Jane interviews Tamara and Shanelle from Motherhood a Beautiful Nightmare. 

Highlights

- We discuss why women take on the mental load of housework, child care and all household duties even if they have ADHD?

- Should we stage a protest?

 -Tamara wonders whether she should have just let her husband do her daughter's make up for the dance concert?

- Why do we prepare for armageddon if we are going away for the weekend and our husband is taking over?

- Shanelle talks Brene Brown and her speculation that the split will never be 50/50. Each partnership is different.

- Jane recounts how her and her hubby divided up the duties when she went back to work.

- How can we more often ask ourselves questions about why are we feeling frustrated or angry?

- No one talks about self care - that's like giving sip of water to a dehydrated person in the desert. Mum's need way more than a massage one time.

- Jane shares she has previously always felt like she 'fails at therapy' because she couldn't do any of the interventions.

- Tamara and Shanelle don't have ADHD but wonder if we can celebrate the similarities of us all being people and raise awareness of inclusion instead of seeing the differences.

Gottman Method for Couples

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You can check MABN out on:

https://motherhoodabeautifulnightmare.com

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