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Find Your Own Way
Episode 24021st October 2022 • The Grief Code • Ian Hawkins
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In this episode, Ian shares with you a positive take on the phrase “it's my way or the highway,” which sometimes people see t through a negative lens. 

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  • Learning new perspectives and approaches.
  • Acknowledging that you can only control what you do and not what other people do.
  • Creating a good foundation of self-growth, discipline, and reliance is a good way to empower others.
  • Inspire yourself to find your own way.

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Ian Hawkins is the Founder and Host of The Grief Code. Dealing with grief firsthand with the passing of his father back in 2005 planted the seed in Ian to discover what personal freedom and legacy truly are. This experience was the start of his journey to healing the unresolved and unknown grief that was negatively impacting every area of his life. Leaning into his own intuition led him to leave corporate and follow his purpose of creating connections for himself and others. 

The Grief Code is a divinely guided process that enables every living person to uncover their unresolved and unknown grief and dramatically change their lives and the lives of those they love. Thousands of people have now moved from loss to light following this exact process. 

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Are you ready, ready to release internal pain to find confidence, clarity and direction for your future, to live a life of meaning, fulfillment and contribution to trust your intuition again, but something's been holding you back, you've come to the right place. Welcome. I'm a Ian Hawkins, the host and founder of The Grief Code podcast. Together, let's heal your unresolved or unknown grief by unlocking your grief code. As you tune into each episode, you will receive insight into your own grief, how to eliminate it and what to do next. Before we start by one request, if any new insights or awareness land with you during this episode, please send me an email at info at the end Hawkins And let me know what you found. I know the power of this word, I love to hear the impact these conversations have. Okay, let's get into it.

You know that phrase, it's my way or the highway. And you may see it through a negative lens and think that it's people's way of deciding that they're just going to go stubbornly and pigheaded ly in one direction, controlling other people and telling them they have to do the same. What if you looked at that saying a different way. And it's like, you can only control what you do. You can't control what other people do. And there's a certain power in taking that self responsibility for your way. It doesn't have to be your way or something else, it can be your way and something else it can be alright, let's let's find your way. There's a heap of guidance out there from people that will tell you this is the way this is the one way, follow this particular formula. And everything will be fine. Now, for some of those, they may work for you. But the vast majority of cookie cutter approaches where it's this way, just follow the formula. It may work short term. But mostly it's not going to work. And it's definitely not going to be sustainable. The best results you will ever get when you come up with yourself. And when I say that it's not dismissing all advice and all information out there. But instead find a structure. Find a framework to follow, where you can put in all of your magic, all of your ability, all of your genius into it. And even the structure itself, you can amend that. Because it's your choice is about finding your way. Whenever I'm working with clients, it's never about me telling them what to do. I will never ever say to them, you have to do this. If they asked me that they want to have a certain result. And they asked me to give them whatever they need to create that certain result. Well, then they give me permission to strongly suggest what I did. But even that's still a choice. They don't have to do it. So wherever you are up to in your life, it's about you finding your way. And sometimes even within our closest relationships, you might feel like well, but isn't that at the expense of someone else? Well, what if you could find your way and your partner could find their way and your children could find their way, and your friends could find their way and your extended family could find their way. While you all do that working towards what you want. Each individually, of course, is going to be places of crossover. But if we can all spend more time creating our own bit of magic, focusing more on our own personal genius, backing ourselves, how quickly we can change the world. I was explaining this to someone this morning. When I take people through a process where we basically chunk down into the smallest and most important detail of their life. Pretty much everyone lands at the same place is what they want within his peace. Now, isn't that interesting? Could you imagine if everyone could have that awareness and work towards that, where we would get like a genuine desire to make that happen? Instead of being caught up in all the other distractions and everything else that's going on. And it's not done by pushing agendas by trying to control people but instead empowering them. Like I said, I think it was yesterday's episode. And inspiring yourself to find your own way the way that works. Just for you This is where the absolute best results come. This is where the greatest level of fulfillment comes. This is what makes life really exciting. Find your own way.

I hope you enjoyed this episode of The Grief Code podcast. Thank you so much for listening. Please share it with a friend or family member that you know would benefit from hearing it too. If you are truly ready to heal your unresolved or unknown grief, let's chat. Email me at info at Ian Hawkins You can also stay connected with me by joining the Grief Code community at Ian Hawkins forward slash The Grief Code and remember, so that I can help even more people to heal. Please subscribe and leave a review on your favorite podcast platform