Today’s conversation will transform your thinking about emotions. Instead of viewing emotions as negative experiences to push away or control, our guest helps us understand them as our body’s guidance system, much like a compass that helps us navigate. Fear and anger, often thought of as negative emotions, are the body’s survival mechanisms that are designed to protect our lives. You’ll discover practical insights on recognizing physical sensations, befriending your feelings, and using emotional intelligence to become a better coach and leader. Want to know more about relating to your own emotions and showing up as your best for your clients? Join us to learn more!
Joie Seldon, MA, is the founder of the Emotional Evolution Institute and the author of Emotions: An Owner's Manual. An innovator in emotional intelligence, she is a life and professional success coach and EQ trainer. She has worked with clients at NASA, AT&T, Wells Fargo, Blue Shield, Dolby, and others. Her clients range from tech professionals and healthcare workers to C-suite executives. With 25 years of experience as an actor and acting teacher, 10 years as a somatic psychology therapist, and a lifetime of personal growth engagement, Joie has developed an innovative approach to teaching people how to release limiting behaviors and use their emotions as the powerful guidance system they are meant to be.
Show Highlights:
- Misconceptions, judgments, and misunderstandings about emotions
- Growing the relationship with your emotions, especially fear and anger, by recognizing and tolerating the sensations you experience
- Our feelings and thinking have to work together.
- The message of fear is “pay attention.”
- The results when people shift their perspective on emotions
- Dealing with emotions that arise in coaching conversations
- Understanding the difference between stress tears and sad tears
- The value of taking private time to process your grief and effectively giving others space for their grief and discomfort
- A coach’s job is not to rescue or “fix”; everyone just wants to be seen and heard.
- Joie’s top “Aha moments” with clients
- What coaches should understand about emotions being used as a compass
- “Emotions are energy in motion.” (Be curious about emotions.)
- Joie’s key takeaway for listeners: “Emotions are the link between the tangible and intangible. Pay attention to how you feel, and listen to what information emotions give you. Feeling your emotions will ultimately bring you more joy.”
Resources:
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Website, YouTube, and Emotions Owner's Manual (Kindle Edition)
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