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Hello and welcome to this week's episode.
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:Our focus today is on reflecting
on the last year of your career.
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:So if you're listening to this episode
as it's released, then it's new year
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:and it's a natural time for reflection
and setting intentions for the new year.
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:But we've designed this episode so
that you can use it at any point.
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:And then this is going to be back to back
with an episode next week, which will go
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:to the future and thinking about what that
future career might want to look like.
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:So all of what we're covering is stuff
that we cover with our clients all the
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:time, and we just wanted to share with
you this week, some of the reflection
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:questions that we use, that we find
are most helpful for helping clients
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:to do that reflection piece and get
in the best place to decide what they
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:want for the future of their career.
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:So Pam, this I imagine comes up a lot when
you are working with job search clients
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:because that aspect of knowing what
they want has to start with reflecting
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:on where they've been in their career
and where they're up to at this point.
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:Pam: Yeah, I think the reflection
is the best part of what we do.
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:And it is so important because people
just think I need to move forward.
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:And whatever's happened in the past,
they want to draw a line under it.
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:Sometimes you don't even want to
think about it because There'll be a
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:million reasons, everything from being
embarrassed to being hurt and upset.
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:There's a lot of stuff that goes
on within our careers that we
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:just want to move away from.
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:But I think the key thing in order
to move forward properly in the right
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:direction and with real intention is
to reflect on where you've been, the
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:lessons that you've learned and what
you can take out of all of that to
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:move forward with, because you don't
reflect on it, you'll forget about it.
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:The memories will be quite fragmented
and it will just make your life so
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:much easier in terms of moving forward.
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:If you do that real deep reflection
and it's a great time to do
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:it at the start of the year.
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:Jacqui: It's interesting, isn't it?
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:Because so much of our work is
with people who are ambitious.
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:They want to progress.
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:They're really keen for that next stage.
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:And if I think about my time in my career.
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:I didn't do that much reflection really
it's it happens when it comes around
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:to appraisal time and you have to try
and think back, but a lot of the time
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:that focus when you're constantly
ambitious and looking at the next thing
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:you sometimes don't give the time and
attention to reflection, and there's so
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:much benefit that can happen when you do.
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:So we're going to share our six favorite
reflection questions and what we'll do is
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:just talk you through how we use them with
clients, why we love them as questions and
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:what you can take from them if you put the
energy into reflecting on that question.
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:So get us started, Pam.
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:First question.
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:What would you ask people?
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:Pam: Okay.
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:So question number one has got to
be, what have you learned this year?
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:I think that is a really good one to just
stop and go, what have I actually learned?
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:Because it's so easy to get caught up
in the day to day in the to do lists and
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:And it's what have I actually learned?
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:And just really sitting down
and thinking through that.
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sometimes they really stop and go.
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:I'm not sure that I've learned anything.
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:So it is definitely one to
really make you stop and think.
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:Jacqui: It's interesting, isn't it?
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:Because you can get to a stage in your
career where it feels groundhog day.
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:You feel like.
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:Your job is within your
capabilities, and it's easy to
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:And so what I love to do with
this question is to then break
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:it down if that's the case.
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:So to think about what skills
or experience have you learned?
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:What have you learned in terms of
technical capability and the role?
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:But also what have you
learned about yourself?
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:What have you learned about
what you want in your career?
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:What have you learned about
colleagues or about how to
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:operate in the work environment?
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:There's so many different things when
you add to that sentence of what have you
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:learned about put in different endings
that can make that question easier
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:to answer and make it more specific.
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:And if you've listened to our previous
episodes, you'll know specificity is
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:that, that word that's so hard to say
and also doesn't happen often enough.
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:Pam: Yeah.
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:I'm not even going to attempt
to say that word because no
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:I cannot say it, but yeah,
being specific is key.
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:And I think, even if you feel like you
haven't learned much, like you say,
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:there's always so much that you can
actually draw upon and even if you feel
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:like you've learned that what you're doing
isn't actually what you want to be doing.
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:That's a huge learning.
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:Like sometimes when you feel a little
bit stale in the role, or you've not
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:learned anything or you've not progressed,
actually, that's a really great sign
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what is next and, moving forward.
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:Jacqui: Great.
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:Second question then?
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:Pam: Okay, so the second question
would be, what relationships have you
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:Jacqui: Love this question,
and not one that I ever would
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:Why this question?
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:What is it about that one that is so
important for people to reflect on?
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:Pam: So with this one, I always
find that relationship building
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thinking, but it's also something
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:So lots of people, unless you work
in sales or a sales related role
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relationships all of the time, so
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not even realize that you're doing
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:it because it's part of the job.
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:But a lot of the time people won't
think of building relationships until
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:they need to build those relationships.
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:So rather than starting to get those
relationships going and having those
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people at that deeper level, they
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mode, I need to start networking, I
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relationships overnight.
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:Now, like thinking about that today
as you listen to this, like what
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:relationships have you made and
maintained this year can really put
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put into that or how much of that
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:Jacqui: I think it's interesting as
well that sometimes when you look
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:at the list of what relationships
you have built or maintained the
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:So that example you were talking about
of sales, very often if you ask that
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the relationships that come out will
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:Relationships that they've invested
in because they see the need to be
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:intentional about those relationships.
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:But sometimes the things that
aren't on there is some of the
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:internal relationships, some
of the peer relationships.
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:And for me, it's those themes that can
be really interesting to explore when
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:clients answer this question, because
that intention and that prioritization
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:of relationships is the bit that,
like you say, is so hard to do.
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:It's the bit that's easy for it to go
under the radar and sometimes people
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:will find that they've developed more
relationships than they realized but
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:very often with this what it draws
attention to is that there's opportunity
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:for more of that and also for being more
intentional with it as they move forward.
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:Pam: Yeah definitely and building those
relationships and being intentional with
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:doing that will really help no matter
what stage of your career that you're
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good to build relationships with and just
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:really plotting out what, what you want
to do and what, who you need to speak to.
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:And, even if it's just from, we've
talked lots on the podcast about,
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:finding the right mentor and things
like that, even looking at relationship
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:building from that point of view,
what can you learn from other people?
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:Not just about, how can those people
help you to progress or help you
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:It's how can you build those
relationships in order to understand,
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:how you can be better in your role
and all of that kind of stuff links
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:Jacqui: And we've got an episode
planned that is not too far off that
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:will focus on the skill of doing that.
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:So if you're listening to that question
and recognizing that maybe you could be
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:more intentional or that you're not really
sure how to build relationships that will
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:The third one, I love this question
and definitely never thought
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:Pam: Okay, so if you could do this year
over again, what would you do differently?
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:Jacqui: Perfect.
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:So , what answers do you tend
to find that clients come up
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:Pam: So usually the first thing that
someone will say is everything, I would do
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:everything differently because it's one of
those questions where you ask people and
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:straight away, if it's not been a great
year or there's been some, real learning
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:curves within that year, then It's easy
to go, Oh, I do everything differently,
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:And that kind of links back in
nicely to what have you learned?
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:Because anything that you are
thinking that you might've done
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:differently is going to come
from things that you've learned.
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:So I think that's.
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:It's a really, it's a really
key question, isn't it?
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:Because actually then when you break it
down, would you have done it differently?
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:Or did you act in accordance with
the skills and experience that
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:Jacqui: I find that fascinating because
when I ask this question, I often get
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I get that people recognize that the
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:result isn't necessarily what they
wanted, but they struggle to identify
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:what they would have done differently
in order to get a different result.
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:So a lot of my work with existing
leaders who want to, improve in terms
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or settle in at that next level.
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:Often that question is a
really tricky one to identify.
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got the results that I hoped for.
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:But I'm really struggling and what
that can help to uncover is those
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:elements for a skills gap or a PDP.
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:It can identify where there are some
areas that could trip you up if they
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:So depending upon whether you're in
that phase of, I've recognized that.
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:This is where I'm up to I want to move
on and I would do things differently
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:and maybe find that it's perhaps less
you would do differently than you first
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:thought or where you're more in that
second boat of finding that perhaps
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you wanted but you're not sure how
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:then I think there's a lot to take
from reflecting on that question.
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:Next one is an interesting one.
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:We debated didn't we whether to
include this in our final list because
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might sound a little bit negative
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:but bear with us and we'll explain
why it's so important to reflect on.
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:Pam: Yeah so this one is what's the
biggest mistake that you've made?
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:This year, and this is one that I ask
my clients, because I feel like it's a
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:really good question to make you think
again so to really reflect, because a lot
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:of the time, if you've made a mistake,
you will, you'll want to correct it.
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:Move on from it as quickly as possible,
you will probably, in some cases want
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cut off any association to that mistake
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:that you've made when actually we need
to make mistakes to learn from them.
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we'll never learn.
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:But we live in a culture that, mistakes
are not really acceptable, are they?
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depending on the leadership styles
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cultures within the organization,
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you can learn from them.
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:But then in other organizations, it's
they might say, you're, it's allowed
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make one, it's the worst thing in
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cause humiliation, embarrassment,
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feelings to, to come up in people.
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and you just put it in a box and put it
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career, when you're doing your appraisals,
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:Those mistakes are going to be in the back
of your mind, they're going to make you
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:fearful, and they're going to stop you
from really being the best you because
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:if you can unbox those mistakes and learn
from those things and look at, what you
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point of view, that will really help
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make is really interesting.
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:So I find very often with my clients,
when they've been promoted and
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unrealistic expectations of themselves.
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the new role, which is a stretch.
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that they need to adopt, they expect
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expectation of yourself.
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you don't want to admit to yourself
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learning are so intertwined.
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them to be able to jump on a bike and
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go into quite a complex senior level role
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and do it brilliantly from day one?
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and having honesty with yourself about
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:The other thing that I love to do with
clients on this is to use something
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you reflect back on what you consider
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that but with a different ending.
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yourself so that And I think people
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of this reflection because it feels
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:uncomfortable dwelling in that place
where you're making judgments about
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should have been able to do better.
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:But when you mentally go back to
that time or situation to that
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:trigger, whether that's, having
a disagreement with somebody.
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:Whether there's been a conflict or
something's escalated, whether you've
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:said the wrong thing or whether you've
missed the deadline or whether you
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brief, there's so many possible examples.
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that time in that situation.
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steps, but you then can change the ending.
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:So think about the question that
you did want to ask, or think about
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:how you could have framed an email
or a conversation with your boss to
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:Then what you do is you give
yourself the opportunity that if
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:that thing happens again in the
future, your brain is more prepared.
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:It recognizes the path and instead
of the kind of freeze of, ah, no,
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alternative way to handle it.
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:And that mental rehearsal for the future
can be such a simple and yet such a
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:Making that same mistake again, but
to get to it, you've got to reflect
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about mistakes that you've made.
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recognize that mistakes are normal,
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and reflect on the biggest mistake
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the fear away from it, don't you?
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:Pam: Yeah, definitely.
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:When you do that, you're going
to respond rather than react.
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:And that just feels so much better,
but, that technique is really useful.
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:Playing it back and, thinking yourself
into that situation and what would you do?
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need to pause, don't you?
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:Think about, how am I going to respond to
this rather than just reacting and taking
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right way to deal with that situation.
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:So I love that because that
is real reflection, isn't it?
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:Taking yourself back through that,
and even if it feels difficult, and
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said things that you shouldn't have
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differently, and take yourself through
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back through it, because you'll learn
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our final couple then, and I
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:Fifth one.
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:Pam: So the fifth one, this
is my most favourite one.
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:What are you most proud of this year?
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I find people are struggling to answer.
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:Pam: Yeah, this is like the hardest one
to answer because people they just don't
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did badly, but what they did really well.
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around it and it's okay to celebrate
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all of that great impact and influence
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and go, do you know what?
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you feel like, almost like you're 10
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where you I know what I'm doing.
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:All of the, all of these years that I've
been doing this stuff yeah, nailed it.
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you want to leaning to, I think,
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good with this question as well is
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things as well as big achievements.
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:People often struggle to answer
this because they might feel like, I
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can be about that time that you were
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team who had stuff going on outside
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conducted yourself in that meeting with
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:It can be about the result that you
delivered by bringing people together.
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things up to bigger things.
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:And what I love about this is it's
so useful for reflection in order to
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want to take to an appraisal, a one to
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there's also that job search element
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proud of that you would then put into
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find easy to answer at all is it?
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:Pam: No, people really do struggle with
it and it's just that whole thing isn't
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nice way, in a positive way, like people
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but never as quick to big themselves up.
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headed or boastful and things like that.
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:Own this stuff, like really be
proud of yourself because everyone's
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family life, whatever it is going
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:on, if you just take this time off
to go, what am I proud of this year?
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:What have I done?
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:And like you say, the small things to the
big things, it doesn't matter what it is.
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it, write it down, take note of it.
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go these are the good things.
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:These are the things that I'm proud of.
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:Jacqui: And I think this can
be a really good one to get.
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:We've talked before about the idea of
a smile file of being that one place
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:where you capture all the positive
feedback that you get externally.
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yourself to capture as you go through
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now once and reflect on the last 12
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and reflecting on this week by week,
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be proud of what you're contributing,
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this, is about when people have been
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something to be proud of when you've been
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how you want to manage, how you want to
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being proud of yourself and feeling like
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things as well as massive achievements
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terms of how you feel about yourself
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:Pam: Yeah, I think that is definitely if
we could all do that, I think, it would
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we do so much easier because leaning into
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to benefit us isn't it in the long run.
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:Pam: Okay, so the final one is, how
have you used your strengths this year?
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this question, people will say, Oh, I'm
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but it's always a hard one, isn't it?
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are you proud of yourself for because
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you used your strengths this year.
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strengths are and you then need
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brought your strengths into play.
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with this question is either they're
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strengths are, but they recognize
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a lot of time and energy on trying
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bringing their strengths into play.
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wasn't really opportunity for me to
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strengths, we tend to feel in flow.
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around burnout, one of the things that
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using your strengths more often in the
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positive impact and has an association
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down that road of burnout because
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it's less effort and energy to work.
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trying to overcome your weaknesses.
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of layers to this question.
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:Pam: Yeah, I love that as well, like
playing to your strengths rather than
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sometimes, obviously we're always trying
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looking at, what are our weaknesses and
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to your strengths, you're
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those weaknesses and limitations, maybe
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that and focusing in on that.
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other stuff that can be part of your
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come with time or leaning into your
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going to make the most impact.
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:Jacqui: And once you get clear on what
your strengths are, you can ask yourself
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strengths in a wider range of situations.
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when you are conscious and intentional
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feel more comfortable, more confident,
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because you recognize that you do
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and attention being on the things that
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you that aren't as strong, your focus
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things that you can bring and you'll find
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into play in a wider range of situations.
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game changer, can't it?
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to our strengths, it's like looking
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our strengths is going to be key.
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on our weaknesses, but we never
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use those strengths and really
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something in that and thinking about
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year will really help you to focus
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:What do you want to do less of?
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that we love doing it.
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other debate, isn't it?
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really well and like it's classed as a
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it is a strength and I'm leaning into
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:element of reflection, but it's
also a good one to think about.
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:If you are playing to your strengths,
are you enjoying where you are?
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:Like the, there are all different
questions that you can think
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thinking, where have I been, this
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I want to do more of going forward.
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:Jacqui: I think that's such
an interesting question.
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:For me, perceived strengths is what
other people think your strengths are.
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:True strengths are the
things that do energize you.
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naturally, feel easier, are enjoyable,
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point that very often we would classify
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we've been told we're strong at.
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:They're not always things that
are true strengths in the way
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:I definitely having trained in coaching
and worked with strengths for a
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differently about them than I did.
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for people to be able to identify what
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strengths and do those really meet the
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am I considering them strengths, because
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:And that might mean that I'm showing
a higher level of performance than
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:other people are but that still
might not be a true strength in
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:That feels to use that or do that within
the workplace so much food for thought.
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:So I'm just going to ask you to
run through and just give us those
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:So if people are listening and
want to just capture them, we'll
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that you can take them from there.
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on this reflection and start to
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:So take us through those six
questions again, if you would.
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:Pam: Okay, so number one, what
have you learned this year?
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:Number two, what relationships have
you developed and maintained this year?
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:Number three, what would you
do differently if you could
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:do this year over again?
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:Number four, what's the biggest
mistake that you've made this year?
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:Number five, what are you
most proud of this year?
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:And number six is how have you
used your strengths this year?
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:Jacqui: Thank you so much for listening.
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:If you are doing that reflection
piece and feel that some coaching
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:support would help, Pam and I both
offer power hours where we can work
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:Sometimes it just really helps to have
somebody else tease that stuff out of you.
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us on LinkedIn, and we will be back
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we'll support on that next stage of
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want to move your career forward.
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