Hi everyone!  Welcome to the A to Z of Sex.  I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host.  We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time.  Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. The A to Z of Sex is on location this week, visiting Mistress Max Rulz.  Today the letter is T and T is for Talking Dirty. 

Perry wasn't the best looking guy, a little overweight, a little unkempt.  He wore thick glasses, plain jeans and he tended to slouch.  Most men and women didn't find Perry attractive until he spoke.  Perry's voice was liquid smooth and deep.  He made love with his voice even when talking. about ordinary things.  But when he decided to talk sex, well the person he was talking to was lost.

Perry liked to create a sensory rich scene so detailed that you felt pulled into the world he was created.  The scenes he created were plush like deep velvet.  They enveloped you, captivated you and did not let you go until after he had finished.

Mz Max and I talked about talking dirty to communicate your desires to your partner and how hard it is for so many people to speak their truth when it comes to what they want.  We talked about how much shame there is around sex. 

Mz Max talked about how masturbation involves us talking dirty to ourselves.  That all masturbation needs a script.  She talked about how basic and primal sex is and meant for enjoyment and pleasure.    And how much shame still exists about sex. 

We spoke about talking dirty for foreplay, and how talking dirty is different than writing or texting.  Mz Max talked about how often what people wrote to her was so different when in person – how body language illustrated the shame or the embarrassment or the areas that are just fantasy and not based in reality.

Mz Max talked about how kinky folk negotiate before having sex.  Mz Max said that every person is deliciously perverted at least in their own head.  

Finally we talked about how talking dirty brings you into the now.  So you are fully present in sex.  And how difficult this is for people in modern society but how much better sex is when you are completely engaged.

Thanks for joining me for the A to Z of SexÒ.

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