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Hello, and welcome to the traveling Introvert. Today I want to
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talk about communication and
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communication with confidence, but not
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necessarily what you're thinking about. You know, have
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you ever wondered like some people, when they enter the room, you kind of know
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the almost command attention and it's not they might
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not even have to speak, therefore it's not the words that captivate. But there are
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nonverbal cues. And so nonverbal communication
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is really vital in conveying your thoughts,
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emotions, intentions, just as much as your verbal
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communication. So I want to talk about two sides. I want to talk about sort
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of the body language, but I also want to talk about voice modulation.
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So with nonverbal, as far as like body language
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is concerned, it's a powerful tool, but it
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encompasses your posture, gestures, facial
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expressions and overall physical demeanor.
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And to communicate with confidence, you should pay attention to the following
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aspects of your body language. And this is something that I
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get told a lot because people assume that introvert
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are kind of hunched over and look inward
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and have a please don't talk to me vibe. And to some people
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that communicates a lack of confidence or lack of wanting to
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interact. So when you think about your posture,
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stand or sit up straight and convey a sense of openness and
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attentiveness, pull your shoulders back. It also works well
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for helping you speak better. I don't know if you've noticed that.
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So right now I'm currently hunched over and this is the way my voice sounds.
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But when I go ahead and open up and stretch,
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my voice sounds different. Don't cross your arms because
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this is something that signals disinterest or defensiveness
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and just be present of that because I know that's something that I do a
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lot. Eye contact. Eye contact is this weird thing. People assume
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that eye contact, like specific eye
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contact, shows good communication and confidence, but it can be
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unnerving. And not only that, if you're being asked a question and you're
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thinking you looking off to the side does not mean that you are not paying
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attention. So I think eye contact is overrated,
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but it is important. And then there's your facial expressions. I've
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been told personally, I have a bunch of great facial expressions, not
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intentional, it's just I don't really hide my feelings. And so your face
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is an essential tool for expressing emotions and connecting
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with others. So smiling or rolling your eyes, people
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know what you're thinking. So just smile genuinely when appropriate
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and think about your facial expressions to the tone of the conversation. You
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want to convey sincerity and authenticity and the fact
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that you're actually listening and then
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think about sort of micro expressions. So with
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facial expressions, the micro expressions are fleeting expressions that
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reveal your true emotion. Learn to recognize and control
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your microaggressions and your micro expressions to align them with
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your intended message. Hand gestures,
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the don't overdo it, but they help to sort of
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give more emphasis to things that you are saying.
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I know that some people fidget and other people can find that
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distracting, but if that what works for you to keep you
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attuned and what you're doing, do that body
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alignment. Make sure when you're speaking to a group conversing that you face
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the audience or the person that you are interacting with directly. It shows that you
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want to be actively involved in communication.
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And then there's sort of mirroring.
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You'll mirror the body language of the person you're speaking with. This can help build
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rapport and create a sense of connection. It is something that you don't realize is
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being done or the other person doesn't realize is being done. But
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we tend to really appreciate when someone is mirroring us and that
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goes for the same with your voice. If you're talking to someone who speaks really
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quickly and does things like that, then if you speak in the same way,
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for some reason our minds attune that with oh, this person is
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like me and therefore they're fine and they're safe. If you have
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someone that speaks with a
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more measured tone when you're talking
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to them, you should try and match that measured tone
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because that for them is what's easy for them to take on
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information and do that sort of a thing. So there's mirroring in personal appearance
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but also sort of in your voice and your modulation
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and just being emotionally aware of what you're doing. Self awareness is mainly the
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best part of communication and communicating confidently. Be
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aware of how you're standing. Are you fidgeting what you're doing? Are you
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listening? Are you having an eye contact? Empathy?
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With a little awareness and mindfulness you can really enhance your
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nonverbal communication skills that allow you to convey confidence in any
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situation. Practice and practicing self awareness
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is essential and so you need to kind of divert these skills and it's a
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muscle that you need to practice and grow. With dedication and attention to
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detail you will build your confidence and become a better communicator because of it
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by learning about and practicing all these things with nonverbal
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communication. Thank you for listening. This is
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Janice@thecareintrovert.com helping you build your brand and get hired. Have
