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Hello darling heart and welcome to this episode of the Drink Less Live better podcast. This is the podcast that helps you
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to see that drinking less doesn't need to be stressful, lonely or boring. I'm your host, Sarah Williamson, and I decided to
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have a year alcohol free as a little life experiment and haven't looked back. I'm a best selling author, expert speaker, corporate
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workshop facilitator, and life coach. I'm here to support you with your alcohol free or drink less adventures. To keep up
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to date, be sure to follow me on Instagram at drink less, live better, and head to the website drink less, live better.com,
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where you will be able to sign up to the 5 day drink less experiment, find blog posts, and you can choose to join the email
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club where I share resources, wisdom, insights, and glimmers of hope and joy. I hope you enjoy this episode. Let's get straight
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to it. This episode is a things you will never hear me say episode, and, today, it's think positive. I've got a complicated
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relationship with thinking positive. One of the things that really upset me last year when I was diagnosed with cancer was
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somebody telling me I just had to think positively about it. That made me think that they didn't think I ordinarily thought
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positively about most things which I actually do and that I needed reminding to be positive about something that was really
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actually quite devastating happening in my life. It wasn't helpful. It wasn't useful to me. Positive thinking might sometimes
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help you temporarily or it might not. Does thinking positively actually mean that you gaslight yourself, that you pretend
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that the feelings you are experiencing aren't worthy? Try not to deny yourself the feelings you are having. If things feel
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rubbish right now, maybe it's because they actually are rubbish right now. People say, come on, chin up, think happy thoughts,
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positive thoughts only because they have no idea what the heck else to say in the face of adversity, and for this we forgive
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them. In the face of being told to think positively about my cancer last year, I actually got quite defensive, and I became
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quite quiet around that person. I recognized that they didn't want to hear or indeed couldn't hear what I had to say on the
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matter and how I was feeling about the matter, and that gave me a stare on who I could share my honest feelings with and who
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I couldn't. I give anybody a bit of a wide birth now who is in the positive vibes only mindset. There absolutely has to be
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room for all of our emotions. We're human. We're supposed to experience the full range. At one end, there's deep depression
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and sadness and upset and grief and discomfort, and at the other end, there's joy and empowerment and happiness and the acknowledgement
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of all of the good things that potentially could happen and there's everything in between. Some of us experience from one
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end to the other end in a matter of minutes and some of us work through a smaller range of emotions over time, all of which
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is okay. It's just okay. You don't have to think positive in the face of adversity. You don't have to think positive at any
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time at all. It's okay to experience whatever emotions you are experiencing. Thank you for listening in today. Come back again
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next week. I'd massively appreciate it if you could subscribe, rate, and review the podcast. Well, do that if you love it,
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obviously. If you don't love it, you wouldn't still be listening. So I think I'm safe asking for your support at this point.
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If you're listening on YouTube, give me a thumbs up. I love that stuff. Check out the show notes for a link to a hidden podcast
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episode that will help you with your 5 PM cravings and details about my one to one life coaching and sober coaching programmes.
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And PS, I believe in you.
