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Hello, darling heart, and welcome to the drink less, live better podcast. This is the podcast that helps you to see that drinking
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less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely, or boring. I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to have a year alcohol
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free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. With my experience in training, I now help other women with their
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alcohol free or drink less adventures. You can find out more about me and sign up to my 5 day drink less challenge at drinklesslivebetter.com.
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I'm here to tell you that you can relax, connect, and have fun without alcohol in your life. Join me here each week to find
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out how. Today, I'm here to tell you about how your words matter. There was something I couldn't do today. I listed out the
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reasons which included everything you'd imagine from time to energy to, I don't know, the tilt of the planet or something.
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Really, it's embarrassing, saying it out loud. Anyway, the real reason I wasn't getting the thing done was a mixture of I
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didn't want to, I couldn't quite be bothered, and there was other stuff I wanted to do more. I chatted all this through with
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a lovely colleague and then felt happy about not doing the thing I didn't want to do in the first place. When I was first
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considering going alcohol free, I had a whole host of reasons written on the reasons why I couldn't do it. I was sure I'd
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be unable to relax, unable to go out with my friends, and unable to have any kind of fun ever again. In short, I was going
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to be miserable. One day, I decided to switch my language. Instead of saying I can't go out cold free or I can't be sober,
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I started to use the word won't. Uh-oh. Revelation. Shocker. When I used the word won't, it bought into sharp focus the victim
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mentality I had been in. I can't stop, insert ridiculous reason here, drinking, poor me. When I changed to using the word
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won't, it made me realize how much power I had. I won't go alcohol free. I won't relax without alcohol. I won't have fun without
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alcohol. All this made me realize I was deliberately keeping myself stuck. I won't meant I was choosing on purpose. In the
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same way, I might have said, oh, I can't record a podcast. I don't have the time. Could have been translated to, I won't record
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a podcast because I'm not prioritizing it, and we all know that's not gonna happen now, don't we? When we replace can't with
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won't, we usually get much closer to the truth, and that's a good thing even if it's a little bit uncomfortable. The word
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won't puts you in a position of power. You're no longer in victim mode. It's about stopping making excuses, taking responsibility
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for your behaviors, and doing the next right thing for yourself. What is it for you? Are you still saying you can't stop drinking,
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and do you mean you won't stop? Hashtag just saying. Drop me a DM if you want to talk more on this subject. I've got 3 one
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to 1 coaching places available this month. If you're thinking you might be ready for some of that magic where doubt, hope,
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and action meet, please get in touch. Thank you so much for listening today, and, PS, I believe in you.
