Welcome to "Mindful You," hosted by Alan Carroll. In this enlightening episode, Alan reconnects with Thom Walters for an insightful Part 2 conversation. Together, they delve into the profound realm of mindfulness, exploring the nuances of energy and the transformative power of words. The discussion unfolds to emphasize the importance of energy words and the mindful recognition of gaps in our lives. Listeners are guided through anchoring techniques, fostering an awareness of the present moment. The episode culminates in a thoughtful exploration of the liberating practice of letting go of grudges, offering valuable insights for a more mindful and harmonious existence.
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Thom Walters is a meditation instructor who offers relief to those who suffer from anxiety. As a meditator with over 40 years of experience, and the host of the widely popular Zen Commuter and Calmer in 5 podcasts, he is deeply skilled at helping his students get free of the pain that accompanies anxiety and depression. Through meditation, which is firmly believes is available to everyone, he helps the world become calmer, wiser and happier.
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Alan Carroll is an Educational Psychologist who specializes in Transpersonal Psychology. He founded Alan Carroll & Associates 30 years ago and before that, he was a Senior Sales Training Consultant for 10 years at Digital Equipment Corporation. He has dedicated his life in search of mindfulness tools that can be used by everyone (young and old) to transform their ability to speak at a professional level, as well as, to reduce the psychological suffering caused by the misidentification with our ego and reconnect to the vast transcendent dimension of consciousness that lies just on the other side of the thoughts we think and in between the words we speak.
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Hello, everybody. And welcome to the mindful you
Alan Carroll:podcast. And today is part two, of a conversation that I had
Alan Carroll:with Tom Walters, who was a long time meditator, a longtime
Alan Carroll:teacher of meditation, a long time healer to reduce the human
Alan Carroll:human suffering that people experience with that monkey mind
Alan Carroll:stirring around inside their head, reacting to everything,
Alan Carroll:and agitating everything and creating stress, rather than to
Alan Carroll:be in a more relaxed, balanced, calm, still state of
Alan Carroll:consciousness as you ride the waves of life in this world in
Alan Carroll:which we live. And today, we continued our conversation about
Alan Carroll:meditation, we continued our conversation about the benefits
Alan Carroll:of meditation. And one of the things that I really liked that
Alan Carroll:came out of the conversation was the awareness that there is a
Alan Carroll:space between the sounds that you speak. And his mother told
Alan Carroll:him as a young child, that that space between the words that you
Alan Carroll:speak that space of silence, emptiness is the source of
Alan Carroll:power, and the source of energy that illuminates those words,
Alan Carroll:those sounds, that you want to have impact when you speak. And
Alan Carroll:of course, I'm in the pausing business, and the creating gaps
Alan Carroll:between the sound business. So I was just tickled when he talked
Alan Carroll:about his mother telling him that that was a valuable thing
Alan Carroll:to become aware of. And so please welcome Tom Walters, back
Alan Carroll:to the mindful you podcast, as we continue our exploration,
Alan Carroll:into the adventures of Khan of consciousness, and the
Alan Carroll:adventures of mindfulness. Please welcome Tom Walters. It's
Alan Carroll:nice to have a structured practice, given by a guru
Alan Carroll:through initiation. He just has a little firmer, firmer ground
Alan Carroll:kind of feeling underneath it. And one of the parts of the
Alan Carroll:practice that I really like is the Sonia practice. And Sonia is
Alan Carroll:for 16 minutes, you close your eyes, and you have a mantra that
Alan Carroll:he gives you. And everybody gets the same mantra, but you can
Alan Carroll:never speak it out loud. So everybody does the same mantra.
Alan Carroll:So similar, I think the TM, you have you have the mantra, and
Alan Carroll:you say the mantra three times in the beginning. And then you
Alan Carroll:let go the mantra and you're watching the thoughts. And every
Alan Carroll:time you catch yourself with the thought you say the mantra. And
Alan Carroll:then you'll notice that you take in life support off of the
Alan Carroll:thought you put the life support over on the mantra, the thought
Alan Carroll:that you were thinking fades away. So you keep keep doing it
Alan Carroll:for 60 minutes, and you get practicing how to make thoughts.
Alan Carroll:Stay fade fade away. Right? And most people can't make thoughts
Alan Carroll:fade away. Because the thought is who I am. And if it fades
Alan Carroll:away, then that's suicide.
Thom Walters:I disappear. Like yeah, I
Alan Carroll:disappear. And I'm not into disappearing business.
Alan Carroll:Tom, I'm in the appearing business. Survival business
Alan Carroll:baby. I'm not in the dead business. I'm here.
Thom Walters:It's so true. That is so true. Like, Oh, I gotta be
Thom Walters:Tom, male, Italian meditator and like all these things that
Thom Walters:categorizations Benny, those go away. I disappear. Like, no, you
Thom Walters:don't guess what you're here for the long haul. Might not be in
Thom Walters:this but you're here for the long haul.
Alan Carroll:I use the analogy of light bulbs. Talking to a
Alan Carroll:bald headed blue light bulb and you're talking to a bald headed
Alan Carroll:red light bulb. Right and it looks like the light bulbs are
Alan Carroll:different, but the energy that illuminates the light bulbs is
Alan Carroll:the same energy and as you begin to meditate, you begin to feel
Alan Carroll:the energy. You begin to feel the pulse seating. I mean, I
Alan Carroll:feel in my hands right now I feel the pulsation of the, of
Alan Carroll:the energy of the field of energy around me. And so I'm a
Alan Carroll:big fan of that embody stuff, right? And when I train I, why
Alan Carroll:am I living by training speakers. And when I train
Alan Carroll:speakers, I point out only one thing. And for two days, three
Alan Carroll:days, all we do is the one thing is to be able to realize that
Alan Carroll:there is a, there's a space between the sound you just made.
Alan Carroll:And the next sound, and amateur speakers, there's no realization
Alan Carroll:that there's a space. So when you listen to the amateur
Alan Carroll:speakers, there's no empty spaces at all, between the
Alan Carroll:sounds, and if there's no empty space, you can't breathe, you
Alan Carroll:can't, can't breathe. But if I create the empty space, I can
Alan Carroll:take them big, fancy breaths here we're talking about, right?
Alan Carroll:Most people can't, you know, they can't create them big fancy
Alan Carroll:breaths.
Thom Walters:I love the fact that you are able to in the work
Thom Walters:that you do bring speakers to the awareness of energy, because
Thom Walters:any speaker who's been speaking for a while or is is proficient
Thom Walters:at speaking, knows that the gaps between the words are just as
Thom Walters:powerful as the words themselves. And you know, people
Thom Walters:that have just started speaking, they're like, Oh, I got to speak
Thom Walters:for five minutes. That doesn't mean five minutes without taking
Thom Walters:a break. That means you're imparting something. You have
Thom Walters:five minutes, and you're going to explain something. But you
Thom Walters:can explain it. By taking breaths, you can explain it by
Thom Walters:putting a gap in between sentences. And it will amp up or
Thom Walters:magnify some of those thoughts, or some of those words that
Thom Walters:you're saying. So yeah, Billy, it's so funny because I used to
Thom Walters:be the I used to be the Toastmaster president of our
Thom Walters:chapter here in Nashua, New Hampshire. And one of the things
Thom Walters:that I learned way back in the day was a long time ago, was
Thom Walters:about that gap. Because I used to be that guy was just like,
Thom Walters:my, I think my when I first started before as president,
Thom Walters:they're like, Dude, you're like a caged Tiger. Just going back
Thom Walters:and forth, back and forth. Just were like, just relax, like,
Thom Walters:well, that's funny that people should tell me to. But I get it.
Thom Walters:I absolutely, totally 100% get it. So yeah, way back in the
Thom Walters:day, my speaking evolves so, so well, or so much because of
Thom Walters:those gaps. And understanding that, obviously, you take out
Thom Walters:the filler words, but also just give people that space to feel
Thom Walters:the energy of the words and just take in everything, the verbal
Thom Walters:and the nonverbal all that is what makes a good speakers,
Thom Walters:speakers, obviously, you know, better than anyone of course,
Thom Walters:thinking
Alan Carroll:in the energies a nice way of describing is it's
Alan Carroll:not taking in the word Well, I don't like the word taking the
Alan Carroll:energy as well. I guess I can take in the energy it's because
Alan Carroll:I'm not busy labeling the the, the meaning of the word that
Alan Carroll:you're giving me or the meaning of the vibration? Really, it's
Alan Carroll:just a vibration. You're blowing out like bubbles. Yeah,
Alan Carroll:absolutely. Like I blow soap bubbles. So those are like the
Alan Carroll:words that I speak. And the analogy in my mind is scuba
Alan Carroll:diving off the coast of Lanai and crystal clear water about 50
Alan Carroll:feet underneath. And you blow bubbles, and you watch the
Alan Carroll:bubbles go to the surface. And and the bubble exists within an
Alan Carroll:infinite sea of ocean of emptiness. And the bubbles that
Alan Carroll:you speak. Where did they come from? And where are those
Alan Carroll:bubbles of sound go?
Thom Walters:Right?
Alan Carroll:Where did the bubbles of sound that I'm
Alan Carroll:bubbling now? What was there before I bubble the sound?
Thom Walters:What a wonderful analogy.
Alan Carroll:I can I can hear oh, there's nothing there.
Alan Carroll:There's it's emptiness. It's silence. Yep. Is stillness.
Alan Carroll:Yeah. So in your speaking, you can create little gaps of
Alan Carroll:stillness that allows you to access that the power of the
Alan Carroll:resource of stillness while I'm articulating the thoughts that
Alan Carroll:I'm speaking into the outer world and to me it's like having
Alan Carroll:a a direct connection to power that most people don't have
Alan Carroll:connections to because for too busy making sounds and not and
Alan Carroll:not rare. realizing that the gaps you were talking about are,
Alan Carroll:are more important than the sound because the gaps is the
Alan Carroll:space of nothingness out of which creation comes. Right?
Alan Carroll:That makes sense that you talked about creation a lot?
Thom Walters:Oh, yeah. Oh, absolutely, it does. And my mom
Thom Walters:used to say, it's, it's not the words, it's the power and the
Thom Walters:energy behind the words. And obviously, that's kind of what
Thom Walters:we were talking about as well. And also thinking to that, when
Thom Walters:we have that stillness, when we have those gaps, when we are
Thom Walters:speaking, then people have a moment to kind of be back in
Thom Walters:that cocoon that I was talking about. I mean, if you're talking
Thom Walters:or speaking, without taking any brass or like any gaps, then
Thom Walters:people are just really not. I mean, yes, you can be impactful.
Thom Walters:But the, it's like those thoughts that keep coming and
Thom Walters:coming, just like, and you don't know that they're hitting you
Thom Walters:until they stop. And same thing with a gap when we're speaking.
Thom Walters:If you're constantly speaking, then people just like words,
Thom Walters:words, words, words, and they're like, kind of feeling it. But
Thom Walters:when you take when you make a statement, or elucidate
Thom Walters:something, and then take a pause, that people are like,
Thom Walters:okay, now I know what he or she's talking about, let me just
Thom Walters:let me just bring in that energy of what they're trying to convey
Thom Walters:to me, not what the words per se, but with the energy as well.
Thom Walters:And so the words, the gaps, the energy, they all coincide to
Thom Walters:make the experience that powerful, and that palpable, and
Thom Walters:it can't be that powerful, that palpable without those gaps. And
Thom Walters:that's, I mean, that's the very nature of meditation as well.
Thom Walters:When we are waking up, we're just thinking all day, just
Thom Walters:like, ah, like, they got a gap, like, okay, there's stillness.
Thom Walters:Nobody's yelling at me. I don't hear anything. God's beautiful.
Thom Walters:There's the world is out there. And it's beautiful. And it's out
Thom Walters:there, and that's fine. But the word within me is expanding. And
Thom Walters:it's experiencing silence and stillness. And it's just, God,
Thom Walters:it's such a beautiful, beautiful thing to hear nothing. Oh, that
Thom Walters:was little transcended
Alan Carroll:is the truth. You recently I was talking to folks
Alan Carroll:are talking about higher vibration. And thinking that the
Alan Carroll:Spirit the soul, the being is a higher vibration versus a lower
Alan Carroll:vibration? A, I need to acquire things to make me happy, I need
Alan Carroll:to realize things are the source of unhappiness, I need to I need
Alan Carroll:to let go of my desire for whatever that is. And well, what
Alan Carroll:do I Well, what can I do about that? Well, you can take a look
Alan Carroll:at what's a higher vibration. And so when you are articulating
Alan Carroll:a very rarefied air of articulation of the divinity of
Alan Carroll:a divine abstraction. It's just a treasure. And, and because
Alan Carroll:I've the gap is my business. Because I, I've watched speakers
Alan Carroll:for 40 years around the world 1000s of training people, and
Alan Carroll:not one. Not one is aware that there's a gap between the sounds
Alan Carroll:that they speak, and why do I just point out and then we train
Alan Carroll:them to, to create the gaps themselves? Right, and the gaps
Alan Carroll:are a source of healing. And so you get to be a transpersonal
Alan Carroll:psychologist, like when I am an educational transparent
Alan Carroll:psychologist, we heal people trans personally, by having them
Alan Carroll:create those empty gaps. Pauses because when you do if the wave
Alan Carroll:of relaxation flows through your body, you can feel it right now.
Alan Carroll:Absolutely can and and the speaker's the amateur speakers,
Alan Carroll:I use the analogy that you're feeding them food, and you can
Alan Carroll:overflow. The food is wonderful. I mean, it's high quality and
Alan Carroll:filet mignon, whatever you want to eat, right? You can't eat Oh,
Alan Carroll:were you like chipmunks, your chipmunks full of nuts. You
Alan Carroll:can't swallow. They're great nuts. I want more than that. But
Alan Carroll:give me a second to swallow and digest. Okay. Exactly,
Thom Walters:exactly. And that's what that gap does,
Thom Walters:obviously, among many things, obviously. And the thing that
Thom Walters:we're banding about is just that energy. And with that gap,
Thom Walters:there's just people think, to your point and to what you're
Thom Walters:talking about so articulately is that, like that words are
Thom Walters:everything, if I want to get my point across, I have to just
Thom Walters:were like, No, you have to speak, let it sit, let it
Thom Walters:digest, let it be felt. And then, you know, find another
Thom Walters:thought or continue on with that thought, just give people a
Thom Walters:chance to breathe between the words that you're speaking, have
Thom Walters:them, wash over them. And they can't feel that washing over and
Thom Walters:like, so if you're on the beach, talk about another analogy. So
Thom Walters:if you're at the beach, you're on the shore, and the waves are
Thom Walters:coming in, the waves come and they go back. They come and they
Thom Walters:go back. But that's on the shore, imagine you're like,
Thom Walters:right at that crashing point. And like, we've all been at the
Thom Walters:beach, where it's like, you know, a wave hitch. And if
Thom Walters:somebody is speaking, it's like those, and not taking those
Thom Walters:breaks. It's like waves hitting you every time you're like, I
Thom Walters:want to swim, but it's just, this is beautiful. But but if
Thom Walters:you're on the shore, and you're having that washer water over
Thom Walters:you, and then recede, wash over you and then recede, it's just
Thom Walters:so much more powerful.
Alan Carroll:Now, life is awesome. The the, the flow out
Alan Carroll:the flow in a cycle, back and forth, right, right forth. And
Alan Carroll:what happens is, some people are looking at suffering and
Alan Carroll:suffering is that you have decided that this is the
Alan Carroll:direction I want to go, I don't want to go in the other
Alan Carroll:direction, I don't want, I don't want to let go, I want to I want
Alan Carroll:to acquire stuff. It's about more Tom, it's not about less.
Alan Carroll:And so I don't want to let go. And it happens is that the
Alan Carroll:tension becomes the psychological tension become
Alan Carroll:such that, then you're with a little help from your soul and
Alan Carroll:guidance, I imagine, direct you in the direction of a wake up as
Alan Carroll:the I Am, I didn't know I was asleep. But I when I began to
Alan Carroll:have these experiences that caused me to ask a question that
Alan Carroll:there has to be something better than this. And so then you're a
Alan Carroll:seeker.
Thom Walters:And then you realize, too, that there is
Thom Walters:something better than this. And it's been with you all along to
Thom Walters:your point. I mean, it's just changing that perspective. And,
Thom Walters:I mean, I get it, because like, I think many times are one of
Thom Walters:the things I talked about, that we just talked about on the show
Thom Walters:is just like, you wake up your entire world saying, Get more,
Thom Walters:get more, get more, you don't have get more, get more, get
Thom Walters:more, get more, and you're like, okay, okay. And so, you know,
Thom Walters:two different ways of being, there's a human self that says,
Thom Walters:Get get get, I need more, I don't have enough, I gotta get
Thom Walters:this, gotta get that I got to be happy about this got to be happy
Thom Walters:with that. And there's another part of us says, chuck that
Thom Walters:shit, you're fine. You're fine right now, regardless of whether
Thom Walters:you have everything or nothing, you have everything. What you
Thom Walters:are, is divine light, you are just transcendent. And our
Thom Walters:society tells us every day just like consume get more. And if we
Thom Walters:don't have that bubble that I was talking about, man that
Thom Walters:could rip through a psyche that could rip through a body like a
Thom Walters:hot knife through butter, and it does for many people, like they
Thom Walters:have many illnesses and challenges and like, life isn't
Thom Walters:gonna be without challenges. I mean, we both know that we're
Thom Walters:old, we're old enough to know that life isn't gonna be without
Thom Walters:challenges. But one of the things I always talk about, and
Thom Walters:I catch myself with the help of my guides to it's like, every
Thom Walters:now and then it's very, it's the default or it's the exception,
Thom Walters:but like, she's a shitty day. And then I hear my guides
Thom Walters:saying, No, those words will keep it going. I'm like, thanks,
Thom Walters:guys got it.
Alan Carroll:It's a beautiful life, you're pointing to
Alan Carroll:something that I want to underline is that there are what
Alan Carroll:in psychosynthesis we say that there are 12 or so, sub
Alan Carroll:personalities are like instruments in the in the
Alan Carroll:orchestra and the conductor is the higher self and all the
Alan Carroll:instruments are playing their own sort of tune. And the tunes
Alan Carroll:are the problem is that you have some instruments which are
Alan Carroll:liberal and some instruments that are are not liberal. Right,
Alan Carroll:conservative conservative, right. Both have their own
Alan Carroll:needs. And I want this to survive. No, I want this to
Alan Carroll:survive. I. So now we have a conflict between between the
Alan Carroll:two. So psycho synthesis is the is the realization that you got
Alan Carroll:to two voices in this situation, and you give airtime to each
Alan Carroll:voice and allows the voice to ventilate and share itself and
Alan Carroll:you observe it. You can't do it unless you unless you've built
Alan Carroll:the witness and the observer, part of your of your awareness.
Alan Carroll:Absolutely serve you. You can have them you can have them
Alan Carroll:share their stories. You can have them laugh. Thank you for
Alan Carroll:sharing. I appreciate but now's not the exact time wants you to
Alan Carroll:do they just file that one away. Good. Now I can manage the
Alan Carroll:thoughts. Yep. And I learned to manage thoughts with the the
Alan Carroll:Sonia meditation where you begin to realize that and Eckhart
Alan Carroll:Tolle said it's so wonderfully the thought you think if you
Alan Carroll:give the thought the attention, you give it life support, the
Alan Carroll:thought will exist and get bigger and bigger and bigger and
Alan Carroll:bigger. Or you can somehow focus your thoughts over here. And
Alan Carroll:then all of a sudden those thoughts over there fade away?
Alan Carroll:Yeah. And that is the value of meditation is the ability to
Alan Carroll:manage the the Linde realization, that is a
Alan Carroll:possibility. Yeah,
Thom Walters:that's a huge thing that
Alan Carroll:I can I can I can walk with my thoughts, then. And
Alan Carroll:you said a lot of times it goes back to the breath. It's the
Alan Carroll:ability to manage the breath. Because to cut you got to be
Alan Carroll:awake in order to tell the body to take a deeper breath. To do
Alan Carroll:that, to tell the body Hey, body. There you go. Um, you're
Alan Carroll:under my control. I'm not under your damn control. I control.
Alan Carroll:Right.
Thom Walters:Exactly, exactly. And it's I mean, that's one of
Thom Walters:the things I tell my students too is like, you're you can only
Thom Walters:have one thought at a time. Many people like No, dude, I've got
Thom Walters:like 10,000 thoughts. I might really think two of them right
Thom Walters:now. Oh, okay. You're bouncing back and forth, like
Thom Walters:nanoseconds, and you think you got 10,000 thoughts in your
Thom Walters:head. But you can only have one thought in your mind at a time.
Thom Walters:So when you get a thought, acknowledge it. Hey, thought,
Thom Walters:thanks. Cool. I'm gonna change my thought. And I could bring it
Thom Walters:back to my breath. When you bring that focus back to your
Thom Walters:breath, that focus that thought of breath, then to your point,
Thom Walters:it's like, Where'd that go? Where did it go? Oh, okay, cool.
Thom Walters:Then I forget.
Alan Carroll:I've actually forgot it's gone now. Yeah, I'm
Alan Carroll:over here. And then when I take my ball off my meditation, my
Alan Carroll:breathing or whatever tool I'm using to anchor myself in the
Alan Carroll:moment, right I went to is I got caught by a thought, a train of
Alan Carroll:thought, and how long I stay on that train of thought, depends
Alan Carroll:on how strong the muscle is to distrain yourself from the train
Alan Carroll:of thought. And I find that the more I meditate, the quicker I
Alan Carroll:notice. The boat has capsized. Catch right sided up. If we
Alan Carroll:don't train the boat capsized the entire life in the this, we
Alan Carroll:want to practice getting it well. What does that mean?
Alan Carroll:Stillness, brain, no agitation. Everything just is so non
Alan Carroll:judgmental. Everything just is which in the Course of Miracles,
Alan Carroll:which I've been doing for a couple of years now. Oh, wow.
Alan Carroll:The very first very first lesson is that, look at everything that
Alan Carroll:you see all the pictures and all the ideas and all the objects
Alan Carroll:and all the things in your reality, and say to yourself
Alan Carroll:that nothing I see has any meaning. And, and the second
Alan Carroll:lesson is looking at everything that you see a dotted, dotted,
Alan Carroll:dotted die, your pictures of your family, everything that you
Alan Carroll:see, and realize that you paint the meaning of everything that
Alan Carroll:you see. So obviously, yeah, let's do number one. And
Alan Carroll:practice that. You're in a you're in that neutrality zone
Alan Carroll:you talked about? Yeah,
Thom Walters:absolutely. I remember when I was younger,
Thom Walters:getting back to what I was saying before, like, I'd be
Thom Walters:getting all ramped up about something that might fall over
Thom Walters:or brand be getting all wrapped up about something. My mom would
Thom Walters:just like, sweetheart, just take a nice deep breath. And like,
Thom Walters:let's take a nice deep breath. I'm like, why am I trying to get
Thom Walters:my self ramped up in that space? And I took that took those
Thom Walters:breaths, and she'd say, Sweetheart, you don't need to
Thom Walters:get all wrapped up about anything. It's all an illusion.
Thom Walters:And that's when I first thought she's like, this lady has lost
Thom Walters:us
Alan Carroll:money. But what a blessing to have a such a
Alan Carroll:powerful influence on your life. Speaking those words exactly.
Alan Carroll:Whether you were a good soul or something happened that you
Alan Carroll:incarnated in that in that family,
Thom Walters:I just gonna say karmically, I must have done
Thom Walters:something really good, because, yeah, but both my mom and dad My
Thom Walters:mom passed away about seven years ago. My dad's still with
Thom Walters:us. I still talked my mom my meditations, obviously why
Thom Walters:should say obviously, but I still talk to my mom I got
Thom Walters:meditations in the wisdom is still just as flowing as before,
Thom Walters:but this time I get it. So I like that. Sometimes I don't,
Thom Walters:I'll be like, Mom, can you say that? Again? I don't know if I
Thom Walters:caught that.
Alan Carroll:Like, the flowing is a good word to describe. I
Alan Carroll:did a some work with some folks in Sedona, and a lot of them
Alan Carroll:were talking about channeling and channeling and channeling
Alan Carroll:and psychics and channeling and, and I say well, yeah, that's
Alan Carroll:that I believe it'd be true. However, I'm not, I'm not
Alan Carroll:someone who can channel anything. And then you begin to
Alan Carroll:meditate. And you're having these conversations with your
Alan Carroll:mother. Well, who knows where your mother is, are the energy
Alan Carroll:that your mother represents. If we live in a timeless space,
Alan Carroll:maybe it's there all the time. And so you can actually have
Alan Carroll:compensate, but it requires the to be able to create that mirror
Alan Carroll:of everything just is not a right or wrong. Everything just
Alan Carroll:is that neutral space. And that's a challenge. Oh, yeah,
Alan Carroll:absolutely wrong. I'll tell you, that's wrong. Don't try to erase
Alan Carroll:that in my memory. Because I know that that is wrong. Son of
Alan Carroll:a bitch. So you got people who really clean to the to the
Alan Carroll:meaning of the reality in which they live.
Thom Walters:Exactly. And at their point, I'm like, there is
Thom Walters:no reality. That's the reality that you create. And I mean, my
Thom Walters:mom has told me time and time again, try to explain it. Like
Thom Walters:when I first heard her voice, like after she died, there's
Thom Walters:like a year and a half that I didn't hear a voice. And then in
Thom Walters:a meditation, I heard her voice. And I thought, I'm like, I'm
Thom Walters:going crazy. I'm like, I just miss my mom so much, even after
Thom Walters:a year and a half that I'm hearing her voice her. And she's
Thom Walters:like, do you think you're going crazy? Like, I don't. She's
Thom Walters:like, then you're not. She's like, she tried to explain to me
Thom Walters:and I still don't get it. She's like, I no longer have a
Thom Walters:physical form. I am love. I am nothing but love now. But you're
Thom Walters:able to contact me and get in touch with me because you know,
Thom Walters:the time is not linear. So there is a vestige of me that is still
Thom Walters:alive in this moment. Because this moment isn't the present
Thom Walters:moment. It's all moments. So even though I have transcended
Thom Walters:physicality, I am still here, because there's an aspect of
Thom Walters:time where I am still existing. And I'm like, Mom, mom, it's
Thom Walters:it's confusing. She's like, Well, don't worry about it,
Thom Walters:sweetheart. Just Just enjoy the moment like, gotcha. So do I
Thom Walters:understand it? No, is it real? Most? Most assuredly, it is so.
Thom Walters:And there's great value in the wisdom that my mom sends to me,
Thom Walters:sporadically. Sometimes we get caught up in my human stuff, and
Thom Walters:like, yeah, I gotta get this done. And then other times, it's
Thom Walters:like, do you like, God? I am a lucky lucky man. And it's that
Thom Walters:it's that understanding of grace and fortune that I do what I do,
Thom Walters:and I'm sure that it's kind of the same way with you, Mike. My
Thom Walters:life is just such a gift. I'm like, I can't keep this to
Thom Walters:myself, Mike, if there's a way to have people move in, really,
Thom Walters:and transform their lives to something that they didn't even
Thom Walters:know existed, Mike? Yeah, if that's your path that we're
Thom Walters:gonna meet, or you're gonna meet anybody who can help you
Thom Walters:understand that? That's awesome. And if I can be that, or if
Thom Walters:anybody can make if I can help you get in touch with a part of
Thom Walters:you. That is timeless. That is powerful, that is divine. That
Thom Walters:creates days that are just sublime then yeah, I'll do that.
Thom Walters:Am I gonna be able to take care your pain like no, I can't do
Thom Walters:that. Nobody can do that. Do I know you Mike? I don't know you
Thom Walters:from Adam. But you know you and you know who you are and you
Thom Walters:know the wisdom and guidance and divinity that you are and and if
Thom Walters:you can get in touch with that then this walk on this earth is
Thom Walters:just going to be a walk in the park
Alan Carroll:it's a walk in the park in to me, is that you? You
Alan Carroll:don't resist what is right. And, and you you're more like a
Alan Carroll:willow tree that opens up to the resistance and and opens up and
Alan Carroll:lets the air you know, flow flow through you so you don't you
Alan Carroll:don't you don't know what's there. Yeah. And then you sort
Alan Carroll:of discover that. You have a hand too. In the creation of
Alan Carroll:that resistance, and that when you when you begin to notice
Alan Carroll:that the resistance is composed of thoughts and and I can then
Alan Carroll:take a look at that great Drano commercial, where they had the
Alan Carroll:gunk in the s pipe. And they had the Drano Of course, and incur
Alan Carroll:golden girl golden girl in a little bit dropped off, this
Alan Carroll:went a little bit more dropped off. And then all of a sudden
Alan Carroll:there was enough going on. And the whole thing just flowed
Alan Carroll:right through in the water, clear clean water can flow
Alan Carroll:through and you felt so good. And you went out and bought that
Alan Carroll:drain up. That's the that's the idea. It's the idea that there's
Alan Carroll:gunk in the pipes, which are simply things, things are bad
Alan Carroll:things. There's just things in the pipe. And as you aerate the
Alan Carroll:pipe through split, creating spaces at Air rates, it loosens
Alan Carroll:the gunk and then the gunk flows through. And then the wonderful
Alan Carroll:Buddhist fellow said, You bless all the thoughts and let them
Alan Carroll:go. Bless them all. Yeah. Bless them all, let him go. And then
Alan Carroll:you have that gratitude, that grateful that that absolute
Alan Carroll:forgiveness of sin. That that is the source of salvation, that
Alan Carroll:forgiveness of sin, things that you have painted on the picture
Alan Carroll:that are so important, are things in your life that you
Alan Carroll:have to forgive whoever was involved in the creation of that
Alan Carroll:brown spot on the painting in the museum and the Louvre in
Alan Carroll:Paris. Yeah, exactly. Who is that? What is that? What
Alan Carroll:grievances do you hold against that person? Which is causing
Alan Carroll:you to hold the cannon ball in the middle of the ocean? Yeah.
Thom Walters:Oh, is that was that serving you? The what?
Thom Walters:Yeah. Like, how is that serving you? I mean, I thought about
Thom Walters:that, too. It's like people like holding a grudge. Oh, my guess
Thom Walters:what the person you're holding a grudge with? They don't even
Thom Walters:know what what that you exist. They're like, you go to bed like
Thom Walters:that son of a bitch. I swear to God, I go
Thom Walters:as a guy that you're thinking about, is holding on to that.
Thom Walters:I'm like, Oh, let it go. Let it go.
Alan Carroll:You have to be aware that it's there in the
Alan Carroll:first place. That
Thom Walters:it that's a that's a huge, huge point to make.
Thom Walters:Yeah, some people like that. It's serving to hold on to it.
Thom Walters:Like why? And but they without that stillness without this
Thom Walters:face, they will never know. What if it's serving or not, but on
Thom Walters:served who
Alan Carroll:I am. That's, that's why I'm holding on to it.
Alan Carroll:It happened. We're not we're not talking not makeup. Tom did
Alan Carroll:happen. It's happened to me. And I'm not gonna forget it that's
Alan Carroll:embedded in my mind. So so we're not letting go nothing that it's
Alan Carroll:been. And that's the that's the challenge that the ego has. But
Alan Carroll:you have to be able to realize that. Whether you like it or
Alan Carroll:not, you're responsible. And you got to change the painting in
Alan Carroll:your mind. Yep, absolutely. Absolutely. And that means you
Alan Carroll:got to at least you have to start with the forgiveness of
Alan Carroll:sin. That person that guilty. That, of course, is a projection
Alan Carroll:of your own sin. But the forgiveness of sin, the more
Alan Carroll:loving you are, The kinder you are to yourself. As those voices
Alan Carroll:came up you were talking to you spoke with compassion and love
Alan Carroll:rather than judging. Yeah, exactly. And so the voices are
Alan Carroll:still there. But you were there like friends, they become as
Alan Carroll:actually they become assets. Oh, yeah. They represent energy they
Alan Carroll:represent paint on the painting that you can use when you need
Alan Carroll:to use the conservative and you can use the liberal paint when
Alan Carroll:it's when it's appropriate, based on what does God wants you
Alan Carroll:to do in this moment. Right
Thom Walters:and here to have the ability to hear like, you
Thom Walters:know, through all the noise and chaos of the world, just like
Thom Walters:what's true for me and me, but what is what is going to be the
Thom Walters:most serving energy to propagate? Can I live in? Do I
Thom Walters:want to live in hate anger and frustration? Those are dense,
Thom Walters:dense, dense, dense, heavy, heavy, heavy or deep. Like, no,
Thom Walters:that's not me. That's not me. I can see that. And I can
Thom Walters:acknowledge that, that I can either empower that or
Thom Walters:disempower that. And know that I mean, one of the things I talk
Thom Walters:about on the show all the time is like, hey, you know, tell
Thom Walters:people I think it was uncommon five, my other show, I'm like,
Thom Walters:could you kill somebody? And most people are like, Oh my god,
Thom Walters:I could never ever kill a person like, you could? Absolutely you
Thom Walters:could, I could, you could. It's part of our nature. Or it could
Thom Walters:be part of our nature. We empower different thoughts. It's
Thom Walters:not they don't exist, the the ability to hurt or to kill
Thom Walters:everything that is part of us. All all of it exists within us.
Thom Walters:We just have to, for whatever reason, whether it be up what
Thom Walters:have you, for us? Hopefully it's a meditation practice, or is
Thom Walters:meditation prayer for like, what's going to be serving for
Thom Walters:me? Could I kill person? Yes, but that's not who I am. That's,
Thom Walters:that will not serve me it will go against the very nature of
Thom Walters:who I am, we all have a shadow. And the more we try and push it
Thom Walters:down, shove it down, like no, no, no, that's not me. And like,
Thom Walters:the more it's gonna come back. So it's like, Yes, I am capable
Thom Walters:of anything. But I choose light. And I choose love. And I choose
Thom Walters:compassion, and I always will.
Alan Carroll:And the choice you need to be able to see two
Alan Carroll:options, right? And most people, there's no damn two options,
Alan Carroll:there's my option. And now I do it is the way Yeah, which is my
Alan Carroll:way. Right. And it's also written in the good book. I'm
Alan Carroll:talking about what Jesus told me, or what Muhammad told me, or
Alan Carroll:what Buddha told me, I'm talking about what's in the book, as I
Alan Carroll:speak for the book. And so they use the credibility in their in
Alan Carroll:their speaking,
Thom Walters:right, right.
Alan Carroll:So I've just got carried away there, but you're
Alan Carroll:on the money you are,
Thom Walters:you are absolutely
Alan Carroll:in a boat. And it boils down to that ability to
Alan Carroll:choose the ability to wake up and that and there's two or more
Alan Carroll:trains of thought that I can get on right now. Go to a 37, I can
Alan Carroll:go to station over here, I can go to this station. And I say to
Alan Carroll:myself, well, if I wanted love and joy and happiness in my
Alan Carroll:life, which train of thought would be the train that I'd like
Alan Carroll:to rock, this is the train of joy and bliss and happiness. So
Alan Carroll:I used to ride that train of that, that thought and it
Alan Carroll:discovers is that I can do that by becoming more mindful. And
Alan Carroll:meditation is a form of fundamental mindfulness. Take
Alan Carroll:technique, absolutely. And what I discovered is it by just
Alan Carroll:pausing between the sounds consciously, you become the
Alan Carroll:space which could which has the thing rather than the thing
Alan Carroll:itself. Right? Right, you then realize that the choice of it is
Alan Carroll:either either you are the space, you are the space of you are the
Alan Carroll:space that contains everything, or you're just something in the
Alan Carroll:space of the all know, you are the all that contains
Alan Carroll:everything, rather than death or something in the space of the
Alan Carroll:all, exam. So you are in we are our energy are in the space of
Alan Carroll:the all. And what does that mean? What's the all of the all
Alan Carroll:is, is? What would they all be? The all would be God, God's
Alan Carroll:stand for what God's good person for sure. And God's God speaks
Alan Carroll:for love, God's God's would be loving and creation and all
Alan Carroll:those things and, and so then I can, rather than what God can do
Alan Carroll:for me, it's what I can do for God. And what can I do for God?
Alan Carroll:Well allow God to speak through me. Don't ask God what he can do
Alan Carroll:for you. But what can you do for God? God cannot do for you what
Alan Carroll:God cannot do through you. So allow yourself to, to speak.
Alan Carroll:Speaks speak as if you were speaking from a divine place.
Alan Carroll:What does that mean?
Thom Walters:That we're just gonna say, the answer is in
Thom Walters:there, all you got to do is just quiet yourself.
Alan Carroll:And then show other people how to get
Alan Carroll:themselves quiet. Right? So when events happen in the big movie,
Alan Carroll:they are able to capture the thinking that's going on right
Alan Carroll:now about what they're seeing and experiencing. And they're
Alan Carroll:able to capture, the emotion that's going on was is connected
Alan Carroll:with the thinking. And so now you have the thinking going on
Alan Carroll:and the emotion going on. And then and then you become aware
Alan Carroll:of the tension in the body that you now have, why you are
Alan Carroll:experiencing these emotions and springs into thinking and then
Alan Carroll:you start taking a deep breath. And at that point, rather than
Alan Carroll:to pursue this place, can you disconnect and take a deep
Alan Carroll:breath and works every time? Yeah. Don't have the ability to
Alan Carroll:do that because they haven't trained themselves. Now.
Thom Walters:They just let life wash over. For good or bad, I
Thom Walters:like create my life. That's that worked for me. And sometimes I
Thom Walters:just let life create itself. I'm like, Cool,
Alan Carroll:universe,
Thom Walters:whatever you got for me. Show me something
Thom Walters:different. Some show me joy today. And it never disappoints.
Thom Walters:It never disappoint. You can talk
Alan Carroll:to the universe, as if the universe and you are
Alan Carroll:good friends. And you can ask the universe to give you things
Alan Carroll:because you and the universe are the same, I suppose in this
Alan Carroll:world of everything. You're just talking to yourself. What do you
Alan Carroll:want? Absolutely.
Thom Walters:Absolutely.