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hello, hello, this is the Borealis experience. I'm Aurora,
Speaker:and I will be spending some time with you today. Maybe you can
Speaker:hear it through my voice, I have a big smile on my
Speaker:face because yesterday I decided to record meditation while I was
Speaker:walking with my dog. And I wasn't a good mood yet, I used a
Speaker:couple of swear words. So YouTube decided to restrict my
Speaker:content. So now when you click on episode number 13 on YouTube,
Speaker:they will ask you first if you are willing to listen to
Speaker:inappropriate content. And it's a meditation, right? So yeah,
Speaker:no, this is all awesome. I love YouTube and just doing their job
Speaker:and I will keep posting anyways and maybe watch my language. So
Speaker:last time, I went a little bit deeper into the physical body's
Speaker:well being and gave you tools with how you can make sure that
Speaker:you're giving your body everything it needs. Need,
Speaker:needless to say that everybody is different. So if I tell you,
Speaker:you have to drink four liters of water every day, it might be not
Speaker:the right thing for you. And a lot of times we are out there
Speaker:and we're seeking out answers for us physical ailments or just
Speaker:to feel better and our skin. But I say I'm strongly convinced
Speaker:that we have to learn, we have to fine tune our listening when
Speaker:it comes to our body signals. And if we manage to listen to
Speaker:our body's needs, then we are living in perfect health and
Speaker:balance. So today I want to talk about the mind. Because in the
Speaker:last episode, I also started talking about the monkey mind,
Speaker:and how your monkey mind which is
Speaker:your ego, your
Speaker:part of yourself that might have gotten hurt in the past and is
Speaker:trying to protect you and prevent further pain. But
Speaker:sometimes, so it is a good thing to have your mind running. But
Speaker:sometimes it takes over too much. And sometimes it guides
Speaker:you down a path that you don't really want to go down. But it's
Speaker:just so much stronger than anything else you can imagine.
Speaker:So, at the very end of last episode, we talked about Netflix
Speaker:binge watching junk food, alcohol, weed, porn addiction,
Speaker:and how those things in the first place make us feel really,
Speaker:really good because they might distract us from loneliness. Or
Speaker:just give us some other kind of arousal or dopamine secretion, I
Speaker:think you say in English too.
Speaker:So with these things, so you can
Speaker:go really far like if you really practice that religiously those
Speaker:habits, then your body will quickly give up on you or come
Speaker:up with ailments that you want to get rid of and you will not
Speaker:be able to get rid of them unless you change your habits.
Speaker:So your mind plays an extremely important role there because it
Speaker:is over your mind that you control your behavior. But we
Speaker:also want to be very careful and not overcorrect. So I don't know
Speaker:how to approach this. There's some people who were obese in
Speaker:their childhood and then all of a sudden, it's like a switch
Speaker:button and then they turn into an anorexic person or a person
Speaker:with how do you say that eating disorders. We have people who
Speaker:were very lazy and messy and their use Since their teenage
Speaker:years, and maybe even in their 20s, and then go through a huge
Speaker:heartbreak, because the new flame, the old flame, ran away
Speaker:with an new flame that is less messier and more successful in
Speaker:life. So what do you make out of it the consequences you see, or
Speaker:the conclusion you make, then is that, oh, I have to give up my
Speaker:messy life, I have to get a job and totally reject who I am and
Speaker:become that new persona. And this is what I don't want. This
Speaker:is what I don't want to create. I want to create, if at all a
Speaker:healthy ship, shift and make the transition as smooth as
Speaker:possible. Because every harsh, cold turkey approach will just
Speaker:backfire. Most of the time. So what we want to do is take the
Speaker:mind as a tool, but live from the heart, let the heart make
Speaker:the decisions and let the heart and the body really tell you
Speaker:what it needs and how it wants to show up in this world. And of
Speaker:course, you can ask, Well, how am I going to communicate with
Speaker:my people, I can just use body language now. And it's a little
Speaker:tricky for me to put it into words, but I'll get there.
Speaker:Living from the heart behaving from the heart is a very warm,
Speaker:calm feeling, that will actually also bring you the results that
Speaker:you want and were craving for. For so long. If you were living
Speaker:from the mind, then when it comes to relationships, a lot of
Speaker:times we become manipulative, or we have our ways to express our
Speaker:needs or are scared to get hurt again. Or those things that
Speaker:really prevent us to see the other person as they really are.
Speaker:And when he can just be calm with yourself. So when you sit
Speaker:in meditation and see all these thoughts coming up, and you just
Speaker:know, this is just one of those days again, where I feel
Speaker:insecure about myself where I'm jealous or whatsoever, then you
Speaker:can apply this also in relationships. So what I want
Speaker:you to do, maybe over the next
Speaker:couple of days is a see, or observe
Speaker:how you show up in the world, what affects your mood. So you
Speaker:get up in the morning, let's say on a day off and you do your
Speaker:routine. And as soon as you step out into the world and have
Speaker:interactions I know we live in COVID times but you will have a
Speaker:text or an email or you will see someone on the street. See
Speaker:what's going on in your mind. Is there a judgy voice is there, an
Speaker:insecure voice, a jealous voice, an angry voice? What comes up as
Speaker:soon as you interact with other people, and that will pretty
Speaker:much give you a clue of where your mind is at. And we can
Speaker:choose now if we want to follow that. Or if we want to go back
Speaker:to that meditative state of state where we receive and give
Speaker:and respond instead of reaction. The mind is not everybody's best
Speaker:friend because people who suffer from addiction for instance, or
Speaker:insomnia or obesity, fall prey to their thoughts. And I know
Speaker:this is very simplified. But it helped me to get out of of some
Speaker:stuff that I was struggling with in the past so much that if you
Speaker:have other tools if you see a doctor if you are in therapy or
Speaker:if you're not, then you can use this information here that I'm
Speaker:sharing with you, too. help you out even better. So maybe you
Speaker:had a bad experience with a girl in that, let's say a couple
Speaker:years ago. And maybe every time now that you meet someone new,
Speaker:you have these filters on and tried to check everything
Speaker:possible to avoid a new pain coming up, instead of entering a
Speaker:new relationship or a new conversation with someone with
Speaker:an open heart, and with really seeing them and listening to
Speaker:them, we put on these filters, and force that person through
Speaker:those filters. And maybe you can hear and see already that that
Speaker:doesn't work. It's not how we're meant to interact with each
Speaker:other. And it can go really well for some time. But sure enough,
Speaker:a couple years later, or month, even sorry, you will find out
Speaker:oh, that person is not really who they pretended to be. And
Speaker:most of the time, it's not their fault, say we're not playing a
Speaker:show. It was you who tried to see them in a different light
Speaker:and who tried to neglect parts that you saw, but didn't want to
Speaker:see. So that's one example of how the mind can trick you and
Speaker:really make you feel as if the outside world is bad and wrong.
Speaker:But it is you who chooses to see the world a certain way to maybe
Speaker:prevent pain. But you can't, you can prevent it. Like it's not
Speaker:possible. So if you know that, I know, it's easy to say, but just
Speaker:go out there and have an open heart and put your monkey mind
Speaker:in the back seat. And then you can enter a relationship with a
Speaker:way more relaxed attitude. And then when it goes wrong, then
Speaker:you know that you gave it your all you were open. Your mind
Speaker:didn't play your tricks, you got to know the person really as who
Speaker:they were. And you will find someone very soon, who is
Speaker:perfectly suited. So in the last part of this episode, I want to
Speaker:talk about your mind and how you view yourself. Yesterday we
Speaker:talked about physical self care. And I want to add to that, that
Speaker:a lot of women use makeup, because they feel they don't
Speaker:look cute and beautiful enough without makeup. It is not to
Speaker:make them feel better, or to make them feel sexy for some,
Speaker:but a lot of women are out there trying to covering up and don't
Speaker:can stand their face without makeup. And I believe there
Speaker:again, it is the mind that makes you feel ugly and really bad
Speaker:about yourself and how can you change that? I feel if you
Speaker:really can look deep into when it started. Maybe it goes back
Speaker:to a story in high school or a kindergarten or sometime back
Speaker:where something happened and you felt so ugly and not good about
Speaker:yourself and now you see yourself in the mirror and you
Speaker:feel disgusted and when I hear girls talking about it openly
Speaker:and very raw than just aches my heart so much because they don't
Speaker:see what I see. And how can you help people who have such a
Speaker:distorted view on themselves. It's so hard and painful and
Speaker:frustrating and takes a lot of patience. Friends, but you can
Speaker:help people and help them to help themselves. Right? I feel
Speaker:through meditation once again, when we can reach a totally
Speaker:relaxed state, a state of well being, then no one, no one can
Speaker:be ugly in that state because it attractiveness to me, and I
Speaker:think to so many as a person who feels beautiful in her skin, and
Speaker:he who feels content with her decisions or his decisions, and
Speaker:has nothing to do with gray, or blue or black or brown eyes. And
Speaker:the hair, same thing, as soon as you feel good about yourself,
Speaker:and you show up in this world, proud and happy. And you are so
Speaker:happy that you even have the energy to support and help
Speaker:others. How dare you think that you are ugly? When you look into
Speaker:the mirror, it is your mind that registered a painful comment or
Speaker:experience from the past. And you have to let that shit go as
Speaker:fast as you can, because you're wasting so much beautiful juicy
Speaker:time out there hiding and feeling insecure about yourself.
Speaker:I will go so much deeper into that topic. But I think for now
Speaker:we covered the mind quite well. Next time I want to talk about
Speaker:relationships and how they influence your well being and go
Speaker:way deeper and ask you are you a good friend? Are you a good
Speaker:partner? What are the tools I can give you there to live juicy
Speaker:fulfilling relationships, the relationships you will always
Speaker:craving and always wanted to have but could never really
Speaker:grab? Yes. Thank you so much for listening. Today. We covered a
Speaker:lot. Have a big sip of water now. Maybe you can go for a walk
Speaker:and breathe some fresh air. Or talk to a friend on the phone or
Speaker:just sit in stillness and listen to one of my meditations. I'm so
Speaker:grateful for spending time here with you and for you. Yeah,
Speaker:being curious about my podcast and following me. That really
Speaker:motivates me a lot. Thank you so much Aurora.
