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I've been thinking about you.
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It's five words.
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I tell every audience member of mine to use, to reconnect with the people
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in their lives that they have fallen out of touch with for whatever reason.
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I love these five words and the power.
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They have to reconnect people.
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Welcome to episode 1 57 of the shit works, a podcast dedicated to all
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things, networking, relationship building and business development.
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I'm your host, Julie Brown.
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Speaker author and networking coach.
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And today I am discussing why studies say that you should
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unexpectedly reach out to old friends.
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As a listener of this podcast.
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You know, I love nothing more than a good study.
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I love digging into the data that supports the tips and teachings I have regarding
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networking and relationship building.
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And today I'm excited to tell you about the findings of a recent study
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conducted by Peggy, Louie, Sonia and rim Lauren men and Kate II men
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published in the journal of personality and social psychology and discussed
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in an article by psych news daily.
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In a nutshell, the study finds that people constantly underestimate
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how much others appreciate it.
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When someone in their social circle unexpectedly reaches out to them.
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The actual term in the article they use is a robust
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understatement of the appreciation.
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The study also found that the more surprising the reach out is
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the more people appreciate it.
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This is the part that really excited me because initiating
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contact and reaching out.
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To someone after a, you know, a prolonged period of disconnect
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can be super intimidating and this can cause anxiety and fear.
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Which oftentimes, unfortunately it causes the person to simply
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not reach out at a hall.
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But this study found one interesting variable that affected how much
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a person appreciated a reach out.
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Namely how surprising the contact was.
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They found that people receiving the communication placed greater emphasis
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on the surprise element and this heightened focus on surprise was intern
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associated with higher appreciation.
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So it doesn't matter how long it's been.
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Maybe it's better that it's been so long because the surprise element is so much
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higher and therefore the appreciation.
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For the reach out is so much greater.
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I, I can't tell you how happy these findings make me.
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I can't wait to tell every audience member that not only do those five
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words work, but they are scientifically proven to make people happy.
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No matter how long it has been since you last talked.
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There is a lot in this article.
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So I'm going to put a link to the article and the full study.
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In the show notes.
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And because this is the shit work short episode.
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There isn't a drink of the week.
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So just pour yourself a beer or a glass of wine or a cocktail
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or a seltzer or a mocktail, and just reach out to someone today.
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I guarantee it will make them happy.
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All right, friends.
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That's all for this week.
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If you like what you heard today, please leave a review
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and subscribe to the podcast.
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Also.
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Please remember to share the podcast to help it reach a larger audience.
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And if you want more, Julie Brown, you can find my book.
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This shit works on Amazon or Barnes and noble.
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You can find me on LinkedIn, actually brown BD, just, you know,
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let me know where you found me, where you, when you reach out.
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And I am Julie Brown underscore BD on the Instagram, or you
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can pop on over to my website.
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Julie Brown bd.com for last more information until next week.
