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Revenge Sex and a Brown Paper Bag
Episode 615th March 2021 • The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide • Eric Payne
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"Revenge is mine!" sayeth the Lord. Revenge may look cool and might seem like a good idea in the movies when the hero goes for broke to even the odds. But that’s the movies. In real life, not so much. Revenge sex (not to be confused with make-up sex) is an even worse idea. But that doesn’t stop me. Mad, sad, disappointed, upset, and completely knocked off my game thanks to the events of Episode 5, A New Orleans Ghost Story, revenge is on my mind. But revenge doesn't accomplish much.


(00:14) Act 1: Acting out of Anger and Living in Echo Chambers

  • Stuck in someone else's pain
  • Why revenge doesn't work
  • Mistakes versus evil and why your pain doesn't make you special

(06:54) Act 2: Revenge and Its Various Forms

  • How revenge plays out in emotional matters
  • Why you need to be honest with your accountability tribe no matter what
  • Why revenge is a waste of time
  • Who actually suffers when you seek revenge

(17:24) Act 3: Revenge Sex - Setting the Trap and Creating the Bait

  • There was really no way for this to end well, but at the time, I simply did not care.


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About The Dating After Divorce Survival Guide

Datin' ain't easy — especially the second time around. Join retired blogger ( and divorced dad, Eric Payne, for his humorous storytelling escapades that take you along for the ride over and through emotional hills and valleys as he navigates dating life as a divorced man. Eric doesn't shy away from any of it – the good, the bad, the ugly, and the messy, and he isn't afraid to call himself out when he's the one being messy. 



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