Some connections go beyond time and space. A childhood friend, a whispered prayer, a moment of gratitude—these simple practices can shape our health and how we experience our 1,000 waking minutes.
In this episode of 1,000 Waking Minutes, Dr. Wendy Bazilian explores the power of connection—not only with people, but with something greater than ourselves. From friendships that shape who we are, to the practices of prayer, meditation, gratitude, and belonging, Wendy unpacks how these experiences affect our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
Drawing on science from the Blue Zones, the Nurses’ Health Study, and new research on meditation and prayer, we discover surprising health benefits: from improved mood and reduced anxiety to lower blood pressure, stronger immunity, and even greater longevity. Alongside studies, Wendy shares stories of friendship, family traditions, poetry, and the rituals that help us feel grounded in a bigger universe.
This episode also includes a guided Mindful Minute and practical ways to invite connection into daily life. Whether you identify as religious, spiritual, or simply reflective, you’ll find inspiration to pause, breathe, and honor what connects us all.
CHAPTERS:
(0:00) Introduction and reflections on friendships that shape us
(3:49) What it means to “connect with the universe”—beyond religion or doctrine
(5:28) Elie Wiesel’s wisdom: “If the only prayer you say in your life is thank you, that will be enough.”
(7:55) Science and health benefits of connection: gratitude, prayer, and belonging
(10:29) Longevity lessons from the Blue Zones
(12:30) The Nurses’ Health Study and depression risk
(13:36) Research on spiritual intervention and anxiety and depressive symptoms
(14:40) Study on mindfulness-based interventions and cancer symptoms and coping
(16:15) A study on meditation, prayer, and cognitive clarity
(18:28) The Mindful Minute: a pause for presence and gratitude
(21:08)) Personal story: John Neihardt’s poem The Child’s Prayer
(24:23) Practical ways to connect—belonging, meditation, transitions, affirmations, rituals, and honoring loved ones
(31:02) Closing thoughts on connection, gratitude, and living our 1,000 waking minutes
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Lately I've been reflecting on
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Speaker:I'm Dr. Wendy Bazilian, and
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Speaker:This episode is about connection
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Speaker:That is a type of
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Speaker:I like to call it
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Speaker:Let's be in the moment.
Speaker:So we always start by
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Speaker:Let your hands rest gently.
Speaker:They can rest on your
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Speaker:Let's do a preparatory breath
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Speaker:Allow your shoulders to drop.
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Speaker:Thank you.
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Speaker:Notice your surroundings just by
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Speaker:Fix anything right now.
Speaker:Just breathe and be here.
Speaker:One more inhale, be well.
Speaker:There we are.
Speaker:Sometimes that's all it takes,
Speaker:a breath, a pause, perhaps
Speaker:a quiet thank you.
Speaker:Thank you for sharing that
Speaker:Mindful Minute with me today.
Speaker:So when I was little,
Speaker:I met the poet John
Speaker:Neihardt.
Speaker:He was the author of
Speaker:Black Elk Speaks, a Native
Speaker:American, early American author.
Speaker:And he studied and wrote
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Speaker:And he studied and wrote
Speaker:poetry in the tradition of
Speaker:the Sioux tribe that he
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Speaker:And he gave me one
Speaker:of his books.
Speaker:I was very young at
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Speaker:And inside the book, and
Speaker:he signed it to me,
Speaker:and I still have that
Speaker:book.
Speaker:And he signed it to
Speaker:me, to my name with
Speaker:his name on it.
Speaker:And inside the book was
Speaker:a little piece of paper
Speaker:with a hand-typed poem.
Speaker:So separate from the book,
Speaker:it was tucked in.
Speaker:It was a little slip.
Speaker:And it was in the
Speaker:first few pages.
Speaker:And the poem is called
Speaker:The Child's Prayer.
Speaker:My parents turned it into
Speaker:a sort of like decoupage
Speaker:plaque also, that was something
Speaker:that I put on my
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Speaker:And I would sort of
Speaker:quietly read it, probably almost
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Speaker:it, you don't notice it
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Speaker:But I always loved it,
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Speaker:and I was young, under
Speaker:five, I was told it
Speaker:had been written just for
Speaker:me.
Speaker:I believed it.
Speaker:Part of me still does
Speaker:believe it.
Speaker:I've never found it anywhere
Speaker:else.
Speaker:I believe it was written
Speaker:for me.
Speaker:And sometimes it's the belief,
Speaker:but it's really for all
Speaker:of us.
Speaker:So before we turn today's
Speaker:topic into a little bit
Speaker:of practice, I thought I
Speaker:would share that poem with
Speaker:you and see if it
Speaker:connects with you.
Speaker:I think it was great,
Speaker:great for children.
Speaker:I think it is great
Speaker:for children, and all of
Speaker:us, including the big kids
Speaker:too.
Speaker:So here it is.
Speaker:The Child's Prayer by John
Speaker:G.
Speaker:Neihardt.
Speaker:"Great spirit, you are everywhere.
Speaker:You made the lovely earth
Speaker:and air.
Speaker:You made the creek that
Speaker:runs and sings, and everything
Speaker:with legs or wings.
Speaker:You made each blade of
Speaker:grass and tree, and all
Speaker:the little kids like me.
Speaker:So good is everything you
Speaker:made, that we should never
Speaker:be afraid.
Speaker:Great spirit, teach us what
Speaker:to do, so I can
Speaker:be as good as you."
Speaker:Great spirit, this was.
Speaker:I love that.
Speaker:The Child's Prayer.
Speaker:Thank you for sharing that
Speaker:with me and indulging me
Speaker:in that.
Speaker:I hope that that connects
Speaker:with you.
Speaker:That poem still grounds me.
Speaker:And whatever your beliefs, I
Speaker:think, I hope, we can
Speaker:agree that our world is
Speaker:at its core good.
Speaker:And that sort of reminds
Speaker:me of that.
Speaker:We are lucky to have
Speaker:the opportunity to be here
Speaker:and live here.
Speaker:And I hope you enjoyed
Speaker:hearing that much, that poem,
Speaker:that beautiful poem, as much
Speaker:as I do, and as
Speaker:a reminder of just that
Speaker:fact.
Speaker:So if any part of
Speaker:this speaks to you today,
Speaker:connecting to the universe, spiritually,
Speaker:through prayer, through religion, through
Speaker:hope, through silent moments or
Speaker:gratitude, I wanted to provide
Speaker:a few simple ways to
Speaker:bring it into our 1.000
Speaker:Waking Minutes, or maybe reminders
Speaker:of ways that you're already
Speaker:doing that.
Speaker:So first, belong.
Speaker:Remember when I talked about
Speaker:the Blue Zones?
Speaker:Belong.
Speaker:We saw from the Blue
Speaker:Zones, we see from the
Speaker:landmark Nurses Health Study, women
Speaker:who attended faith-based services
Speaker:four times a month significantly
Speaker:extended their lives.
Speaker:The value is in the
Speaker:regularity and the meaning of
Speaker:weekly or even periodic services,
Speaker:connection.
Speaker:And it's a terrific way
Speaker:to practice.
Speaker:Maybe it's been a while,
Speaker:but maybe you make an
Speaker:effort to start again.
Speaker:You can go and do
Speaker:and participate.
Speaker:And if you don't connect
Speaker:with a religion per se,
Speaker:there are lots of ways
Speaker:to connect with like-minded
Speaker:others, like study groups and
Speaker:book clubs and social groups,
Speaker:other special interest groups.
Speaker:Some may argue that one
Speaker:is more valid than another.
Speaker:I say they're all valid.
Speaker:Some way of belonging and
Speaker:connection.
Speaker:That's what I think the
Speaker:message is today.
Speaker:It might be a choir,
Speaker:community service.
Speaker:There's lots of examples that
Speaker:we could tap.
Speaker:Second, maybe try meditation.
Speaker:Meditation can take many forms
Speaker:and it can be an
Speaker:effective way to gain introspection,
Speaker:to help balance your nervous
Speaker:system.
Speaker:And it can be something
Speaker:that you can practice regardless
Speaker:of any religious persuasion or
Speaker:feeling about spirituality.
Speaker:Overall mindfulness can increase awareness
Speaker:of ourselves and the world
Speaker:around us.
Speaker:And of course, some of
Speaker:the mysteries of the universe.
Speaker:Another more practical, tactical way
Speaker:to connect is maybe in
Speaker:how you use your time.
Speaker:So using transitions during your
Speaker:day as moments to pause,
Speaker:maybe taking a Mindful Minute.
Speaker:So it might be between
Speaker:a meeting, one meeting and
Speaker:the next.
Speaker:Or it might be when
Speaker:you're washing your hands.
Speaker:My daughter has a song
Speaker:that she sings while washing
Speaker:your hands.
Speaker:Maybe there's a poem or
Speaker:a thought or a gratitude
Speaker:that you practice.
Speaker:Maybe I'll try that.
Speaker:I think that might be
Speaker:my next thing to try
Speaker:in a transition for myself.
Speaker:Maybe before sending some emails,
Speaker:you take a pause, you
Speaker:take a moment, you say
Speaker:a prayer even.
Speaker:Using the time and those
Speaker:transitions in that way.
Speaker:Another way is maybe borrowing
Speaker:or utilizing a prayer from
Speaker:somewhere that connects with you,
Speaker:or you can even make
Speaker:one up.
Speaker:You can pray, you can
Speaker:recite mantras.
Speaker:The act of prayer doesn't
Speaker:work.
Speaker:And I put that in
Speaker:quotes for everyone.
Speaker:But most of us can
Speaker:benefit from thinking or saying
Speaker:positive words, certain sounds, certain
Speaker:phrases, affirmations, which you may
Speaker:have heard about affirmations, and
Speaker:it may even evoke memories
Speaker:of some funny skits on
Speaker:SNL.
Speaker:The affirmations, they actually have
Speaker:been shown to really help.
Speaker:Positive affirmations, a few words
Speaker:of reflection, a few words
Speaker:of gratitude, have solid psychological
Speaker:and spiritual power and benefit.
Speaker:Each new year, I sort
Speaker:of set an intention.
Speaker:Each year, sometimes I try
Speaker:to capture it in like
Speaker:an affirmation or a single
Speaker:word, or something that I
Speaker:try to bring to the
Speaker:forefront.
Speaker:It may be something that's
Speaker:there, but I just want
Speaker:to bring a little more
Speaker:attention to it.
Speaker:So that becomes a way
Speaker:that I personally bring like
Speaker:an affirmation or an intention
Speaker:to mind and sort of
Speaker:use it in this way.
Speaker:We can create small rituals,
Speaker:like taking a breath before
Speaker:a meal, maybe saying a
Speaker:prayer.
Speaker:We used to call it
Speaker:grace.
Speaker:Some people still do.
Speaker:A moment of silence, or
Speaker:a quiet thought before sleep.
Speaker:Maybe you have a mealtime
Speaker:prayer, or something poetic that
Speaker:you'd like to share.
Speaker:We have a few of
Speaker:those, one that we use
Speaker:sometimes that some dear friends
Speaker:of ours, Nancy and Tom,
Speaker:taught us, which is a
Speaker:simple sort of mealtime prayer
Speaker:that gives thanks, and that
Speaker:also brings us fond memories
Speaker:along with when we share
Speaker:it.
Speaker:So thinking about creating a
Speaker:small ritual at mealtime, or
Speaker:maybe it's before bed, doing
Speaker:a gratitude journal could be
Speaker:a way to invoke this
Speaker:connection, or saying prayers before
Speaker:bed, or giving hope for
Speaker:someone's health and healing, including
Speaker:your own.
Speaker:In the spirit of that
Speaker:also, another thing you can
Speaker:do is honor those that
Speaker:helped shape you.
Speaker:So carrying on a memory,
Speaker:not just in thought, but
Speaker:in some kinds of practice.
Speaker:I always think of the
Speaker:Dia de los Muertos each
Speaker:year, the Day of the
Speaker:Dead, the celebration that has
Speaker:such deep ritual and meaning
Speaker:about honoring those who've come
Speaker:before us with offerings, ofrendas,
Speaker:and all the traditions that
Speaker:go with it, and such
Speaker:a very clear ritual that
Speaker:is grounded in spirit and
Speaker:happiness.
Speaker:It's always so fascinating.
Speaker:So maybe there's grand practices,
Speaker:and meaningful, impactful practices and
Speaker:rituals, but maybe it's something
Speaker:small, like carrying out an
Speaker:activity in honor of someone,
Speaker:or saying a small prayer
Speaker:that reminds you of them,
Speaker:or just saying their name
Speaker:aloud.
Speaker:There are so many ways
Speaker:to honor our loved ones,
Speaker:our mentors, our family, our
Speaker:friends.
Speaker:And you can also let
Speaker:silence be like a prayer
Speaker:too.
Speaker:Sometimes you don't really have
Speaker:to speak it to feel
Speaker:it, and it can be
Speaker:internal and personal.
Speaker:So I have a number
Speaker:of others that I've collected
Speaker:over time that I've heard
Speaker:from you, from individuals I've
Speaker:been around who have shared
Speaker:with me, from volunteering to
Speaker:choosing to read positive media
Speaker:on purpose, to going to
Speaker:mindfulness retreats, or Zen Buddhist
Speaker:retreats even.
Speaker:But I'm going to stop
Speaker:here for today on that.
Speaker:I hope that those give
Speaker:you a few little practices,
Speaker:and maybe you have some
Speaker:that you can share with
Speaker:me that you have done,
Speaker:and to bring attention to
Speaker:them again, knowing that there's
Speaker:such a beneficial part to
Speaker:our overall health, because we
Speaker:can just choose one, and
Speaker:let's be real with it,
Speaker:and let's connect in that
Speaker:way.
Speaker:So maybe today, I hope
Speaker:you'll find one minute, just
Speaker:one to be still.
Speaker:Maybe offer a small prayer,
Speaker:or a thank you, or
Speaker:a moment of remembering, maybe
Speaker:a way that you can
Speaker:feel more connected to yourself,
Speaker:to someone else.
Speaker:It might be someone who's
Speaker:near, it might be someone
Speaker:who's far, both in time
Speaker:and space, and to something
Speaker:greater, you know, connecting to
Speaker:the universe.
Speaker:So I'm so thankful for
Speaker:your time to listen today,
Speaker:and to connect in this
Speaker:way.
Speaker:Lately, I've been thinking, as
Speaker:I mentioned, more about all
Speaker:of this, that connection, and
Speaker:meaning, and the ways that
Speaker:we take pause.
Speaker:And honestly, it came from,
Speaker:I was sparked from really
Speaker:thinking deeply about a friend
Speaker:from a long time ago,
Speaker:that I'm so grateful to
Speaker:have had in my life
Speaker:for so many years, despite
Speaker:the time that had passed
Speaker:since I saw him.
Speaker:And I will think of
Speaker:him when I think of
Speaker:this episode of today, and
Speaker:on a continued basis.
Speaker:We hadn't been in touch
Speaker:for a long time, which
Speaker:was something that pained me,
Speaker:but now I sort of
Speaker:see the beauty in that
Speaker:connection.
Speaker:And I'm so happy to
Speaker:have been able to share
Speaker:it a little bit with
Speaker:you today.
Speaker:So even across time, in
Speaker:our spirit, we can be
Speaker:spiritual.
Speaker:Maybe you'll embrace that term
Speaker:a little bit more, maybe
Speaker:not, that's okay.
Speaker:But renew some of those
Speaker:things that connect to you.
Speaker:Because I do think that
Speaker:we connect to something bigger.
Speaker:We have to.
Speaker:You know, it's airwaves, or
Speaker:sound waves, or humanness, something.
Speaker:There's some kind of waves
Speaker:that connect us.
Speaker:So maybe this conversation today
Speaker:can spark a little bit
Speaker:and be part of that
Speaker:too.
Speaker:If this episode felt useful
Speaker:to you, or thought-provoking
Speaker:even, I'd be glad if
Speaker:you shared it with someone
Speaker:else who might enjoy it.
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Speaker:-inspired toward a well-lived
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Speaker:You can always find the
Speaker:study references in the show
Speaker:notes, or write me, either
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