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#183 - Are You Too Much? With Amy Taylor-Kabbaz
Episode 18323rd February 2022 • Happy Mama Movement with Amy Taylor-Kabbaz • Amy Taylor-Kabbaz
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#183 - Are You Too Much? With Amy Taylor-Kabbaz

Recently, in researching how Matrescence can be the catalyst for so much more than just a redefining process of what it means to be a mother, I reached out to women in my life and asked: what were you told growing up?

Here's just some of their answers:

  • Too sensitive
  • Too wild
  • Too caring
  • Too crazy
  • Too giving
  • Too loud
  • Too shy
  • Too bold
  • Too quiet
  • Too needy
  • Too independent
  • Too angry
  • Too much.

This is what we carry inside us - the legacy of definitions of what it means to be a woman and a mother.

Isn't it time we changed that?

What I have seen over and over again after coaching thousands of women is that... understanding Matrescence is an invitation.

It's an invitation to not only realise that you are changing, but that you also get to decide for yourself:

What does being a mama really mean to you?

What stories are you carrying about who you should be and how this should feel?

And once a woman begins to look at THIS part of herself, the door opens to so much more!

What other stories and definitions are you carrying?

What do you tell yourself about your body, your work, money, sex, power and rest?

This is, by far, the most exciting part of my work:

We gather together as mamas thinking we're going to transform our experience of motherhood... and in the end, we totally revolutionise every part of ourselves.

And we don't do it alone.

I have just opened the doors to the public for my monthly membership The Village for the very first time - this is the place to look at your Matrescence experience and how motherhood is changing you.

But that's not all!

Once you've explored your role as a mama, we then gather together and walk through the rest of the 'definitions of womanhood.'

And it is the most spectacular experience.

Doors open now - we begin on March 7th.

Payment plans available - and you can cancel anytime.

(But trust me, once you know what its like to be in a Village, I doubt you'll want to leave! But come and give it a try yourself )

Join us here. -



[00:00:33] They're knowing and my own elders and teachers.


[00:01:22] And instead of assuming she will be fine once she is sent home from the hospital. Understandings around the fourth trimester, the first 40 days postpartum care. And yes, even matresence are beginning to expand. And it is so damn exciting. Because this is only the tip of the iceberg of what we need to change around how we support mothers in our world.


[00:02:14] About who you should be. Matresence is an understanding that we carry inside us beliefs and stories around what it means to be a good mother and a successful woman. What it means to be a good wife or a good partner, what it means to be a good daughter, a good woman. And matresence is this beautiful invitation that says, Hey, you're changing.


[00:03:05] It was a chance to step into a space where we got to decide for ourselves our own definition. It was a chance to look at what our beliefs were around being a mother. Do we believe we had to love every minute of it? Do we believe we had to be able to play Play-Doh and build Lego endlessly? Did we need to give up our work?


[00:03:53] Because what it does is show them that what they've been feeling about themselves in this massive change of becoming and being a mother is okay. And so what I've really been interested in lately is what other stories are we carrying? If we have such a profound transformation in looking at the stories around what it means to be a mother.


[00:04:49] Too sensitive.


[00:05:35] I wonder if they resonate with you? What I'm really interested in is all of the ways that we silence ourselves as women and as mothers. What I have seen and has been the greatest privilege of my working life is what happens when a woman begins to unpack and unravel the story she tells herself about who she should be as a mother.


[00:06:25] Can she look at it and see that it is a warning sign? That something is not right? Can she hold her anger with such reverence and deal with it in the right and beautiful way it should be? Rather than holding it down, like a balloon under the water that will eventually burst out with force. And what are the other stories she's carrying inside of her?


[00:07:21] So if one of them is too quiet at a friend's house and just sits quietly in the corner, I start worrying. She's not friendly enough. She's not polite enough. She's too quiet. Too shy. And then on the other hand, if one of my kids is too loud and is the noisiest at the party and is incredibly emotional and sensitive and making a big deal about everything.


[00:07:50] By unpacking these stories? We carry about ourselves and what we've been told our whole life. I think, I believe we can completely redefine ourselves. And like I said, I think this is the gift of motherhood and matresence. Matresence is not just about how you feel about being a mother, but it opens a door to completely redefining all of these areas.


[00:08:51] The doors to my membership, the village are now open to the public for the very first time. I'm really excited about this. For many, many years, I had a small and beautiful membership, a monthly membership, of women who had done my programs, who had looked at their definition of themselves through motherhood and realised they wanted to do so much more.


[00:09:47] It was so many different areas of their life. And in the village every month we would look at that. There would be a theme, a topic, a definition, and we would explore, where did this come from? Why do we believe this? And how do we redefine it. And since my work has really expanded to now focus on the Mama Rising training and sharing the process of redefining through matresence with these amazing facilitators around the world, I realised that there needs to be a place for mothers to do this too.


[00:10:58] So the program that I shared for many years with thousands of women is now condensed into the most beautiful three week intensive. This is the initiation into matresence. This is how you look at the definitions you carry around motherhood. We work together with me. To really redefine matresence for you. And then at the end of that three-week process, we welcome you into the village, a place where women gather to look at what we want to be, who we want to be and empower ourselves by supporting each other and getting coaching and training and support to be a new definition of mother, and woman.


[00:12:08] And we gather together. In our pajamas with our kids around with babies on boobs, with bed hair, gathering together. We learn and we grow, we cry and we laugh. It is a place for you to celebrate and reflect, and it is open, now. We will begin the redefining process on the 7th of March, if you would like to join the link is in the show notes.


[00:13:07] I hope to see you there. Satnam.