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Are We Sisters?
Episode 1 • 13th August 2024 • Those girls can talk! • Bec Stenner & Michelle Bailey
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In this first episode of Those Girls Can Talk, we share our journey from tech novices to podcasters, delve into personal anecdotes, and discuss the close bond that often leads to them being mistaken for sisters. They explore topics ranging from personal family secrets and DNA tests to the unique ways they decompress, including their fascination with TikTok.

In this episode:

  • Introduction
  • Are we sisters?
  • The mystery of biological parents
  • Navigating friendships
  • The challenges of making new friends
  • The bond of friendship through tough times
  • Navigating the loss of parents
  • Balancing care for elderly parents and young children
  • The mental load of parenting
  • Celebrating joys and facing hardships
  • The importance of honest friendships
  • TikTok obsessions and guilty pleasures
  • Listener Dilemmas
  • Best Buys

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Bec:

Welcome to episode one.

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We did it.

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michelle: Yay.

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Finally.

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Bec: Finally, let me tell you, we

have discovered that we are no podcast

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tech queens.

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michelle: No,

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Bec: We might be able to talk the

talk, but we can't do the tech.

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I

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michelle: text.

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Definitely not my strong suit.

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So we leave that one up to Beck and

she's figured it out and here we are.

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Bec: I fixed it.

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Do you know what?

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Sometimes I go, Oh my gosh, I'm so clever.

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Like, look at me.

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I'm amazing.

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And then other times it'll

be like the petrol station.

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Last night we were driving and I

said to Trav, did you put petrol?

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And he goes, what do you think

I just did 30 seconds ago?

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And I was like, Oh, Did you?

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And he's like, yes!

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I was just so engrossed in my phone, I

didn't even realize I got out of the car

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michelle: Get off your phone,

Rebecca, get off your phone.

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Bec: it's working.

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Thank you.

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Working.

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However!

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Welcome to episode one.

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michelle: And this is what you will get.

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Just the banter between two besties.

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Bec: Mm hmm.

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Because, you know, sometimes we

might jump from topic to topic

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because that's just what we're like.

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Anyway.

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michelle: stay sticking for

the ride and, um, jump with us.

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Bec: Here we go.

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Episode one.

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This is exciting.

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Are.

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We.

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Sisters!

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Sisters!

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Sisters!

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michelle: Something we

get asked quite often.

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Bec: All the time.

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Is it the hair?

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michelle: I think it's the hair.

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Yeah,

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Bec: Maybe the hair, maybe

because we've both got dark hair.

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However, we, if we're really honest, have,

we may have talked about this a few times.

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Haven't we?

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michelle: we have.

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Bec: I genuinely wondered, did

your dad and my mom have a little

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rendezvous some stage and we

are actually long lost sisters.

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Could it be?

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michelle: Would it be, I wonder

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Bec: So we were in the petrol

station the other day and the lady

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just said, are you two sisters?

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We just looked at each other

and laughed and went, no,

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but we get this all the time.

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But, okay, so here's a

little juicy story for you.

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I actually don't know

who my biological dad is.

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Well, I do.

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I know his name, but I wouldn't know him

if I bumped into him in the main street.

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So for the sake of spicy content, let's

pretend that I don't know his name.

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be, maybe it's a made up name, maybe.

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It's a made up name.

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michelle: maybe he, let's call him Greg.

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Bec: let's say Greg was his name that

I've been told, but maybe it's not Greg.

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Maybe it's your dad.

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Who knows?

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Maybe we are long lost sisters

and maybe we should do a DNA

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test to just double check.

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Stranger things have happened.

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michelle: Well, we are very

similar in very many ways.

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I feel so maybe, you

know, they might have met,

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Bec: So, okay, I'm going

to use some examples here.

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Like we've all heard those stories

where people all of a sudden

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realize that they are long lost

brothers and sisters or whatever.

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So say I went to a 50th birthday.

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These two people had been friends

for 15 years, um, and lived

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around the corner from each other.

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They found out they're cousins.

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michelle: my God.

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Imagine that I, on the TikTok, we

will talk about TikTok a lot on

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this, um, podcast because it's,

it's a favorite thing of ours.

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But I saw a story on TikTok where.

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a young girl and a young boy who

both were adopted, fell in love,

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had children, thought that they

would do the ancestry thing.

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Siblings.

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Bec: No way.

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michelle: Yeah.

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Bec: Imagine if Travi Trav was my brother.

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If Mike was your

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michelle: Travis, your brother,

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Bec: do?

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Would you stay together?

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I don't know.

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michelle: I don't know, these people on

TikTok did, they're open and in love.

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Bec: Ew.

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If, if I had to look at Travi Trav

and he was my brother, I think

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I'd be like, no, don't touch me.

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Blech.

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michelle: Anyway, whatever

floats your boat, you

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Bec: But I want to know, I want

to know, like, if you found out

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that your husband partner was your

sibling, would you stay with them?

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There's a poll we should put up on, in

our stories at one stage, maybe when

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this episode launches and people can

tell us, but should we do a DNA test?

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michelle: How do you think

Glenys would feel about that?

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Bec: You know what?

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Glenys would love to

have me as a daughter.

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I know it.

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She would be like, yes.

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And you like my siblings?

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Although they say you two

are definitely not sisters.

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Um,

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michelle: And my sister says the same.

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She does not see the resemblance, but

look at our, look at our branding images.

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I think we look similar.

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Bec: no.

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. Me too,

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michelle: we're morphing into one

another because we've become so close.

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Bec: maybe.

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But anyway, let's see.

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Oh, I'd love to do my, um.

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michelle: It would be interesting for you.

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Bec: Yeah.

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michelle: It would be interesting

for you because you don't know

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who your biological father is.

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I guess there's things that you would

like to know, like medical stuff.

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And, you know, I guess for you, you

know, like for me, I come from a family.

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I know, I know my background, I

know my heritage, but you don't.

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And I think that that's something that,

I guess, are they things that you sit

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there and go, I wonder whether, What

my grandmother was like, or, you know,

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do I have a certain nationality in me?

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Like, I guess they're all questions

that, you know, not knowing who, who

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your dad is, they're questions that

you would want to want to want to know,

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but they things that you went through

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Bec: Oh, absolutely.

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And so, um, this like, this

is the, this is where the

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podcast is going to get juicy.

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So like, I actually found out at 16.

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So, and then I had to if it was true.

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So, um, and then, so it was like

a little dirty family secret.

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All right.

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michelle: yeah, yeah,

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Bec: a long time, and I think maybe

now that I'm older and I kind of, I'm,

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I'm happy with who I am and like, I've

got a beautiful family of my own and I,

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my siblings, like, I just adore them.

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So do I wonder, like, if I do have other

brothers and sisters and things like that?

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Yes, but.

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I don't know, at this point of my life,

I'm kind of not interested in developing

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any more relationships, so to speak.

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Um, and like, I, I think I'm

just happy with my own now.

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When I was younger, absolutely.

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I think I thought about it a

lot more than what I do now.

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Um, cause who's got time

to think about much.

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Um, but yeah, absolutely.

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Absolutely.

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And you know, like, you know

how you have certain traits.

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Like how some things like,

do I look like my dad?

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Do I look like.

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Um, you know, do I have siblings who

look exactly like me or whatever?

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Cause if you look at my siblings and I,

we, we do look different from each other.

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Like I'm the only one with dark

hair, um, you know, like that.

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And I still remember saying once

when, cause you know, kids are

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cruel to each other sometimes.

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They used to say that we, I don't

know, we were doing something and

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they were like, you're adopted.

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And I went, I remember going to my

mom crying saying, am I adopted?

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And I think it's because I had dark hair

and they all had blonde hair, but yeah.

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Funny times, funny times, but yeah.

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michelle: Well, you know, if you decide to

go on that journey, I'd like to come with

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Bec: Yeah.

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Maybe stay tuned, everybody.

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michelle: because I certainly

am not adopted because I

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am the image of my mother,

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Bec: Hmm.

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michelle: but then I don't see

anything that I look like my dad.

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So maybe, no, I'm only joking.

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Bec: no, no, no.

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michelle: I definitely do have the.

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I can see both parents in myself.

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So, you know, you know, so it would

be interesting, but I guess that's

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something, you know, that you have

to decide, but you do have the

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most amazing family and, you know,

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Bec: Yeah.

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Anyway, stay tuned.

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Who knows?

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Mm

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michelle: Stay tuned for

Becky's, um, following up the

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Ancestry or for the podcast.

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Bec: oh for the potty

Do you know what though?

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People are often really surprised

to discover that we haven't been

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super duper besties for life.

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michelle: No, it's fresh.

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Bec: Yeah, that.

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michelle: Well, it's not so

fresh, like, it's five years.

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No, maybe nearly

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Bec: nearly six actually.

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Yeah.

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Yeah, probably nearly would be.

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Um, yeah, so really it was

before it was before COVID,

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michelle: Yeah, it was

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Bec: but then we kind of really

kind of got um, closer when

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we were down in our, um, in

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michelle: In lockdown,

sort of in COVID, yeah.

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was a really lovely, sorry Bec, it was a

really lovely progression of a friendship,

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you know, like sometimes you meet

people and it's, All in straight away.

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And it's intense and it's, you

know, you make this friend and

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it's, it wasn't like that for us.

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It was a very radial friendship.

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It was like, you know, it was because we

both own businesses and we, we even know

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like Beck's social media and I'm catering,

they kind of have met in the middle.

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So they've kind of gone from work things.

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And then as.

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Time went on.

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And then in particular, when we headed

into COVID, those COVID intensified

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everything in everybody's life.

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So then, you know, when things were

going wrong, you know, you would chat to

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someone, but you would chat to someone,

namely Beck for more than 20 minutes.

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Then, you know, our friendship just

developed and, and from work, it became

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to personal and we would talk about

things that were happening in our lives.

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I think it's been, for me, the most

loveliest of friendships, because

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friendships when you are older are

different to the friendships that

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you have when you're a teenager.

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Bec: Oh, I think it, you know, I think

we've spoken about this before, how

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we always say, and we both, this is

probably where we're very alike in

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some ways, um, that people are usually

for a reason or a season, you know,

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like people will come into your life.

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You will either learn something from

them or they'll be, they came in at

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a particular season of your life.

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Like say, you know, from, it

might be mother's group from

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when your kids are younger or.

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Friends through your kids schooling and,

um, or people you met, you know, when

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you worked at a particular place or so

on, like they come in different seasons.

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michelle: high school friend

or that primary school friend.

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I mean, I, I, I say I have, you know,

I can count my good friends on one hand

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and each one of my friends has come from

primary school, high school, met through

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the kids and created through adult life.

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Um, and that's, and they all feel

a different part, in my life,

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they feel particular moments.

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They're the seasons and that is

the, my fav, one of my favourite,

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favourite things is Friends for

a Reason, Friends for a Season.

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And when you read that poem,

it's, you read it and you go,

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Oh yes, it's so relatable.

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Like that person filled that,

that part for me in a time of

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my life when I needed them.

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And then they moved on and so forth.

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So, and I think that's when we've

been talking about doing the podcasts,

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a lot of people have said to me,

can you talk about the navigation,

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managing friendships and how.

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You know, like, because what I'm, what

I'm hearing is so many people are really

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struggling with how to fit their friends

in, you know, the intensity of new

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friendships, um, how the people that

are from the old part of their life deal

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with the new friends that are coming in.

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I mean, it doesn't matter whether

you're 15 or you're 50, it's

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still hard to, to talk about the

friendships and things like that.

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Because.

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Bec: On navigating

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michelle: or navigating them.

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It's, it, it doesn't matter.

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It doesn't matter the age.

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You still, we're still

navigating these friendships.

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We're still going through

these conversations that we

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might've had when we were 16.

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You know, the friendship part

is still really tricky, I find.

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Bec: Yeah.

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And we moved.

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So we moved down to Ocean Grove

nearly three years ago and breaking

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into a new community and making

new friends, it's been so hard.

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And look, sometimes I feel like I'm

awkward as fuck when it comes to people.

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Um,

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michelle: I don't find you awkward.

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Bec: yeah, but I feel like, you

know, I feel like it's been hard to

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break into a community of people.

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And so I've had to really stretch

myself out of my comfort zone

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michelle: Yeah.

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Bec: and do things that, you know,

I'm like, Oh, and, and it's hard when

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you're busy trying to fit in new things.

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Look, busy, maybe that's just an excuse.

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I don't know, but you know,

like even so here's an example.

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And I, I always say I hate doing things

on my own, but you know what, then I'm

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actually totally fine once I'm there.

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It's talking myself to get to it.

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So say for example, and we're going

to have beautiful ash on our, um,

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podcast from the sunrise hunters.

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So it's an early morning swim group.

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And the people there are just

next level kind and beautiful.

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And anyway, I was like,

Oh, I don't want to go.

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They're probably going to be

super clicky and it'll be awkward.

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And, you know, and I kept, you know,

messaging, um, one of the moms from

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school and I said, um, Oh, I want to come.

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And she encouraged me to come.

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Anyway, I said to Trav, you have to

come with me because guys do it too.

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And he's like, Oh, yeah.

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Ugh, really?

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Can't you just go on your own?

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I'm like, no, I need you there

as like a security blanket.

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And of course he came, cause that's what

Travi Trav does and you know, I just,

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and I was totally fine once I got there.

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I knew people, I spoke to people,

poor Trav was probably standing on

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his own, you know, but it was fine.

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Once I was there, I was fine.

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And I think, you know, we see

this when you go to networking

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events or anything like that.

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It's getting there.

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That is the hardest part.

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michelle: I think, I think a hundred

percent, like, I used to be such a.

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Outward confident kid.

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I was loud.

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I was obnoxious.

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As I got older, I became more reserved.

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I hate networking.

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It palpitates me.

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I'd much rather be home.

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So I will make any, I am,

ask any of my friends, I will

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cancel at the drop of a hat.

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Because I just don't

like putting myself out.

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Once I'm there, I'm all right.

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But then I'm like, I want to go home.

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I'm done.

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I'm done.

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Bec: Yeah.

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You get to a point, don't you?

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You always do that.

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You're like, okay, my, my cup is done.

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I've got to leave.

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michelle: Yeah, I just, and I

just don't, I just don't like it.

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Like it just makes me uncomfortable.

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And I just, um, yeah, networking, being

in places that I don't want to be.

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It's hard,

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Bec: Yeah.

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But then look at all the

beautiful people we meet when we

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michelle: but, and that, and

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Bec: put ourselves out

of our comfort zones.

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And, you know, like now I've, I feel

so lucky to have met so many beautiful

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people in Ocean Grove and I look at my

life and I think, Oh my gosh, again, you

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know, look at the people that have come

in to my world from different paths,

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different seasons, different reasons,

and how lucky I am to have those people.

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Like.

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And a vast, , variety of friends, so, you

know, there's people that I could say,

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Hey, do you want to go and grab a wine?

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Or there's people that I could ring

and have a cry or there's, you know,

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people like you, like the besties that

we are, you know, have a little mentee

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be that only a bestie can understand.

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Um, so yeah, I think, you know,

that, yeah, that's just one of the

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things people have always said.

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Oh, wow.

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You two are like.

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Here we go.

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The sisters thing again.

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Um, oh, you two are like

sisters or, you know, you two.

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Uh, I would think that you've

been best friends since you're in

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kindergarten or something, because

you're so close and you're so

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michelle: I think our friendship has

navigated some really tough times, um,

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not in our friendship, but we've both

gone through some difficult parts in our

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life where, you know, you just kind of,

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Bec: bonding.

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michelle: yeah, like when my brother

passed, it was a traumatic death and,

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um, You know, I'd run you in the morning.

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You're like, Oh, the queen died.

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And I'm like, yeah, my brother died.

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And it was like, and you were like,

instantly you just flipped into right.

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What can I do?

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How can I help you?

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And even though you think that those

things weren't significant for me,

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they were like, what got me through?

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And, and it's just those little things

that that's where the friendship glue,

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it sticks a little bit more because.

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You rely on that person, right?

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You're feeling like shit.

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You're grieving.

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Grieving is just, grieving

a sibling or a parent.

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Grieving a parent and grieving

a sibling, and I've done both.

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Bec: Mm

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michelle: It's fucking hard, and

it's two differently, two different,

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completely different types of grieving.

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Bec: mm And grief.

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Grief is just, grief is alone.

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Like grief and a topic all on its

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michelle: yeah,

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Bec: A whole different ball game to

any other emotion possible because it

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intertwines with every part of your being.

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michelle: Mm.

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Mm.

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I think I, I think, I reckon I cried.

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Every day, like, for a good, I think I

haven't really cried maybe in the last

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couple of months, certain things you

see or certain things you think trigger

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you and then they're constantly on

your mind all the time, all the time.

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And it's, and grieving is hard,

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Bec: Yeah.

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michelle: and it's, um, you know,

and I think I'm sort of going off

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topic here, but I was talking to

someone yesterday and she had just

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lost her mum and she lost her dad.

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And she said, know what

to do with myself anymore.

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And I think we're at that stage in our

life where we're losing our parents.

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You know, we're, we're at that stage

where, where we're, we're dealing,

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you know, we're, I'm 50, you know,

my, my, our parents are all probably

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sitting in that 70 to 80 age group,

you know, and now as adults we're

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dealing with with our parents,

you know, that we're dealing with.

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They're getting older that we know

we're taking them for appointments

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because their health is failing.

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You know, some of our parents

are dying and this is just the

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phase that we're going through

now that life for us is changing.

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Bec: And.

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michelle: young.

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Bec: Yeah.

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And I was reading something the other

day that said, we are one of the, I

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think we're the first generation of

people to have, because people are

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having children later as well, um, that

we have, um, elderly parents to care

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for and young children to care for.

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And look, you know, and we are both.

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Um, the kind of, we're fairly

involved in our children's lives.

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michelle: Just a little bit,

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Bec: Um, they would say over involved,

I would imagine, our older children.

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michelle: probably.

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Bec: Um,

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michelle: I think they secretly like it.

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Like if they didn't like it, why

do they want to hang out with us?

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We don't force them to hang out with us.

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, Bec: but yeah, so, you know, it's a

really different time for people of

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You know, who are going through that.

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So I feel like the mental load, and

I think we're going to talk about the

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mental load in another episode, but

the mental load is very different.

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Very different.

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So, yeah.

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But yeah, so

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that's kind of how, you know, like

those things that have happened,

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like we've had the most joyous

of joy to share with each other.

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Like, you know, my beautiful little

Maxie coming into the world, you

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know, Liam and Alicia getting engaged.

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Like

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michelle: I'm going to

be a mother of the groom.

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Bec: Yeah.

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So we've had some beautiful, exciting

things that we've got to share

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with each other, but we've also

had some really hard times that

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we've got to share with each other.

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And I think those things, um, and the

beautiful thing about our friendship,

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I think is that we can very easily call

each other out and not be offended.

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Like, you know, like if I'm in a

mood, you'll be like, well, you

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are in a mood today, aren't you?

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Or, you know, or if one of us is

like, we're is, and I mean, who would

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think that we would be overdramatic?

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I don't know who would think that,

however, but if one of us is maybe

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being a little bit overdramatic or,

you know, leaning into something

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a bit too much, we can easily pull

each other up and not be offended,

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michelle: because I do have a tendency to

dwell on the same thing for a long time.

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Bec: or

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michelle: Like, I can't let it go.

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And Bex's like, let it go.

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And I'm like, well, and then

I'll have another reason why I

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will continue to bitch about the

same thing over and over again.

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Bec: she does,

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michelle: And I know, but I'm

aware of it, but I can't stop.

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Bec: but that's where we're very good.

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So, you know, I think you need

to have those friendships that

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necessarily aren't going to just be

there for the good, but also there

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for the bad, but also can be quite.

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Real, like it's not just, surface level,

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michelle: No.

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Bec: you know, it's actually, you know,

you're able to say, hang on a second,

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you need to check yourself here, or,

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michelle: And definitely, and definitely

we've had, you know, those conversations.

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Never, and it's just like, it's

not like, Oh, she's a bitch.

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I'm not going to fucking

speak to her anymore.

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No, no, it's like, yeah, okay, got it.

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And I think, and I think one of the

things that I kind of think is really

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important as a person is that if

you're wrong, just say, yep, I get

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it and own it then you can move on.

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Bec: oh my gosh, you know what?

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I actually, like, I've got to

call my, it's being self aware.

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That's that's self awareness is such

a skill, and I think it's one of those

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things you learn as you get older, you

become more self aware, you've got to

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work on it, um, and having that self

awareness to be able to say, have that

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bit of insight and go, well, actually,

I am being a little bit dramatic.

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I need to pull myself in.

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michelle: Yeah.

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Bec: So, you know, I

think that's important.

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Um,

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michelle: according to Becky.

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Bec: yeah, but anyway.

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We're kind of getting on in episode

one, let's share, okay, people want to

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know more about us and we are going to

have a little bit of insight into how

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we wind down at the end of the day,

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michelle: Okay.

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You ready?

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Bec: what do we say it's, I

wouldn't say it's an , obsession,

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michelle: it's a dirty, it's

our dirty little secret, which

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we are going to share with

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Bec: Yes.

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And feel free to DM us for the

accounts after we share this.

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So you too can join us on Tiki Tok.

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michelle: Tiki top is my.

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, I have a routine.

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I finish up doing what I need to do and

then I sit there and I scroll aimlessly.

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And I discovered the girls of TikTok,

the spicy workers and the strippers

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Bec: They count their cash.

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michelle: count the

cash, ching ching ching.

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And I love it.

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So there's two in

particular I like to watch.

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And, um, one is a stripper

and one is a spicy worker,

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Bec: Can I just say something?

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I love that the spicy worker has

had to go and get a money counter.

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michelle: yeah, you know why,

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Bec: They make thousands and we're not

talking just like a couple of grand.

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We're talking 15, 000.

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You can

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michelle: and you can imagine, right?

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What they're doing to

make that kind of money.

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And they've got to, they're putting

their, their hungies in the, money

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counter because their little long

fingered nails, their paws can't keep

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up with the counting of the hungies.

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Because she's making a lot of

money, a lot of money, for four

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minutes worth of work, she said.

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She made 10, 000 for four minutes work.

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I'll leave it to your imagination

what she did to make that money.

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:

But let's just say it didn't take long.

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Bec: No,

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michelle: Mmm.

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Bec: not bad for four minutes work.

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But how do they do up their

buttons with their finger

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michelle: How do they wipe their bums?

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Bec: nails or undo their buttons?

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Makeup?

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How do they put the makeup on?

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I don't know.

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Anyway, that intrigues me.

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But

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michelle: what I've discovered,

Bec, is they have to use

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the pads of their fingers.

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Mm hmm.

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Their little pads, because, and they

have to push their fingers back.

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Bec: And you know what?

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I can't stand the sound of ready.

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I hate the sound of nails

on things like it actually.

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:

Oh.

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I

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michelle: Isn't that ASMR?

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Bec: Yeah.

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But I don't like, I don't

like the sound of it nails.

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I've got to have my nails really

short for this, for the fact

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that I can't stand the sound

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michelle: Do you know what?

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I can't have long nails or I can't type.

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I make spelling mistakes.

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Shut up, Rebecca.

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:

Bec: or,

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michelle: Oh, here's another thing, guys!

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Apparently, I can't spell and my

grammar is a terrible and it's given

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me such a self conscious thing and

I have to get Beck to, Beck and

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my sister to, to check everything.

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So if you see spelling mistakes

on my, any of my socials, it's

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because I haven't run it through.

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Um.

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My grandma lady.

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Bec: um, and I will regularly send a

screenshot with a circle around it.

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Change this, change it, change it.

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michelle: So on TikTok, there's

another thing that's been

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popping up and it's called, this

girl's called Jellybean Sweets.

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And what she does is she eats food, right?

563

:

But she eats

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Bec: eating food.

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:

michelle: No, no, no.

566

:

of a big burrito, right?

567

:

Like the size of your arm.

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She's like, she's

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:

Bec: is it like that one that puts like

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michelle: And then they put like

all the sauce and yeah, they,

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:

they dip all this sauce on it.

572

:

Sometimes she drinks the sauce, right?

573

:

Anyway.

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And they make all these sounds like

when they're eating, like slurping,

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I think it's called muck bang or

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:

Bec: I have heard about that.

577

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Yeah, that's

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michelle: disgusting.

579

:

Right.

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:

But this girl started off

as this tiny little girl.

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And now, because she's muck banging.

582

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Bec: Um,

583

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michelle: She's put on

a lot of weights, right?

584

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Bec: um, eating all that food.

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michelle: eating all that food.

586

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And sometimes they say she

does like 11 mukbangs a day.

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:

Bec: Oh,

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michelle: Follow it.

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It's, it's like, it's, it's a lot like the

other day I saw her eating and she drinks.

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So what she'll get the drink

and she'll like skull, skull,

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:

skull, skull, this drink.

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:

And then she'll eat this big burrito.

593

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And it has a dripping down her face

and it's disgusting, but I keep

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:

watching and then I search for more.

595

:

And that is what happens in Michelle's.

596

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It's going down the

rabbit hole of Tik Tok.

597

:

Bec: know.

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And Trav always says,

what are you watching?

599

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And I'm

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michelle: cause he'd probably watch

something like running or something,

601

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Bec: he, he's, he's, he's obsessed

like with listening to running

602

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podcasts and things like that.

603

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So that's his downtime.

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And mine is watching

strippers count their money.

605

:

And he's like, what do you get from that?

606

:

And I'm like, I don't know.

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It's just like, it's a way of

decompressing after a busy day.

608

:

Could I find better ways to decompress?

609

:

Absolutely.

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Could I do some meditation?

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:

Maybe.

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Could I do, but maybe that

is, maybe it's, Um, tick

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michelle: Do you count

the money when they count?

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:

Bec: and they count it wrong.

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michelle: And sometimes she

counts it wrong and I'm like,

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love, you just missed a hungie.

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But don't even think they would

realize they've missed it because

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they've made so much money that week.

619

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And this is only one patient, one client.

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:

One patient.

621

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That's a nurse coming out in us.

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:

Bec: Um, but how it's just,

you know, anyway, that's how

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we decompress after a busy day.

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:

What about you?

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:

Or are you normal?

626

:

michelle: They're probably a normal bit.

627

:

I feel like people are sitting here

going, yeah, yeah, they're relating to us

628

:

because so many people love the Tiki Tok.

629

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Bec: You know, or maybe they're not,

maybe they're the people who are going to,

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michelle: Maybe they've just switched off.

631

:

Bec: they've gone, can't

listen to these two anymore.

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:

Um, maybe they're the people who are

out, um, doing the run, they're doing

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a run to decompress after a busy day

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:

michelle: Yeah.

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:

Not

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Bec: you know, at yoga or something.

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:

Not us.

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:

No.

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:

Anyway.

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:

michelle: Oh my God,

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:

Bec: Now, next we want to talk

about, we are going to have two

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regular segments on our podcast.

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:

One of them will be, send us your daily

dilemmas, like, um, like a, um, Like a

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:

dolly doctor thing, but we're not doctors.

645

:

Um, send us your, problems, send

us your questions, whatever it is.

646

:

If you've got a dilemma in your

life and you want it solved, where

647

:

you go to think of us as like your

auntie Becky and auntie Michelle.

648

:

We are there to help.

649

:

Maybe you've got to, you've got

to confront your bestie about

650

:

something, or maybe your next door

neighbor is having affair with their.

651

:

The other people down the

road, how do you confront them?

652

:

You send it to us and we'll tell,

we'll, we'll, we'll help you solve it.

653

:

We'll get to the bottom of

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:

michelle: we'll sort,

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:

Bec: thing we're going to

talk about is our best buys.

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:

michelle: I'm so excited

about the best buys.

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:

Bec: Because we love a little shoppy shop.

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:

You just ask Mike and Travi Trav.

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michelle: are good shoppers.

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But something that has gone a little

bit Bianca's on my personal, my business

661

:

page is my favorite thing at the moment.

662

:

Anybody that knows, I love to wash.

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:

I love to do the washing.

664

:

And when I was in Italy, I discovered

something, didn't I, Rebecca?

665

:

Bec: is good.

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:

Although you still haven't

brought me any over.

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I'm a bit disappointed about that.

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:

michelle: Look, I just

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Bec: You're not a best friend are you?

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:

michelle: not a very good breast brand if

I haven't bought that over, but what we

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want to talk about is Michelle's Best Buy.

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And when I was in Italy,

I went away for a month.

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Um, what I discovered when we were

walking the streets, because in Italy,

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they don't use dryers, not like us here

because every day is a good washing day.

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And when we were in the North, more in

particular in the North, when we were

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walking through the beautiful streets

of Venice and, you know, Cortona, I

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could smell this beautiful fragrance

and I became obsessed by finding

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what fabric softener they were using.

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Bec: And I became obsessed for you

because it was no cuddly, no, no, no.

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michelle: No, no, it was not.

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So I walked into every deli, every

shopping mart, and I found it.

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Bec: Now,

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michelle: I came home, I also went

on the hunt and people were on

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the hunt with me and we found it.

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:

Bec: where, where did you find it?

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michelle: I found it at a few different

places, but the best place to get it is at

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La Mana because that is like your Italian

688

:

Bec: Who doesn't love La Mana is what I

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michelle: is like, is, is

like going into Costco.

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It's like a trap and

you come out with stuff.

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Yeah.

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So I found the laundry detergent.

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It smells amazing and

it's called Felice Azura,

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:

Bec: All right.

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:

michelle: but of course I don't pronounce

it properly because I can hardly speak

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Italian, let alone, I can't speak

English and I can definitely not speak

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:

Bec: How did you survive

a whole month in Italy?

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:

michelle: I pointed a lot.

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:

Bec: All right.

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:

So, now.

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:

Michelle, your cousin lives

over there, doesn't he?

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michelle: Yes.

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So my family still live, um,

just in Bergamo, but just

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a little bit out of Milan.

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And my cousin Mirko has kindly given

us the correct pronunciation of

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:

Bec: We love Mikko.

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michelle: He is just divine.

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:

And can I just tell you any, every

Italian, but my family in particular dress

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immaculately smell beautiful as well,

because they use this fabric softener.

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:

Yes.

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:

Betchy Azura.

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:

Bec: Felce Azura.

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:

How are you saying it, mate?

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michelle: an Aussie.

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:

Bec: So if you, heading to

Lamana, again, Michelle,

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Felce Azura.

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michelle: how sexy.

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:

I mean, he's my cousin, so let's

not go back to that, but how, Good.

719

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Does his voice sound

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Bec: Amazing.

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Felce Azura and Lamana.

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:

michelle: Falce azzurra.

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:

Bec: Right.

724

:

Okay.

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:

But it's definitely worth.

726

:

Investing

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:

michelle: Yeah.

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:

It's thick.

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:

Now, I'm just going to

give a little washing tip.

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:

Don't put it in the dryer because it

loses its, it, it, it loses its fragrance.

731

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You've got to air dry it,

air dry like the Italians.

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:

Bec: Mm hmm.

733

:

Well, we're coming up to spring.

734

:

Spring is in the air, so.

735

:

michelle: like, yeah, I feel

like it's, we're almost there.

736

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The flowers will be blooming and

you can put your washing outside.

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:

Bec: Well, there you go.

738

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That's episode one done and dusted.

739

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We've covered quite a lot.

740

:

We've covered a lot today.

741

:

michelle: We've kind of

gone a little bit rogue,

742

:

Bec: but that's all

743

:

michelle: not, we did not stick

to plan, but do you know what?

744

:

Bec: We don't, I don't think we ever do.

745

:

Do we?

746

:

michelle: I've been saying to Bec

this whole time, have we got a plan?

747

:

Have we got a plan?

748

:

I don't think we spoke about

anything we had on the plan today.

749

:

Bec: No, we didn't, but that's life

and never goes according to plan.

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:

michelle: That's right.

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:

Bec: Yeah.

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:

So tune in to episode two.

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:

Anyway, if you've loved this

episode, or maybe you're like

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:

girls, you need to talk about this.

755

:

Send us a DM on socials at those girls can

talk because that's where you'll find us.

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And we

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michelle: going to be your new best.

758

:

We do.

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And we're going to be

your new best friends.

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So ask us anything.

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:

We're up for the chat.

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:

Bec: Was it perfect?

763

:

Absolutely not.

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But did we do it?

765

:

Yes, we did.

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So well done to us.

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:

High five, Michelle through

zoom and, see you next time.

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michelle: Ciao, ciao.

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