“Setting goals and figuring out how to do that is called goal estimating because often it's just really hard to figure out how to set goals. How are you doing? How long do you set them for, and so what ends up happening is we don't really Think about it, we just set goals, like what we do with New Year's resolutions, we just throw things into the air as wishes.” - Kellan Fluckiger
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How do we go about setting goals, and why would we set them anyway? You don't have to. You don't have to set goals if you don't want to. This is not compulsory. We are not setting up a goal because someone requires us to have one or because your friends have it, or it’s because you see someone has it on their list.
You set goals because you want to like you don't have to do anything. You do not have to do anything. Now there are consequences with doing or not doing certain things like if I don't get up and go to work when I had a job. And eventually, I'll lose it. And there are consequences to that financially, and in taking care of whomever, I'm responsible for. But you don't have to set goals. If you choose to, this is something to remember that you want to set a goal.
You have a choice right now about how to do this, how to set goals. So if you're going to set them at all, set them because you want to set a goal, or more goals than one, because it's something you want to do. You want to do it because your deep spiritual inner real voice is saying I want that. Whatever it is right now because it's a leftover story from somebody else.
Do what by when? If you're going to set them effectively. Now there are all kinds of goal setting tools that exist. One that I've heard used a lot is set SMART goals. And that is an acronym that stands for specific, measurable, achievable. Get it on your calendar. So the buy when an element is critical. Again, if you want to have it done by a particular period. Now, often those by whims are externally imposed because someone at work or in some other capacity that you are working with or is depending on that there's a particular deadline.
But the real point is figuring out the do what? So how do you do this? How do you set worthy, audacious, challenging stretch goals that are not ridiculous, but the challenge is to stretch us without risking, self-esteem, and being damaged by failure? Well, the answer is easy to carry a big blanket of forgiveness. Here's the way I think of it. Those who dare substantially are going to fail much. If you dare to declare and try great things, you're going to fall on your face, and you're going to fail once, twice, three times, four times ten times. how you interpret the story you carry and create around that failure is going to be crucial to whether or not you try again, and eventually succeed.
“There's no such thing as failure. You only fail when you quit trying. So what have you really got to lose except not achieving the goal? If you choose to keep trying, you will eventually get there. So, the way I describe it is always to carry big blanket forgiveness if you dare greatly, and you declare greatly. And then you flop. You forgive yourself, you set a new goal, and you recommit, and we don't carry the story of failure as an indictment of yourself. The truth is, most people don't dare and declare greatly. They would rather live in shrunken mediocrity.”
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