💬 Episode Overview
What if your anger wasn’t a problem, but a pointer? In today’s episode, we’re unpacking the truth about hidden anger and resentment — especially the kind we’ve been taught to ignore or hide. If you’ve ever felt guilty for feeling angry, or you’ve been stuffing it down for so long that you don’t even recognize yourself anymore… this one's for you.
We talk about the gift of anger, how Jesus and Moses both expressed it, and how suppressing it can lead to depression, emotional disconnection, and even damage our relationships. You’ll walk away with practical, healthy, and godly ways to process and release anger — and maybe even start your healing journey today.
🕰️ Time Stamps
1:15 – Intro: What comes to mind when you hear the word anger?
1:40 – The 8 core feelings (Chip Dodd – Voice of the Heart)
1:55 – Anger as a God-given gift: It reveals our passion
2:30 – Biblical examples of godly anger: Jesus & Moses
3:13 – The danger of stuffing anger: emotional numbness & depression
4:10– My personal story with hidden anger and the healing process
6:20 – Are you hiding anger? Or exploding it?
6:28 - What about going to bed angry? (Ephesians 4:26 & Psalm 4:4)
7:00 – Plane analogy: Quick vs. slow processors of conflict
8:02 – Balloon analogy: What are you doing with your anger?
8:34 – Helping teens (or yourself) express anger in healthy ways
9:08 – DIY rage room ideas + physical ways to release anger
11:48 – Journaling prompts + what your anger is trying to tell you
12:35 – The power of forgiveness: Resentment keeps you stuck
13:08 – Resources & Choose Life Challenge
🔑 Key Takeaways
- Anger is not a sin — it’s a signal that points to your passion, purpose, and values. Sometimes angry behaviors can be sinful, but the feeling itself is not sin.
- All emotions, including anger, were created by God and are good.
- Suppressing anger can lead to depression, disconnection, and emotional numbness.
- You can express anger in healthy and godly ways — verbally, physically, and creatively.
- Forgiveness is one of the most powerful ways to release hidden anger and resentment.
DISCLAIMER
I am a licensed professional counselor, however this podcast (and the info shared on my blogs and social media) is not therapy. It is for informational purposes only; this is not a professional therapy relationship; and it is not personal advice to your specific situation. If you wonder whether professional counseling may be helpful for you in this season of life, check out this article that outlines when you might need to seek the help of a professional counselor and how to find a good one: https://shelleyspence.com/how-to-find-a-christian-counselor
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I’m cheering you on as you break free from what’s holding you back and keeping you stuck.
