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While it may seem to be coming quickly, the New Year will soon be upon us. Being able to adequately prepare does not need to be a "mundane repeat" of actions and steps that you always take. This episode will explore the potential to plan for what is ahead in the New Year more effectively and with a new purpose to move forward, which may be more simpler than you think.
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Welcome to the podcast where relationships, confidence, and
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determination all converge into
an amazing, heartfelt experience.
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This is Speaking From The Heart.
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Joshua: Welcome back to episode
number 65 of Speaking from the Heart.
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Today, we're going to tackle the
inevitable conclusion of this year.
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The biggest thing that will ever
happen to you in which that will change
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everything that you know about yourself.
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It will be something that is radical
in nature, but yet you have to be
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prepared for what's ahead, and that is...
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the new year.
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That new year is soon upon us, and I can't
believe how quickly it has come by, and
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I'm sure that for you, it might be even
a reflection of a moment of time in which
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you have to say, "Wow, I can't believe
this has flown by", and even you might
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be saying too that you might have not
done what you really needed to accomplish
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in this year, but yet, here we are.
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We're going to be setting
goals for ourselves.
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We're going to be taking on maybe those
challenges that we have in the new year
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coming up, and we're going to be planning.
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We're going to be putting together the
things that we need to put together in
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order to become that new best version
of ourselves, because we are able to
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create not only those opportunities
in our own lives by doing it by
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ourselves, which I'm sure we have done,
or even with someone that has been an
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accountability partner in the past,
but maybe some of those things that
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have been successful have now changed.
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They might have evolved into a whole
new opportunity in itself, and you
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even have some things that are going
to be taking even a little bit longer.
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Maybe these are the things in which you
have been working on for over a year,
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and now you're going to be entering year
two of the next set of plans, but this
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is always the time of the year in which
I start to hear not only the little
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things that are being accomplished or
thought about when it comes to what we
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want to be in the new year, or even what
we want to try as something different,
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but I feel that there's always this quote
unquote mundane repeat of the actions and
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steps that we're always going to take.
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I think that we often have to take
a big step back and think, "Is this
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really going to work yet again?
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Are the things in which that I am going
to set out for in this new year going
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to work out for what I think is really
the best version of who I am now?",
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because let's face it, many of us
were successful in doing what we were
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doing, and for that, I applaud you.
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Congratulations for being able to get
to the end of your goal by achieving
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many of the things that were on your
list before even this year started, but
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for some of you that are listening to
this, you might have buyer's remorse.
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You might be feeling a little guilty
about what you actually have accomplished.
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Maybe you are feeling a little bit
ashamed of maybe those things that
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you should have been doing all
along, but there's hope, isn't there?
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You're going to employ the same sort
of techniques and the same sort of
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strategies that you have done time and
time again, and get back on that horse
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that you've been riding on, hoping
that the same result that we have been
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doing over and over again will actually
turn a new leaf for our own lives.
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Does that sound familiar?
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That's the very definition of insanity.
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It's doing the same thing over
and over and over and over again,
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thinking that you're going to have
a different conclusion; maybe a
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different result for that matter.
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I think that we have to think about
not just those things that we have
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accomplished, not only those aspects of
our lives in which we have worked on,
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but what has changed all around us that
maybe those things that we were successful
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in doing before might not work again.
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It's a cruel reality; thinking that you're
always going to be able to do the same
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thing over and over again, and you're
gonna have the same results, great!
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If you think that you have set up
that world for yourself, perfect.
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If you think that you have everything
in order for that to happen, fantastic;
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but this message, in this episode,
is for those that might not even
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be thinking outside of the box.
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The plan that we are going to be embarking
in for the new year will be completely
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different than maybe other years past.
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As a matter of fact, you might be
thinking that your purpose, or that
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mission that you want to set out for
in the new year, is going to actually
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happen by simply switching on that
new piece of technology that you have.
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Ever heard of artificial
intelligence, better known as AI?
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This year really gave us an
opportunity to explore more of the
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tools that are available because of
the enhancements of technology to
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help plan those new opportunities,
and feel free to use ChatGPT, to be
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using the new CoPilot feature within
your Microsoft Windows computer.
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Feel free to ask Siri to help you out
with all kinds of other things that
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maybe you need to be working on as
well, but I think that we have not only
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those responsibilities in which we are
researching not only the opportunities
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that we have in front of us but
also behind us that we can rectify,
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but I think that there's something
critical that we might be all missing
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when it comes to this big formula.
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Now, I might have been talking in
riddles for the last few minutes about
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what I might be really hinting at, but
if you have followed along with my many
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other episodes, even the last one for
that matter, in which we explored those
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different ways in which we can tackle
this busy season, I think that you will
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actually come to the conclusion that
this episode isn't just about the fact
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that we need to have the right motivation
or the right intrinsic qualities in
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which we're able to move forward.
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No, it's much more different than that.
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As a matter of fact, it's about not
just having that intrinsic quality
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that we have inside of ourselves to
be able to evolve and to create some
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of the best versions of who we are,
to have the best of relationships with
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people, and even new ones for that
matter, to have the confidence to even
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hold those conversations and be able
to hold ourselves accountable, but
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to have the determination as well,
but it's so much more than just that.
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It's something that even I have stumbled
upon in my new life that I've been trying
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to lead for so long and learning that
sometimes that solitary confinement that I
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have put myself through might not actually
be the answer that I was really looking
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for to try to find that new solution.
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If you haven't yet figured out what I'm
talking about, here's the answer in which
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we all need to be embracing as it comes
to preparing for our next adventure in
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the new year, and that is: our mindset.
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Now, I know that for many of us, we
have talked in various episodes up to
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this point with numerous guests that
we have been featured on this podcast,
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Speaking from the Heart, about the
opportunities in which we're able to
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create those best versions of who we
are, to be able to create not only
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those significant achievements that
we have deep inside of ourselves, but
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to realize that we just need to have
that switch flip on, and we might be
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pleading and arguing with ourselves,
and even others for that matter, to
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have that answer once and for all.
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We might have been looking for something
deep down in our silos to which we might
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want to change that mindset; to which
we want to have that new life; to which
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we have all those awesome resources
behind us, but the thing is, mindsets
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are not handed out at the grocery store.
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Mindsets are not something that
you can Google, or even ask ChatGPT
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or CoPilot on your computer.
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You can't ask Siri.
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You can't ask Facebook.
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You can't ask X, formerly
known as Twitter.
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You can't ask your Instagram, TikTok,
Snapchat, whatever method of delivery
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that you have used, you have to
understand something right now.
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If you don't change your mindset for
what you want to accomplish for the new
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year by investing in yourself, by reading
good literature, by listening to the
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podcast shows like myself, even listening
to the things that we have around us,
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we will never amount to the things
that we really are able to accomplish.
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That is the bottom line.
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Did that sink in?
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Did you know that that mindset
that we have inside of ourselves
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might need to be rattled sometimes?
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To be challenged?
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To be able to move into a different
sort of plane of existence in order for
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us to truly wake up to what's ahead?
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A lot of times, even in this past year,
I have learned so much about not only
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myself, but the ways in which I have
created that value in my own life.
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Starting Your Speaking Voice LLC has
been really the truest honor that
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I have ever accomplished, not just
because of what I've been able to do.
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No, no, no.
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It isn't just about me
in this whole adventure.
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It's been about all the different
people that have come alongside
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of me to say to me that you have
this gift inside of you, Josh.
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You have to unleash it into the world,
and it's been about not only changing
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the status quo of what coaching has been
all about, which I am on that mission
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of doing, to help others see their voice
in this ever changing world, come alive,
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but I know that for some people, they're
never going to be able to change that
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mindset until something changes inside
of them, and maybe yelling into the
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microphone just now, hearing my voice
tell you that if you're ever going to make
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a difference, to change all the habits
that you have inside of you, it means
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changing your mindset actually starts
you on that path, I'm pretty darn proud
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of you for being able to listen to that,
and still continue with this episode.
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I often wish, that I would have more
people surrounding me on this new
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adventure that I'm on, and I know that
even in a new year, I am the most afraid
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that I have ever been in my entire life.
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It doesn't mean that I'm scared of what
it means to take chances or to be able
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to create that opportunity that lies
ahead of me, but what it does mean is
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that I never felt so alone in my entire
life at this very moment as I record
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this episode, thinking that the next
adventure is pretty scary because I'm
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the only one that's on that journey all
by myself, but as I continue to even
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think about the fact that there's been
many people that have helped me this
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past year, I realized something else.
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The goodness that's inside of our
hearts are usually the ways in which
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we dictate how we move forward.
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How we accomplish what we want to
accomplish usually starts with what
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lies inside not just our heart, but in
our brain: the thoughts that manifest,
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but even in the emotions that convey
those thoughts, but even deeper than
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that, there's a soul inside of each
and every one of us that has a fire,
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wanting to continue to create not
just those opportunities that we have
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inside of ourselves, to see the true
light that shines above all else, I
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think that we often forget about the
fact that we might be the only ones
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that will have the right mindset in
order to radically change the entire
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process that we've ever been through.
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When I was going through my suicide
attempt three and a half years ago, soon
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to be four as we enter the new year, I
realized something about my whole body
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of thought process, and that is this: if
we're ever going to be able to reach into
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a new adventure of a lifetime, in which
we're going to be able to challenge not
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the ways in which we've been doing things,
but to move into a path that we never
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thought that other people would support,
we have to realize that sometimes it means
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taking a bold step in the right direction.
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Now I get it, there might be reasons
why you shouldn't do that, whether
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they're political, they're social,
they're economical, there might be
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some feedback culturally, socially,
maybe there are other things that are
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happening that make you afraid of being
willing to take that first step, but
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I think that the plan ahead for you is
really just starting with the basics.
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It can be as simple as picking up that
book that you have laid around for over
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four to seven years, and I'm so specific
about four to seven years is because
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I was doing that for the longest time.
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There was a book that had
influenced me beyond all else.
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There has been something that had been
missing in my life that I really wish
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that, even as a kid, I would have wanted
to have even around this time of year.
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That book isn't just any
sort of religious text.
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It isn't just some sort of philosophy
about what somebody else said.
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It's the book in which I wrote
about myself; never thought that I
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would be talking about my book about
myself, but the thoughts that I
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wrote many years ago still surface.
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"You are nothing!
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You are not worth it!
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You are disgusting!
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You are a piece of shit!
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You will never amount to anything.
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You are not a good person.
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You will never amount to anything.
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You will not have a
relationship with a woman.
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You will not ever overcome.
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You are a failure."
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Those words, even to this day,
still radiate inside of me.
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They make me feel that sometimes I'm
not ready for that next adventure
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that's lying ahead, but then I
realize that that mindset that I was
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reading was really a past version
of your podcast host, Joshua D.
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Smith.
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I don't know what lies ahead
for you, and I don't know if you
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resonate with any of the things in
which I say in this episode today.
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I don't know if I have reached the many
people that I need to reach yet, but you
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know, there's something interesting about
doing something like this type of project.
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It allows you to have the creative
control and the ability to reflect
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on many different things that you
can hear, not just about what you are
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doing, but what I am doing as well.
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Going all the way back to episode one,
where I asked the question, "What is on
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your heart?", I think that we often have
to ask ourselves that question even in
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this season of busyness, which I challenge
you on whether you are really busy on,
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because I don't want to live in that
mundane repeat of what I've been through
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in my entire life, and I know that for
whoever's listening to this, I want you
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to know this: not only are you worth it,
but you never have to make those phrases
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that I said just a few minutes ago come
alive in your heart, because you are
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something of great value, and if you are
listening to this, and you are reflecting
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on what's lying ahead, throw that book
away that is about you and your past, and
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get a new book in which you write those
new versions of yourself, no matter how
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extreme they are, so that you're able to
not only start changing that mindset that
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you have, but maybe this is the year that
you, X, Y, and Z, start to become, not
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only the best versions of yourself, not
only successful in what you're about to
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do, but you have a sidekick by your side.
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It's you, yourself, and me, because I will
always be there for you, no matter what.
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You will always have that person
that will love you for who you are,
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no matter what, and despite what
anybody will ever tell you in your
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entire life, know this: I appreciate
that you are speaking from the heart.
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Thanks for listening to episode
number 65 of Speaking From the
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Heart, and I look forward to
hearing from your heart very soon.
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