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Play isn't a luxury in a relationship. It's a bonding mechanism that creates shared joy, and shared joy is one of the things that makes a relationship feel alive rather than managed. Couples can be doing everything else right, communicating well, handling life well, and still quietly lose this without noticing.

In this episode, Alastair shares the story of Chris and Jules, who had built a genuinely good life together. They were still fond of each other, but as Jules put it: "We're great partners. But I'm not sure we're still playmates." He asked them to commit to one genuinely playful thing each week, no purpose other than fun. A simple card game on a Tuesday night reminded them how much they enjoyed each other. This week's challenge: play together, purely for fun, and notice what it does to the energy between you.

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Think about the last time you and your partner were genuinely playful together, laughing, being silly, or doing something purely for the joy of it, with no agenda attached.

For most couples, that memory is harder to recall than it should be.

And after 30 years of working with couples, I can tell you that gap matters far more than than most people realize.

Because play isn't a luxury in a relationship.

It's one of the things that keeps love alive.

Hi, I'm Alistair Dews, and welcome to the Daily Relationship Tips Podcast where I share simple, practical tools to help you and your partner feel close, connected, and in love again, one small habit at a time.

Now, play isn't just for children or for the early days of a relationship.

When everything feels light, play is a bonding mechanism.

It creates shared joy.

And shared joy is one of the things that makes a relationship feel alive rather than managed.

So play.

That's today's habit to focus on, not entertainment.

Play the kind where you're both in it together, where the point is the fun itself and where you get to see a side of your partner that the serious, responsible, functional version of life doesn't often show.

A couple I worked with, I'll call them Chris and Jules, had built a genuinely good life together.

They communicated well, they handled challenges well.

They were clearly still fond of each other.

But when they sat down with me, there was a low level seriousness to how they described their relationship.

Life was busy, things were managed efficiently but playful.

Chris thought about it.

Not really, he said.

I'm not sure when that stopped.

Then Jules said something that stuck with me.

We're great partners, but I'm not sure we're still playmates.

When I worked with them, I asked them to commit to one genuinely playful thing per week.

Not a nice dinner, not a useful project.

Something with no purpose other than fun.

They started with a card game on a Tuesday night.

Low stakes, no agenda.

Within a few minutes they were laughing.

Not at anything particularly funny, just at each other, at the game, at the silliness of it.

They told me the following week we'd forgotten that we were fun together.

From there they started doing more.

A trip to the bowling alley.

Acting out scenes from films badly on purpose.

A games night with friends.

None of it was complicated, but all of it was connecting.

So here are some options for playing Create a regular games night cards, board games, video games.

Go on a playful date.

Mini golf, bowling.

A visit to somewhere neither of you goes for serious reasons.

Engage in a physical activity you don't take seriously.

Be genuinely silly together.

Act something out.

Make up a song be ridiculous in a way, you'd only be with each other.

The specific activity matters less than the spirit.

What matters is that you're in it together.

And the point is just to enjoy each other.

Because couples who play together build a texture to their relationship that sustains them through harder seasons.

They have inside jokes that that belong only to them.

They have silly memories.

They have a version of each other that's light and joyful.

And they know how to get back there.

That quality doesn't come from managing life well.

It comes from playing together regularly across the years.

So play this week purely for fun, and notice what it does to the energy between you.

Now one new relationship habit is a start.

But here's what might make the biggest difference for your relationship right now.

There's a free two minute quiz at DailyRelationshipTips.com that shows you which one or two relationship habits will move the needle fastest for you.

Take just two minutes and you'll know more about your relationship than most couples figure out in a year.

And while you're there, you'll find a stack of relationship resources to help you put these habits into practice.

Everything you need is waiting there for you.

Thanks for listening and I'll see you in the next episode.