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Hello, darling heart, and welcome to this episode of the drink less, live better podcast.
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This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring.
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I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back.
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I'm a best selling author, expert speaker, corporate workshop facilitator, and life coach.
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I'm here to support you with your alcohol free or drink less adventures.
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Follow me on Instagram at drink less, live better.
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Find resources on my website, drink less, live better.com, and buy my book, drink less, live better.
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It's available in all the places you might purchase a book.
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I hope you enjoy this podcast episode. Let's get straight to it.
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The Buddhist principles of wise compassion versus idiot compassion.
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Wise compassion and idiot compassion are 2 very different things.
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When I'm coaching with 1 of my 1 to 1 clients, understanding the distinction is really crucial.
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This Buddhist concept really offers me valuable insights.
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Wise compassion, also known as fierce or tough compassion, involves a deep understanding of what truly serves another person's well-being in the long term.
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It's about seeing the bigger picture and sometimes making difficult choices that may cause short term discomfort and medium
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term discomfort that lead to lasting positive change.
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On the other hand, idiot compassion, while well intentioned, often stems from a desire to avoid conflict or that discomfort.
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It may involve enabling harmful behaviors or avoiding necessary confrontations out of a misguided sense of kindness.
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I work with people looking to change their
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uncomfortable truths. We don't shy away from discussing the realities of alcohol my clients have experienced.
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Wise compassion guides me to set really clear boundaries.
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We establish and maintain the way we are going to work together in our coaching relationship.
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Wise compassion guides me to encourage accountability.
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I support my clients to take responsibility for their choices and actions rather than helping them make excuses.
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Wise compassion helps me to provide honest feedback.
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I offer offer truthful, constructive observations even when they might be difficult to hear.
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Wise compassion guides me to support without enabling.
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I offer emotional support while avoiding actions that might inadvertently support continued harmful patterns or ways of behaving.
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Idiot compassion, in contrast, might lead to avoiding difficult conversations to spare someone's feelings.
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Idiot compassion might lead to making excuses for unfulfilled commitments or hesitating to challenge harmful beliefs or actions.
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It might offer false reassurances rather than addressing real concerns.
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In practice, wise compassion might involve gently but firmly pointing out inconsistencies between a client's stated goals and intentions and their actions.
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It could mean expressing concern about patterns or behaviors that the client may be minimizing and reducing.
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Crucially, wise compassion is not about being harsh or uncaring.
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It's deeply rooted in genuine care and a desire to see someone thrive.
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It's about having the courage to be truly helpful and supportive even when that's challenging.
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As a coach, I must also apply wise compassion to myself.
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How hard is it to sometimes take your own great advice and action it?
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This means acknowledging my limitations and also seeking my own support and professional supervision when I need to.
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Wise compassion is honesty, clarity, and genuine compassion, caring for someone in a deeply truthful way.
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Idiot compassion is sparing feelings and avoiding rocking the boat.
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Done out of good intention perhaps, but it means no change or progress is made.
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Using the words wise and idiot here is from the Buddhist principle.
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I can't say I'm a massive fan of the word idiot, but it does illustrate the point.
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Come and join me for some one to one coaching.
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I've got slots available for this sober September, and I've also got further slots into the autumn.
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You can drop me an email, sarah@drinklesslivebetter.com, and I'll get all the details straight to you. Thank you for listening in today. Come back again next week.
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