Your Past is Triggering You — Here’s Why - EP 311

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At some point in your life, you may have found yourself emotive, highly emotionally, react over some stimulus that didn't seem to be kind of rational to create such an emotional reaction. But you may have found if you dig deeper under the surface, you may find that there's an experience in the past that is unresolved. That's now being reminded in this new stimulus of that past experience.

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And up comes an emotion. And this is basically showing you how your past may just be underlying some of your emotional reactions in the current moment. So let me unpack that a bit. Any time you have a stimulus, some an event or some experience, you are labeling that either positive, negative or neutral. There's an area in the subcortical area of the brain called the amygdala, that assigns an emotional charge and valency to the experience.

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Then that if it's positive or negative, is stored as an episodic memory in the hippocampus, which is another internal nuclei in the brain and it stores it as an episodic memory, where you have the place and the time and the content and context and the direction and distance and location of an event that's now positively or negatively or neutrally charged, mainly positively or negatively neutral or neutral.

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So if you have an experience in the past that's been extremely painful in your mind and you have not yet seen the upsides to it. So you literally store in your hippocampus an episodic memory that has a trauma, a tragedy, a turmoil, a terrible, a negative without a positive. And you've not seen any of the benefits or positive that come.

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You know, if you have an event days, weeks or months or years later, you can sometimes accumulate the benefits of it and neutralizes it over time. But if it's of some event that you've chosen to see only the downsides and not the upsides to it, it's sitting there, festering away, stored in the hippocampus as a negative event. Now, any association that reminds you in any way the sound, the sight, texture, the feel or whatever that remind you of that event in a current new stimulus, you could trigger up the emotional reaction you had.

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That was an avoidance response, because you, your brain assigned to a predator and you will now escape it. So you can now create a new reaction, an aggressive response based on the color or the sound or the smell. In other words, you probably have had an experience in your life where you had maybe on the positive side, a relationship dynamic that you were infatuated with.

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You saw all the positives and off the negatives, and the person you're with had a special Cologne or perfume, and you had a certain odor and smell, and then later on you meet somebody years later, possibly while you meet somebody with that same Cologne or perfume, and up come these fond memories. And that's because that's the amygdala is shining a positive valency to the hippocampus, and it's stored there.

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And anything that is polarized that's got more negatives and positives or more positive negatives is stored in the hippocampus as an episodic memory. That's there. That can be now with new stimuli associated with and compounded and dramatized. And we can create a heightened emotional reaction, from a new stimulus that reminds us of an old stimulus. It's kind of like the dog salivating, when all of a sudden the bell rings because of the association with the bell ringing every time they eat.

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So this is an association, a conditioned reflex, a conditioned, reflex. You by said and this is what's been known in operant conditioning by Skinner. So we can go into that original event, if we can isolate what that event was. And we can go in there and ask a new set of questions, because the quality of our lives, basically quite the question to ask.

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And the questions we ask make you conscious of unconscious information. So if you had an event that was you are conscious of the downsides, unconscious, the upsides, and you ask, how specifically is this event, this stimulus, how is it helping you in your life, spiritually, mentally, career, financial, family, social or physical? Or how is it helping you fulfill what's most important or meaningful or highest and priority in your life?

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And stack up the advantages. If we look and hold ourselves accountable and neutralize the original event. And now, instead of having a trigger, a hook by somebody reminding us of a previous event, now it's neutral. It has no impact. And so now a new stimulus is not associated with something that's painful, and you don't have that reaction.

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And when you do and you balance the equation, you release it from the hippocampus memory. And it now goes into more cortical areas, and you have more self-governance and less emotional reaction, and you feel like you're back in control and not out of control. And the same thing. I've seen clients, usually females with relationships and males with male relationships.

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But, you see a female that gets involved with the relationship or the infatuated guy

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and sees all the positives, not the negatives.

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The intuition is whispering, don't go too quick. Don't be gullible. Be careful. Watch out. But they're not. They're not heeding it. And they're letting the impulse of their amygdala assign some positive valency to it.

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And they're blind and unconscious of the downsides. And then all of a sudden, any time a man comes along and says those same words or has those same colognes or does similar manners, they can be hooked and repeatedly attracted to certain guys with certain behaviors. I've seen the same thing with men in business. It could be also relationship, where they hire people or they get engaged in a relationship with vendors or colleagues or new clients that say what they want to hear, and then they have associated positive associations with it.

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And the same thing they can now we have a a highly polarized response and then be triggered again and again and again by people that say the same things. So any time we have in our in our experience, assigned a valency of highly positive or negative and not neutral to an event, any of the associations, the smells a stage, the feels, a contact, the touch, anything associated with that experience can be a trigger and can create.

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If we see another stimulus afterward, with any of those same associations can trigger the same emotional response dramatized from the original event. So your past can have an impact on your emotional reactions today. And that's one of the reasons why you this past is called your emotional baggage. You're carrying it around. It's weighing you down gravitationally and holding you in bondage.

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You might say, see anything that you're infatuated with that you're seeing only the positive valence of, occupy space and time your mind and runs you. You have intrusive thoughts. Anytime you see something that's negative and you resent it and you see downsides without upside you again, you have it occupies space and time. Your mind and runs you with intrusive thoughts.

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In fact, insomnia. Trying to sleep at night is a result of these highly violent memories that are running around and ruminating in our mind throughout the night. And it's difficult to sleep because we're on alert y because we're afraid. Anything that's highly polarized, positively, we're afraid to lose because it represents prey in our brain and we don't want to lose and starve.

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And so, and anything that's highly violent, negatively, we represent predator. So we want to be vigilant and stay awake for possible eating and predator eating us. So the reason why we have insomnia is really basically the intrusive thoughts of all these highly violent systems and are stored in our subconscious mind. Our subconscious mind is the amygdala and hippocampus.

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That's the new neural correlates for what was called the subconscious mind. So anytime we have this baggage of the past, it's going to affect us in the future. And what's actually there in reality. And what we've actually had is a stimulus may not be what's actually we're experiencing because of our baggage that we bring to the table when we have the new perception.

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So we could actually go berserk and cause that reaction over something that seemed to be trivial. And you go, why do we overreact on that? Because it remind us of things that were stored back there that's highly polarized, that we've never cleared. That's one of the reasons I do my my primary seminar program to break, to experience, to show people how with the DeMartini method, how to ask questions and uncover that lineage of that baggage, and how to clear and dissolve the baggage that you're bringing to the table now.

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So instead of being an automaton reacting to misinformation and stimuli, you're now in governance. And you see both sides. When you see both sides and vent in your neutral, you don't have these reactions. But a second you're violent and highly, positively or negatively charged. You're going to have these reactions. So anything in the past that has not been neutralized is your baggage.

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Anything you judge, in other words, because to see more positives, negatives or more negatives and positive, there's a judgment to see them both simultaneously balanced is to love something. So when you have love for something, you don't have these emotional reactions. When you have these judgments of these polarized perceptions and violent, stored perceptions, you're now vulnerable as an automaton reacting to stimuli and anything to your them.

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It can cause you a positive or negative response. And that's why you get hooked positively or negatively. And these are called your buttons. You know, you push my buttons. Well, your buttons are your buttons. They're just reminding you of something you haven't neutralized and been accountable to neutralize. Again, that's one of the reasons I teach the DeMartini method is the break to experience, to show people how to dissolve the buttons, how to dissolve the hooks, how to dissolve the triggers, how to dissolve the subconsciously stored baggage.

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That's stored from the hippocampus. As episodic memories that are highly polarized, that are there to keep us vigilantly alert for fear of loss of prey and fear of getting a predator. So anything that we consider positive represents prey. Anything we consider negative represents predator, and our body and mind react in survival modes based on anything that reminds us of those events.

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So anything we haven't loved runs our life until we love it.

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And that's one of the reasons I again teach the my program to give people a tool on how to identify them and dissolve them. And what's interesting is in the person can come along the same stimulus and it has no reaction. So you're in control. So you have control over your perception, decisions and actions.

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If you know how to balance them. Any time your perceptions are imbalanced, the external world runs you. Any time they're balanced, you run you. So you can ask sets of questions, which is what the DeMartini method is to help you dissolve the hooks, the triggers, the buttons that are from the past that are impacting your reactions today. So I just wanted to share with you this simple model principle about how your past can influence your current reactions.

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Just you can have that as a context and in the process of doing it, know that you have a solution to that if you want it. If you don't mind those reactions and like to be hooked again and again and again on the next relationship or on the next button, it just keeps triggering a reaction, then fine. But if you'd like to dissolve it and not have it run you and you run you and have some governance self-governance, then come to the break to expanse.

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Let me show you the methodology and teach you the questions and help you become cognizant of what you've been unconscious of. Then, whether you're fully conscious and not reactive, but proactive.

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