You are not your thoughts.

You are not your body.

You are not your emotions.

How do you feel about these statements?

Let's start with the first one:

You are not what you think.

How can this be?

Now, let's see.. Have you ever noticed that your mind keeps chattering on?

You are constantly thinking! Are all thoughts coming from the inside of you or from some external source?

Please go back and check out my last episode about where your thoughts and emotions come from :)

So, your thoughts are constantly chatting away, commenting, judging and sometimes your thoughts are productive but sometimes they are also very destructive ....

What are the beliefs about yourself that you should follow and listen to? What are beliefs that you should address quickly, dissect, analyse and then discard?

Let’s dive in and find out more about this juicy topic that will most likely affect you in one way or another. 

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Hello and welcome to the Borealis experience. I'm

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your host Aurora, life coach and companion on this beautiful

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journey called life. Today I'm recording my episode for you out

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finding yourself to finding your purpose to be on the path that

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people to feel better about themselves, to help them reach

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have a deep and nurturing connection with their children.

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find their mate and still feel like they are not tapping into

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their true potential and are kind of searching around and

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being desperate to find somebody but also anxious to get out

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there again. And for couples, for couples who want to have a

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deeper relationship with their partner again and there, I can

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just focus on men just on women, or I take in couples, as little

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groups. And then yeah, you guys, tell me in a second session,

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what you need, what you want, I'll get ready. And then on the

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actual date, you will learn lots about yourself about the people

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around you. And I'm just so excited to be out there in the

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world, not just behind my computer recording podcasts and

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live video is for you, but to actually interact with people

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and now COVID is more or less over. Let's hope for the best

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there. And yeah, I want to be out there and connect with you

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in real life. Today I want to talk about your thoughts. So I

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talked about anxiety and nervousness in my last episodes

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I highly recommend you going back and listening to those

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episodes first because as I mentioned in every episode, this

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podcast is kind of a build up. So if you're just jumping in

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right now go back to season one and really learn how to truly

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connect to yourself and then we build from there. Little

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stepping stones for you to get to know yourself and connecting

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with others on a deeper level.

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And then last episode I talked about your thoughts and

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emotions. Where do your thoughts come from? Where does your

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emotions come from? And all eyes Share here is my opinion, my

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experiences what I have learned, this is not medical advice. This

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is no substitution for any counseling of psychotherapy. But

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what I've learned is that our body deeply influences how we

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feel. And our feelings deeply influence how we think. And our

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thoughts are sometimes deeply conditioned by our environment,

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how we grew up the social settings that we were exposed

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to, at a very young age made us do not make us conclude about

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ourselves in a certain way. And sometimes we made the wrong

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conclusions about ourselves. Sometimes we got to question our

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beliefs, our conditioning, and on tangle ourselves from

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beliefs, conditions that are holding us back that are not

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serving us anymore, that keep us stuck in a comfort zone, that

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doesn't even feel good. So today, I want to talk about your

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thoughts. Because last episode, I talked about your thoughts and

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emotions. But I also want to make sure that you know that you

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are not your thoughts, you are not your behavior. Your behavior

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is strongly connected to your identity and how you feel about

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yourself and others. And same goes for your thoughts. But if

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we learn to detach ourselves from our thoughts, and to know

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that we are actually the entity behind the thoughts, right, and

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this is what you learn when you meditate. And if you're still a

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newbie, when it comes to meditations, when you still have

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huge resistance to meditation. Don't worry, I was there for a

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long time, I resisted to meditation for the longest time.

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And I'm still no expert. But what I know it does for me is

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that I learn to watch my thoughts. And you can do that

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right now here, don't worry, I'm going to, I'm not going to force

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you to meditate here with me. But let's think about a pink

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elephant. Let's think about a juicy lemon. Let's think about

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the smile of a loved one. Now, you think of the elephant, the

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lemon, the beautiful smile. And all I did is inspire was words,

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something you could be thinking of now, do I know how your pink

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elephant looks like? Do I know in which direction he looks? Is

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he moving? is he standing still? What about the lemon? Is it a

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whole lemon? Is it a half lemon? What about the smile of the

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person you love? I have no idea who that is. But you have a very

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precise image of those three things in your mind. And so do

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I. And that's again, a very important thing to remember that

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the map of the world of your partner of the people around you

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looks very, very differently than your map how you perceive

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things. And another thing I want to dive into today is that you

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are the entity behind these thoughts now. Right, these

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thoughts pop up. Because you saw an elephant before you saw a

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lemon before you saw your loved one smiling before so you can

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recall this memory. So your mind is just such an incredibly

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awesome tool that you need to learn to use to your advantage.

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And what I mean when I say you are not your thoughts, is that

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if you were to sit down now and just watch your thoughts

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floating by as if they were in a river and you're sitting by the

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shore.

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It would totally work. You would maybe think of what is Aurora

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seeing there again today. I don't know what she means. Or I

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love her voice or I'm thinking of my grocery list that I want

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to get into right after a Thinking of something that I

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want to do later in the day. And then you can come back to your

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breath, come back to your body, come back to the present moment.

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See, so what I'm trying to do here is to make you realize that

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your thoughts are constantly running are constantly

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influenced about how you feel and about what is happening in

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your environment. But you can step into observer position,

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birds perspective position, and decide if you want to take these

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thoughts. Seriously, is it really important to think of

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that pink elephant right now of the lemon of the juicy one and

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the person that you love, and she or he is smiling? Or do you

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want to be thinking of something else. Now, if you were focused

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on homework or on your job, you wouldn't notice that, oh, your

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mind is wandering, you want to bring it back, you want to

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focus. You want to get things done at work for your homework,

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or whatever it is you want to focus on. So I like to see my

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thoughts as a misbehaved little child, that child wants my

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attention, that child is loud. And that child wants me to run

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after her chaser play with her, she wants my attention. But I

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decide to focus in on what is important. And I get to decide

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what is important, I get to decide which sod I want to

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follow and believe. And which thought I'm going to drop. And

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you can do this work all the way back to very ingrained and rigid

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thought patterns that you have, and bust them open and dissect

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them and analyze. If it's really true. Let's take for example,

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you were bullied at school, when you were six, the children were

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mean to you. They were laughing at you, they treated you badly.

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You tried to keep up with your homework and everything. But

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your grades just got worse and worse. And the bullying got

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worse and worse. And it was just a whole shit show at school.

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Now, the conclusion that you make about yourself is I don't

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matter, people laugh at me. So that means I'm not important.

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And my grades are shitty. So that means I'm stupid. You take

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that believe, threw out your puberty and to adulthood. And to

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this day you struggle with ADHD, and have a hard time to learn

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new things. Because you still think that you're stupid, you

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have a hard time to connect with people because you still think

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people think that you're laughable and unimportant and

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just silly. So you are this shy person who's crippled on a soul

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level. Because you still believe that old thought that you had

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back then when you got hurt the first time around, you had to

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make sense of the other people's behavior. And usually, as a

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child, we make everything about ourselves, we protect others

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because we need others we want to belong. So if something goes

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wrong, we usually say to ourselves that something is

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wrong with us. And if you carry this into adulthood, into your

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relationships into your work, you will not be able to do your

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best because you're not going to show up as the person you're

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meant to be. You're showing up as the person you are after

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downloading

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these limiting beliefs. And that's so destructive and so

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painful to watch as an outsider as a coach, because I can

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usually see very quickly if not in the first session than in the

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second session how precious and unique my client In this who's

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sitting in front of me and opening up about their stuff,

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but they themselves still see themselves as broken,

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dysfunctional, and not worthy. Not enough. So once we learn to

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hack into these thoughts, and know that the thoughts are

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always going to be there, they're always going to run in

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the background. And you are the entity who decides what to

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believe and what not. You go back to knowing who you are

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meant to be on this planet. And then you only hook into the

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thoughts that are serving you on a level where you can grow and

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nourish yourself, expand and do the same for others, helping

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empowering inspiring others. Alright, so I'm going to leave

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you with a little exercise. I want you to do this when you are

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by yourself at home in a safe place. You are not operating any

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machinery, you are not driving a bicycle. Or any motorized

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vehicle you are at home on a couch or in your room, you close

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your eyes. And you see what happens. I want you to see which

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thoughts come up. It can be distraction, it can be oh my

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god, I don't want to be sitting here because I got so much to

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do. All I got to scratch my head, or I got to feed the dog.

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Set a timer on two minutes. Two minutes is more than enough. And

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just watch your thoughts float by and smile at how creative

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your mind is to get you out of this position of reflection.

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Your mind doesn't want you to reflect because this would mean

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that you threaten the ego that you threaten of letting go of

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thoughts that it wants you to focus on. And then you stop and

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then you go back to whatever you wanted to do. Just two minutes

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do it. Share with me on how your experience went and connect with

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me. Please also know that this podcast is donor driven. It is a

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And if you decide to donate today, I will make sure to

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mention you if you so please, and I would greatly appreciate

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any thing that you want to donate. Alright, I'm gonna leave

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you with this. And yeah, find the links in my show notes. To

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find out more about Aurora Eggert, coaching about donations

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of coffees Of course I'm not gonna buy coffees them money is

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gonna go directly back into my podcast here. And I'm gonna

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leave you with that. take really good care of yourself. And until