"Anyone can become angry-that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the

right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way-this is not

easy."  –Aristotle

As human beings, we sometimes fail to make desired changes despite good ideas and great intentions. Daniel Goleman coined the necessary emotional intelligence to make desired or unforeseen changes.

However, knowing that you lack some emotional intelligence is not enough for you to be more emotionally intelligent.

Missing is how do we go about learning the necessary emotional intelligence?

As is often the case, understanding what we do over and over and why may not lead to successful changes.

With all our knowledge and skills, smart, successful people get stuck, are blind to options and create messes for themselves or others.

Here’s what we want you to get from listening to this episode: 

Gain emotional insight that you never had before: 

The ability to recognize the emotions that keep you where you are and the skill to leave them for a more useful one. With practice we can in fact learn new emotions and leave others behind for a time. 

Is there an emotion you’d like to leave behind or one you’d like to visit more often?

Time Stamps:

Moods and their impact on daily life. 0:02

Chad and Shelley discuss their moods and practices, sharing tangible ways to improve one's life.

Chad argues that moods are overlooked and impact daily life, encouraging self-awareness to recognize and manage them.

Emotions, moods, and self-awareness. 4:30

Shelley Prevost: Emotions are chemical experiences that are fleeting but involuntary, and can be influenced and practiced through self-awareness and self-mastery.

Chad Prevost: Being emotional is natural, but being overly emotional can be criticized, and emotional life can be influenced and practiced through self-awareness and self-mastery.

Chad and Shelley discuss the role of emotions in their podcast recording, with Chad expressing frustration at external distractions and Shelley highlighting the importance of awareness and commanding emotions.

Aristotle's ideas on emotions are mentioned, with Chad wondering if humans have evolved since his time.

Emotional awareness and managing negative emotions. 10:06

Chad and Shelley discuss the difference between unconscious and conscious emotions, with Chad highlighting the importance of awareness in managing emotions.

Chad identifies as an Enneagram type four, often thinking about what is missing or lacking in his life.

Emotional idealization and its impact on mental well-being. 15:22

Chad discusses idealization and its impact on his emotions.

He acknowledges that this idealization can lead to disappointment and melancholy, and suggests practicing awareness of emotions as a way to address this issue.

Emotional states and moods. 20:53

Shelley and Chad discuss the concept of "acceptance" as an antidote to negative emotions like resentment, anger, and resignation.

Shelley identifies pride as a common example of an emotional negative disposition that can be overcome through acceptance, recognizing what she needs to accept about the situation and trusting that her work is not to control everything.

Chad and Shelley discuss the importance of recognizing and working on one's emotions, particularly the moods that trigger suffering and chaos.

Show Notes:

A General Theory of Love by Lewis, Amini, and Lannon

Learned Optimism by Martin Seligman

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

Field Guide to Emotions by Dan Newby, Curtis Watkins

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