What happens inside of your relationship when things in other parts of your life start to get stressful? Maybe it feels like you have less time to dedicate to your partner, or that your energy is just completely spent after a long day, and you just don’t have it in you to be present and relational. That’s the topic of today’s question, and it takes us into a conversation all about integrated vs. unintegrated brain states, windows of tolerance, and why scheduling your spontaneity is such an important part of cherishing your relationship.

Quotes:

“If you want to treat your relationship like it matters, you have to treat it like it matters. You have to cherish the relationship."

“Okay does not mean 'It feels good.' It means 'I believe I can handle this. I trust myself.'”

“If it's not scheduled, it's not really a priority.”

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