In this episode of The D Shift: Redefining Divorce And Beyond, host Mardi Winder-Adams is joined by expert Dr. Pamela J. Pine for a frank and sobering discussion on the lasting impact of family conflict and abuse on children. Drawing on Dr. Pamela J. Pine’s decades of work in preventing and mitigating child sexual abuse and addressing adverse childhood experiences (ACEs), the conversation centers on how trauma in the home—whether high, moderate, or even low levels of conflict—can shape a child’s development, mental health, and future wellbeing.
The episode challenges misconceptions around domestic violence and explores the strong correlation between abuse in the home and lifelong consequences, including neurological damage, chronic health issues, and cycles of addiction. Mardi Winder-Adams and Dr. Pamela J. Pine underscore the importance of community awareness, intervention, and support, emphasizing that silence and secrecy can exacerbate harm.
This episode offers not just statistics and facts, but critical guidance for parents and caregivers facing these difficult situations. It provides straightforward language for supporting children, highlights the dangers of staying “for the kids,” and urges listeners to recognize that being proactive and informed can break the cycle of trauma. For anyone seeking to understand, help, or heal, this conversation is both an urgent warning and a compassionate resource.
About the Guest:
Pamela J. Pine, PhD, MPH has been an international health, development, and communication professional throughout her adult life, supporting the lives of poor and otherwise underserved groups, with a two-decade specialty on preventing and mitigating child sexual abuse (CSA) and other adverse childhood experiences (ACEs). She is the Founder/Director of Stop the Silence® - A Department of the Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma (IVAT). She is also a professor, best-selling and award-winning author, and a multimedia artist, which she uses in her work to open hearts and minds.
To connect with Dr. Pine:
Website: https://www.ivatcenters.org/stop-the-silence,
Website: https://www.drpamelajpine.com,
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stopcsa,
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrPamelaJPine2/,
Email: pamelap@ivatcenters.org
About the Host:
Mardi Winder is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®) and a Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas. She has worked with women in executive, entrepreneur, and leadership roles, navigating personal, life, and professional transitions. She is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and host of Real Divorce Talks, a quarterly series designed to provide education and inspiration to women at all stages of divorce.
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Connect with Mardi on Social Media:
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/Divorcecoach4women
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mardiwinderadams/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/divorcecoach4women/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@divorcecoach4women
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