You may be here because you're feeling space open up in your life for something new.

Maybe all your children are finally in school or maybe you're able to hire child care and spend some time on your own self development.

Or maybe life is busier than ever but you can't ignore this call to share your talents any longer and you're wondering how in the world you'll find time and space to do so.

This episode is for you! We'll discuss what kind of time you'll need space for and how to carve it out, even when it feels like nothing can budge.

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Welcome back.

My friends.

Can't wait for episode.

Number two of burning brightly.

Today, we're going to talk about making some space in

our life for this new chapter.

Of putting ourselves out there right now.

One of the reasons you might be here listening to this podcast is

because you've noticed from space opening up in your life, right?

Maybe.

You don't have as many kids at home.

Maybe your kids just don't need you as much.

Um, even just be emotional space, right?

Maybe life is a little bit simpler now than it was before, or maybe it's more

complicated, but your brain is operating a little bit better than it was during

those hazy years of early motherhood.

Right.

could have some mental space opening up.

Maybe like I said, physical space.

If kids are moving out, Uh, your calendar.

Just these new phases of motherhood.

Tend to cause some introspection, right?

We start to think about what this next phase of life is going to hold and

what we want to put into the world.

Especially when we're just not quite so busy anymore.

If that's not, you, you might be feeling the call to burn a little

bit brighter, but you're wondering how in the world you're going to

fit anything else into your day.

I so understand it relate to this one.

I have 10 kids still at home.

Uh, my is very full and yet.

I need this.

I need the things in my life that I use for my own personal

growth and development.

To become the best wife and mother that I can possibly be, but I do need to be

very, very conscious of how to create.

More space in my life for these, these me, it's my businesses.

So regardless of which of these UI most identify with.

There's a reason that this episode is number two.

It's very important.

And you're gonna want to pay attention today.

As I teach you how to create the space necessary.

To open yourself up for this calling that you're feeling right.

Okay.

So did you notice how I said that?

I didn't say find the time.

I said it create the time.

This is a really important distinction.

Our time, space and energy.

I've noticed, tend to abhor vacuums, right.

And when there is any open space, time or energy.

And then I life just kind of expands to fill that space available, which

means that the vast majority of us are not sitting around thinking,

gosh, I just have so much extra time.

I need to fill.

It just doesn't happen.

Whatever we have in our life just expands to fill that time

that we have available to us.

probably also noticed that this is why busy women tend to get so much done.

Right.

not because they've just dug through their couch cushions and found some time

waiting there, like the loose change.

Right.

It's because they have created the time necessary and they have shrunk the

tasks that are less important to them.

So that they can have time for the things that matter most.

The first step to this is to determine where this new calling or business is

going to fit into your list of priorities.

Because I know you already have that.

I knew you already have a list of things that are really important to you.

Probably things like your family, home management, maybe church

obligations, and those are going to always need some of your time.

But you need to determine where your business is going to fall on your list

of to-dos so that it doesn't get shuffled all the way to the bottom of the list.

I like to talk about my three main priorities as a three-legged

stool, because I think that's just a really important visual.

And it helps us realize that this is how we're going to balance our

life to the best of our ability.

The legs of my stool represent God or my faith, my family.

And my business.

for me, this balance means two things.

It means number one, that my personal growth projects for me, my businesses

get the airtime that they deserve, right.

That I'm actually putting the time into them that I want to, but it also ensures

that I don't become this cranky workaholic that never spends time with her family

or never develops her faith because.

She just loves business so much.

Right?

So just this constant checking, of all of these priorities to make sure

that they're as balanced as possible.

Now I personally highly recommend these three priorities.

They have served me well, my entire adult life.

Yours might look a little bit different and that's totally okay.

But.

Just make sure that stepping into this new phase is one of them.

Right?

will likely be.

A big transition for some of you too many of us spend years and years and years

making our family our number one priority.

Our faith also a top priority, and then just kind of picking

up the pieces of whatever scraps of time are left for ourself.

When we prioritize our own personal development meant as important

as our family and our faith.

Sometimes it requires some adjusting, but I promise that in the long run, it's

going to be a beautiful, beautiful thing.

So you might wanna start small.

You might want to just start.

By adding in some of these personal development.

Uh, growth activities.

As you see.

Possible, right?

Like once a week, you're gonna start doing something for yourself.

Uh, once every other week, you're going to start.

Taking a class or, or developing some talent in one way or another, but start

slow, but acknowledge that this is going to need to be one of your main pillars.

Okay.

Now I want to stop and just talk about business for one second.

We're still early on in this podcast and I want to get something really clear.

I know that the word business can sound scary, especially if you've

been a stay-at-home mom, your entire adult life, or most of it.

Right.

But there are many, many ways to build a business.

I have chosen for my personal growth and mission phase of my life.

To look like building.

Multiple businesses.

Business.

Does not have to be overwhelming and scary.

There are many, many ways to build one.

Okay.

So for example, many of us here have people going to get an

advanced degree and MBA, right?

Some sort of business degree.

It can mean making this detailed business plan and then getting

partners and then getting investors and launching this big, huge thing.

It does not have to look anything like that.

I think very often when I talk to women about business, they get

really scared because they just think I am not prepared for that.

I don't have all this capital to invest.

I don't have all this time to invest.

Business can also look like a roadside lemonade stand.

That is a business.

Okay.

All a business is, is exchanging knowledge or products for value

in the form of money, right?

also mean making your favorite homemade jewelry and selling it on Etsy.

It can be very, very, very simple.

And I highly recommend you start a business very simply.

If that's what you want to do.

But on this podcast, I just want to warn you.

I'm going to talk predominantly about business as a way of putting yourself

out into the world and answering this call that you're feeling.

For for a couple of reasons.

And another episode, we'll talk about that.

that it doesn't necessarily mean you need to charge for your talents and expertise.

Non-profits are an amazing way to answer this call as well, but I just want you to

not get scared off when I talk business.

Um, the best word I have.

To use, to talk about sharing our talents and expertise with the world

in exchange for some money, right.

share your light and God's light.

With the world and help support yourself in the process.

It's amazing.

Um, little caveat for not getting freaked out about the business word.

Okay.

At the beginning of this episode, I mentioned that there are different kinds

of, of space we might have to make, right.

Or a one could be space within your energy.

Space in your time.

A space in your priorities.

in your emotional or mental health.

Right.

now I want to talk predominantly about time because that's what I feel like a

lot of moms have some scarcity around is, oh, there's just never enough time.

I'm so busy.

Side note.

I highly recommend you eliminate the word busy out of your vocabulary because it

has a lot of negative connotations for me.

It has this connotation of just hustling everywhere.

Running around like a crazy person.

And not consciously choosing where.

And how I want to spend my time.

So I prefer to say that my life is full because it is, but it is full of

things that I have consciously chosen.

I do not spend more than a few minutes here and there doing things that I really

dislike or do not think that there's a.

Uh, large purpose for, right.

looking at how we spend our time is going to be really, really

valuable as we are going to open our lives up to something more.

Okay.

So there's three main types of time.

That we're going to have to create for ourselves.

You're gonna want to carve out time for education.

Growing yourself mentally.

Time for work for actually creating something of value.

And time for quiet.

And I'll just briefly explain each one of these, because I think

they're each social so important.

So So first off the time for education and for work are both

pretty self-explanatory right.

You're going to need to learn about this new sphere of influence, right?

So let's So let's take the example of jewelry-making.

You might need to carve out some education time to take a class

once a week to learn about.

Creating jewelry with polymer clay.

Or how to best fashion chains that won't fall apart.

Any number of things it could be to develop your business savvy, right?

Let's say you're making your jewelry and you really want

to sell it somewhere online.

You want to learn about building a website or about the best way

to fulfill these products, the best packaging to use, right?

just filling your mind with concepts that are going to be necessary to take you

along this path of, of self growth, right?

The time for work, obviously back to this example is to create the

jewelry, to go create the value.

Now, if at the beginning you don't have a lot of skill in this that's okay.

It can simply be time to collect.

Uh, supplies.

It can be time to mess around a little bit.

Maybe it's something artistic and you just need some practice

sketching, or maybe it's something.

Putting some knowledge out into the world and you just need to start

doing that for free creating some blog posts or sharing your knowledge

with friends and getting feedback.

Right?

So going to be the actual creation of what you have a value.

for me personally, I think the time for quiet is going

to be the most revolutionary.

So quiet and rest are when our physical bodies.

Take what they need to repair and rejuvenate ourselves.

Right?

Isn't it a miracle that we have to sleep for like eight hours a night.

In order to be able to function.

Normally I think it's one of the greatest mercies that God has given

us is the opportunity to sleep almost as long as we are awake in

order to repair our bodies and rest.

So our minds need to do this as well.

And when our minds rest it's actually, when connections are made,

how many times have you laid down?

At night and all of a sudden had all these ideas start popping up because

your brain, all of a sudden has all of the chaos of the day die down.

And those neural pathways can just start zinging off and firing

and making all these connections.

And so I very often keep a notebook by my bed because it's that rest time when

I come up with some really great ideas.

But.

But besides just the day-to-day rest, I found that I actually have to carve out

purposeful rest and quiet time for myself.

To do some big picture thinking of this aspect of my life, this

putting myself out into the world.

I've noticed that I make some amazing.

Goals and dream up some brilliant dreams when I am on plane rides.

Right.

reading a book for a half an hour, an hour, I get a little bit bored and I

just start to think, and it has this combination of really great factors.

Right?

You're stuck in one place.

You can't move.

It's re relatively quiet with some white noise, right?

have time plus no guilt to be doing anything else.

Right.

When I, when I try to carve out time to be quiet here at home, I just

think, oh, I should be putting laundry.

In the washer.

Oh, I should be cleaning the baseboards, whatever a million things are

running through my mind on a plane.

None of that is an option.

Just sitting there and thinking.

So if you can, I mean, you're, you're totally.

Invited to hop on a plane every month to get your quiet rest and relaxation, to

just allow your brain to process things.

But it's probably more likely that you're going to need to carve that

out into your regular, your lifestyle.

So that could look like going to the library for an afternoon.

Maybe you could make a deal with your husband where every third Saturday you go

to the library and you just brainstorm.

And you come up with goals and dreams and ideas, um, maybe.

Your husband takes the kids to the park for an afternoon or out to eat.

And you're able to have some quiet time at home.

I do recommend though that you go to a place where there's nothing else to do,

which is why I recommend the library or maybe a friend's empty house, or

even just going to the park yourself.

Because if there's anything else that can be done, it's so much easier to

go check something off your list than it is to do this big picture thinking.

Okay.

Super, super important.

Okay.

So at this point, I want to challenge you.

This is this week's challenge.

Okay.

I don't know if I'm gonna do this every week, but I kind of like giving you

a challenge every now and again, and that is to carve some time out in your

schedule for this next phase of your life.

if you're new to this, like I said before, it might be a little bit of a challenge.

A learning curve to be able to carve out time for all three of those things.

Every single week that the education.

The work and the quiet time where you can reflect and do some big picture thinking.

But if the case, just pick one, pick one this week and do a

different one next week and then a different one the week after that.

And then slowly learn to incorporate all three each week.

Okay.

It can be really helpful if you schedule these, um, something that's

outside of your control, right?

Like, Like registering for a class register for a class.

You know, you're probably going to show up there at 5:00 PM every Thursday,

because it's on your calendar, you've paid money for it, whatever.

But even if you can't do that, I put it on your calendar and honor

it, honor this new, brilliant creature that you're creating.

Of Imagine yourself in a Chrysalis, right?

And just becoming this new phase of amazing mother and woman to put your

talents and skills out into the world.

And it's going to take some time and some growing pains.

But honor that and respect that time that you've carved out for yourself.

Finally, another thing to watch out for is opportunities for growth.

Okay.

So as soon as you start putting yourself out there a little bit, you're

going to start seeing ways in which you can stretch and grow yourself.

This might look like.

More opportunities to learn maybe a conference you could go

to maybe a mentor or a coach.

You could hire maybe a networking event.

You could attend, um, number of things.

They're going to start popping up on your radar.

As soon as you put yourself into this position of growing right.

Be aware that they're going to probably feel one, if not all

of these three emotions, when you start thinking about these.

They're going to feel uncomfortable.

And they're going to feel a little bit scary, maybe very scary.

And they're going to feel unfamiliar.

But this is totally normal.

Think about the first time you did anything physically

that you had never done.

It was a little bit scary.

Like have you ever gone downhill skiing or done rollerblading

or, uh, ridden motorcycle?

You probably fell a combination of those three things, right?

Unfamiliar, uncomfortable and scary, but also exhilarating and exciting, right?

That is what this new chapter is going to be full of full of some

discomfort and some negative emotion.

Just acknowledge that this is not a warning sign that

you're doing something wrong.

It is indeed indicator of growth.

Every time we stretch ourselves, we get a little bit

uncomfortable, but welcoming in.

And you don't have to jump into it with both feet.

You can just dabble in a little bit.

You can just think, you know what, this month, maybe I'm not ready to go to a

networking event with a bunch of other professionals, but maybe I'm open to

taking this class in the privacy of my own home in front of my computer.

Right.

Or maybe I have the courage to hire a coach who can talk me through

some of these fears and some of this discomfort, whatever it is.

Try something open yourself up to these opportunities for growing.

Okay.

Lean in.

Take that space for yourself.

Honor.

This new.

Chapter for yourself and embrace it.

It's going to be so much fun.

Also, don't forget to pay attention to the stories you're telling yourself.

These will come up.

Your survival brain will start saying, stop doing this.

It's uncomfortable.

It feels bad.

Don't you remember?

You're not artistic.

Don't you remember?

You don't know anything about business?

Listen to those and then respond to your brain.

It's okay.

I don't have to be good at anything yet.

I'm just trying something new.

And then finally just be prepared for this amazing life that God

is going to help you create.

Okay friends.

I will talk to you next week.