Episode Synopsis

In this episode of Moving Out of Trauma, I get to talk with Keely Meta (she/her) about the subconscious mind and how we can use it to our advantage in the healing process and how it can help be a guiding resource we can tap into at any time for free! We also explore the concept of life purpose, the impact of generational programming, and practical techniques to tap into our untapped potential. Discover how accessing altered states of consciousness, embracing mindfulness, and utilizing the body's natural ability to release trauma can transform your life. Tune in to find your path to healing through the subconscious mind.

Guest Bio

Keely Meta is a sacred ceremony facilitator, Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist, mind body wellness teacher, yoga instructor, meditation teacher, and mentor based out of Phoenix, Arizona. Keely is a passionate individual who believes in the power of the subconscious mind. Through her own scientific method of self-exploration, she has discovered hidden strengths and gained confidence in areas where she once doubted herself. This genuine work has become her life's passion, as she believes that everyone deserves access to the tool that is their own subconscious mind. As a provider, Keely strives to help her clients and those she encounters unlock different parts of themselves and integrate these newfound aspects into their lives. She sees the subconscious mind as a magnificent tool available to all humans, and it energizes her every single day to assist others in accessing this incredible resource. Keely offers her clients the guidance and environment to explore the subconscious mind safely and develop the tools that are unique to their own growth journey.

Timestamps

[02:16] - Intro

[03:45] - Getting to Know the Provider

[14:57] - Topic of the Week: Healing Through the Subconscious Mind

[51:19] - Providers Aren't Robots

[56:39] - Trauma Tip of the Week

[01:00:58] - Final Fast Five

[01:09:24] - Container and Calm State Change Exercises

Topics Covered in this Episode

• Understanding and exploring life purpose
• Buzzwords and concepts surrounding personal identity and self-definition.
• Prioritizing safety in the healing process
• The role of subconscious beliefs in shaping our lives
• The impact of generational programming on core values and beliefs
• Accessing different parts of the mind through practices like hypnosis and altered states of consciousness.
• Techniques for reprogramming the mind and promoting healing.
• The release and regulation of trauma and anxiety through physical movement
• The importance of individualized mindfulness practices and finding what works best for each person.
• The availability of resources and tools for healing within ourselves.

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Join Us Next Time

Join us in two weeks as I chat with my longtime friend Brittany Graniero, a fellow therapist, therapist supervisor and trauma healer as we dive into discussing how inner child work can look through the healing process. We will talk all about the transformative power of inner child work and its connections to EMDR therapy as well as how acknowledging and healing the emotions of your younger self can lead to profound personal growth and healing. 

Welcome to Moving out of Trauma. A podcast made

to support Trauma survivors with actionable steps and

resources so they can start moving out of trauma and end

the life that they're craving. I'm the host Candice Leader

Gerber, EMDR therapist, yoga teacher, first

time mom, and dog enthusiast. I am

here in Phoenix Arizona, and I am so excited about

today's episode. Before we dive into today's

episode of moving out of trauma, I wanna give you a few

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And the second reminder I wanna give is at the end of this

for cording, and the end of every episode for that matter, we will

be giving you 2 resources that we often use

in EMDR therapy. which are the container

exercise as well as the state change place.

So these exercises are visualization exercises

that can help you transition from

maybe a state of thinking about past trauma, awareness,

learning something new into a more calm,

more centered way of being so you can go on throughout

your day. I hope these resources help, and I would

love to know your thoughts. Alright. Let's dive into today's

episode. Alright. So today,

I'm moving out of trauma. We have Kili Mehta, who is

a sacred ceremony facilitator. a

certified clinical hypnotherapist, a mind

body wellness teacher, a yoga instructor, a meditation teacher,

and mentor based out of Phoenix, Arizona.

Kiely offers her clients the guidance and environment

to explore the subconscious mind safely while developing the

tools that are unique to their own growth journey.

You can find keely@keelymeta.com instagramat

Kilimeta XO, and hosting the

MetaPerch podcast on all podcasting platforms.

And I am so excited to be able to talk to Kili today.

Kili is a friend that I've had

the Great pleasure of getting to know over the past couple of

months through our yoga studio, and I'm just so

excited to dive into this conversation with her.

Yeah. Hello. Hi. I'm a super excited

speaker. Thank you, Candice. Yes. You're so welcome. I'm

so happy that you're able to come on and and talk about

some self acceptance pieces and just all the all the different

things that make you passionate as a

provider as a helper because you have such a a

beautiful, wonderful soul. So I'm so excited to share that with others. Well,

thank you. You're welcome. Thank

you. Alright. So for this first portion

of the show. It's, you know, getting to know you as a

provider. And I will say this in every

episode until I out who said it, but there

is a quote that I heard well, actually, that I read that

said knowing a person is like music. What attracts

us to them is their melody, and as we get to know them, we learn

their lyrics. And I just really love

that because I think that it kinda highlights the complexities

of who we are as people and who's who we are as

providers, and I I think that kinda just I don't know.

There's some beautiful symmetry there. So based off that wonderful

quote, I have a couple of questions for you to

start. if that sounds like a good place to jump off. Let's play.

Cool. So to start, why are you

so passionate about this work? I

see. All of us have

our conscious minds that we

think that we operate kind of every function of

facet of our lives with, but, really, we have

90% of what operates

us under this surface. And

my passion comes from I would say

a scientific method of my own experiences.

Yeah. unraveling

and unveiling pieces of myself,

strengths in myself, confidence when I never felt like I could

have had confidence in particular areas shows me that this

work is sincere. It is real.

And I just can't imagine

living life without it. So as a provider,

I couldn't imagine my clients or people that I see not

having access to the tool that is their subconscious mind. So

That's what literally gets me up every single day is to

help someone access a different part of them, integrate a different part of

them. It just is so

it is such a magnificent tool that is not unique to me or it's

not unique to you. It's something that us as humans have the

ability to do. And I just I

it just makes me so excited.

Yeah. I what you just said there of, like, us as humans,

like, everyone has this ability to, like, tap into

it. And it just made me think of, like, how how much

of our I'm sure we'll get to this, but how much of our brain

and our our own wisdom and and just ourselves that

we don't regularly tap into.

For a lot of reasons, I'm sure. But, you know, for me, at least the

first thing that comes up is, like, the busyness of our culture in our

lives and, like, taking dedicated time and, like,

very purposeful time to, like, connect

to ourselves on that deeper level.

Yeah. The race

of how we kind of fix this every day. I mean, it's gonna sound like

a cliche, and I'm gonna reverberate everything that we see on all of these.

Like, cliche Instagram posts, but we

are kind of the way that we operate in the current society

is counterintuitive to our healing

processes of our body. So it's literally, like,

what our body requires is rest relaxation. It requires the

activation of a parasympathetic nervous system. And

being inundated constantly and being a consumer constantly and

being happen to go into the next, you know

okay. Well, you have a certain amount of grieving period --

Yeah. -- or you have a certain amount of time that you can take care

of it and then on to the next thing. Right? Like -- Mhmm. -- that's

counterproductive to integrating, which is a huge part of,

I'm sure, you talk about on your podcast with PTSD is a huge

part of accepting ourselves. It's a huge part of

making decisions. And, also, like, the exam comes back to

like, how are we supposed to heal? Well,

the society doesn't really help for that. And if it does -- No. -- it's

like, it's like a commodity or it's it's an interesting thing. You know? So

it's it's sexy no matter what. You know? Mhmm.

Mhmm. Yeah. Absolutely.

How does your personality show up in the room with the people that you work

with? I would say this

is probably my this is my favorite

part. My personality comes through in

in everything that I do. And I don't think there isn't a

particular place or space that it doesn't because

if I'm to teach people to walk Mhmm. In there,

I will unique this. There is no way that I'm

going to show up less than that. So I joke,

I play, I make fun of myself. I'm

honest about where I'm at with certain things

without divulging a little too much information.

I share the pieces of myself that I think will

allow for a little bit of self acceptance in my client's lines. Right?

Like, maybe they're struggling with something, and I can share, like,

hey. There's been a journey. That's been a one one of my major less

So that's been some you know, we just went through them. This is a tool

that helped me move through it. Like,

I personally have a very hard time with the

kind of guru mentality.

of the world right now, especially in the mind body

wellness field that separates

a practitioner. I mean, to a certain extent, of course. We have to

separate things to a certain extent, but

separates the humanity of a practitioner with their

clients. Mhmm. Kinda like puts them into a box, like, a

way, like okay. Yeah. I'm all 4. I'm all Yeah.

Mhmm. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I talk about boxes

surprisingly a lot so far on this show. I

always knew that it was a passion of mine, but it has come out a

lot as to you know, I don't I don't

enjoy us putting anyone into boxes.

But, you know, at least in my own trading, like, as a therapist,

it was like, you know, is the way you sit. This is the way you

speak. This is what you do. So maybe not necessarily like a

pedestal, but just very, like, this is your therapist box. like,

this is what you are as a therapist and to break out of

that and kind of figure, like, how how do I become myself

right while you know, sitting with this client who's being extremely

vulnerable with me and still have some of

that like you shared that those pieces of self

disclosure or whatever the case looks like to have

have that space too. Yeah. I think it's okay

for us to be able to relate on a

human level because that allows them

too, you know, that they are also multifaceted. And they can be themselves

while also being professional. They can be themselves while also

setting boundaries with mother-in-law, you know -- Yes. -- those types of things.

Absolutely. Yes. What is

the top thing you wish everyone knew

about the world of work that you do. If you wanna approach this as a

hypnotherapist or mind body wellness or, I don't know, any of

the any and all of the things.

The major thing that I think we all have to

understand is well, maybe it's a a

couple proud thing here. But first, we're

not islands. We are humans that need to be involved

in the lives of other humans. Again,

society in this society in the west, specifically

is very centered around the individual, which there's nothing wrong

with. Like, be at boss Bosco. you know,

be that person. -- curse. That's okay. Okay. Be a message.

Be, you know, be strong and and take action on

your passions. However, we heal through

community. So a lot of us don't come from communities

or families or practices or backgrounds or whatever,

where the others or we are encouraged

to healed with one another, be seen by one another.

And we can do all of the work in the world and not

have perspective enough

to actually implement what it is that

we're doing. And sometimes just

being seen or seeing someone else and accepting them

can be such a monumental part of your healing journey.

And so while you're doing all of this therapy and all

of this work, if you don't have a community that you feel safe and up

with, your body to the core like, next

to your home and shelter isn't gonna feel satisfied.

Mhmm. Yeah. Absolutely. This actually is a

theme that came up in one of the previous episodes

about writing circles for trauma survivors and

just the the very act of

being able to verbally share you know, I mean, I

know this in in individual therapy, but this is on a

larger scale, but to share your story

and to feel seen and feel heard and feel acknowledged in

a way that you know, typically by and large when trauma survivors

share their story, they're ashamed in a lot of ways

by our society. And so when we're able to be at a

community that feels safe when we're able to have our story be

heard and be seen and feel good about it and

feel safe. It's monumental for the healing

process. Yeah. I completely agree.

Yeah. Okay.

Yeah. So as we are opening up this wonderful

conversation and kind of diving into this.

And what I'm curious what you feel drawn to in this next piece

and, like, where you wanna I mean, because we kinda hit on the community piece

and, you know, we're talking about healing. And and so I'm

wondering where where you feel like we we wanna go next

with this conversation? I wanna talk about the subconscious

mind. Let's do it. I I find

so much benefit. Obviously, we we we we scratched the

surface, which is a beautiful metaphor for the

subconscious mind. and how accessible

it is because it is. It truly is. Mhmm. All this have 10%

of our our logical thinking

robotic actions,

whatever, existing kind of,

like, on the surface of who we are. And then

what happens is what's really running the show, the little,

like, minions inside, are all of your actual belief

systems. All of, you know, even,

like, cultural, racial,

geographical, Whatever.

Location based influences

yeah. Trauma based influences even. that are actually

running how we see ourselves, how we believe in ourselves.

all of the functioning that's way, way deeper down when you

start uncovering these pieces of yourself, you start to realize, oh,

wait. Maybe I don't feel lovable. Maybe maybe I self

sabotage because I I don't wanna see success. Maybe I grew up in

poverty And even though I have

plenty of abundance financially, I still feel worried that it's all gonna go

away. All those pieces of ourselves are

the 90% -- Mhmm. -- how we respond and

how we react and and what's really driving our decisions,

which is part of the reason why logical thinking is kind of

silly because there's just so much more driving -- Mhmm.

-- the machine. You know? Yeah. It

reminds me of that iceberg metaphor of, like, so much

of what is there is beneath the surface that

you can't see. But that doesn't stop from being there.

Right? It still exists. Yeah. Yeah.

Definitely. You know,

as I personally as I started doing a lot of

I was like, I think I was isolated when I was younger, maybe, like,

19, 20, kinda, like, removed myself from the friends

that I had had and moved away. And they started doing a

lot of, like, introspective work and doing, like, all

these books on, like, how

to access your intuition and doing, like,

these kind of, like, guided meditations and things like

that. That nature kinda just to sense what the subconscious

mind felt like. And I put myself,

like I said, through kind of like a scientific method type of situation

where I would kind of see what

was actually, like, made sense for me. or

if it was just, like, fleeting passing thoughts or whatever. And as I kind of

began to refine my experiences, I found

that There was so much healing from my own trauma, from my

own experiences with any even me

practicing mindfulness techniques by myself.

You know? We see, like, this whole world of, like, you

know, retreat centers that cost 1000 and 1000 of dollars.

and therapists that maybe get accessible to other people. And

all these things that have pretty hefty price tags on for some

people. Mhmm. And we have to understand that the tools are also very accessible

within us. Mhmm. Yeah. You know,

I am one, obviously, to facilitate a safe

space. But if we can pace ourselves and we can just listen

to the voice that's inside of us, they just sit present. A

lot of that information is revealed to us in a safe way

because we're not pushing ourselves, so we're not setting unrealistic

expectations for healing and then moving forward in in the course

of an hour, you know, those type of things. Yeah.

Absolutely. because you're the ones that you're the one that is setting the

limit. You're the one that's deciding, okay. This

is this is my goal. Oh, wait. That was too much. Like, let me

dial back. You you you know what's going on in your own

mind to be able to to navigate it a little bit

easier. There's not another person to to kind of

further complicate the process for a lack of better words.

And yes. And a lot of us

need to feel comfortable in something before we trust someone else,

especially if we if we have issues with with trust

or issues, you know, handing over a little bit of the reins.

Mhmm. And so going into going to see, like, a

practitioner like you or like myself is

really beneficial because we can get you to we can assist you to

get deeper to really feel like

giving you a kind of holistic experience while

diving deeper, but if you could have the fundamental

ins and, like, the understanding of the ins and outs of how you

function, I mean, you're gonna get there.

Yeah. So much faster. And so much with so much less distrust

and resistance. because you can trust yourself. You're like, oh, okay. I know when my

body is telling you. I know when my body is is

showing up and and you know, I have some resistance. Okay. Well,

I know a little bit of of, like, really helps me a little bit. Our

visualizing my safe space helps me helps me a little bit. Yeah. And I can

implement those tools. That was cost nothing. Yeah.

Yeah. It's like starting your own it's starting your

healing journey before seeking out a professional. So, like,

really seeing, okay, what what do I need to

feel? You know? Like, I'm on solid ground where I'm on in in

a safe space. before I seek out another person

to invite into that space. Mhmm. Humans

are humans. I mean, Therabus are

humans. Your doctors are humans, so it's really important

to have a to have some navigation, if possible. If

it accessible. And I'm saying this as a blanket statement. We could probably

talk about all the little fine prints that kind of

separate you know, the the categories of this.

But using your own internal navigation,

do discern if particular therapist or a particular

modality works for you. We talked about that

on my podcast. It's it's so extremely important

Because then you can go in and you can go in with trust, and you

can feel very comfortable. And I

found that trust trust is, like, such a small word with

such a gut wrench and punch sometimes.

trust is one of those things that,

in my opinion, from my perspective as a hypnotherapist,

allows us to access all parts of ourselves.

So if we can start to really flirt

with pick like, pick what is this?

Like, an ice pick thing? Right? Like, hitting away yeah. Right? Like,

hitting away at the ice Yeah. -- old piece by little piece,

then -- Mhmm. -- you know, eventually, something's going

through. Yeah. chipping away. Yeah. That's the 1.

Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I well and I still

I keep coming back to this feeling of, like, that

that trust in yourself that listening to your

intuition, listening to your own inner wisdom, and

feeling like you have a starting place with

that. Like, you you can know what it feels like or know what it

sounds like she or no, you know, just I don't it's

I don't know. For me, it's a very visceral feeling, so I'm, like, shaking my

shoulders, but just just knowing, like, where it's at free, where it

resides, you then know when you're having a conversation with

someone about a potential you know, healing modality to know, like,

to lean in, like, to feel like, oh, yes. Like, this is what I need.

Like, I imagine that is your subconscious playing out because your intuition that

you're listening to. Is that that kinda what I'm picking

up? Yes. And something that you mentioned that I'm not sure that

you picked up on, or or maybe you're not sure

of. You mentioned that you kinda, like for those

that are listening, She's kinda, like, bobbing her shoulders or whatever, talking about

how she she experiences kind of her intuition viscerally, which

is one of the major parts of hypnosis and hypnotherapy in

particular because someone like myself is trained

to Notice what particular sense

like, sense of the body you respond to.

It's coming from your language in. So if you're a kinesthetic learner,

maybe those guided meditations on YouTube aren't gonna work for you.

Mhmm. Because everything is very visually centered. Right? So maybe you can't

visualize it. Maybe you have a hard time. You're like, I can't meditate. You know?

One of those people in my clients are like, I can't meditate. I was like,

okay. wanna you wanna bet, but

it's because you may be more kinesthetic in nature. So

types of meditations or types of

mindfulness practices maybe going on a walk and thinking. Right?

Getting your body moving, yoga, kickboxing,

you know, things that are more active in nature or have

maybe even luxurious in nature. Right? Like, maybe you need to,

like, Your body needs to be told, like, chill,

mout. Go get a massage. Chill out. Go take a

bath. Maybe that's where your meditative space is or

your mindful space. Maybe that's where the place you go

to when you want to really, really align,

get in touch with your body, activate the parasympathetic nervous system. The same thing

goes with the other senses. So if you're visually if you're a visual

learner, practice art. Right?

Like, watch the, like, they have, like,

these beautiful, like, montages of -- Yeah. -- that whole things

and allow your mind to kind of decompress that way. If

you're auditory, listen to really positive intentional music. I know

people that cannot calm down

cannot chill out unless they have headphones on, and they're listening to

something that makes them feel

The actives mhmm. Yeah. It brings them down.

So know that mindfulness is

also a century experience. So, you

know, if something doesn't work, if you feel really pulled visually or or

auditorially or even There's this different

segment, which is auditory digital, which is its own thing. But if

you feel pulled to one of those three senses, I would encourage

you even in your just your downtime or just flirt with the idea that maybe,

like, I didn't access, you know, a content mindful

space or the alpha brainwaves or whatever by this, but maybe

I'll try this because the the journey is individual.

It so is. Yeah. So is

and I wanna kinda bounce off that for a second and ensure this

little nugget that I heard as

when we experience a trigger, like,

when the trigger is, like, the most of this role. So when

it really is bother some thinking about what 5

senses that taps into. So if it's an

auditory if it's a physical, if it's whatever that piece

is. And then knowing that on the flip side of that,

the kind of, like, that's where you're

that's where it's gonna be the strongest for you to key into that for mindfulness.

So if it's auditory, like, listening to that track, if it's

physical, like, taking the the hot shower with, like, the you

know, whatever, like, the sensory components. So figuring out,

like, whatever that trigger is that's the most bothersome or the most

upsetting knowing that that's tied to

the flipside of a potential healing point. Yeah.

Yeah. Our bodies have the ability

to process all this information that we're receiving every

day, kinda swing our swing our navigation.

But Arvadi's also have the intelligence to

release the compress. We have all of the tools within us

And those around us, I'm not saying we are again, we're not -- Mhmm. --

islands, but maybe you have something and a piece

of wisdom that I don't know. something that I can implement my daily life,

and that's also, again, why connecting with others and talking

and sharing can be so beneficial.

Mhmm. Yeah. Agreed. Well, and something you said

about, you know, we're not islands and, like, making

this accessible not just within, like, ourselves, but also, like, within

a community piece. One other question. So

I feel like we kind of been have been dancing around, but I wanna say

it explicitly. So, you know, anyone who listening can

also hear that. But is is this

ability to access this part of ourselves accessible to every

single person? Or do you have to do something specific? Is

there a a particular dance or a

a course or whatever. You know? What what do you what does it

take Hell no. It's

accessible all the time for everyone.

And I I would argue to say,

I'm not arguing. All of us have trauma in some way, shape, or form. All

of us have something that has

hit us to the core as stuck to the part of our

process. has taken a piece away from us, and

all of it

is accessible. And it doesn't have to be a really

visceral experience. It can just be going out

and going to yoga class and just you know, sitting in Shavasana and

crying. Mhmm. I'm gonna be honest with you,

I all the best yoga classes you're gonna you're gonna sit and tear up a

little bit or something. Like, you're you're body and your mind are working

together or whatever to process and release.

Maybe it's just going out to a community event. Maybe

it's joining an online forum for people that like art. Maybe it

is You know, it doesn't have to be this like, I did

Ayahuasca, and I came up the other side. And, you know, if you don't feel

comfortable or you don't think it's accessible in that space, you don't have to dive

back deep. But as you are growing and

you're kind of looking in the mirror of of what you may need,

sometimes those fear based places

are the places that you kinda physically even need to go

to an honor to access deeper

parts deeper parts of who you are.

Yeah. Yeah. Absolutely. And part of what I

heard you almost say is, like, the curiosity

behind it, like, approaching it. And

in my work with trauma survivors, I feel like

curiosity can be Curiosity and vulnerability can be

like 4 letter 4 letter words. Like, they are not things that

we approach with kindness and and and excitement and happiness a lot of the

times. And so I think just even

finding, like, the 2% of curiosity or the

2% of vulnerability, the 2% of like, okay.

This is the wiggle room that I can move in today. Right? And this is

the little bit that I can see, you know, what this feels like for

me or, you know, whatever to kind of prove to

yourself, like, an experiment like what you talked about of,

oh, hey. Like, it's okay. Right? Like, Actually, that

was kind of fun. Oh, wow. I haven't felt that before. And I

actually I think that that felt really good, like, to my nervous system, to my

myself, or whatever. to then go for 5%

or whatever the case is until it does feel,

you know, like you're in a good space and feel like it's

something that feels good for you individually. because like you said, it's such

an individual process of a individual journey

for sure. Mhmm. I'm going

to share something, and I'm sure she'd be totally fine with it. I

was At a session with a client yesterday, no details obviously.

But I created a little chart for her. she was like, I really

wanna, like, tap into my life purpose. And intuitively,

I was like, your life purpose is ever

changing. Right? Your life purpose is

what fuels your passion and what fuels your happiness.

Right? So oftentimes, we get we

get jumbled by buzzwords, and we get jumbled by

concepts. And we get jumbled by, you know, this short and

sweet little Instagram post that -- Mhmm. -- someone else posted, and we think that

we have to define ourselves buy back in its entirety.

And we're trying to find a solution between thing a

and thing b. And I was like, what what

is your what makes you feel passionate? And what makes you feel

like you would feel happy doing that. Mhmm. Well, there's a little

bit of unsure. You know, there's there's always gonna be a little bit of unsure

energy behind what feels exciting. and passionate, but

this passionate is going to a coffee shop around today and gaining a

little bit of independence and gaining a little bit of solitude and

not having to work around everyone else's

schedule. Maybe your medicine is back today. Right? Yeah. It's

always gonna feel a little bit scary, but at least you know you're safe in

that place rather than again going to the deep end of healing

and Mhmm. Doing something that means a

practitioner. If that makes sense? Yeah. And that that

piece of listening to ourselves first, to

to navigate to find that inner wisdom before, you know,

diving into, like, okay. Like, this is what I'm I'm doing. Before I

even start the journey, I'm going to to go I don't

know. You said the deep end, and that's why it keeps coming back to my

brain of you know, diving off the the diving

board into the deep end of this healing process. Like, it's

it's taking those baby steps. Yeah. Baby's such a

huge I don't okay. So I'm gonna tell you, I'm

a yoga instructor, and I don't know how mine's I've

been like, I don't wanna go to the studio because I don't know anyone. You

know what I'm saying that is? You know how crazy that is? That is my

environment. I trade in that environment. I've been to diff I I've worked in different

studios. I I work in a studio now, like, It's so

silly, but my thing has always been, okay, my medicine is

I go out and I need to be seen without other

people. I need to, like, have solitude by myself, and that's my medicine.

Yeah. Yeah. That makes a lot

of sense. It's the question I wanna make sure we hit

on. What are you able to find

in the subconscious mind that is different from the conscious mind?

shoot. K. The main thing

that's in the subconscious mind that I have a lot of interest in

is belief systems and fears.

Believe systems we've had, it's okay. It's like -- Can hear

him. Poor little guy. He just wants to come hang out.

And you know, actually, that's really funny that you say that because

that is what's in the subconscious mind. Also, past

versions of ourselves that are are crying and kicking and

screaming and want their own shit

And, you know, I didn't get this when I was I didn't get my cell

phone when I was eleven years old. I got it when I was fourteen years

old, and and I deserved that. you know, those kinds of things that

-- Yeah. -- that all of that is there. So it's it's funny how

like, oh, some adults act like children or some, you know,

things of that nature is because we actually have -- Yeah. --

those memories and those thoughts within us that are

really like I said, they're running the show. Mhmm. So

these belief systems can look like I am

unlovable. I am not worthy of

attention or or love or or

security or a child. Like, there's so many different

things that we don't think that we deserve. We don't deserve to be

heard. We don't deserve to be You know, we

have all of our anger, defense mechanisms, and all of those things in those

places. And then, also, it's a big

circle, but it's it's all of the fears that we have. So if

we have all of these on the con in the conscious mind where we're

like, okay. I really wanna get this new job, and the new

job has is a particular

amount more than you may currently a lot of times, we'll stop

sabotage, and we don't think that we're worth that money. We don't think -- --

worthiness. Yeah. All of all of those

impostor syndrome. All of those things exist there. And I think

it's beautiful that there's so much mental

health awareness. There's so much more mindfulness work and practitioners

in these spaces to make some of these things a little bit more

in the light rather than even, like, 20 years ago.

Oh my god. 30 years ago, Hell, we would

never be talking about this. Nope. Your your parents or my parents

are definitely your grandparents generations. Oh, yeah.

No. Jump it down. But that is the

culture that is the culture of how they were raised. They

don't know. have the idea

that emotional intelligence is even a thing. A lot of them don't even think it's

a relevant part of our everyday lives. Right? So they project

and they you know, we could get into that all day long.

But notice how we're just as you and I as

millennials are just starting to kind of like, okay. Like, I'd

like to help. And how do I help? You know? Whereas, like, generation

underneath us. They're way more open about their mental health issues.

They're way more accepting of other people to mental

health issues. They're you know, and it's just gonna get

unfortunately, we're, like, a little bit of the grandparents of, like, the

modern generation where we're, like, I have

anxiety and depression. It's like anxiety and depression has

existed since time -- Oh, yeah. -- existed. As soon as we put

pressures on humans, as soon as we created, like, societal

structures of money and hierarchy and

certain classes, you know, that was it. That was it.

You know? Yeah. So all of the

Even, like, generational, comma, those kinds of things,

what our core values are So what where we

actually stand, and that could be influenced by mom or dad. So it's very

interesting when you start to peel back the layers.

Maybe consciously, you're like, I'm a very you know, I'm all about morals and

ethics, and then, you know, mom or dad have these

deceiving qualities about them. and then kind of program a little

bit. Not program. I don't wanna say it, like, they're, like, you know,

whatever. Not puppeteering. anything. But -- No. Not essentially,

but -- Yeah. -- you know, Ultra is Holcher. Right? Like -- Yeah. --

generates generational connection is is very strong.

Yeah. We learn from what we know, from what we see. And so

patterns and behaviors come from somewhere. Right?

Whether it's a mom or a dad or a grandparent

or whoever you were around to see whatever

behaviors or things, good or bad, you know, we learn

from what we know. We take that in. Mhmm. We take that

information in. Yeah. And some of

it's even genetic, which is crazy. Some of it is absolutely

genetic. So it's very interesting. Mhmm. When you start to do

work, you have the tools to

start differentiating where the influences are.

Right? Yeah. without intellectualizing our process

too much because we wanna be able to process and we wanna be able

to feel -- Yeah. -- we start to understand

Okay. This has come from mom's side. This has come from dad's side. This has

come from my teenage years where I

had more trauma than other, you know, segments of my

life. Does this come from my niche,

Rubel? Like, does this, you know, where does this come from? Maybe

I can accept and forgive myself for that.

And I can use my tools to

now shape what is going to be my

future with that knowledge. Yeah. You know, by my own actions are

how I operate in the world. Or when that trigger comes up,

it gave me the anger that jealousy or that thing,

I can tell you to just gently rework it through my tools and

tell, eventually, your body believes that it is no longer

that. Yeah. It's

it's I mean, not to to stay on that that

the first word that popped in my head is to reprogram. like, you know, too

literally reprogrammed, and that sounds a little

cold for for what it really is because it's

not it's not cold. It's not calculated

in any capacity. It's it's actually a lot of really

hard freaking work. Like, you know, to every time something

comes up or every time that trigger comes up to

bend, to shift, and to mold.

an opposite of the reprogramming word that popped up in my

brain. I was seeing, like, Almost like a

a clump of clay that's kind of, like, hardened over time. Right? You kinda, like,

rewet and, like, just rework and, like, just slowly start to get

it to mold in the in the direction that you're needing, but it still

requires, like, the the water a little bit at it, you know, whatever.

and the work. And that's what you're doing is this this thing

has already set. It's been its own

piece, and now you're you're starting to rework it and to mold

it in a different direction, and it's hard.

I I love that analogy. I'm, like, writing notes down, and I had to write

down Clay, and I had to write down. So if he's listening because I was

resonating so much, You know, this kind

of work. And I'm gonna speak just on behalf of hypnosis

and specifically, like altered states of consciousness

type, like, even, like, breath work, things like that where you access, you kind

of shift into a different part of yourself.

These things strongly activate the prefund

prefrontal cortex. Yeah. These are the decision making parts of your

body. So you're actually reprogramming your

ability to to to process.

Yeah. So it is it it and it is something that I

have seen personally among different practices

and belief systems and cultures and things like that that

are synonymous with healing is accessing

these parts of your mind that

are able to change, are willing to change. Right? Like,

invoking the theta brain state, right, the

brain waves that up behind, that are right before when you go

to bed, and you are the most susceptible to suggestion right there.

If you know that piece of information,

you can listen to positive music before

bed. You can just

even to, like, reprogram the mind before bed. Right?

You can do intentional work or journaling

before bed. You can do some breath work before bed. and

know that your body is the most susceptible -- Mhmm. -- right before

you hit your pillow or right when you hit your pillow

right before you go to bed. Yeah. And knowing that the

brain can work hand in hand with the work that

we're doing because, truly, it does.

Mhmm. Yeah. Our brains are such powerful things.

Such such yeah. It makes me think of, you know, what we

talked about earlier, just like the the untapped potential

that is there. You know, it's it's so

so much. So big, and we're just

barely learning we're barely, again, scratching the surface and understanding of,

like, what what does this all mean? And what can we do

differently? And how can we How can we tap into that potential?

And I really love that, you know, that it is within us

and that, you know, as you shared, like, that we can

we can tap into that at any time because it is within a part of

ourselves instead of, like, oh, okay. I have to I have to go

and get this degree or I have to go and see this person. Like,

obviously, there there's a time and a place for those things, and

the healing journey starts within us and and where

we are and tapping into who we are and what we need.

Mhmm. So powerful. Yeah. There's nothing.

I'm one for certifications. I'm one for trainings. I'm one

for getting involved. I'm a forever for ever

student and -- Mhmm.

-- an educational background does

not does not isolate

intelligence, does not mean that someone has

more than the next person, and it doesn't quantify

someone's -- Yeah. -- purpose.

Yeah. The education, if that's what you feel pulled

to or towards or whatever,

but humans were doing a long time before that. Oh, yeah.

Absolutely. The idea of being able to

sit with ourselves as the teacher and to be able

to, again, that curiosity leaning into

to what we need and to learn learn from ourselves

and from our own wisdom rather than just like this external

compass that's always guiding us, and I think about what you said about the

Instagram posts and and all of those pieces of we have

so much external stuff coming in constantly, but to really

tune in to ourselves

and have us, you know, our our heart mind

soul body, you know, whatever everything. be the teacher

is is such valuable wisdom.

Such such gold, gold nuggets. I see. It's just

you know, it's all in there. And I'm just gonna

add one little thing about -- Yes. -- just talking about with curiosity.

Curiosity is the body's way of reprogramming

belief systems that don't work for us. Yeah.

So curiosity is a good thing. It is a sign

that you're able to move forward. Yes. You

have little interest. You have a little -- Mhmm. -- study

something new or whatever. Your body's asking for new patterns. Yeah.

We'll start Yeah. Exactly. The reason why we don't feel comfortable

with those types of things is maybe it's, again, all of

our influence, family, friends, or otherwise culture, whatever, may have

not been used to that particular type of information.

Mhmm. So it feels foreign. And our body is

responding like it's a it's a threat -- Yeah. -- because it

does. That's

so valuable. I'm so glad you said that. So,

Kiely, this conversation has been so

wonderful. And like I said, I I feel

like we could go and talk about this this type of

topic and these types of pieces for a long time.

But before we shift gears and take a break, I wanna just check-in with you

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today's episode, to today's topic, and what we have been

diving into so far? Just

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this episode or your podcast in general. that is

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positive resources allows you to

grow. And so keep it up, baby. Keep it

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which will be in the show notes. Alright. Let's get back to today's

episode. Alright. We

are back with Kili Mehta. for the last bit

of our show, and this part of the show is

talking about how providers are not robots. And I feel like we've touched on this

many times throughout today's episode. But in this small

section of the show, we just talk about examples of our humanness,

and This was kind of born out

of this idea that I think a lot of the times when people first

come to see a provider of any kind, it's It can be a

little daunting, a little intimidating because we're seeing them kind of

in this this box. And, you know, to

kind of break out of that box and break out of that mold and to

show that we are, in fact, humans, yeah, to share a

little bit of our our humanness we don't live in a bubble,

and we are, in fact, real live people.

Yeah.

For me, it always goes back to you in my own practice and in my

own experiences. We all have families.

We don't have projections and and things

like that out of that nature.

expectations and judgments and things like that. And

one of the most powerful things and most difficult

things that I have gone through and people similar

to me have been through is

the the opportunity

to I wouldn't say it's an opportunity,

the work. to understand your loved

ones, and how do I put

this?

and not hold expectation for them to

change.

we all have it, and it can be really difficult when you start

to sincerely grow. Not grow conceptually, but

sincerely, grow and change your habits and change

what makes you tick. And naturally,

those that have always been closest to you especially if

there's, like, codependent connections are going to have some sort of

identity in you. Mhmm.

that reflects them. So when you start to shift or you start to

change for the betterment of you, even if it's

worth no expectation that anyone else is gonna shift or change with

you. Their

identity is is no longer what they

hadn't thought it was. Yeah. So this is a natural part of anyone's

situation as they grow and progress

And most of the time now some of us are very lucky,

and some of us have are are really gifted with amazing

family members that are empathetic.

But sometimes, there's just no capacity

at that moment in time. for family

members to understand or to get why you're

doing what you're doing or get why you press this, what you practice, or

believe how you believe, or like how you live. And for

me, in my humanness, this is always my medicine.

And I think that's probably why my clients are

similar to me because they have just,

like, extending your arm out in a community circle,

they know that there is possibly a piece of information that I

can provide for them or a little bit of perspective

as I've gone through this journey and I've gone through this

journey continuously. Yeah. And that is my new

business. Yeah.

Yeah. Almost kind of, like, showing up a little bit as

a a mirror for our our people that we work with

and and not just for their own reflection that they're

proceeding, right, but that you know, we we see parts of ourselves

in there too and to really

oh, I come back to this feeling of, like, to just just viscerally

understand, like, you know, hey. Like, it's it's

okay. You're not alone. And to be able to share

either nuggets of wisdom or just just pieces

as as a provider as a human

to kinda come alongside them in that journey so that they they

aren't alone. We're not you and

I, people like us or providers or what have you.

We're not robots, but really not.

And And

if you find someone that you feel like connects to you

on a real empathetic level,

What's gonna happen is their their

experience or life experience and their tools are going to be

hopefully given to you. Yeah.

Yeah. And

like I said, y'all have families, and y'all have influences in

some way, shape, or form. And so -- Yeah. So

it's okay to share that. Yeah. Absolutely.

If you had one tip that you wish

everyone on earth would know about

whether it's self regulation, it's it's some kind of trauma

piece, the world of

healing as you work through it. what do you wish

that everyone would know?

There's something that our bodies can do in

terms of regulation. And you

can see it in, like, tremor release therapy

things of that nature, where if we are

feeling overwhelmed or anxious and we're feeling like

trauma is impacting us. We have the ability

to actually start to shake up some of

that travel within the body. So you

can see this in videos with animals who have

been through really and you can Google it. You can let her I think there's,

like, several videos online, but I know one particular that has a lot of

views on YouTube, and it's, like, It's something about, like,

a Gazelle getting caught by a

lion in the Savannah or wherever.

Literally got caught by line and played dead. Mhmm.

And this lion had its bricks, I believe, on its on its

neck. And for all intents and purposes, if you would have started

admitting it there, you would have thought that the gazalins have had passed away.

And I think the line got scared or or bored or

whatever, and then just ran off, didn't do anything. Mhmm. And you can see the

gazelle after a little bit of time start to

get back on its feet, and you could see it actually tremoring and shaking

to release that kind of

That's -- Like, adrenaline, the stuff. Yeah. That adrenaline, that stuff

in the body. And we have the ability

to to do something similar. That's why sometimes dancing and

shaking and letting loose and getting angry and punching the air -- Mhmm.

-- is something that feels so good because trauma actually kind of

the intelligence of our body, trauma sits within the body because sometimes

anxiety sits in the heart, anxiety sits in between the ribs and

the solar plexus. So you get mad. You

get angry, punch. Like, punch the air, go crazy,

shake it out, If you feel like

you're, you know, you're stuck at your side of this, shake your hips, move around,

get, like, allowing your body to process some

of that stuff. I'm not saying you're not gonna have to talk about the stuff

and also continue to integrate, but we actually do

have a regulatory system that allows us to get back

at least into -- Mhmm. -- out of that adrenaline space. If

we just, like, continue to shade, continue why it's sometimes

happening helps. Like -- Yeah. Mhmm. -- 50, things like that because

it actually activates -- Mhmm. -- kind of us

regulating ourselves Yeah. So I don't know if that's number 1. I

don't know if that's whatever, but I know that that's something that's super accessible for

most of us. Yeah. Yeah. I think even just

starting with when you hit those moments of,

like, something is trying to be released. However, that looks like,

whether it's our hands shaking or, you know, whatever,

that we allow it to be released to listen again to the

intuitiveness of our of our bodies and of our, you

know, our our brains and and to to just kind of

allow ourselves to do something maybe a little bit out of our

comfort zone to see what it feels like to to

dance, to punch, to, you know, whatever in that in that safe care

of our butt. That's right. That's right.

Whatever that looks like. Yeah. You know, to be able to see, like, oh, hey.

Like, I did that, and I actually felt a little better or I felt like

I could breathe a little easier or my hands don't feel like that

anymore. Whatever the case is is to just feel

the shift and to know that it's okay?

Yes. Okay. Alright. So

the final fast and sometimes funny questions that I like to ask at the

end of our show is a good way to wrap up. Again,

just to hone in on our humanness and to have some fun.

So the first question I have for you is you could go

anywhere on Earth, where would you go?

I would wanna go to the center of the Earth. Oh. What

the hell is in there? Nobody actually knows. That'd be

insane to me. That would be insane. I just

wanna know what's in there. Tell me what the what the like, they've got

these hypotheses, but no one's really been in there. So, like -- Sure. -- tell

me what's inside or the bottom of the ocean. Tell me what kind of

alien, like, freaky deaky creatures there

are. Oh, yeah. Nigerian. Yeah.

I I can see a lot of cool artwork, cool

pictures coming out of that those realms. because you're right. Yeah.

They're so untapped into you. That's yeah.

Should pineapple be on pizza? Yes.

Yes. A 100%. Honestly, I think it's so rude when

people say, is it? Because it is, like, the best I'm sorry. It's

so no. It's so delicious. I'm a I'm a I'm a pineapple person,

but I thought you were gonna leave. You're really so

rude of those 2. I know, Pete, out. Like,

that's so funny. So delicious. It's so sweet. I my husband

tried it one time, and he was like, if like, an abomination, and I was

like, you're dramatic and you're disrespectful. So --

So funny. Yeah. I I put the question in there, and it's so

funny because this has been, like, a conversation piece on each

episode of It's just such a strong opinion,

like, a polarizing thing. I think it's delicious. I I think I

shared this in another episode But I especially love it when the

pineapple is cold, but the pizza is hot. So, like, I don't know --

That's so sweet. -- to me. Oh my gosh. I think it's the best. with

barbecue sauce. Barbecue sauce. Yes. Okay. So this is probably why

we're drawn to each other on the spiritual level because of that. We just know.

It's my favorite. It's I, like, don't even wanna have anything else.

My pizza. That's it. It's good stuff.

What makes you feel inspired or motivated

to do this work that you love? You know what? I

love when I see my clients, and

they give me all of a sudden it clicks for them.

they're like, oh, yeah. And so my intuition was guiding me to do some

journaling, and so I did it. That

oh my god. that is so cool. I don't even wanna say

for a warning. It is so cool to watch the oh my god. I'm getting

teary eyed, but it's so cool to be able to watch

someone's -- Yeah. -- inner navigation system.

Like, they start to trust it, and then -- Uh-huh. -- that's it. It is

the coolest feeling in the world and the reason why I freaking

exist on this planet. guess. I

I resonate with that a 100%. I yeah. It's

there is nothing quite like watching someone

embrace or have that light bulb moment of of,

oh, like, oh, this is what I can do or this is how, you know,

it's It's the best. Yeah.

There really is. What is one thing that people are

generally surprised to find out about you?

I'm not an extrovert. I'm not -- You're, like, the

3rd person to say that. I I -- Really? Yes. And I think

I'm finding I would love to do a poll of

helping professionals because I think that most of us would be

considered like a Not construed. But, you

know, from the outside looking in that most people say, oh, yeah. You're, like, an

extra right. Right? Like, you spend all your time with people. but most I think

helping professionals are really introverts. So I'm sorry to cut you off. Please

go ahead. No. You didn't. No. You didn't. You're talking to me. No.

I I have always had a

really not always. I really worked on it very This is one of

the things that my subconscious mind, like, I had to -- Mhmm. --

whatever. But I have always

been able to, for the most part, my adult life, have been able

to hold conversation and be, like,

bubbly and, you know, like,

like laughing and really enjoy people or whatever. And I do. I truly

do. I actually gave a lot of energy from just existing

outside, doing things outside, however.

My home is the most sacred space that I

have. Mhmm. I'm an artist. So I'd love to

create art. I'd love to like, my idea of

my, like, favorite night is working with my

plants and painting on the wall. and

creating little, like, trinkets and things like that. I just

freaking love to create like, continue

to create my home as, like, safe and expressive,

and I'm just I'm watching, like, videos on

gardening all the time. Like, I I have a million books on a million

different things. And so

I'm just I'm just a a home person.

I love it. Yep. I love it.

What does a simple moment of pure joy look like even

though I think you kinda just described it? But I'm gonna I'm gonna ask the

question anyway. A

simple moment of pure joy for me is waking. This

sounds maybe a masochistic, but I love

waking up early in the morning, if I can.

And it's, like, when the light is, like, peeking in through the blinds, and

it's just it's, like, really there's, like, it's just calm. It's,

like, quietness of the sunrise.

And when I wake up, and there's it doesn't act in the

often often, but if there's no noise

happening or anything. And it just feels like,

like, everything's got this, like, buzzing

And it's it's just and the same thing happens late late at

night. Late late at night, I I

get artistic. 2 or 3 in the morning?

Again, I'm crazy. 2 or 3 in the morning, but it's just just

this quietness when nothing is expected.

There's nothing happening, and I could just, like,

do my narcissistic Yeah. And it's just this

buzz of -- Yeah. -- quiet. And I think

getting back into homeostasis as humans, it's not spitting back

into those places so we can actually listen to what has to happen.

You know? I yeah. Into that intuition.

Mhmm. Mhmm. Makes me think of the quiet before the

storm. Yeah. Yeah.

What a beautiful conversation. Thank you,

Kili. Thank you. You are I've said this before, but

you are doing such beautiful work,

especially with the theme of your podcast and with your

passion and Just knowing you personally, I'm

very lucky because, like

I've said, like, the community that you have around you, should

amplify you and should compliment you. And

having met you and knowing you, it's just like it

just affirms for me that my

personal journey is, like, universe is

celebrated. You know? Yes. Mhmm. Yes.

Well, thank you so much, Keelie, for coming on today and talking with

me, and I can't wait to have more conversations with you on

here because I was just that was a good one.

Yeah. I agree. Thank you so much, Candice. You're so

welcome. Okay.

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the calm state change place as well as the container exercise

if you would like them. Remember, you didn't choose

trauma, and you can choose your path towards healing.

So I just want to invite you to find a comfortable

position And to make sure that you're doing this exercise,

somewhere safe, somewhere where you feel

that you can take a few moments for yourself and

definitely not while you're driving. So we're gonna start

with the container activity, and then move into the

calm steep place. So it's good to have

a secure place where you can store memories and

issues and and things that may need still some work.

But also maybe you don't need to focus on them right at this

point. So if you think about it almost like cleaning up

the files on your desktop computer. So You can just

feel a little bit less overwhelmed and focus a little bit more efficiently.

Files are in a safe place. You can access them, the

next time that you need to. So

to start creating this container, I'd like you to imagine

some kind of container or storage system

that can securely hold as much as you need it to,

for as long as you need it to, until you're ready to work

on skin. So this container can

be something you imagine. It could be something

that's real. We just wanna make sure that

this container has a lid or some type of

secure closure. So that way, there's a way to take

things out only when you want to.

Now it's important to note we don't wanna put people in containers,

but we can put memories and feelings and any kind

of situations. So take a moment and

really think about what that container might look like.

Notice how the container feels.

Notice how it feels that it's there for you.

Should you choose to use it or when you choose to use it?

And now, if you need to use that container, I want you to

picture allowing whatever needs to go in there

to take its place in there. This can

happen slowly, This can happen quickly.

However, it needs to happen. It's okay. Just

allow The pieces, the memories, the

thoughts, the feelings, the situation, whatever it is.

It just slowly takes its place

into that container.

Now, once you feel like The things that need

to be in the container are in there. I want you to close

that container Some people like to

imagine that there's a lock there or some kind

of secured closure beyond just a a

lid. So if you like, you can go ahead and lock that.

And then just imagine it kinda taking its place back into

wherever it needs to be. this could be a place that

you think of in your home. This could be

an imaginary place, wherever it is.

Just someplace that we know that it's there when we need it.

And now, we're gonna transition to that calm state

change place. So this is a really

good activity to develop a

couple of ways to feel more calm and secure without

really needing to rely on something or someone external than

us. So one way we can do this to

create this type of place that you can visit

internally whenever you want, kind of like having

an instant mini vacation on demand.

So see if you can think of a place where you might feel a

sense of calm or a sense of well-being.

You can imagine a place that's similar to one that you've experienced,

or heard about or read about.

It's best not to use a specific memory with people, though, from

your own history. So some people like to think of the

beach or the woods,

mountains, maybe some place they feel

cozy.

So just notice this place.

Notice what you hear.

Notice what you smell.

Look around. What do you see?

What do you feel? Maybe

either temperature, the time of day,

even down to how you feel in your body. as you imagine

yourself in this place.

Really just allowing yourself to soak up every single

positive part of this place.

The way it looks. the

things that you hear.

The things that you smell.

the things that you might be able to touch, any textures or

temperatures.

and really encapsulating what you feel in your

body as you're in this place

as long as it feels good, and calm,

and a place of centeredness.

Now knowing that this place is always available to you

because it is within you. It's a

place of your very own making, a place

that you can return anytime you need.

Whether it's for quick deep breaths,

returning the center, or maybe even winding

down for the evening. This

place is always here for you.

So this recording is going to finish, but if you'd like,

to stay in this place a while longer, you're certainly more than welcome to

do so. And I hope that you'll join me next time