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41 - Beyond Ourselves: The Surprising Science of Spiritual Connection and Health
Episode 4410th September 2025 • 1,000 Waking Minutes • Wendy Bazilian
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Some connections go beyond time and space. A childhood friend, a whispered prayer, a moment of gratitude—these simple practices can shape our health and how we experience our 1,000 waking minutes.

In this episode of 1,000 Waking Minutes, Dr. Wendy Bazilian explores the power of connection—not only with people, but with something greater than ourselves. From friendships that shape who we are, to the practices of prayer, meditation, gratitude, and belonging, Wendy unpacks how these experiences affect our physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.

Drawing on science from the Blue Zones, the Nurses’ Health Study, and new research on meditation and prayer, we discover surprising health benefits: from improved mood and reduced anxiety to lower blood pressure, stronger immunity, and even greater longevity. Alongside studies, Wendy shares stories of friendship, family traditions, poetry, and the rituals that help us feel grounded in a bigger universe.

This episode also includes a guided Mindful Minute and practical ways to invite connection into daily life. Whether you identify as religious, spiritual, or simply reflective, you’ll find inspiration to pause, breathe, and honor what connects us all.

CHAPTERS:

(0:00) Introduction and reflections on friendships that shape us

(3:49) What it means to “connect with the universe”—beyond religion or doctrine

(5:28) Elie Wiesel’s wisdom: “If the only prayer you say in your life is thank you, that will be enough.”

(7:55) Science and health benefits of connection: gratitude, prayer, and belonging

(10:29) Longevity lessons from the Blue Zones

(12:30) The Nurses’ Health Study and depression risk

(13:36) Research on spiritual intervention and anxiety and depressive symptoms

(14:40) Study on mindfulness-based interventions and cancer symptoms and coping

 (16:15) A study on meditation, prayer, and cognitive clarity

(18:28) The Mindful Minute: a pause for presence and gratitude

(21:08)) Personal story: John Neihardt’s poem The Child’s Prayer

(24:23) Practical ways to connect—belonging, meditation, transitions, affirmations, rituals, and honoring loved ones

(31:02) Closing thoughts on connection, gratitude, and living our 1,000 waking minutes

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REFERENCES:

Buettner, D. (2012). The blue zones: 9 lessons for living longer from the people who’ve lived the longest. National Geographic Books.

Buettner, D., & Skemp, S. (2016). Blue zones: Lessons from the world’s longest lived. American journal of lifestyle medicine, 10(5), 318-321.

Gonçalves, J. P., Lucchetti, G., Menezes, P. R., & Vallada, H. (2015). Religious and spiritual interventions in mental health care: a systematic review and meta-analysis of randomized controlled clinical trials. Psychological medicine, 45(14), 2937-2949.

Li, S., Okereke, O. I., Chang, S. C., Kawachi, I., & VanderWeele, T. J. (2016). Religious service attendance and lower depression among women—a prospective cohort study. Annals of Behavioral Medicine, 50(6), 876-884.

Neihardt, J. G. (1972). Black Elk speaks. Fine Communications. (Original work published 1932)

Pazer, S. (2024). The effect of meditation and prayer on neurocognitive clarity: A German population study. International Journal of Progressive Research in Engineering Management and Science, 4(1), 45–52. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/384893000_The_Impact_of_Spiritual_Practices_on_Neurocognitive_Development_A_quantitative_Study 

Rouleau, C. R., Garland, S. N., & Carlson, L. E. (2015). The impact of mindfulness-based interventions on symptom burden, positive psychological outcomes, and biomarkers in cancer patients. Cancer Management and Research, 7, 121–131. https://doi.org/10.2147/CMAR.S64165

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Lately I've been reflecting on

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a childhood friend I hadn't

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seen in decades, but who

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I realized was so much

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a piece of who I

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am today, that he never

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really left me.

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Some connections stay with us.

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And I feel connected, maybe

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you do too, when I

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consider that there's something bigger

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than just us.

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And the practices like prayer,

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meditation, expressing gratitude, that can

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help us feel part of

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something more.

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These aren't just good for

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the soul, it turns out

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they may be good for

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our health too.

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And that's what we're exploring

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today.

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We experience 1,000 waking

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minutes on average every day.

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How are you spending yours?

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I'm Dr. Wendy Bazilian and

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you're listening to 1,000

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waking minutes.

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I can't wait to connect

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with you here with practical

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ways to eat well, move

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daily and be healthy, to

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optimize every waking minute you

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live for a happier, healthier

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life.

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Thank you for sharing some

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of your waking minutes with

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me today.

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Let's get started.

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I'm saying yes to better

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days.

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Yes.

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I'm on my way.

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Yes.

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It's gonna be okay.

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Yeah.

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Welcome to 1,000 waking

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minutes.

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I'm Dr. Wendy Bazilian, and

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I'm so glad you're here

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and joining me today.

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This episode is about connection

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and not just the kind

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between people, but the kind

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that reaches beyond us.

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It asks us to slow

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down and look up, perhaps,

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or look inward as some

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of us can do, or

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simply be still in the

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moment and feel that there's

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something more that seems to

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surround us if we give

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it even a little breath

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of space.

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So I've been thinking a

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lot lately about the friendships

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that help shape us and

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really the type of friendships

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of earlier seasons of life,

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perhaps when we were still

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figuring ourselves out.

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Maybe you've had a friend

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like this too, a friend

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that showed up in your

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life or maybe that you

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spent years with but haven't

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seen in recent times or

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in your adult life, but

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they were maybe friends who

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were steady or kind or

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real and authentic and that

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become or have become, if

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you look back on it,

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part of who you are

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today.

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And even if you've lost

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touch maybe after years or

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in some cases after decades,

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and I have someone who

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comes to mind, someone that

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you feel like you are

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somehow connected with, the good

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ones, or that you wish

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for others to have friends

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like this, or even if

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you have children, that your

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children will experience friendships like

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this.

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So I'm not just thinking

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about sentimentality, but foundational friends

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that maybe help shape how

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you relate to others today

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or how you show up

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for others perhaps, or even

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how you love one another,

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maybe that you hope your

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children can experience, as I

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mentioned.

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So maybe this is a

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space today, a pause where

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you can think of someone,

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yourself, as I am and

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what sort of inspired this

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topic, this moment.

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So in talking about connection,

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I want to talk about

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sort of connection to the

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universe, to the mystery and

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the spirit of things, and

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specifically how it impacts our

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health and how we live

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our waking minutes over days

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and months and even decades.

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So today isn't about religion

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per se, but it can

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be, or about prayer, though

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it can be that too.

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It's not about any kind

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of doctrine or dogma, but

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it is about presence, maybe

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about reflection or wonder, one

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of my favorite words, as

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you may know by now,

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about gratitude.

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Maybe we can use the

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word spirituality.

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Maybe you connect with that

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word.

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Maybe you don't.

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If it makes you prickle,

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that's okay.

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There's something else.

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But maybe what I'm trying

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to suggest is the spirit

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of connection or things beyond

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those that are in our

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actual line of sight or

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in a material form.

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When it comes to these

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kinds of memories, like where

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wonder and hope and personal

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wishes for ourselves, our family,

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our loved ones might live,

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that's what I mean.

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And how do we tap

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that?

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And what does that mean

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for our identity?

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But today we're talking about

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health.

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How do those pauses affect

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our health, our mind, the

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way we live in our

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minutes?

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So I'm going to call

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it connecting with the universe.

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You call it what you

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will, but today I'm talking

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about connecting with the universe

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in the ways that connect

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with you.

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So Elie Wiesel, the Nobel

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Peace Prize winner and the

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author of Night, if you've

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ever read that powerful book

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or read about him, but

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he wrote, "if the only

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prayer you say throughout your

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life is thank you, then

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that will be enough."

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And I believe in that.

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It's a gesture, maybe.

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It's a feeling that's said

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with intentionality, honestly, from the

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heart.

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If the only prayer you

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say is thank you, that

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will be enough.

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So today we're going to

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talk a little bit about

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spirituality and health.

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No matter what your beliefs

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are, from being deeply religious,

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perhaps, or completely secular, science

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shows that we're healthier when

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we cultivate connection.

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And not just with people,

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but with something beyond ourselves.

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You might call it God

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or nature or chi, that

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kind of energy and flow.

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You may invoke something about

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the universe or love or

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oneness, as is often referenced

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in sort of the Eastern

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religions, or maybe science.

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The name really doesn't matter

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to me anyway, but the

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space for it does.

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So this isn't about rules

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and rituals, but about making

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space and thinking about places

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in your life where that

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may be present.

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Places where you can breathe

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and appreciate and reflect where

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we are in this sort

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of vivid, beautiful world that

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is also sometimes heartbreaking, sometimes

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awe-inspiring, sometimes just so

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much bigger than ourselves and

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our humanity.

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So to remember a friend

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that maybe you haven't seen

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in a long time, or

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feel a deep connection to,

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like you're right there.

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That's something that I can

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feel, and maybe you can

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too.

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And when we do this,

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I think we heal, and

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I think our focus sometimes

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can sharpen.

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We can go to places.

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Sometimes we soften, and maybe

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sometimes we even grow.

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So what is the return

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on investment of this kind

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of connection for health?

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You know I love to

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bring in some science or

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talk about the return on

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our benefits to our health

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from doing or connecting in

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this way.

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The return on connection, maybe

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we'll call it, in research

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as in life.

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So cultivating gratitude or practicing

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prayer, these are two primary

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ways that people connect with

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broader universal presence.

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Saying thank you, and we've

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talked about gestures, simple gestures

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in previous episodes, or gestures

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of kindness outward.

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Saying thank you, it's not

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just good manners really.

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That act has been shown

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to make people feel happier

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in research.

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So an expression or warm

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thanks or an expression of

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gratitude, it can sort of

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facilitate or bridge social interaction

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and relationships, and also like

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the perception of warmth between

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two individuals or more.

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Intentional gratitude, even when you

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know something goes deeply awry

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and the bad things in

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life happen, but intentional gratitude,

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expressing gratitude for the things

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in life that you can,

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that you have, that you

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have at the moment.

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It's been linked to lower

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blood pressure in fact.

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It's been linked to improved

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immune function and even decreased

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stress according to some research.

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So the role of gratitude

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alone is part of spiritual

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well-being and has been

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shown in some research.

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And also prayer, and it

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doesn't need to be limited

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to the hands together, head

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bowed, or looking up kind

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of version of prayer.

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Prayer can encompass thoughts or

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words, hopes, and it can

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come in many forms from

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meditation to chanting to simple

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words or a nod to

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something beautiful that you pass

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and you acknowledge.

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That can be prayer.

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So let's talk about some

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of these returns.

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I want to share with

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you a few studies that

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I came across and returns

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on our connections with the

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other.

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So number one, longevity.

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How about that?

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So if we look to

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the blue zones, if you've

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heard about the blue zones

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before, there are certain areas

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in the world where people

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live at a higher rate

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beyond 100 years, so there's

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more centenarians per capita.

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And researchers have sort of

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identified some key habits or

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key behaviors that these communities,

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some are in the Mediterranean

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region like Sardinia and Greece,

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some are in Costa Rica.

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And the uniquely only one

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in the United States is

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in Loma Linda, California, where

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I did my doctoral work.

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But one of the common

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threads, and there's sort of

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nine key attributes or behaviors

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that have been identified over

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time in the research, one

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of the key ones was

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not necessarily belonging to a

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specific religion, but belonging period.

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So belonging to some either

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faith-based community, and the

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denomination didn't seem to matter,

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but showing up for something

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that creates meaning and connection

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does.

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So belonging.

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And here's the surprising part

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of that.

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People who attend sort of

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spiritual gatherings just four times

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a month, so roughly once

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a week, as is in

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some of the organized religions,

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but they may add, actually,

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according to the research that's

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been done, between four and

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14 years to their life

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expectancy.

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By showing up to a

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community that has a sense

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of spirituality or connection, add

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between four and 14 years

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to their life.

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Is that incredible?

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Something as simple as showing

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up and belonging.

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That's a meaningful difference.

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And as it turns out,

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this type of connection can

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not just support your years,

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but also your mood.

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So I turn next to

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a study I want to

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share about emotional health.

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If we look at the

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famous Nurses' Health Study, maybe

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you've heard that before.

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It's a prospective study that's

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followed over 74,000 women

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for decades now.

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But research reported, after following

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over 16 years, that those

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who attended weekly religious services

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had significantly lower risk of

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developing depression, according to some

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research.

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So the Nurses' Health Study,

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the NHS study, it's a

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large-scale, as I mentioned,

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long-term prospective cohort study,

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meaning they followed the same

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group of people over time

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to see what changes or

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outcomes or measurements showed up.

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And they surveyed them many

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times over the course of

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those years on their directly

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reported habits, from diet to

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exercise, and in this case,

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attending religious services.

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So what they found was

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a meaningful link between that

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regular spiritual connection and emotional

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well-being.

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Another study a few years

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back now, so in 2015,

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but I think it's relevant

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because it was a broad,

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a systematic review and meta

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-analysis of randomized control trials,

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it looked at spiritual and

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religious interventions.

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Sort of like, think if

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you've ever heard people who

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start a prayer group or

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someone or interventions, and they

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looked at the impact on

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anxiety and depressive symptoms.

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And the takeaway from this

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study was that the majority

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of studies, because this was

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a meta-analysis and review,

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showed reductions in both depressive

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symptoms and symptoms of anxiety.

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Of course, more research is

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needed on this area.

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Researchers are the first to

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say it, but the trend

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appears to be there.

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Meaningful connection seems to offer

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some real protection or risk

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reduction for our hearts, our

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mind, like anxiety and depressive

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symptoms.

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So longevity, mental health, and

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you might be curious about

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healing.

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Can connection or prayer heal?

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And I certainly know of

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friends and family, maybe you

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know some too who've asked

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for prayer or called on

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prayers from others, or maybe

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you've offered it up or

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even created prayer circles around

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friends or families going through

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hard times and health issues

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and illness.

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Maybe you've been on the

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receiving or maybe the giving

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end of this.

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Well, we've known for centuries

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that people often turn to

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prayer and ritual and quiet

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reflection in these types of

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times, especially in times of

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uncertainty, times of illness.

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And while we can't always

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measure it with the scientific

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method in a laboratory setting,

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we can use some of

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the tools of modern science

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now to look at and

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consider practices like mindfulness.

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So in a review that

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was published in a journal

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called Cancer Management and Research,

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they pulled together evidence on

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how mindfulness-based interventions affect

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people with cancer.

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And they found that these

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practices reduce psychological distress, improve

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sleep, and help enhance overall

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quality of life.

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So this wasn't about curing

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cancer, keep that in mind,

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but it was about coping.

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It was about feeling better.

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It was about being more

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resilient in the face of

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challenge.

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And that matters, don't you

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think?

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I do, big time.

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And finally, for the ROIs

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today, the RO Connection, ROCs,

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a recent study that really

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caught my eye and caught

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my attention recently about meditation,

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prayer, and doing nothing.

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So it was three arms

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and what researchers called neurocognitive

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clarity.

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So when I hear clarity,

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when I hear neurocognitive, I

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get excited, but clarity, whoo,

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I'm in, tell me more.

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So this is a 2024

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study from Germany.

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It was conducted by researchers

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who did a study looking

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at cognitive benefits of spiritual

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practices in just a little

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more than a hundred young

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adults.

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So this was young adults,

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age 18 to 30.

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They divided the participants into

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three groups, regular meditation, regular

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meditators, regular prayer practitioners, and

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a control group that didn't

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do either of these.

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And they found something interesting.

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They found that both meditation

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and prayer improve mental clarity,

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concentration, and overall cognitive function.

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So meditation actually had a

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slightly stronger effect, but prayer

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still had significant benefits, especially

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when they were practiced consistently.

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So the longer someone has

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been practicing, the stronger those

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effects were.

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So that's important.

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This is one example about

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how these quiet moments, maybe

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taking some pauses for prayer

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or reflection or meditation, don't

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just nourish the spirit as

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sometimes we hear.

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They can help sharpen the

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mind.

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They can soothe the nervous

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system and they can help

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us think more clearly and

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feel more connected perhaps.

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Overall, that's all talking about

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strengthening our capacity to live

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well in every meaning of

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the word well.

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So whether it's about aging

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well and longevity or managing

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stress and anxiety, staying mentally

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sharp, I love that word

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clarity, or simply finding some

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peace in your day, it

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turns out that this kind

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of connection does really matter.

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So those are the ROIs.

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Now let's turn it into

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practice.

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But I would be remiss

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of course if I didn't

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offer us a moment to

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reset together in a mindful

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minute.

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That is a type of

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like mini meditation.

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You call it whatever you

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want.

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I like to call it

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the Mindful Minute.

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And it's something we can

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do together right now.

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So in each episode that

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we have a thematic like

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this, we'll pause together for

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this time.

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Just one moment to breathe,

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to notice, to reconnect.

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And perhaps it's to yourself,

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the day, or maybe to

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something more.

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So you don't have to

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do this perfectly by the

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way.

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There's no such thing as

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perfect when we take a

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moment for ourself in mindfulness.

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Let this just be like

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a pause or maybe remembering

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a friend.

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Maybe it is a prayer

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for you or some gratitude.

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Let's be in the moment.

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So we always start by

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sitting comfortably, our feet grounded.

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Like feel your toes in

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the ground and be outdoors.

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I'm not outdoors right now,

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but if I were I'd

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be sort of digging them

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into the grass.

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Let your hands rest gently.

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They can rest on your

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abdomen or just on your

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lap in front of you.

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And let your eyes soften,

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maybe even close.

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Let's do a preparatory breath

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together in through your nose,

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out through your mouth.

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Allow your shoulders to drop.

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And let's begin.

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Maybe think of two words

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you could say, one on

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the inhale, one on the

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exhale, that you repeat like

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thank you.

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Thank you.

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It could be I hope,

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maybe be well.

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Notice your surroundings just by

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your senses.

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Fix anything right now.

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Just breathe and be here.

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One more inhale, be well.

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There we are.

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Sometimes that's all it takes,

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a breath, a pause, perhaps

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a quiet thank you.

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Thank you for sharing that

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Mindful Minute with me today.

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So when I was little,

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I met the poet John

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Neihardt.

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He was the author of

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Black Elk Speaks, a Native

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American, early American author.

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And he studied and wrote

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about Black Elk.

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And he studied and wrote

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poetry in the tradition of

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the Sioux tribe that he

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was studying.

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And he gave me one

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of his books.

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I was very young at

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the time.

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And inside the book, and

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he signed it to me,

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and I still have that

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book.

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And he signed it to

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me, to my name with

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his name on it.

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And inside the book was

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a little piece of paper

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with a hand-typed poem.

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So separate from the book,

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it was tucked in.

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It was a little slip.

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And it was in the

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first few pages.

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And the poem is called

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The Child's Prayer.

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My parents turned it into

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a sort of like decoupage

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plaque also, that was something

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that I put on my

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wall.

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And I would sort of

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quietly read it, probably almost

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daily, because it was sort

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of a part of, you

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know, your space, you notice

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it, you don't notice it

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sometimes.

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But I always loved it,

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especially because I was told,

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and I was young, under

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five, I was told it

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had been written just for

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me.

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I believed it.

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Part of me still does

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believe it.

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I've never found it anywhere

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else.

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I believe it was written

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for me.

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And sometimes it's the belief,

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but it's really for all

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of us.

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So before we turn today's

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topic into a little bit

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of practice, I thought I

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would share that poem with

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you and see if it

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connects with you.

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I think it was great,

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great for children.

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I think it is great

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for children, and all of

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us, including the big kids

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too.

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So here it is.

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The Child's Prayer by John

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G.

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Neihardt.

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"Great spirit, you are everywhere.

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You made the lovely earth

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and air.

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You made the creek that

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runs and sings, and everything

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with legs or wings.

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You made each blade of

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grass and tree, and all

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the little kids like me.

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So good is everything you

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made, that we should never

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be afraid.

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Great spirit, teach us what

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to do, so I can

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be as good as you."

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Great spirit, this was.

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I love that.

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The Child's Prayer.

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Thank you for sharing that

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with me and indulging me

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in that.

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I hope that that connects

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with you.

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That poem still grounds me.

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And whatever your beliefs, I

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think, I hope, we can

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agree that our world is

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at its core good.

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And that sort of reminds

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me of that.

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We are lucky to have

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the opportunity to be here

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and live here.

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And I hope you enjoyed

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hearing that much, that poem,

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that beautiful poem, as much

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as I do, and as

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a reminder of just that

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fact.

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So if any part of

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this speaks to you today,

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connecting to the universe, spiritually,

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through prayer, through religion, through

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hope, through silent moments or

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gratitude, I wanted to provide

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a few simple ways to

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bring it into our 1.000

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Waking Minutes, or maybe reminders

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of ways that you're already

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doing that.

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So first, belong.

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Remember when I talked about

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the Blue Zones?

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Belong.

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We saw from the Blue

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Zones, we see from the

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landmark Nurses Health Study, women

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who attended faith-based services

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four times a month significantly

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extended their lives.

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The value is in the

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regularity and the meaning of

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weekly or even periodic services,

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connection.

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And it's a terrific way

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to practice.

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Maybe it's been a while,

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but maybe you make an

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effort to start again.

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You can go and do

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and participate.

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And if you don't connect

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with a religion per se,

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there are lots of ways

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to connect with like-minded

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others, like study groups and

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book clubs and social groups,

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other special interest groups.

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Some may argue that one

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is more valid than another.

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I say they're all valid.

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Some way of belonging and

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connection.

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That's what I think the

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message is today.

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It might be a choir,

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community service.

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There's lots of examples that

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we could tap.

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Second, maybe try meditation.

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Meditation can take many forms

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and it can be an

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effective way to gain introspection,

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to help balance your nervous

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system.

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And it can be something

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that you can practice regardless

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of any religious persuasion or

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feeling about spirituality.

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Overall mindfulness can increase awareness

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of ourselves and the world

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around us.

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And of course, some of

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the mysteries of the universe.

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Another more practical, tactical way

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to connect is maybe in

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how you use your time.

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So using transitions during your

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day as moments to pause,

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maybe taking a Mindful Minute.

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So it might be between

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a meeting, one meeting and

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the next.

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Or it might be when

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you're washing your hands.

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My daughter has a song

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that she sings while washing

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your hands.

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Maybe there's a poem or

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a thought or a gratitude

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that you practice.

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Maybe I'll try that.

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I think that might be

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my next thing to try

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in a transition for myself.

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Maybe before sending some emails,

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you take a pause, you

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take a moment, you say

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a prayer even.

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Using the time and those

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transitions in that way.

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Another way is maybe borrowing

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or utilizing a prayer from

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somewhere that connects with you,

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or you can even make

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one up.

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You can pray, you can

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recite mantras.

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The act of prayer doesn't

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work.

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And I put that in

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quotes for everyone.

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But most of us can

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benefit from thinking or saying

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positive words, certain sounds, certain

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phrases, affirmations, which you may

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have heard about affirmations, and

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it may even evoke memories

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of some funny skits on

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SNL.

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The affirmations, they actually have

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been shown to really help.

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Positive affirmations, a few words

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of reflection, a few words

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of gratitude, have solid psychological

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and spiritual power and benefit.

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Each new year, I sort

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of set an intention.

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Each year, sometimes I try

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to capture it in like

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an affirmation or a single

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word, or something that I

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try to bring to the

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forefront.

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It may be something that's

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there, but I just want

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to bring a little more

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attention to it.

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So that becomes a way

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that I personally bring like

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an affirmation or an intention

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to mind and sort of

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use it in this way.

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We can create small rituals,

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like taking a breath before

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a meal, maybe saying a

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prayer.

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We used to call it

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grace.

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Some people still do.

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A moment of silence, or

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a quiet thought before sleep.

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Maybe you have a mealtime

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prayer, or something poetic that

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you'd like to share.

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We have a few of

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those, one that we use

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sometimes that some dear friends

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of ours, Nancy and Tom,

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taught us, which is a

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simple sort of mealtime prayer

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that gives thanks, and that

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also brings us fond memories

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along with when we share

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it.

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So thinking about creating a

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small ritual at mealtime, or

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maybe it's before bed, doing

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a gratitude journal could be

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a way to invoke this

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connection, or saying prayers before

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bed, or giving hope for

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someone's health and healing, including

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your own.

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In the spirit of that

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also, another thing you can

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do is honor those that

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helped shape you.

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So carrying on a memory,

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not just in thought, but

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in some kinds of practice.

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I always think of the

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Dia de los Muertos each

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year, the Day of the

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Dead, the celebration that has

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such deep ritual and meaning

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about honoring those who've come

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before us with offerings, ofrendas,

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and all the traditions that

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go with it, and such

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a very clear ritual that

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is grounded in spirit and

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happiness.

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It's always so fascinating.

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So maybe there's grand practices,

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and meaningful, impactful practices and

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rituals, but maybe it's something

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small, like carrying out an

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activity in honor of someone,

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or saying a small prayer

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that reminds you of them,

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or just saying their name

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aloud.

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There are so many ways

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to honor our loved ones,

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our mentors, our family, our

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friends.

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And you can also let

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silence be like a prayer

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too.

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Sometimes you don't really have

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to speak it to feel

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it, and it can be

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internal and personal.

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So I have a number

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of others that I've collected

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over time that I've heard

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from you, from individuals I've

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been around who have shared

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with me, from volunteering to

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choosing to read positive media

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on purpose, to going to

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mindfulness retreats, or Zen Buddhist

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retreats even.

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But I'm going to stop

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here for today on that.

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I hope that those give

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you a few little practices,

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and maybe you have some

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that you can share with

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me that you have done,

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and to bring attention to

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them again, knowing that there's

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such a beneficial part to

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our overall health, because we

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can just choose one, and

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let's be real with it,

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and let's connect in that

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way.

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So maybe today, I hope

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you'll find one minute, just

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one to be still.

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Maybe offer a small prayer,

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or a thank you, or

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a moment of remembering, maybe

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a way that you can

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feel more connected to yourself,

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to someone else.

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It might be someone who's

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near, it might be someone

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who's far, both in time

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and space, and to something

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greater, you know, connecting to

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the universe.

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So I'm so thankful for

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your time to listen today,

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and to connect in this

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way.

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Lately, I've been thinking, as

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I mentioned, more about all

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of this, that connection, and

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meaning, and the ways that

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we take pause.

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And honestly, it came from,

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I was sparked from really

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thinking deeply about a friend

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from a long time ago,

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that I'm so grateful to

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have had in my life

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for so many years, despite

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the time that had passed

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since I saw him.

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And I will think of

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him when I think of

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this episode of today, and

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on a continued basis.

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We hadn't been in touch

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for a long time, which

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was something that pained me,

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but now I sort of

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see the beauty in that

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connection.

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And I'm so happy to

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have been able to share

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it a little bit with

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you today.

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So even across time, in

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our spirit, we can be

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spiritual.

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Maybe you'll embrace that term

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a little bit more, maybe

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not, that's okay.

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But renew some of those

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things that connect to you.

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Because I do think that

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we connect to something bigger.

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We have to.

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You know, it's airwaves, or

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sound waves, or humanness, something.

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There's some kind of waves

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that connect us.

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So maybe this conversation today

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can spark a little bit

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and be part of that

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too.

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If this episode felt useful

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to you, or thought-provoking

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even, I'd be glad if

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you shared it with someone

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else who might enjoy it.

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I always appreciate if you

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care to leave a kind

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comment on your podcast platforms,

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or wherever you tune in,

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or write me, because I

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really believe that our community

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and our efforts to be

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healthy, and to be health

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-inspired toward a well-lived

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life, that we're better together,

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that we support each other.

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You can always find the

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study references in the show

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notes, or write me, either

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way.

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And you can find me

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at wendybazilian.com.

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And I would be so

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happy if you join on

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Instagram at @1000WakingMinutes

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And this is 1,000

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Waking Minutes, our 1,000

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Waking Minutes.

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I'm Wendy Bazillion, and until

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next time, be well.

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