly: You're someone, and this is

just in general, but this is obviously

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exemplified when you're tired and you

have been doing a lot of stuff, but

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if you think someone is just like,

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things aren't quite fair, or

you've done a bit too much, or,

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Dan 1: I have to tell

myself to get in my lane.

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Tilly: Then yeah, you kind of forget a

bit like, why would I have to do this, you

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know.

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Um,

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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I have to tell my ego to shut the fuck up.

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Tilly: think that's what's

going to be hard for you.

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Because obviously you've actually gone

most of our relationship, with arrived

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and, I've looked after you quite a lot.

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: You've felt pretty good,

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Dan 1: Yeah.

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Tilly: you know, cooked your food,

done the housework, washing, just

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generally quite cared for you.

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Because that's the, that's just,

that's the, that's the thing.

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part of my character, not saying

this because any flaw of yours and

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so I think that's, it's a massive

adjustment to someone who's putting

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on sort of, not like weight on you,

but like, you're fairly doted upon.

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Definitely

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Dan 1: department.

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It's not that I can't do these things.

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Like I used to do them for me,

but I haven't had to do long time.

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And so no, it's Yeah, that's the hard

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Tilly: And, you're having to do

them to, Closer to my standards

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rather than your standards.

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Dan 1: It's like,

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Tilly: Because you'd have

to be living in a mess

473

for quite a long time.

474

Dan 1: I'd like cleaner

services once a month.

475

Tilly: I'd be like,

476

Dan 1: You're like, I want

them sprayed every day.

477

I'm like, spray?

478

What the fuck is spray?

479

They're just gonna throw water around

and whip a cloth about the place.

480

Tilly: I don't even mind you doing that.

481

But you still need to leave

the sides really soggy.

482

Like if we did it in a way

that sort of dried it up.

483

I honestly, I'm not, I'm not that

GM of a paper that I would mind.

484

As long as it looks clean, I'm like, fine.

485

I don't really care about the germs.

486

but I just go in there and there's like

dripping surfaces, and you're like,

487

Dan 1: it'll evaporate, it's fine.

488

Tilly: UK, not Africa.

489

Dan 1: Uh,

490

so another factor actually I was

491

Tilly: trying to

492

Dan 1: to settle her to go to sleep

normal now, so we're recording

493

this now, sans bebe, which is rare,

usually with a baby attached to us.

494

And so she's currently trying to sleep

downstairs and so our intermission

495

was trying to get her back to sleep.

496

Tilly: she's Because we've co

slept with her until now, really.

497

Like, she's been

498

Dan 1: But we still can't go to sleep.

499

Tilly: No, no, we do,

that's what I'm saying.

500

Like.

501

Like, we have been trying to

like, we have been transitioning

502

her more into the next to me.

503

So she'll often spend like, the first half

of the night in the next to me, and then

504

the second half's a bit of touch and go.

505

Dan 1: Yeah.

506

Tilly: Whereas now we're sort of,

we'd always go to bed together.

507

So she might be the next to me,

but we'd all go up together,

508

to go to bed together, go To

509

Dan 1: To bed a tha.

510

To bed a tha.

511

To bed a

512

bed a

513

Tilly: said it too many times now.

514

Dan 1: Bed together.

515

Tilly: Thank you.

516

Whereas now we're putting her down, and

then we're having like, we're attempting

517

to have a bit of evening to ourselves.

518

Basically it's, you know, it's very

broken up because we keep having to get

519

up and put, re putting her down, but.

520

Sign that process and then tomorrow

you're buying her a mattress.

521

Pick her a mattress.

522

Dan 1: Yeah, we're just whacking

her straight into a cot bed.

523

We're not fanning about with all

the different There's like seven

524

different sizes that you can

Well, there's not, there's four.

525

Tilly: We just got the one

that my sister gave us,

526

Dan 1: mood.

527

Yeah, I know.

528

Yep, that's because it's a cot bed.

529

They stay in it till like three.

530

Well, some say four, but looking

at the length of Zoe, it's

531

Tilly: Pops it up.

532

It's fine.

533

She'll be kicked out

of her sibling anyway.

534

Dan 1: Yeah she's got that bed

up in the loft that she can have.

535

Tilly: is it actually

full bed or just part of

536

the bed?

537

I'm Well, if not a dad can build a ward.

538

So

539

Dan 1: So yeah, that's,

that's being nice though.

540

When, like, what tends to

happen, is we put her down.

541

Fifty minutes later she

kind of wakes up and cries.

542

You go back up, you settle her again, you

put her down, and then she's kind of down.

543

Tilly: Yeah,

544

Dan 1: So,

545

Tilly: and then she tends to disturb

once we go to bed, which makes me think

546

I'm over the past week I've realized

more and more that I think we're waking

547

her up more than I think she'd actually

sleep better without us once she was down

548

Dan 1: you'd still have

those two breaks, but yeah,

549

Tilly: Because I think like when

we go to bed, or you know, we're

550

rolling over or you're snoring or

551

Dan 1: yeah, I can't wait

to be able to snore again.

552

Tilly: I mean, I'm still there.

553

Dan 1: Ugh, get rid of you as well then.

554

Tilly: You can go sleep in the cot.

555

Me and Zoe will just stay in the bed.

556

Dan 1: bedroom house?

557

I've got my baby in one bedroom, me in

another bedroom, my wife in the other.

558

Tilly: Yep.

559

So I do think she will

actually sleep quite well.

560

Separate from us.

561

Like, once we get her better at

settling I think we should try putting

562

her in a little sleep sack again.

563

Dan 1: I don't know if, she might be too

long for it, but we can give it a go.

564

Tilly: Also, we might be able

to get a summer one soon.

565

Like, you know, the other

ones without the arms are just

566

like a little wife beater sleeping bag.

567

Dan 1: The dream.

568

Tilly: I think she'll

569

like that because she obviously likes

flailing her arms around quite a lot.

570

Dan 1: Yeah.

571

Tilly: She's quite a blailer.

572

Dan 1: But like, the whole

benefit is with their arms back

573

there, they the large benefits.

574

But you can get them when you zip on and

off the arms, so we can give that a go.

575

Tilly: Yeah.

576

But otherwise for

577

Dan 1: But otherwise anything else you

got to discuss for the week just go on.

578

Tilly: work, didn't we, on Wednesday?

579

Dan 1: yeah, yeah, so, I think,

I think in terms of highs, lows,

580

funnies, that was, that was my high.

581

I think it was very nice just to

be able to, she, she was absolutely

582

great the whole of Wednesday.

583

Yeah, I know, but I

don't know many people.

584

Tilly: To start, it's been like, driving

out to see your mum for a morning, or My

585

Dan 1: My mum's incredibly busy.

586

Tilly: I mean?

587

Like that sort of thing.

588

Dan 1: Speaking of which, Will's

mum did say, Oh, you can just

589

come round whenever you want.

590

So I'll just start going round to

591

Tilly: her, go see, go see Margaret.

592

Yeah.

593

Dan 1: Yeah?

594

I might just start doing that, yeah.

595

How come your car's clocked up so

much miles given that you're always

596

working from home most of the time?

597

Well, she's constantly on a baby tour.

598

Tilly: she's off

599

Dan 1: Going round to

other people's houses.

600

Tilly: You can go see her and Lil.

601

Jess is off on a Tuesday.

602

You can go see Jess on Tuesdays.

603

it's

604

Dan 1: A little tour.

605

A little solar tour every week.

606

Tilly: My dad's always free.

607

Yeah.

608

Dan 1: The solar circus.

609

Tilly: But it's quite a risk,

and my granny, you can just see

610

my dad and my granny in Rwanda.

611

Dan 1: yeah, so she was

actually really great there.

612

Do you have a high?

613

Um,

614

Tilly: yeah, I think

615

my high was on Saturday,

it was really nice weather.

616

And when you were out with Will

having some family free time.

617

Dan 1: so.

618

Tilly: Me and Zoe.

619

Had a nice time in the garden, sort of.

620

I was like, we're trying

to clear out our garden.

621

No, we're not really

doing it properly, are we?

622

We're just trying to make it more

usable, because currently it's

623

just been a bit of a wasteland.

624

Dan 1: Yeah.

625

Tilly: And we'd like Zoe to like,

you know, play around in the

626

grass and stuff in the summer.

627

So we're sort of on a quick mini

refurb, refresh of the garden.

628

And so I was pulling loads of weeds and

whatnot and clearing the edges down.

629

She just sat there in her

little sort of bouncer.

630

That was really sweet because she'd never

really, she's never felt grass before.

631

And so she just has, you know,

there's quite long grass.

632

And so she had her feet in it.

633

She's sort of swishing her

feet in it, hanging out.

634

And then sort of like, it's a

completely new sensation for her.

635

And then reaching down, trying

to grab the grass as well.

636

So that was really nice.

637

That's quite sweet.

638

She was having a whale of a time

in her little cute little sun hat.

639

And then, I bought a little rug,

so I sat on the rug next to her.

640

And I had a lolly while

she sucked on a carrot.

641

Yeah, it's just a nice little bit

of time in the sunshine outdoors.

642

She's always happy we're outdoors.

643

Dan 1: Yeah, way happier.

644

Hence why, hence why so far I

think my average steps has gone

645

up about 200 percent since looking

Because I'm just constantly

646

like, okay, fuck this, out we go.

647

Even though I didn't

648

Tilly: the week.

649

So your high was my, work

day, on the Saturday.

650

Yeah,

651

Dan 1: that much.

652

My happiness.

653

Tilly: I swear the woman

told me it was Wednesday.

654

Why?

655

Well, if someone told me, I'm not

going to bother looking it up as well.

656

I much.

657

I do care that you don't care for

my my my happiness that much I do

658

care about your happiness that much.

659

My 'hahhinesss'.

660

Dan 1: We'll just have to go

cinema and watch it together.

661

I I think it's already stopped showing.

662

I think it comes out in the sky anyway

in like four weeks, three weeks time.

663

I'll just make us some popcorn.

664

You'll be fucking making

more than that after that?

665

Spooky.

666

Yeah, and um, we

667

Tilly: think you finally got a pretty

nice breakfast and, slap up lunch.

668

Dan 1: our dessert, didn't we?

669

Tilly: Oh yeah, from the weekend.

670

Dan 1: Yeah.

671

Tilly: Yep, yep,

672

Dan 1: It was very tasty.

673

Very tasty.

674

The caramel peanut crunch.

675

And my My low, I think, was

that Monday that we discussed,

676

Tilly: Yeah,

677

Dan 1: when just being pretty, pretty

knackered and having to kind of,

678

Tilly: I think Saturday night

was quite low for you as well.

679

I felt like you were

pretty low Saturday night.

680

After

681

Dan 1: What, after all the gardening,

682

like a putz o'd,

683

Tilly: Yeah, you're pretty, yeah,

684

Dan 1: yeah, I was pretty

685

Tilly: pretty grumpy pants,

686

Dan 1: Yeah, a little bit.

687

Tilly: I was like, you weren't even,

you weren't awkward at all, you

688

were nice and jolly in the morning,

and you're still grumpy pants.

689

Dan 1: I didn't get to do all the

basketball that I wanted to do, well,

690

because there was so many fucking kids

who were like, oh, can I play with you?

691

Tilly: you went to posh one, you gotta

692

Dan 1: Yeah, I know.

693

Well, we haven't tried

out the Henley Court.

694

You can't just tell rich middle

class Henley kids, Fuck off, you

695

cunt, I wanna play basketball.

696

Especially when there's only one hoop.

697

Whereas here, there's

like, two to four hoops.

698

So you can just be like,

no, this is my one.

699

Whereas there's only one

hoop in the whole of Henley.

700

Tilly: even two, like one at each end of a

701

Dan 1: Nope.

702

There's just one hoop in the

middle of a fucking field.

703

Tilly: don't

704

Dan 1: It's nearly as Lambo one.

705

The only difference is there's

asphalt up to the hoop.

706

So the Lambo one is just fucking grass.

707

That's atrocious.

708

But the, but yeah, you miss it.

709

It rolls down the hill in the

field and you've got to like, chase

710

after your ball before it ends up

fucking in the Thames or some shit.

711

Surreal.

712

So I won't be playing there again.

713

Wasted time.

714

Yeah.

715

Yeah.

716

And don't forget the Rambo knife I found.

717

Yeah.

718

Tilly: broken chairs.

719

Dan 1: Broken chairs, yeah, yeah,

and beer bottles and glass, just

720

general, you know, remnants.

721

so yeah, I was a bit annoyed about that.

722

I was I wanted to play basketball

and do this stuff, and then it's

723

a really good plan, and then came

back, and I was, I was, I was more

724

in the mood to do our national trust.

725

But then I saw the time, and I was

like, there's no point driving an hour,

726

it being like the end of Easter, and

so it'd be rammed, because National

727

Tilly: be random discussions.

728

You'd think

729

Dan 1: you'd think we should have.

730

I just tend to find that if you don't

get there early, it seems to be full.

731

No?

732

Tilly: since we've had 11

733

Dan 1: Oh yeah, I guess, but it seems

to be kind of, 11 till 1 is the,

734

probably more like half 10 till.

735

Half two is the really busy time.

736

Yeah, yeah, I think in

hindsight you're right.

737

I just assumed it'd just be absolutely

packed, so I just couldn't be bothered

738

with screaming kids at the end of

Easter and parents just trying to

739

Tilly: mean there's never that

many kids at a National Trust.

740

Dan 1: I think Easter,

surely not, maybe not.

741

Tilly: No.

742

Dan 1: Anyway, so we did the National

Trust on Sunday instead and did all

743

the gardening on Saturday and I just

wasn't Yeah, I wasn't really ready

744

to do all the gardening, but I just

tried to crack on and do it anyway.

745

But then it meant that I was

pretty checked out by the evening.

746

Tilly: Mm hmm.

747

Dan 1: by the evening.

748

And,

749

Tilly: And then you asked me to

dinner because Pops was on me.

750

Dan 1: you were telling me

that the pork was gonna die.

751

Well, it was already dead.

752

That it was gonna go off.

753

Tilly: didn't.

754

I said, I said it is a day past its, a

day past its Elbow Day, which is true.

755

I thought it was meant

756

Dan 1: No, that's not true.

757

Tilly: was the 30th, Saturday the

758

Dan 1: No, I then told

you that after I cooked

759

Tilly: But I,

760

Dan 1: cooked it on the day of it,

761

side by day.

762

Tilly: before that, before you

said that, I was like, you could

763

put it in the freezer if you want,

you can't bother it, and you went,

764

no, no, I'm going to cook it.

765

Dan 1: Yeah, I'm glad I did.

766

It's really nice, I just didn't

fucking wanna kick it that evening.

767

Tilly: Okay, so it was on you, I

gave you a get out of jail free

768

card, and you chose still to do

769

So I ain't taking any

of your little bitching.

770

Dan 1: ha, ha.

771

Uh, Okay, Bye.

772

I'll just take my bitch and elsewhere.

773

Someone who's more receptive.

774

Tilly: Oh my god, it's past nine o'clock.

775

Dan 1: Yeah, well let's wrap this up.

776

Okay, what was your Do you have a low?

777

Have done your low?

778

Tilly: I think in general, I just worked

too long like I said earlier in the

779

evenings last week and so just generally

the collectiveness of just not feeling

780

like we had much evening and it was a bit

781

Dan 1: So my funny was on Friday.

782

This was You didn't, if you

remember, I took her out for a

783

bath after we did the weaning.

784

Tilly: And

785

Dan 1: Now this was, no,

did it, was it before?

786

No, it was after,

787

Tilly: was before,

788

Dan 1: it was

789

after the sun cream, because we covered

her in sun cream for me to get by

790

her sun hat, and are you right there?

791

Tilly: my nose.

792

Ha

793

Dan 1: Okay.

794

Tilly: ha ha ha ha

795

Dan 1: And so we then decided that

we had to wash her off because

796

we like rubbed it in her hair,

because her hair is pretty thin.

797

And she didn't have any,

anything to go over her head.

798

That was what we were doing,

going to buy a sun hat.

799

And so when I came back to wash her,

and then put her in the bathtub,

800

and, you know, I called you up, but

before that, so, I had, I was trying

801

to put her in the bucket thing.

802

Well, first she was in the seat, in the

803

bucket, but, but the seats,

The bucket's too small for the

804

Tilly: It isn't.

805

Dan 1: Yeah, so I took her out and I

kind of worked out that I could put my

806

hand underneath her bottom And that way

she could sit in the tub because the

807

problem is more that she like falls this

way or falls that way But if you've got

808

your hand there, you can kind of keep

keep her roughly stable But then she

809

let out this absolutely massive fart

all over my hand I was like, oh no,

810

Tilly: she

811

Dan 1: as she sharted on my hand, so I

pulled my hand out to check and then she

812

just went, splat, straight in the water.

813

So there wasn't any poo on my hand

and I had to quickly write her

814

and she just came up like really

startled, eyes flickering everywhere.

815

I was like, well that, phew, I didn't get

shit on my hand and she, she, sometimes

816

that she really kicks off from it, but

she just kind of looked a bit worried and

817

then went back on playing with her toys.

818

Tilly: played with

819

Dan 1: Definitely helps

to have toys in a bath.

820

Tilly: the most funny

821

Dan 1: So yeah, that was my funny,

her, well, me thinking she'd shouted

822

on my hand, pulling my hand away and

then finding out that she, and then her

823

just sploshing her face in the water.

824

top

825

Tilly: I think I generally just

find it, really funny that, when

826

she's, she's obviously figured out.

827

my boobs are here, and even

when it's closed over them,

828

my boobs are still there.

829

starts to start clawing at my top, she's

like, she pulls my top down, sort of pulls

830

down, sort of looks, tries to look down,

sort of looks down at my boobs like that.

831

Which is quite funny now, so she's like

a little bit of a perv which is sometimes

832

she's, I'm sure she's not, but sometimes

it looks like she's trying to fiddle

833

with like the clippy bit of my maternity

bra, she's like sort of clamping at it.

834

Yeah, and she does like real like She

sort of semi milks my boob now, doesn't

835

she Yeah.

836

Sometimes she does a double hander.

837

She sort of pulls it into her,

like, pulls it into her mouth.

838

Sometimes

839

Dan 1: And sometimes you can see her

like Clamping on, basically milking it.

840

She'll just grab some of your,

your boob, And then squeeze it

841

Tilly: just really gently

strokes my boob, sort of.

842

She brushes it like this,

843

Dan 1: foreplay before the clamping

844

Tilly: down.

845

Get

846

Dan 1: Yeah, get, get it warmed up.

847

Get it ready for the clamping.

848

Tilly: And then grab the nipple!

849

Get the nipple

850

Dan 1: Give me more!

851

Let down!

852

Let down!

853

Alrighty, do you want

854

Tilly: So yeah, this one was

painful, quite That's me done

855

Dan 1: Hi guys, thank you

very much for listening.

856

We really appreciate it.

857

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858

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859

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860

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861

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862

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863

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864

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865

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866

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867

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868

Cheers.

869

Enjoy the rest of the episode

870

skiddly bop bop bop?

871

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA off.

872

Okay

873

Tilly: me a pop bar

874

Now I need you to not do your

slow slow middle class talking

875

and you to do fast fast talking

876

Dan 1: Okay, here we go.

877

The shitty work day.

878

This Oh, wait, no

879

Tilly: shitty

880

Dan 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, the shitty work

day by Erin T, mum of three, on Honest.

881

com.

882

Probably the worst was when my

baby had a massive blowout right

883

before I was leaving for work.

884

Poop all up his back, into his

hair, leaking out the sides of

885

the diaper, so he needed a bath

and I needed to change my shirt.

886

I realise till halfway through my work day

that I had a stream of poop down my pant

887

leg that I had missed in all the madness.

888

Tilly: all ha

889

Dan 1: Oh, that'd be rough.

890

Okay.

891

So Jessica T, mum of two.

892

Tilly: number two.

893

Yeah, you

894

Dan 1: Yeah.

895

Yeah.

896

I don't want to be outnumbered.

897

Anyway, you never forget your first.

898

When I was a first time mum, I was on

my way back to a mummy and me class,

899

which was already daunting since getting

out of the house was hard enough.

900

When I finally get to class and go to

bed, Pull the baby out of the car seat.

901

She had not only blown out of her

diaper, but it was all over the car.

902

The mummy and me instructor looked at me

in shock and asked how she could help.

903

I could already see it in her

eyes, but she told me it was

904

the worst blow she'd ever seen.

905

The poop was everywhere.

906

It was up her front, up her

back, and all over the car seat.

907

I wouldn't be surprised if there was

even some on the roof of the car.

908

I was so embarrassed and sad.

909

And felt like an

unsuccessful first time up.

910

But was thankful for the group around

me gathering together to clean up

911

my baby girl and her surroundings.

912

Nothing bonds a group of

mums like a bad blowout.

913

Okay, you Is that fast enough you?

914

Now, if you could try not to

yawn in these, that'd be great.

915

Tilly: No, I've got one

coming, I can feel it rising.

916

I can feel one coming.

917

When we had our first son, my

wife and I were totally clueless.

918

We spent 30 minutes pondering

whether or not we had him in a

919

car seat properly at the hospital.

920

Dan 1: going to read the

title of the person, I'm

921

Tilly: G Wiz, it's

922

Dan 1: Alright, so what's on again?

923

Tilly: just read it.

924

Dan 1: fine.

925

Tilly: For the first couple of months, he

kept having pee leaks around his stomach.

926

It wasn't

927

all

928

Dan 1: Pee leaks around his stomach?

929

Is that me?

930

Tilly: coming out of his stomach.

931

Dan 1: Oh, I see,

932

Tilly: think it's just like

pee coming out of his stomach,

933

Dan 1: Oh, yeah, it's like,

934

Tilly: It wasn't all the time, but

enough that we were wondering why.

935

We brought it up to the pediatrician.

936

She asked if we'd point it out.

937

I know.

938

Dan 1: on?

939

you too tired to

940

Tilly: We bought it up at the pediatrician

and she asked if we'd point it down.

941

We both looked at each other wondering

what she meant when suddenly it

942

clicked, for me at least, to point

my little guy's little guy down.

943

Seen such an obvious conclusion after

we were told and since babies, or

944

diapers that matter, don't come with

those types of instruction manuals

945

I always tell first time parents

of boys to point that thing down.

946

They get Michael G, dad of two.

947

Dan 1: fucking obvious,

especially from a dad.

948

Tilly: I just don't think it's what

you think about, I think you're just

949

beautiful enough, you wouldn't need to

fold down The willy then, don't do it.

950

I'm

951

Dan 1: old rules.

952

the head of the boy, right out

of the then see what boy he is.

953

And

954

Tilly: a boy

955

Dan 1: course, see what other

changes that, that lead you to

956

Tilly: can be a danger

zone if you are quick.

957

Each boy had multiple to two diapers.

958

I said multiple times, especially

when it's cold, when the little guys

959

would know exactly when the diaper

wasn't there, and close and choose that

960

specific moment to begin releasing.

961

Dan 1: these.

962

Tilly: It must be some

kind of prank to them.

963

They would always giggle as

pee splattered everywhere.

964

Dan 1: as

965

Tilly: But As a parent, you know

that you need to leave the house

966

ten minutes ago and have no time

to clean, and do a wardrobe change,

967

That already took you 15 minutes to

find that matching sock the first time.

968

Who's a show up matching socks?

969

Not me.

970

I learned early on that rushing

the preparation of the diaper

971

change is a foolish mistake.

972

Always have the next diaper undone

and ready to put on the little one.

973

As soon as that sole diaper is

off, you better have the new

974

diaper or wipe ready to cover up.

975

Also, as time goes on, you

will know the face of the baby

976

mate right before they release.

977

Study this face.

978

You have a split second of what could

be a matter of life or death, alright?

979

Chill out, it's a bit of a

980

Dan 1: this going?

981

Okay, this is

982

Tilly: Oh, oh,

983

Dan 1: funny.

984

Tilly: no, we're done now.

985

Dan 1: No, no, come

986

on, those were rubbish.

987

Okay, last one.

988

If it's shit, it's shit.

989

Try and

990

read a bit ahead and don't fall asleep

991

Tilly: That's just the instructions.

992

Dan 1: it.

993

Okay.

994

Tilly: That's done now.

995

We're done.

996

Dan 1: Okay, fine.

997

Well guys, we resign.

998

We forfeit.

999

Tilly: Yeah.

00:40:59,902 --> 00:41:01,588

Dan 1: Good night all ciao.

00:41:01,657 --> 00:41:02,019

Bye.

00:41:02,568 --> 00:41:03,676

you listened to it that time