Resilience is not something to be learned, but something to be discovered. It requires an inner sense of knowing and can be developed through the experience of facing challenges and pressure. Whether it's conquering your day-to-day tasks or striving for a bigger goal, resilience is the key to success. 

Here's some of the great stuff that we cover in this show:

• Entrepreneurship is about more than just having a good idea--it's also about being confident and resilient. It can be difficult for entrepreneurs to find the right team members who complement their skillset, but it's essential in order to create a successful business. Resilience is key in entrepreneurship--without it, businesses are likely to fail.
• As an entrepreneur, it is important to be able to work in the front line and understand what the real problems are. It is also important to have a mind that is resilient and can tolerate ambiguity. Part of being an entrepreneur is learning to be a leader. A leader is someone who works in the front line and has enough capacity to take on other people's problems.
• Matt and Simon discuss the importance of core values and how they can help you understand when it is time to move on from a situation. For Simon, one of his core values is people. He loves being around people and finds them essential for success. However, he also recognises that as he gets older, he may need to find ways to recharge that don't require so much face-to-face interaction.

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ABOUT SIMON

Simon has spent over 40 years of creating and delivering projects and figuring out this whole entrepreneurial thing! Starting out life as a dentist, moving into the sun-bed and eventually the health spa game he sold it all and moved to NZ. Now he creates change and development in peoples lives and their business, with 1-2-1 coaching and mentoring. He's also been doing a lot of short-term change assignments in the health sector.

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Yeah.

Yeah.

So let's talk about Simon now.

Simon has spent over 40 years of creating and delivering projects and figuring

out this whole entrepreneurial thing.

Uh, he started out life as a dentist, moved into the sunbed industry, which

is when I started working for him and eventually the health spa game.

Uh, he sold it all and moved to New Zealand.

Now he creates change and development in people's lives and their businesses

with one-to-one coaching and mentoring.

He's also ironically come full circle.

He's been doing a lot of short term change assignments, uh, in the health sector.

So he started out as a dentist and now he runs kind of medical

practices in New Zealand.

Uh, so Simon, welcome to the show.

Great to have you here.

Thanks for joining me.

I'm really excited about this episode, by the way.

Thank you.

Matt.

What's that?

Auto magically a few minutes ago.

Yeah.

Yeah, sure.

Heard you.

Yeah.

Auto magically it comes automagically.

It's such a great word, isn't it?

Automagically, it sounds like most of my career.

yeah.

Automagically.

I'm not quite sure how we got here, but here we are.

You should put it on your business cards.

Uh,

automagically.

It doesn't, doesn't go down well with the linear people, which, which

I actually decided before you asked your question, I think is always the

confrontation between an entrepreneur.

Yeah.

And, and business in the, um, you know, entrepreneurs and I suppose I am

one, cuz I seem to keep doing stuff.

you can't escape, you know?

And, and, and someone asked me the other day, you know, is it always original?

I thought, oh, embarrassingly it probably is.

Yeah.

You know, I've got the idea from somewhere.

I've synergized something together.

But actually in the end of the day the output is original.

Which, which, which sounds sort of a bit posey really, but I think

that is what entrepreneurs do.

They, they sort of create something, a step, yeah.

That actually suddenly changes an industry or a product or, or something like that.

But gosh, they're not liked by the establishment.

Not promoted I feel.

No, no.

I mean, I, I always remember, I mean, if I was thinking back to

early days, it was a long time ago, you know, the things you remember of

course from the bank, like, you know, when will we expect more funds, Mr.

O' Shaughnessy.

Very, very important questions like that for a yeah, who's, you know,

shocking things just carry off, you know, have I got to have structure?

Oh, okay.

You know,

what's that all about?

Yeah, so I, I, um, I think the more I think about it, the more my life has

been about actually protecting that sense of self, that, that individual

person that tends to want to do this.

And um, I'm on a creativity course at the moment, which is bizarre.

Which is a wonderful course with about 60 people internationally.

And, and most of it work is done early morning cuz people

are in different time zones.

Yeah.

But a lot of what I'm hearing in the creativity course is just the same

as I think being an entrepreneur.

Um, you know, these amazing people are making, golden kangaroos in

Australia and, you know, our standup comics in New York and, and, and

writers and all sorts of things.

Yeah.

But actually the process is very similar, which is, um, rooted in confidence

that you are okay despite, and, and, and most people will chip away to make

you fit a shape, fit a box, and it's, I think as an entrepreneur, it's very

difficult to accept there is a box.

Yeah.

You, you don't, you don't think, it's not that you're being Posey.

I reverse that comment.

And it's more, you just don't think in terms of boxes, you don't think

in terms of being been contained, there's always possibility.

Um, there's always a chance to make something different somewhere.

And so you, you sort of, you sort of wrestle with that hope, um, and, and

you have to actually learn quite a lot of resilience to deal with the

naysayers, the structurers, and then you need to learn to work with them

and act because you can't do it all.

I mean, that's the other classic thing I think, um, you can see in

entrepreneurism is, is this naivity to believe that because it's your idea, you

should be able to deliver everything.

Yeah.

And, and, and I think that is small thinking and usually

doomed to failure quite quickly.

It, I, I get that because yeah, I, I do get that, um, that, that sort of

thinking which says, you know what?

I have this idea.

I know what I'm doing, therefore I'm gonna go ahead and do it.

And actually part of the.

Part of the thing that I've had to learn over the years is actually letting go

of that and letting people loose and, and bringing other people in and, and

helping champion their cause, you know?

And that's not easy to do.

Uh, no.

I, I, I don't think it's particularly easy to do.

I think part of it is ego.

Um, part of it is, Um, actually at this particular point in time, I think

I could probably do a better job, and so it's easier for me to do it than

it is to let you loose, you know, and train you and go through all that pain.

Um, there are lots of reasons aren't there?

And it's, it's a really interesting one, have you had to wrestle with that yourself

as through these sort of 40 years?

I, I, I was sort of thinking again, you know, for this podcast about my

early life and I think you're so um, blasé, and unconnected actually, if

you know, seriously, I think though I was certainly so unconnected,

I think I knew I had this sense.

I think this is the other strange thing about being an entrepreneur.

You, you, your core senses are probably intuitive.

Yeah.

You know, you, you, you've probably got a skill set somewhere.

You know, mine was sciences and, and, and understanding holistic principles.

You know, actually that that living things didn't actually work sequentially.

So I think my basis underneath it was this sort of belief anyway, that things

would evolve, which is probably quite helpful, um, to being an entrepreneur.

So I don't think, I don't think I fought with it.

I think I fought with it more later in life.

I, a very good friend of mine, I just got this recent gig to, to

help sort out quite a complicated medical center that's falling apart.

And when I was talking to one of my best friends, she said

to me, said, Just a question.

She said, have you got anyone to sort the detail out for you?

And, and I thought, I thought, bless her.

She knows me so well.

Mm-hmm.

That actually, you know, uh, detail.

Oh, right.

Yeah.

What's that?

? What's that?

You know, uh, I mean, I mean, I can read the spreadsheet.

I can read a profit loss.

You know I know, I.

can But, but am I interested?

Not really.

No, not.

Does it drive you No Not really.

No.

Not really.

Um, I think one of the most helpful things I did, and I wish I'd done

it many years younger, was actually really good personality profile.

Um, when I, when I did, I did an H B D I one.

Nice cuz it's got colors and it got shapes.

It seems always helps.

Always helps.

Yes.

Not a lot of words, you know.

It was, it was actually quite helpful.

And, um, when, when I did that about, I think about 2002, 2003 and, um, my

profile was so, um, empathetic, creative.

Yeah.

And so processed and detailed and analytical.

Um, I mean the, the, the examiner, the profiler only said one thing to me.

He said, look at that.

He said, that's world class.

Do more.

Yeah.

And I think that was the most powerful thing I've ever heard.

Do more, it almost gave me permission.

Yeah.

You know, to sort of be myself.

Yeah.

But equally, I showed it to my daughter who, who, who has got psychology,

and she looked at it and went, oh dad, dad, you just don't care.

Do you?

This was the other side of, yeah, she was laughing too.

Um, which I suppose if I tumble forward here with you, Matt, that goes on

to having the right people with you.

Yeah.

You know, this is simple.

Learning curve is to understand, as an entrepreneur, you are not a superhero.

Mm-hmm, you have got a special set of skills which will take you

somewhere in life, but you, blimming will need the rest of the people

around you to make something of it.

Yeah.

And I think that profiling, I mean, if I'd seen that.

Before I started dentistry, I wouldn't have been the dentist.

Would you have done that?

I was gonna say, you wouldn't have gone.

There's just, there' just not.

No.

I'd be like, well, Matt, what?

What sort of color teeth would you like to do?

? That would, that would look great.

Do you wanna keep your teeth in your mouth?

I don't know.

Do you wanna move them out?

They don't need to be there if you don't want them.

There are, there are other concepts and possibilities, you know, I

mean, it's not the sort of person you wanna see as a dentist, is it?

Yeah.

Or you know, or bless the people I deal with mostly now the doctors,

I mean amazing people that have a skill that actually works through

process and analysis and logic.

And hasn't, you know, enough empathy to be with you, but not to be lost.

And then actually creates, you know, in youthis is the journey we go on.

I mean, that's what you want.

Yeah.

When you see that sort of person.

Yeah.

Um, it's unlikely you'll get that with most entrepreneurs.

Um, they, they might think by the way that they can do it all, you know, they

have this because you sort of can adapt.

Yeah.

Like I know I.

You know, if you force me to look at an Excel spreadsheet or, or do something

in numbers or something like that.

Yes, no, I can do it.

Do I enjoy it?

No.

Am I really good at it?

No.

No.

I mean, there are people I usually try and have around me

that just can do it and love it.

Yeah.

And that makes like the better.

So perhaps that's the other thing, team, finding a team and actually being able

to collaborate, I think are essential features of being an entrepreneur.

Yeah, I couldn't agree more.

And I think the, the longer I do this game, the more I realize

actually as an entrepreneur, um, my skills need to lie in one, having.

It's not necessarily a clear vision, but at least some understanding of

where I want to go to, of what the future looks like, and, and galvanizing

a team to join me on that journey.

And in some respects, to take me on that journey, uh, and, and focusing

more and more on team and less and less on, um, you know, the other

stuff seems to pay dividends, but I, I didn't know that 20 years ago.

No, I don't think being an entrepreneur, entrepreneur is an individualistic sport.

Mm.

I mean, I, I, I play rugby, but I wasn't interested in, ended up on

the squash court because I liked it because it was me, you know?

So there was always that there, there is this strong individualistic drive

going on in the entrepreneur, but absolute folly, if you think that will

take you consistently on through the way you will crash and burn somewhere.

Because actually the pressure, I think the pressure is quite high.

Being an entrepreneur, I think, I think your resilience has to be very good, and I

think you have to know yourself very well.

Um, what do you, um, what do you mean when you use this word

resilience a couple of times now.

What do you, what do you understand by that word?

Mm.

I I think there's a classic definition, isn't it?

That, that you, you overcome the, the, the turbulence of the day, you know?

, but I, I, I think it's deeper than that.

I think it starts in a, in a core sense of knowing mm-hmm.

And, and that's not something that happens over, you know, you can't

read a book on resilience and go resilience, now I'm resilient, you

know, um, you can get some ideas, but.

Resilience is found, um, under pressure, isn't it?

You know, pressure comes and you find, um, your resilience.

I, I'm watching at the moment.

Um, Pat's got me to watch, uh, limitless.

Oh, with Chris Hemsworth.

I was literally watching that earlier on.

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I was watching the fasting one.

I, I, I don't normally go for programs like that, but I

start watching and I thought.

Oh, this is interesting.

This is, this is a man teaching himself resilience.

Mm-hmm.

You know, I mean, just watched him do an Arctic swim.

Yeah.

Where, you know, he had to halfway through cuz he was dying halfway through.

That was, that was the death spin in the water.

Mm-hmm.

Um, he had to put his mind back in to the frame of what he was told by the expert.

And that's, that's resilience because he actually adopted a different line

of thinking that actually allowed him to move forward past where he

was into, into success in this case.

So I think, I think resilience sort of looks like that to me.

Um, I think, I think for me it also is, is being able to deal with volume.

I mean, at the moment, being a, if you like an administrative

manager, leader of a practice, um, or practice, you get bombarded.

Um, you know, no one comes and goes, how are you today?

They're not, they're not interested who you are.

It's like, solve my problems.

Yeah, fix, fix this for me now.

And so you'll literally get five people in the row asking for something to be fixed.

Yeah.

You know, so I think you've got to be able to cope with that

as an entrepreneur as well.

You know, there are multiple parts moving.

Um, some, some of them you're not quite sure why they're moving, but

it seems a good idea, you know, I'm sure it'll end up somewhere, you know?

Yeah.

Um, which is back to my holistic idea that actually you've gotta

allow this, this ambiguity going on.

If, if something's gonna be created, it won't all add up, you know?

Um, and that there'll be stuff happening and you've gotta have a mind, a

resilience and mind that thats that.

Yeah.

And that, that's not, that's not true for everyone.

Some people will find it really annoying.

Yeah.

You know, I'm thinking a person will go, well, let's fix that and then

let's fix this and let's fix that.

Um, I mean, the most linear I've ever been.

You know, because if I had my desk when we worked together, you

know, I had one pile over here and that pile would end up over here.

So I knew I'd done that pile of whatever it was.

I mean, that was me attempting to actually be methodical and linear cuz I

didn't wanna upset the people around me.

and things were gonna get progressed in the time scale that they need.

Yeah.

But, but my mind isn't like that.

Um, my, my thinking process isn't like that.

My, and I, I have a tolerance for ambiguity.

Mm-hmm.

, which allows me to have multiple things just there and, and I'm not too

bothered about it because eventually something will come forward and fit.

Do you, um, do you find then with that, cuz I, I get what you mean When

you walk into the office and everyone says, right, here's my problem.

I need a solution for this, this, this, and this.

And you're like, well, I, whoa, whoa, steady on Tiger.

And, um, I remember, uh, a couple of months ago, you remember this story.

We, um, Sharon had a breast cancer scan and um, I remember.

This was, it was quite an interesting time for us, obviously, uh, as a husband

and a wife dealing with this concept.

Uh, the first time we had to deal with it.

And what was interesting to me was, it was really the first time in a while

that I'd noticed that the first thing people do when they see you is go, right

how, how I need something from you, you, and try and suck something out of you.

And at that particular point in time, I just needed someone to put their, their

hand up and go, Matt, how are you doing?

Do you know what I mean?

And it was that kind of, and it, and it felt in some respects, a little

bit isolated and a little bit lonely.

But fortunately I have people that I can talk to.

We chat regularly.

You know, I've got, uh, the good friend Tony and, and

stuff over here that I chat to.

And so I, it just, it, it was a really interesting point for me to notice

that actually when you are a leader.

When you are the entrepreneur, when you are the person at the top of

the pyramid, maybe at the bottom of the pyramid, if we invert it, maybe

that's a conversation for another day.

Um, but it's, uh, wherever you are in the hierarchy, it's very difficult.

I think for those that you lead to ask you how you are doing

and for you to be vulnerable and say, oh, this is how I'm doing.

Right.

I dunno if you have found that, um, in your entrepreneurial walk.

And so if so, how have you built this resilience?

Have you had people to talk to?

Hmm.

I was actually in the back of my mind thinking about leadership, you

know, and I think, I think this is probably where I'm going at the moment

with this, to answer your question, um, I I think part of being an

entrepreneur is learning to be a leader.

Mm.

And a leader is, is, is not the old idea of a leader that is untouchable

and that has got all the answers.

Um, it's, it's actually someone that works or is prepared to work in the

front line, um, that understands what the real problems are and, and has

enough capacity to actually take on other people and other people's problems.

But somewhere in that, for me anyway, there is the spark and the joy, you know?

So, I mean, I had a heavy day yesterday with all sorts of stuff happening, but

the joy was in two or three distinct moments, which, which could have gone

pear shaped, but actually ended up, you know, I mean, one delightfully

with an older lady was a hug, you know?

And she said at the end of this very difficult conversation, sit off, said, um,

What if we could, I wouldn't mind a hug.

I mean, I mean, I was already there cause I thought she, she had been

brilliant and I thought she had cut with a really difficult situation.

So, so I think for me, I find the sustenance in, in, in people.

I mean, my core values are, are change, creativity and people.

Um, and, and I have got a number of people that I will really open up to.

Yeah.

And have conversations with.

Um, you know, as, as a couple, we've always had one couple over years, which

were bizarrely now in New Zealand as well.

Yeah.

Yeah.

But I mean, you know, I mean if we wanted to go and see someone, we

would go and see them and we perhaps only see them once a year, you know,

cuz they live a little way away.

I mean, we're there straight away.

Mm-hmm.

So I think we've all gotta have that.

But I think, I think for me, part of my resilience is day to day

enjoyment of people, you know?

Um, and, and you go, oh, that was, that was wonderful.

We touched, you know, we, we've dealt with something difficult.

We've worked through it, we've been human and we've been normal.

And that, that works.

I mean, I couldn't be an entrepreneur that was just locked

up in a room with a computer.

I, I just go nuts.

Um, the new entrepreneur.

Yeah.

Yeah.

As, as, as you know, up north and you know, it was quite rural.

I dunno why we bought this house.

It was rural.

No, stunning.

And it was beautiful and the location was phenomenal.

I can see why you fell in love with it.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

But if you thought about.

It wasn't practical, but yeah.

I mean,

no, not practical at all.

But there you go.

That's, that's the life of entrepreneurs sometimes.

And you'll like that.

Let's do that.

Let's see what we can create.

Um, so lovely.

A joy, but also, you know, sheep and cows.

Yeah.

No people.

Or if you did meet people, people, how are you today?

Oh, that's a good idea.

Is it, what do you think of this?

Not exactly sort of in depth help you solve it.

Yeah.

And after, after two or three days, I mean, Patty used to look at me

and go, go and find some people.

Will you?

could, could you, could you go away for a day and go and find some people?

You know?

Because, because actually that for me is, is the sustenance, you

know, that that makes a difference.

I think, I think that's why, well, my background is said too

is, is is biochemistry and, and organics and things like that.

So I think I've always thought holistically and I've always

thought there, there has to be human value somewhere.

Yeah.

For me, anything I create, you know, it has to create change and you know,

it has to be something that someone goes, wow, look, I want to do that.

But it's, it's that sort.

Part of it that becomes interesting.

Um, of course once that happens on board and

we need the next thing.

But how did you, you see, it is interesting you say that, right?

And you talk about it has to be this and it has to be that

for me to, to be interested.

And then that once it's done its point.

I don't, you didn't start off your entrepreneurial journey, knowing that,

I'm assuming, and it took a little bit of space and time to work that out.

So how did you, how did you, I guess, in some respects, start to understand

that, how did you figure out your core values, and this is what made you tick,

you know, what was that journey like?

Mm-hmm.

, I, I had a couple of people to help me.

One, one was actually a very unusual man.

Um, was semiotic specialist.

Mm-hmm.

that, that's the person that creates the signs and ambience in inside a shop.

Mm-hmm.

. So when you walk into an Apple shop, you know it's an apple shop because everything

is set out and engineered for the interactions that they want in that shop.

So it's very cleverly designed and, and we went off for a period of time and we

thought, well, can you do that to people?

Can you actually find the, the buttons, the things that are important that,

that, if you will, their brand I suppose.

Um, cuz we do have a brand, um, quite distinctly.

And actually to, um, enjoy that brand is I think part of being resilient as

an entrepreneur Um, so you always, you always take the Mickey outta me, you

know, I'm always wearing Ted Baker, you know, I mean, you could probably tell

me the brand of shoes I'm wearing, don't say it, you know, and things like that

right now because, you know mm-hmm.

that there are certain things that I do.

And it's, it's not, it's not Posey.

It's actually part of me to be and delineated and it actually

stops thinking about it again.

You know?

Yeah.

Because I need, here's the thought.

I think as an entrepreneur you need the stability of some sort of structure.

I think it has to be certain people.

I think it's certain ways of living.

I think it's even the way you wake up and what you do in the morning, you

know the way you take some exercise.

Yeah.

I think you've got to have some sort of substructure there.

Yeah.

Because after that, everything is chaos, frankly.

And that actually is fine, because that is where you find the possibilities.

Now, I didn't know any of that.

When I started, I mean, I just, just thought, well, that's a good idea.

Let's have a go at that.

You know, I'm sure that will work.

You know, and, and you probably been luckier to get

successes rather than failures.

Mm-hmm.

But then you, and again, you deliver a real dozo, you

know, you go well, looks nice.

It has the framework that could have worked.

Yeah.

You know, and there's probably a lot of you in it, but you go, yeah, but no.

No, no, no one's interested.

You know, and then you go, well, okay, that's fine.

It's not a big problem and you move on.

Um, going back, I think to what you asked a little bit clearer, did I

know there was this sort of churn Yes.

Going on?

No.

No.

It, it's, I'm very lucky to be married to a woman that copes with

it and actually hasn't got a prop.

She actually sees it as excitement as adventure.

You know, so, so, you know, we've been lived in so many different

places, so many different houses, and we've, we've made decisions.

You know, you sit in bed at night and you, you still say, I've

been thinking about New Zealand.

Hmm.

I've been thinking about New Zealand too, you know, and really you're

halfway down the flight path.

Yeah.

To leaving.

Yeah.

You know, cuz it was already there.

But I think you've gotta be very lucky to be with someone like that.

I mean, I remember when we came to live to Liverpool.

That literally what bed time conversation and, and and, and I said, look,

I've been thinking about this lot.

What do you think?

And, and, and she just burst into tears.

And she said, I've been thinking about it too.

You know, and that it was like, I didn't want to think about it,

but I have been thinking about it.

And actually I know that, you know that, I know that we should come.

Yeah, it will be a major shift.

We'll leave our business behind, which is not such a clever thing to do when

you've got shops and things like that, you go, let's move 172 miles away.

Yeah, that it'll be fine.

That work before the internet.

Yeah, before mobile phones.

It'll be fine.

Yes.

Yes.

The card index will still work fine.

I'm sure

I think we had a fax machine.

We did have a fax machine shortly afterwards.

Yeah.

That was, that was a, I remember walking into your house actually, um, uh, the

first time and, and seeing the fax machine and going, ooh, they've got a fax machine.

Shining.

And the buttons go do do do.

We really liked the buttons.

You know what, half the audience listening this podcast are going

bloody hell's a fax machine?

I tell you someone that still has faxes.

Medical practices.

Really?

Oh yeah, they do.

Yeah.

Stunningly, when I walked into this medical practice, if you pre covid,

there were these great, chunky, expensive fax machines and it's

because they thought they were the only secure way to send information,

so they sent it down fax line.

I mean that, that's, that's all changed now cuz we don't want paper, you

know, we don't want to touch things.

We do things electronically, but, they didn't want to change.

It's fascinating, isn't it?

We trust the fax machine.

Yeah.

Interesting.

Right?

Yeah.

Really interesting.

So you've, you went on this journey then of figuring out your core values.

You worked with this guy, um, where you, you sort of did this, can we

figure out this with, with people?

What were some of the things that you discovered in that process?

I think when we say core values, I think these are, Um, parts of you that

you, you end up going, but it, but it is, it, it's important, you know, if

you have a discussion with someone and you get them to a point of identifying

a, a value, a true core value, it, you cannot in the end explain why.

It just, it, it's, and I think, I think that cuz we have lots of values, don't we?

And our values almost change.

When we do, when we interact in different ways, you know, but core values are, are

like the pillars of your personality.

And, you know, I've walked outta jobs literally because I can't

be creative and it's just, I'm, I'm sorry, I can't do anymore.

I can't be creative.

I need to leave.

And I, I usually, I usually these days, program that in advance.

Yeah.

To give them more.

Learn that.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I'm about to tell this latest group that, you know, I won't last much past July.

Mm-hmm.

Which would be a shock because you know, the contracts for a certain

period of time, but I, I know past July I would've got through what I can do.

Mm-hmm.

And actually I need to hand the baton on.

So, so I think, I think discovering your core values and there's lot,

I mean, there's lots of processes.

People can look it up on the internet.

You can go through things, you can choose words, you know, the, the systems.

But I think to, to get to an understanding of, of where your meaning is.

Yeah.

These are making parts of you.

And, and then to notice when things go wrong.

Cuz one way to really see a core value is to, is to see when actually it's impinged.

Yeah.

You know, so, so if you, I eat creativity I've just told you

about, you know, I've got to go.

Why?

Can't make stuff any longer.

Yeah.

You know, or I can't change anything anymore.

I've changed as much as I can.

Mm-hmm.

And I think I begin to know when I should stop changing things for the sake of it.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Because you can go, you know, I go now actually that's enough.

Yeah.

You know, I need, need to hand over to someone else or, um, you know,

perhaps, perhaps the people element dies to a certain extent in the sense

that you, um, you can never quite get any further with, with these people.

You've done an exchange in honor with everyone, but actually get to a

point going, I, I I can't do anymore.

You know, that there's no more spark.

Um, these, these, these are quite hard things cause it sounds like you can

be quite callous and I'm not callous at all, but you do get to points.

I found it particularly in coaching.

Um, you know, I coached a lot of people.

I think for some years I was coaching somewhere around 35 to 40 people a

month, you know, for two hour sessions.

So it was pretty intense.

It's pretty intense.

Yeah.

One to ones with people.

Um, and these were all C-suite people, so you know, you know, some

big CEOs and also a lot of sort of number two, general manager.

stunning people.

I mean, I was just in awe of some of the ways they ran their business.

I had so much I could learn, but every now and again, you know, you

started engaging with someone and after about four or five sessions you

thought, no, I can't do anything here.

Mm-hmm.

That the, the, the fit is not for me.

Mm-hmm.

, um, you know, they're great.

They need to go off on their own, but, but I need to get out of this gig.

Mm.

And, and.

I'm fairly clear now about that as well.

Um, so people are essential, like we've talked about.

Mm.

I understand as an entrepreneur, I cannot do it by myself.

Mm-hmm.

but I have to lead because that's part of being an entrepreneur.

Yeah.

Um, I have to learn to delegate and I absolutely need and thrive off of people.

Mm-hmm.

. But there's also a point where for your own self sake, This core, which

is where everything is built upon.

You've got to move on.

Yeah.

Um, and, and, um, you don't do it callously.

You do it graciously.

Um, but it's actually essential.

Um, that's really interesting.

Yeah.

So for you then, It sounds like one of the things that you would, one of the

things that's important to you to fill your tank is just being around people.

People sort of fill your tank, right?

That's how you sort of recharge your batteries.

Yes.

Um, and obviously you've, you've had challenges to overcome.

You've had to build resilience over the last however many years, 40 odd years

in all the various different sectors.

Understanding your core values and understanding how to be resilient

is important in that section.

So where do you see tomorrow.

Where do you see the future going for you, uh, in all of this?

Well, I'm getting older and, um, I think, I think I realize some

of the things that I used to do.

It just takes a little bit more effort every time.

Um, um, I, I, I think I love the stimulation but you, you get to a point,

you have to start thinking about what else is possible that doesn't require

perhaps, um, so much face to face.

Yeah.

So much intensity.

So, so at the moment, I, I've got, I mean the reason I'm on

this creativity course with these wonderful people internationally was,

it was a challenge, like a judge.

Something I thought was potentially a future for me.

Um, It's something I haven't really experienced before.

Yeah.

I mean, writing, writing a book, creating a journal, um, you know, finding, if

you will, products that still will go out into the world to create change

and possibilities and, and allow, allow other people to do their own thinking,

which is, which is for me, essential.

Yeah.

You know, as part of success.

If I, if you said to me, what's, what is success?

It's seeing someone else do what they can do, which will be different, not

necessarily better, but just different from me and I find that quite exciting.

Yeah.

So I'm, the future for me at the moment, I'm becoming quite conscious

about, you know, I shouldn't be up at six every morning in next

few years, you know, over 70.

I might want to be a little bit more rested in the morning, take the dog for

a walk, enjoy breakfast with the wife.

Yeah.

Things like that, you know, so I probably need to develop another

career and, and, and so I will.

Um, does that scare you cause you, you, like you say, you're in your

seventies or you will be, you're, you're approaching seventies now, aren't you?

You're in that decade.

Traditionally people have gone, wow, I'm gonna go play golf for the rest

of the, you know, not to disparage those of listeners who have retired.

Um, I guess I can never associate the word retirement with Simon O' Shaughnessy.

I just can't do it.

So it would not surprise me that you would reinvent your career

or yourself in your seventies.

And you'll probably do it with gusto and Pat will be

cheering you on and joining in.

No, like, no doubt like she normally is.

But does that scare you?

Does that, um, or does that thrill you, that concept?

Both.

Um, Because I think, I think if you, I think if you push into anything mm-hmm.

You know, it's, it's got to come with, um, the same things

that we've just talked about.

I mean, it, it is, it is wash and repeat.

You know, I, it's, um, anything worth doing actually requires effort.

Someone we both know who was very successful in worldly sense when

he was asked, you know, would you, would you do it all over again?

Said, oh no, too hard.

And this was towards the end of his life.

And I thought that was a very telling phrase.

Yeah.

You know, no too hard, I think.

I think you realize how much effort you have to put in.

Mm-hmm.

Can you stop?

No ? Not really.

No.

Not really, because it's, it's, it's how you're wired.

Mm.

You know, um,

I was gonna say, would you actually want to stop?

I don't think you would.

Would you?

No.

No, not really.

No.

I, I, I mean, you know, on my, my table at the moment here, there's a

whole variety of stimuli, notebooks, you know, stuff going on because there

are, there are ideas and projects.

you know, somewhere in all this.

And I mean, I, I like it.

I want to play with all this stuff.

I've just gotta learn to play differently.

Yeah.

And, and I think hopefully, hopefully that's wisdom.

Now, I don't know.

I don't, but did you not find that like I'm, I'm, I'm, I'm approaching

the decade of the fifties now.

Um, and I think my approach to life as I approach 50 is quite different

to my life when I approached 40.

Uh, and I think that's just part of aging, isn't it?

Or just part of wisdom, I suppose.

And learning a little bit about life as you go along is like,

how are you gonna approach it?

So, right, I've got to the stage of the podcast where I'm

gonna introduce a new segment.

I mentioned to you that you are in fact, the Guinea pig.

Uh, we have a block of questions here, right?

And, um, I'm gonna tell you, you're gonna say stop.

Uh, and I'm gonna, I'm gonna stop wherever you tell me to, and I'm gonna,

whatever questions on the card we're gonna ask, I think it's quite fun.

So, uh, go for it.

Stop.

Stop right there.

Okay.

This is an interesting question, so I'll hold it up to the camera.

If you're watching it on YouTube and I'll read it out loud.

It says, when do you feel lonely?

Gosh.

That's a great question, isn't it?

Yeah.

Okay.

I could, I could answer that superficially, which would be in line

with the interview and say, obviously without people, and I've told you stories.

Yeah, yeah.

If I answered it honestly.

Mm-hmm, and this, this, this is, this is I think one of the

problems of being an entrepreneur.

The answer is always.

Yeah.

And I think, I think for me, anyway.

Holding on to everything that's going on in the end creates a little bit of

separation and, and I'm, I'm aware of it.

It's not that I particularly want it or don't want it, it is

just there, um, it's a bit like.

You know, if you talk to a lot of creative people and they're being really honest,

there will be a moment where they admit to the old black dog you know depression?

Yeah.

Mm-hmm.

Is some, is some, they, they're probably controlling it really well.

Yeah.

You know, but, but it, it is there for a creative in my opinion.

You know?

Is that the, the, the balance, is that the opposite?

The ying and the yang, if you are creative, there's, there's the

depression side of that as well.

It seems, out of all the creative people I know, I'd probably say that's the one

thing they suffer with concurrently.

It's like there's a tension.

I don't know if that's true of everybody, but I'm, I'm just

curious to know what you think.

What, what is, do they suffer with it or is it part of the package?

I mean, and, and I think loneliness is, I think somewhere, part of the

package for a lot of entrepreneurial type brain sets, creatives, because

actually you, you need that experience.

You know, you need that understanding and breadth of empathy.

To do a lot of the stuff that you do.

Yeah, I, I, I had, I had a semi argument with a psychologist on this

one once, and, and she was wonderful lady, really enjoyed talking with her.

And, and I said on, you know, the, the black dog, you know, it sits

quietly in the corner most of the time.

And she said to me, so, so what would it be like if we removed the black dog?

And I was gonna fight her.

I was not letting you take that black dog away.

You will not take this away.

It's, hold on.

It's my black dog.

Yes.

You know, and, and I could see this was a, this was a non sequitur for her.

This was not acceptable, but I'm going, no, no, no, no, no, no.

I, I can live with that as a creative.

Primarily my, my, my brain works creatively.

I, I can live with it.

I know where it is, and actually pretty much now I can control it, you know?

Um, I think the same is true for the loneliness.

It's it's life spirit almost, that you've got to learn to recognize when

it would be impairing and deal with it.

Um, but I think you live with it.

Or I do in that sort of sense.

Um, and, and no amount of prodding.

I mean, if you prod me, you'll just annoy me anyway, you know?

Well, come on.

You know, get, get with it, you know, join the party.

Well, I don't want to.Thanks.

Yeah, I'm quite happy.

Yeah, so I, I think, I think my honest answer, great question.

Yeah, I could have passed.

Really, couldn't I?

Yeah.

Yeah.

It would've been very dull though, had you have done, um, but no, I, I get that.

I get, there's when I think if you are in some form of leadership entrepreneurship

where, you know, some kind of leadership, it can easily be a lonely place.

And that's why I go back to.

When Sharon had the breast cancer scare, I was very grateful for the

people around me that actually I could talk to and, and confide with because

those, um, those, everybody else didn't know what to do with the news.

Do you know what I mean?

It, it wasn't, people weren't being, um, difficult or rude or any, they

just didn't know what to do with it.

Right.

Um, but I'm, I'm grateful for the people around me that actually just put their arm

around me and just went, man, that's crap.

Let's walk through this.

Right.

And I think, um, so yes, I get actually leadership and

loneliness I think is synonymous.

Uh, and I, I think it's, um, it's a tricky situation if you're a leader.

So you do need to create that community, right?

When, when we, when I was running CEO groups, they, they, I mean,

wonderful guys, individualistic, strong personalities.

I mean, you know, they'd eat you life in some ways, you know, but, but

they also said, said, do you think we ought have a T-shirt for our group?

I said, what's that?

I said, CEOs are humans too.

you know?

Yeah.

And, and, and I understand.

That's it.

It's the same thing.

It's the same.

Yeah.

You know, there are very few people we trust ourselves to talk with,

but I, I desperately want to talk with you because you are my friends.

Yeah.

And I think, I think that's, that's the essential little link because most of it

is not, um, It is not the team as far as you are concerned, it's leading the team.

It's quite different.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Brilliant.

Good question.

Thank you.

Yeah, very good question.

Uh, so don't thank me.

Thank the box of a hundred questions.

We like the box.

Woo.

As you know, this show right is sponsored by Aurion Media, which specializes

in helping good folks like yourself set up and run their own podcast.

So I'm curious, right?

Let's assume Simon has the O' Shaughnessy podcast, the Catalyze podcast.

Who is on your dream list of guests?

Who's your, who would you really love to have on the show to interview and why?

I'll be a bit iconic and New Zealandish here.

Mm-hmm.

um, during the first covid about where things were really hitting the fan.

Out the blue, and you guys won't know him, but there's, there's a Dr.

Ashley Bloomfield in New Zealand who the director general of health, and

this is public servant who stood up and actually became the face of, you

know, the covid response in New Zealand.

Mm-hmm.

. Mm-hmm..

Um, he was totally brilliant.

,um, in fact, I think at the end of the day there were Ashley mugs, Ashley tshirt.

Oh, wow.

You know, we, we love Ashley.

I mean, you know, he just went, he went over in the nation so

well that people could trust.

Um, we were lucky enough cuz we were doing like a team session every other day in the

practice, a big practice, 70, 80 people.

And we just took a punt and rang him up and talked to his secretary and said,

do you think Ashley would come onto our, our teams meeting in the morning?

And he said yes.

Oh wow.

So the director General of Health ends up on a little private

channel talking to my group.

You know, one morning in the middle of our huddle an he was just, he was

just brilliant and we were all in awe.

In fact, one of the doctors said to me after, said, I didn't hear a word

he said, I was just so overwhelmed.

Yeah.

But I mean, and I wished I'd asked him more questions.

Mm-hmm.

you know, the things that interested me was all the things we've talked

about, but here's a man, not like, Who does not think like me, who

has a very different background.

I mean, to me How fascinating.

How totally fascinating.

That's really interesting.

Someone like that, you know?

So, um, Ashley.

Fantastic.

Well, when you record the episode, I'd love to hear it.

That'd be brilliant.

Uh, Simon, listen, it's very rare I call you Simon.

I appreciate, uh, but I thought I'd do that for the podcast Chief.

It's been brilliant to, um, catch up and have a conversation

with you and record it.

Uh, cuz this is normally what our conversations are like, uh,

and we just, we just riff off of each other, which is great.

Um, if people want to connect with you, if they want reach out to you, what's

the best way for them to do that?

Probably LinkedIn or by my email.

Yeah.

Okay.

Uh, and what's your email?

Simon@catalyze.life.

Simon@catalyze.life.

And of course you can search for Simon O' Shaughnessy on LinkedIn.

And uh, you are also there, uh, quite active on LinkedIn,

or at least you used to be.

Do you still do the LinkedIn thing?

I think I, I've had a bit of a pause on LinkedIn over the last, you know,

few weeks because of this new job.

Just suck the life right outta you.

And, um, and stupidly, I thought, oh, hold on, let me do this

creativity course online as well.

, which, which, which requires you to blog every day.

Oh wow.

To do, you know, those three or four quite chunky questions a week as well.

Mm-hmm.

So that's sucked out my energy.

I haven't been able to divert it into LinkedIn for a while, but fair enough.

But we can.

Yeah, no, fair enough.

Well, it's been brilliant.

Chief, thank you so much for joining me on the podcast.

Honestly, it's been an absolute treat.

Really, really appreciate it and no doubt we will have you back on

again at some point, talk about all kinds of stuff, something.

Yes.

Something I've no doubt.

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