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Sex Spoken Here: Let’s Talk about Gender part 1
Welcome to my virtual therapy room! I am Dr Lori Beth Bisbey and this is Sex Spoken Here. Remember that this podcast deals with adult themes so if you don’t have privacy you might wish to put on your headphones.
Today I am beginning a series about gender. When I was growing up, many people saw gender as either male or female. There were sometimes people who were referred to as transsexual who felt they were born with the wrong body and chose to undergo surgery to change to their ideal gender.
One of my first flirtations, a boy called Kenny, confided in me when we were both 16 that he really felt female inside and wanted to change sex. He went for some physical tests and told me that though he had male genitalia he also had a uterus inside. Kenny went on to have a sex change operation. He was the first person I ever met who questioned the gender he was assigned at birth.
The understanding of gender has changed dramatically since that time. Current research highlights gender as a spectrum and recognises gender fluidity as well as transgender and transsexual. I’m going to dive into this issue in depth over the next few weeks.
Joining me today to start the discussion is Melvin Marsh
Melvin Marsh is a practicing medical hypnotherapist in with particular interests in medical hypnosis, phobias, and anxiety. While attending medical school, hypnotherapy was suggested to him to deal with his own anxiety problem caused by a residual medical phobia. As hypnotherapy started to relieve the symptoms, he realized he could use hypnosis to help his future patients. Eventually, he left medical school to pursue studies at HMI College of Hypnotherapy where he graduated with honors. He became a certified hypnotherapist under the strict guidelines of the Hypnotherapist's Union Local 472 AFL-CIO, the strictest certifying agency in the United States requiring an additional 80 clinical hours over that of the National Guild.
Melvin has been interviewed by top podcasts, including being interviewed by the famous Adam Eason of Hypnosis Weekly and is much in demand as a speaker and teacher.
He socially transitioned in 2002 and medically transitioned a few years after that. Welcome to the show!
There is a lot of controversy around definitions so please note that the opinions of the speaker belong to them. We started with the difference between transsexual and transgender. Melvin sees transsexual as those who make physical changes (hormones, surgery) and live full time as the new gender and transgender as those who do not necessarily do these things. I did highlight the fact that each individual has their own perception of their gender identification and that this should be respected. In my view we should respect as many identifications of gender as there are people.
We talked about discrimination extensively. Melvin reports that there is as much discrimination within the LGBTQIIAA+ community as there is outside the community and that it is widespread in the US. He spoke about being in fear for his life, being harassed in medical school and being attacked on the street. He spoke about being out and taking the heat for some folks who would prefer to ‘go stealth’.
We talked about some of the differences between FTM and MTF trans people. One of the differences highlighted was that it is often easier for FTM to appear physically credible as their new gender and so to blend in.
I asked about places where Melvin has experienced support or that his gender has not been an issue and he told me that when he converted to Judaism, his Rabbi was great. He said the congregation is brilliant and his hypnotherapy school has been great.
I asked about how people in the community could help and he spoke about not asking personal questions in public settings unless he is there to educate.
We spoke about the prohibitively high costs of transitioning.
We ended this discussion speaking about the therapy and screening necessary to make transitions safe and will cover this in more depth next week.
You can find Melvin at:
http://www.afterhourshypnotherapy.com
Facebook link
https://www.facebook.com/afterhourshypnotherapy/
twitter link
https://twitter.com/melsmarsh/
Other social media link
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTJhbqVCZtqEuwVx-azZJoA/
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Thanks for joining me for Sex Spoken Here with Dr Lori Beth Bisbey.
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